How To Make It Work??
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i had been with my current bf for quite some time liao.but recently,i realised dat we dun seem to have as much to tok as last time.Although we mit regularly,we juz dun seem to click.
I met my ex-bf several weeks ago.And now almost all the memories dat i had with my ex seemed to be cuming back to me...
My current bf is a gd guy..he treats me well,try to get wat i want most of the time.Thus,i'm actualli quite guilty whenever i think of my ex.but say frankly,i loved my ex more than him.i put in more when i was with my ex.
I dun want to hurt my current bf.I noe dat there will be no happiness for me and my ex at all..thus i realli want to treat my current bf better. But i duno how to do it.i cun seem to find topics to tok to him,nor places to go with him.wat should i do??
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AnD I wILL rEMiNiScE
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that's the worst thing that can ever happen to one.... to chose btw two love ones.
I really dunno how to advise you. Juz hope that whoever u chose in the end to be together with , do not regret it.
" Si jie shang you liang zhong bei ju . Yi zhong shi de bu dao zi ji siang yao de , ling yi zhong si de dao le."
i hope u understand my han yu pin ying. Coz i think u are in that position.
ermmm maybe u can tok thing out with ur bf? and see if there is anyhting both of u can do to save this relationship? coz i think it could be unfair for him if u didn tell him what the problem is.
Good Luck ! Be happy always -
erm.. i dun quite knoe how 2 advise.. but, i guess u muz b in a very difficult positn.. i wished tt i can say somethin.. but, i dunno how.. so juz wan wish u e best.. hope everythin will turn out fine n nice 4 u...
wherever you go, follow your heart..
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Never the time and the place
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This is a knotty situation. Ask urself first, who u actually luv more, then if u find that ur current bf cannot fit the bill, u hav no choice but to break up with him. But in the first place, think of why u accept him as ur bf in the past? U must really make a decision this time, no pt holding onto a relationship which won't work out, agreed?Originally posted by ApPlE_PiE:i had been with my current bf for quite some time liao.but recently,i realised dat we dun seem to have as much to tok as last time.Although we mit regularly,we juz dun seem to click.
I met my ex-bf several weeks ago.And now almost all the memories dat i had with my ex seemed to be cuming back to me...
My current bf is a gd guy..he treats me well,try to get wat i want most of the time.Thus,i'm actualli quite guilty whenever i think of my ex.but say frankly,i loved my ex more than him.i put in more when i was with my ex.
I dun want to hurt my current bf.I noe dat there will be no happiness for me and my ex at all..thus i realli want to treat my current bf better. But i duno how to do it.i cun seem to find topics to tok to him,nor places to go with him.wat should i do??
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Hope to b your frd forever, Mike signing off -
yeah,i think u urself noes best lor...so mayb u could try following ur instincts?
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following my instincts?? well...i dun quite trust my dat.
i noe dat i luved my ex more than my current bf..and i oso put in more effort while i was with my ex...in the end,i was terribly hurt.
after the breakup with my ex,i was determined to wait for him.after waiting for abt 2 mths,my current bf showed up.i was going through a realli difficult time,and he was there encouraging me.he knew i was waiting for my ex,but nevertheless,he showered me with care.
Then,on my bdae,he oso celebrated with him,it was a dae after then he pop up the question.my close frens all encourage me to start a relationship with him coz hes a nice guy.they oso asked me to give up on my ex hes not suitable for me.(he was quite of a gangster)i told them although i like him,there was no love.but they insisted dat time can overcome all of dat.
So in the end i tried lor.but unlike wat they said..i still cun 4get my ex though i muz admit dat my current bf is realli very gd to me.
i'm realli lost now...duno wat to do
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As LoNg As I SHaLL LiVe
I'LL HoLd U dEaR
AnD I wILL rEMiNiScE
Of OuR LoVe ALL ThRoUgH
ThE YeArS.... -
Choose the man you love or the man that loves you.
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**I want u to be with me.....
be with me in the morning...be with me in the nite...with me when its dark out...with me when its light...
I want u to be with me...no matter what we do...just keep this reminder...of how much I love u...** -
so now ur ex is back , u dun need ur spare tyre anymore....
chose the one u love n be cruel to urself. hoping that he will love u more one day. -
actuali.. deep in ur heart, u aredi made a decision.. rite? it's juz tt u r lookin 4 supports.. lookin 4 stuff n facts.. 2 support urself w ur own decision..Originally posted by ApPlE_PiE:following my instincts?? well...i dun quite trust my dat.
i noe dat i luved my ex more than my current bf..and i oso put in more effort while i was with my ex...in the end,i was terribly hurt.
after the breakup with my ex,i was determined to wait for him.after waiting for abt 2 mths,my current bf showed up.i was going through a realli difficult time,and he was there encouraging me.he knew i was waiting for my ex,but nevertheless,he showered me with care.
Then,on my bdae,he oso celebrated with him,it was a dae after then he pop up the question.my close frens all encourage me to start a relationship with him coz hes a nice guy.they oso asked me to give up on my ex hes not suitable for me.(he was quite of a gangster)i told them although i like him,there was no love.but they insisted dat time can overcome all of dat.
So in the end i tried lor.but unlike wat they said..i still cun 4get my ex though i muz admit dat my current bf is realli very gd to me.
i'm realli lost now...duno wat to do
hmmm... i seriously tink tt u shuld follow ur heart.. ur instincts.. u noe very well wad u wan.. y nt juz face it?
y nt, try imaginin dis situatn.. if e wrld ends 2ml, who wuld u wan 2 keep w u 4 e last 24hrs? dis mt sound abit stupid.. but, if u seriously tink abt it.. it wrks.. =)
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Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn't.
Erica Jong
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This time I agreed with u, juz follow your heart, juz got to the one who u love more, it's that simple, or is it, hmmm...Originally posted by *|azy:actuali.. deep in ur heart, u aredi made a decision.. rite? it's juz tt u r lookin 4 supports.. lookin 4 stuff n facts.. 2 support urself w ur own decision..
hmmm... i seriously tink tt u shuld follow ur heart.. ur instincts.. u noe very well wad u wan.. y nt juz face it?
y nt, try imaginin dis situatn.. if e wrld ends 2ml, who wuld u wan 2 keep w u 4 e last 24hrs? dis mt sound abit stupid.. but, if u seriously tink abt it.. it wrks.. =)
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Hope to b your frd forever, Mike signing off -
i noe who i love...but its alwaz the one dat i luved hurt me most. I'm very scared of the feeling its like piercing a knife through my heart. it hurts terribly...Originally posted by domyoji33:so now ur ex is back , u dun need ur spare tyre anymore....
chose the one u love n be cruel to urself. hoping that he will love u more one day.
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As LoNg As I SHaLL LiVe
I'LL HoLd U dEaR
AnD I wILL rEMiNiScE
Of OuR LoVe ALL ThRoUgH
ThE YeArS.... -
hmmm....dunno....seems complicated
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1st of all, please differentiate between 'Love' and 'like'.... If you like a certain type of guy (may it be looks or style..), it DOESN'T mean that you'll love or you have to be in love with this type of person... How about knowing that person as a friend for a starter..?
In life, it doesn't really matter where you head for but more like which route you choose to walk and what you want...? Because everybody ends up at the same destination at the END of it.....
Ask yourself this question.... "Are you prepared to GIVE UNRESERVINGLY for LOVE and willing to get NOTHING in return" (and even experience PAIN in return...) OR are you more like looking for the fruit of LOVE...? Be TRUTHFUL to yourself....?
For this CAN be a VERY TRICKY question....
Are you made for YOURSELF, or are you MADE for ONE...? And.... How long was it since the last time that you've decided to have a little change in your life....? My PERSONAL point...? Make yourself a little comfortable with life and things... For if it's HELL you decided to stay in.... You would have to pretty much LIVEs there for a while....
But then again... MAGIC and LOGIC...... Which seems more beautiful...?
I think you get what I mean...? You DECIDE for yourself ok...? Afterall, it's YOUR LIFE... But try to make it simple on this one... Life's always running and full of other goals you know...?
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I have no 'friends' nor 'family'.
I hold no past and see not future...
These are just samples of illusions....
I don't exist, but I shall live ETERNITY..... DEVIL PHRASE II
ße COOL, NOT s¢rr¥.... -
ApplePie,
urrrh... I've never seen your bf or your ex. From what you've said, you think you'll be happier with the first guy and living with your current is a pain because he cannot talk to you and there's no place to go with him.
The bad thing is your ex will give you pain because you love him more than he loves you. The good thing is your current bf loves you more than you love him. So you get the picture right. I'm not you. This is a your personal choice.
There may still be hope for your current bf. Is it because he's not communicating with you? Or have you not been listening? Where does the problem lies? You or him? Frankly, sometimes couple do not speak to each other much because they can communicate without talking and be happy as long as they are with each other....
If you don't get this let me know, I'll give you a wake-up call reserved for opinionated people. -
frankly...only u yrself noe wad u want and hao u want it...so...
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if u are afraid of being hurt , dun fall in love then. If you really falls in love with someone , u wouldn't mind being hurt. Even then , the feeling will be so good that u wouldn't want to fall out of loveOriginally posted by ApPlE_PiE:i noe who i love...but its alwaz the one dat i luved hurt me most. I'm very scared of the feeling its like piercing a knife through my heart. it hurts terribly... -
if u are afraid of being hurt , dun fall in love then. If you really falls in love with someone , u wouldn't mind being hurt. Even then , the feeling will be so good that u wouldn't want to fall out of loveOriginally posted by domyoji33:[QUOTE]Originally posted by ApPlE_PiE:
[b] i noe who i love...but its alwaz the one dat i luved hurt me most. I'm very scared of the feeling its like piercing a knife through my heart. it hurts terribly...
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A friend told me a funny thing yesterday. To know the difference between good and evil, a person have to experience evil before we appreciate what is good. Being the detached fellow, I would rather learn as a bystander. It doesn't work that way when a person wants to be in love. It's an experience thing.
As TzM and others have pointed out. It's up to you. But whether you make the right or the wrong choice remember that its all personal decision and its never too late to realise one's mistake and carry on with life. -
I would love to tell you a STORY..... About 'LOST and GAIN'...?Originally posted by Klactovak:A friend told me a funny thing yesterday. To know the difference between good and evil, a person have to experience evil before we appreciate what is good. Being the detached fellow, I would rather learn as a bystander. It doesn't work that way when a person wants to be in love. It's an experience thing.
As TzM and others have pointed out. It's up to you. But whether you make the right or the wrong choice remember that its all personal decision and its never too late to realise one's mistake and carry on with life.
In time, there born a child... Without any parent.... He was brought up by his grandma and an auntie.... It never occur to him what it would be like to be with his parents... But like other kids, he just played and enjoyed his days....
When he stepped into PRI school, his class was told to write a composition titled,"My Mum and Dad...." He was LOST.... As he searched his mind for a way to write his story.... An experience or even the slighest trace... He could find NONE.... He asked his classmates how their Mums and Dads are like.... But each described vaguely characters which sounds DIFFERENT in each's eyes... And they REFUSED to let him COPY their ideas... Because the Mums and Dads are BUT their OWN......
The boy felt LOST and EMPTINESS... He CRIED..........
On the day of the submission of the compositions..... He took out his work which was soaked in tears....
And he GOT the BEST composition on that topic... THOUGH he've NEVER experienced his MUM and DAD before... Imagining how they would be like... How it would be like... With them around.... He went on to describe his LONGING... And WANTING.... Though he KNEW and UNDERSTOOD that having a REAL BLOOD parents... Can NEVER be.....
Do you know the moral of the STORY? It's telling you that 'NOT HAVING' doesn't only means EMPTINESS.... It can also be AN EXPERIENCE.... And while you're NOT HAVING, rather than LONGING for the 'HAVING'... You should EXPERIENCE the 'NOT HAVING' too.... And in time to come..... When you're HAVING... If it's POSSIBLE..? You should ALWAYS look back and REMIND yourself of the NOT HAVING.... Don't pick on what you're HAVING... Don't be too CHOOSY on things.... Cause you can VERY WELL be like the 'BOY'...... TRAPPED in a WORLD of LOST and EMPTINESS....
"Alot of times we're NOT living without it, we're just choosing NOT to be....'
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I have no 'friends' nor 'family'.
I hold no past and see not future...
These are just samples of illusions....
I don't exist, but I shall live ETERNITY..... DEVIL PHRASE II
ße COOL, NOT s¢rr¥.... -
I would love to tell you a STORY..... About 'LOST and GAIN'...?Originally posted by Devil1976:[QUOTE]Originally posted by Klactovak:
[b] A friend told me a funny thing yesterday. To know the difference between good and evil, a person have to experience evil before we appreciate what is good. Being the detached fellow, I would rather learn as a bystander. It doesn't work that way when a person wants to be in love. It's an experience thing.
As TzM and others have pointed out. It's up to you. But whether you make the right or the wrong choice remember that its all personal decision and its never too late to realise one's mistake and carry on with life.
In time, there born a child... Without any parent.... He was brought up by his grandma and an auntie.... It never occur to him what it would be like to be with his parents... But like other kids, he just played and enjoyed his days....
When he stepped into PRI school, his class was told to write a composition titled,"My Mum and Dad...." He was LOST.... As he searched his mind for a way to write his story.... An experience or even the slighest trace... He could find NONE.... He asked his classmates how their Mums and Dads are like.... But each described vaguely characters which sounds DIFFERENT in each's eyes... And they REFUSED to let him COPY their ideas... Because the Mums and Dads are BUT their OWN......
The boy felt LOST and EMPTINESS... He CRIED..........
On the day of the submission of the compositions..... He took out his work which was soaked in tears....
And he GOT the BEST composition on that topic... THOUGH he've NEVER experienced his MUM and DAD before... Imagining how they would be like... How it would be like... With them around.... He went on to describe his LONGING... And WANTING.... Though he KNEW and UNDERSTOOD that having a REAL BLOOD parents... Can NEVER be.....
Do you know the moral of the STORY? It's telling you that 'NOT HAVING' doesn't only means EMPTINESS.... It can also be AN EXPERIENCE.... And while you're NOT HAVING, rather than LONGING for the 'HAVING'... You should EXPERIENCE the 'NOT HAVING' too.... And in time to come..... When you're HAVING... If it's POSSIBLE..? You should ALWAYS look back and REMIND yourself of the NOT HAVING.... Don't pick on what you're HAVING... Don't be too CHOOSY on things.... Cause you can VERY WELL be like the 'BOY'...... TRAPPED in a WORLD of LOST and EMPTINESS....
"Alot of times we're NOT living without it, we're just choosing NOT to be....'
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if u want to be happy , firstly u will have to go thru sorrows.
W/o sorrows , u will not understand what happiness is.... -
Okie, imagination is good but how many can have such good imagination and longing.
To love and be loved is a completely different thing. To read books, topics and articles on love does not mean that a person know love. Just that theoretically the person can explain love better than anyone on earth but experiencing love... the warmth of love, loving someone who's special to you, enjoying her little quirks and mannerism, accepting her for her weird behaviour and bad habits.... and having her loving you and accepting you for what you are, knowing your heart when no words are spoken. That's the kind of love to experience... Having her disappoint you or You doing something wrong and feeling the pain that she has go through... it's a total life experience that I won't give up for all the knowledge in the world.
One can read about swimming but in the end the person have to get into the water and start swimming. That's swimming. Same with love. Hmmmm.... beginning to think I'm a sad case, can only rely on my imagination nowadays.... :~ -
How to communicate without tokking??Originally posted by Klactovak:ApplePie,
urrrh... I've never seen your bf or your ex. From what you've said, you think you'll be happier with the first guy and living with your current is a pain because he cannot talk to you and there's no place to go with him.
The bad thing is your ex will give you pain because you love him more than he loves you. The good thing is your current bf loves you more than you love him. So you get the picture right. I'm not you. This is a your personal choice.
There may still be hope for your current bf. Is it because he's not communicating with you? Or have you not been listening? Where does the problem lies? You or him? Frankly, sometimes couple do not speak to each other much because they can communicate without talking and be happy as long as they are with each other....
If you don't get this let me know, I'll give you a wake-up call reserved for opinionated people.
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As LoNg As I SHaLL LiVe
I'LL HoLd U dEaR
AnD I wILL rEMiNiScE
Of OuR LoVe ALL ThRoUgH
ThE YeArS.... -
if u are afraid of being hurt , dun fall in love then. If you really falls in love with someone , u wouldn't mind being hurt. Even then , the feeling will be so good that u wouldn't want to fall out of love
yah.. y fall in love if u r afraid..
if u r so afraid of e pain.. u r nt capable of lovin anyone yet... -
holds a bit of truth there
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Gd question, without talking actually equal no communication mah... No matter hw busy he is, he will be able to spare some time to call u juz to hear your voice and ensure u r alrite everyday...Originally posted by ApPlE_PiE:How to communicate without tokking??
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Hope to b your frd forever, Mike signing off -
Hahaha.... maybe I'm going too far off but sometimes when I look at someone, it does not mean we have to talk. Just one look and a smile and it seems like we have communicated billions of words without speaking. It has come to point of being so in tune with the other person that one look on his/her face you'll know something is wrong. I don't know about others but I do feel this way. Communication is only 7% verbal, the rest of the 97% is mostly body language, body signs and expressions. Heehee... :pOriginally posted by mikegk_76:Gd question, without talking actually equal no communication mah... No matter hw busy he is, he will be able to spare some time to call u juz to hear your voice and ensure u r alrite everyday...