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Sometime dun really knw wat ger is thinking..
Use to know this ger for a few month, and after that she told me that she had feeling for me, but she already had a bf.
But i told her let nature run it course loh. She confess to me that her bf never treat her well.. always 3 or 4 day will quarrel. And dun feel any more secure with her bf.
So time go by.. (dun have to post the full story)
I was able to hold her hand. She told me that i am the guy she would like to be. After few week, when her bf look her up, she told her bf that she is giving their relationship last chance.. so i respect her decision. Coz she would like to choose btw me or her bf so i give her the time. At one time, her bf got call me up and look for me telling me to have a fair battle (she was at that time at her bf home). But i just quietly never say much.
But the next day, she can told me to "Si Xin" coz she still love her bf. Wow, I was wondering how come she suddenly had the decision, it just becoz her bf told her that he change alot for her? or wat? Or just that her bf one words is equivalent to my 10 words?
So had to let go of her.. but i know she had a feeling for me coz when she was watching para para sakura, she SMS me to go and watch when i am free. (those who watch para para sakura should know the story)
So we becae frenz..
But now she told me that she is restricting herself not to think of it and admit that she is trying to tok to me less. Coz she fear that her bf will be angry..
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alright , i have this fren who is in the same position as the gal that u like.
What she told me was , she can't let go of that kind of feeling , the feeling of being loved by two person. In my fren's case , she chose not to leave her bf becoz she thinks that she owns him alot . And that she is afraid that things might not turn out well with the other guy.
In ur case , the girl might be leading you on , treating u like a spare tyre , juz in case she broke off with her bf , she could still look u up.
My fren is still chatting with that "guy" without her bf knowing . They held hands b4 but my fren later felt guilty n let off her hands. Now , she is having a hard time coping . N she really dunno who to chose .
So i guess maybe u juz have to shun qi zi ran , do give other girls ard u a chance to know you , n not keep ur available only to that gal. *GOOD LUCK*
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I think it's too easy saying that your friend is in the same position as Idoine's 'gf'.... Forgive me if I'm being too critical but PERSONALLY, I think it's more appropriate to say that they're in a somehow similar position...?Originally posted by domyoji33:alright , i have this fren who is in the same position as the gal that u like.
What she told me was , she can't let go of that kind of feeling , the feeling of being loved by two person. In my fren's case , she chose not to leave her bf becoz she thinks that she owns him alot . And that she is afraid that things might not turn out well with the other guy.
In ur case , the girl might be leading you on , treating u like a spare tyre , juz in case she broke off with her bf , she could still look u up.
My fren is still chatting with that "guy" without her bf knowing . They held hands b4 but my fren later felt guilty n let off her hands. Now , she is having a hard time coping . N she really dunno who to chose .
So i guess maybe u juz have to shun qi zi ran , do give other girls ard u a chance to know you , n not keep ur available only to that gal. *GOOD LUCK*
It's never difficult to love one , but it kills to forget someone.
And I also feel that it's not really fair for you to PRESUME on the girl's character this way... Though I must admit that I tend to think that way too initially, but I still feel that nothing much's said about the girl for us to judge her INTENTIONS and 'MOTIVEs'....
I reckon there're pretty much quite alot of possible alternatives to her situation... Some can have her unworthy as you've mentioned BUT SOME... Can suggest that she might be a 'victim' too...? Try not to place your stake too early...? For the sun has YET to rise...?
IDOINE: In the midst of the field.... How far you're willing to go to search for what you're looking for is pretty much equivalent to how much you want it...?
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I have no 'friends' nor 'family'.
I hold no past and see not future...
These are just samples of illusions....
I don't exist, but I shall live ETERNITY..... DEVIL PHRASE II
ße COOL, NOT s¢rr¥.... -
Originally posted by Devil1976
Thanks Alot, guys.. dun really knw wat u mean above, devil1976..
IDOINE: In the midst of the field.... How far you're willing to go to search for what you're looking for is pretty much equivalent to how much you want it...?
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my english not that good (power)..
Becoz when she was wif me, she tend to tell me alot abt her bf and her. Even got one time she confess that she not that 'Pure' anymore.. I told her that i dun mind.. really dun mind.. coz to me, if i like someone, i dun really care her past what she had done.. just be trustful to each other..
Her bf even say this "If i dun do it wif you, I do it wif who.. everyone got s*x desire blah.." When i heared this, i was very angry.. but i really couldn't do anything.. "You Xin Wu Li" I once saw her bf on the net, and i ask her abt the above sentence.. he told me that "She is mine, I can do whatever I want to her", isn't he Selfish?
domoyoji33: The spare tyre that u say, she also got ask me.. ehehe she ask whether i will accept her when she breakoff wif her bf, i say i will if i am still single..
I ask her once, how come when u r at your bf home, you come to the decision to ask me to "Si Xin", what make u had that decision? She was unable to answer.. Coz that day at her bf home (her bf beside her)i ask her to say that she dun love me anymore (so that i wll Si Xin), she said it..
That day my sky was so dark.. so i ask her again, if i let u have the chance to say it again will u still say, she said se won't coz that day i force her to say. Wha Piang..
Today, she SMS that whenever she c those bike on the road, she will think of me.. hai.. i SMS her that maybe it good for you to choose your bf, coz it a test btw u and me wheather we r really that compatible or whether i will be able to wait that long.
But she never reply back.. -
so ....hmmm...i dunno how to describe...but...
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IdoIne, it seems like her bf is very 'big man dominant' kind of a person. He seems to be conrolling her life & she could be living in fear of him & he could hv been threatening her somehow... she is like a bird in a cage... u r a nice person so thats why she felt more comfy with u. well, its up to her to decide how she wants her future to be.. just be friends for moment lor .. give her time to analysis her feelings & future she wants to be... just be patient but i do also agree u should give urself some space to other friends too
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She told me she is her bf number 36 gf.. eheh
wha, i tink so many never give us single people some chance
everytime she tok to me, she scared her bf find out.. eheh but nevermind.. Thanks for all the advice..
Just be it, be patient, if she is mine, she will come back.. no point forcing.. 
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i'm glad to noe that u haf such thinking
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Originally posted by Devil1976:
I think it's too easy saying that your friend is in the same position as Idoine's 'gf'.... Forgive me if I'm being too critical but PERSONALLY, I think it's more appropriate to say that they're in a somehow similar position...?
dun mean anythin.. but, i was tinkin... if u, e DEVIL hve any own pt of view.. den let it b ur own pt of view.. maybe e way dom sees it differently.. as compared 2 u.. i mean u dun knoe tt fren of don's rite?
And I also feel that it's not really fair for you to PRESUME on the girl's character this way... Though I must admit that I tend to think that way too initially, but I still feel that nothing much's said about the girl for us to judge her INTENTIONS
and 'MOTIVEs'....
once again.. diff pp hve diff views abt diff stuff.. u may tink differently.. but, tt's juz dom's own pt of view.. i guess... e person who started dis thread need advices, or rather diff pts of view.. so as 2 help him c e prob at more perspectives... i guess..
u can share ur views.. but.. mayB nt 2b so critical abt wad others hve commented.. humans n devils tink differently...
IDOINE: In the midst of the field.... How far you're willing to go to search for what you're looking for is pretty much equivalent to how much you want it...?
i was tinkin.. yah.. dis makes some sense.. only dis..
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you are in control of your own destiny...
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When 2 hearts are meant for each other, no distance is too far, no time is too long and no other love can break them apart.... -
May i ask , how old is that ger?
Regarding my fren thingy , she has already made it clear to that guy that they will never be together.... coz whenever u have a choice , u will be in a difficult position. -
She is 20 this year..(age a major factor?) hmm.. today sat, i think she is wif her bf.. but nevermind.. for me life still go on, it won't stop here...
sometime force myself not to think of her, but sometime when you are alone, you tend to miss abit -
20 yrs old already still behaving like that? Haizz??? how come u are so attracted to her? i bet there are better gals out there.
If she can do this to her present bf , she could do this to u if u ever have the chance to be her bf. -
maybe u should try to forget abt her and get on with ur life.after reading ur story,i felt dat she's trying to destroy ur life!!
Comon!be in control of ur own life! there are lotsa beta gers out there!!dun juz be stuck with her.
Sorrie if i had offended you but i realli feel dat you should get out of dat circle she's drawing to keep u in.
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As LoNg As I SHaLL LiVe
I'LL HoLd U dEaR
AnD I wILL rEMiNiScE
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Yeah! i totally agree with you !Originally posted by ApPlE_PiE:maybe u should try to forget abt her and get on with ur life.after reading ur story,i felt dat she's trying to destroy ur life!!
Comon!be in control of ur own life! there are lotsa beta gers out there!!dun juz be stuck with her.
Sorrie if i had offended you but i realli feel dat you should get out of dat circle she's drawing to keep u in. -
yah, i know.. that why i am trying not to think of her.. but it not easy
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Gd Luck to you!! Have faith in urself..u can do it!!
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As LoNg As I SHaLL LiVe
I'LL HoLd U dEaR
AnD I wILL rEMiNiScE
Of OuR LoVe ALL ThRoUgH
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yeah,time will heal...now it's juz the beginning...so mayb u could engage in a healthy lifestyle to try n forget bout her
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Good move I d O I n e.Originally posted by I d O I n e:yah, i know.. that why i am trying not to think of her.. but it not easy
Arghh..
You have not been blind by love after all...
As it is not really wise to be involved in this kinda situation. The result will be very hurting (maybe worst than losing her)if it is not settled properly...
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EASILY, NATURE would take its COURSE... Despite what people have said about her (and I'm in NO POSITION if whatever they've said is right or wrong...) I guess you should still let yur heart have a little say then what others have to say about her (no offence, but especially when they don't really know her at all...?)Originally posted by I d O I n e:Thanks Alot, guys.. dun really knw wat u mean above, devil1976.. my english not that good (power)..
BUT... Till this very moment, I PERSONALLY have to say that I'm more on agreeable terms with them....? Your... MENTALITY...? Strange and young for LOVE...? You could easily be hurt under this kinda 'combat' equipped with this kinda mentality.....
Like MOST have said... The field is BIG... Look for more 'suitable' ones to start with...? PERSONALLY I think it's more appropriate that way...?
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I have no 'friends' nor 'family'.
I hold no past and see not future...
These are just samples of illusions....
I don't exist, but I shall live ETERNITY..... DEVIL PHRASE II
ße COOL, NOT s¢rr¥.... -
it's never easy forgetting someone. Good Luck . Dun remind urself to forget her , coz u will end up thinking of her . So , Shun qi zi ran.
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Thanks alot, guys and gal...
Some of the people here are really wonderful.. Maybe one day i can join you all in your outing? eheh
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Wonderful...? ABSOLUTELY.... ESPECIALLY the BABES......Originally posted by I d O I n e:Thanks alot, guys and gal...
Some of the people here are really wonderful.. Maybe one day i can join you all in your outing? eheh
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I have no 'friends' nor 'family'.
I hold no past and see not future...
These are just samples of illusions....
I don't exist, but I shall live ETERNITY..... DEVIL PHRASE II
ße COOL, NOT s¢rr¥.... -
Wonderful...? ABSOLUTELY.... ESPECIALLY the BABES......Originally posted by Devil1976:[QUOTE]Originally posted by I d O I n e:
[b]Thanks alot, guys and gal...
Some of the people here are really wonderful.. Maybe one day i can join you all in your outing? eheh
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Yay yay!!! 3 Cheers for the Babes! :p
Anyway, I see it as guys just don't understand gers. Simple. Coz you will expect them to choose a perfect bf instead they like those borderline mental case with a strong domineering attitude.
That's what I call inheritance from the Caveman days. See the Caveman dragging the gf or wife by the hair.... hahahahahaha... somehow or other many gers like that kind of treatment. Weird?!?
I'm going to grow my hair out and behave like a caveman maybe can get more gf like into the 100s. heehee :p -
Sure, no problem, u can icq me or send me an email if u wanna meet...Originally posted by I d O I n e:Thanks alot, guys and gal...
Some of the people here are really wonderful.. Maybe one day i can join you all in your outing? eheh
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Hope to b your frd forever, Mike signing off