wAt sHouLd I dO?
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Used to have a fren, whom i knew since i was in pri sch. She was, subsequently, in the same Sec sch and Pre U after the PSLE. I din get to know her, as in talk to her(coz she was kinda notorious), until my 1st yr in pre u. She approached me and packaged herself into a best fren, which i would want and tagged along wherever i went. However, i didn't really give her much attention coz i had my grp of other frens and she gives me the feeling of being plastic.
In yr 2, she found some1 else, subsequently, did the same stuffs(but she's now packaged differently) and ignored me. It didn't affected me then.
Recently, the grp of her frens(who were previously wif her for sometime) and i, didn't speak to her coz of some underlying reasons. She then started to 'accidentally' sms one of them stuffs that would provoke us if she did it directly. Sms would juz come flooding into our hps one after another and that irritated me very much.
Any advice(s) on wat i can do?
'A man should be upright, not kept up right.'
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hmmmm i dont quite get wat u mean...Originally posted by p|gGyPeN:Used to have a fren, whom i knew since i was in pri sch. She was, subsequently, in the same Sec sch and Pre U after the PSLE. I din get to know her, as in talk to her(coz she was kinda notorious), until my 1st yr in pre u. She approached me and packaged herself into a best fren, which i would want and tagged along wherever i went. However, i didn't really give her much attention coz i had my grp of other frens and she gives me the feeling of being plastic.
In yr 2, she found some1 else, subsequently, did the same stuffs(but she's now packaged differently) and ignored me. It didn't affected me then.
Recently, the grp of her frens(who were previously wif her for sometime) and i, didn't speak to her coz of some underlying reasons. She then started to 'accidentally' sms one of them stuffs that would provoke us if she did it directly. Sms would juz come flooding into our hps one after another and that irritated me very much.
Any advice(s) on wat i can do?
'A man should be upright, not kept up right.'
[This message has been edited by p|gGyPeN (edited 24 June 2001).]
Her group of friends and u didnt tok to her recently right?
and then she keep SMS u all jus to irritate u ppl? hmm if tis is so, then i suggest u SMS her back or maybe call her out and tok things out lor, ask her why why and why!
actually its not damn nice of her to like:she knew a new group of frens and then ignore u, tat shows wat kind of attitute is glowing in her. i tink tis kind of fren is not worth keeping, if the tok fail, forget it! its not worth it!
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See? I told u? Ur topic nt very clear, so chim... But think my frequency similar to yours, I get what u mean, when ur "plastic" frd stop talking to u, her frdz including u ignored her and this "plastic' frd start to do things that irritate u loh, rite? Think the only thing u can do nw is confront her, no choice but to hav a talk with this frd and trash things out, u shd knw wat to do, huh? U r old enough, hehehehOriginally posted by p|gGyPeN:Used to have a fren, whom i knew since i was in pri sch. She was, subsequently, in the same Sec sch and Pre U after the PSLE. I din get to know her, as in talk to her(coz she was kinda notorious), until my 1st yr in pre u. She approached me and packaged herself into a best fren, which i would want and tagged along wherever i went. However, i didn't really give her much attention coz i had my grp of other frens and she gives me the feeling of being plastic.
In yr 2, she found some1 else, subsequently, did the same stuffs(but she's now packaged differently) and ignored me. It didn't affected me then.
Recently, the grp of her frens(who were previously wif her for sometime) and i, didn't speak to her coz of some underlying reasons. She then started to 'accidentally' sms one of them stuffs that would provoke us if she did it directly. Sms would juz come flooding into our hps one after another and that irritated me very much.
Any advice(s) on wat i can do?
'A man should be upright, not kept up right.'
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Hope to b your frd forever, Mike signing off -
tink i shuld add on abit.. e ger piggypen tokin abt is my classmate too...
most her friends in e class... includin me.. piggypen.. n some others.. started 2 ignore or aviod her earlier dis year..
cuz of her character probs.. n irritatin plastic ways.. we started 2 drift away frm her, one by one... i mean, we din ganged up 2 ignore her.. (she tot we did.. i tink. n kinda put e blame unto one of us.. sayin tt she snatch away all her friends..)
she msg one of us.. (sayin tt her friends in sch r sluts n cheap, n things like tt...) n she kinda pretended tt she sent e wrong msg.. OR 2 e wrong person...
haiz.. i tot e best way is 2 lve her alone.. n simply ignore her.. but she's gettin abit e guo4 huo3. shuld we juz simply ignore her?
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maybe all of u guys should tok abt the 'problem' be it frds again or not..is not the Ques. but to resolve the sim peh..like hao the problem arised or something like tt u noe?? .. i hope my post can be of help ;p ;p
cheers~
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Quoted by ^TzM 53^:
maybe all of u guys should tok abt the 'problem' be it frds again or not..is not the Ques. but to resolve the sim peh..like hao the problem arised or something like tt u noe?? .. i hope my post can be of help
We somewat identified the problem and wanted to help. However, if the individual is unwilling to open herself up to us, wat can we as frens do? Her parents basically dun bother, or should i say they can't control her at all?
At the end of the day, would u approach some1, who bad mouthed u infront of others, and peacefully resolve the problem? Perhaps we can peacefully do it, but wat m i supposed to ask?(Y did she wanna bad mouth me?)
since we r the devils and she is the angel now, i really dunno wat i have done to be crowned such a title.
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ermm...maybe it hard to haf this type of person ard...well...juz try it in a peaceful way and if it does not turn out rite...thn fark it lor...if she want to be a bitch abt it thn so be it. ;p ;p
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Quoted by ^TzM 53^
ermm...maybe it hard to haf this type of person ard...well...juz try it in a peaceful way and if it does not turn out rite...thn fark it lor...if she want to be a bitch abt it thn so be it. ;p ;p
well at least u can face yr 'ling xing'at the end of the day and say..'at least i tried'...
i dun really get wat u mean by 'juz try it in a peaceful way' however, if u mean try talking and solving the prob in a 'peaceful' manner, i dun think u got my msg earlier.
'Perhaps we can peacefully do it, but wat m i supposed to ask?(Y did she wanna bad mouth me?)'
However, if u did understand the msg that i was trying to convey, i sincerely ask for ur guidance in 'juz try it in a peaceful way'.
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True Friends stab you in the front.
The friend that you are referring to.... ISN'T ONE GOOD FIREND.
Dun bother abt her. She is not worthy of ur (erm.... erm.... cannot say love hor... ) ur attention
) I dun think u even wanan pay attention to her..
Maybe she thinks u are the one who cause her gp of frens to leave her. But i know never lah.... hehehehe
This is what i think u should say to her. " (Her name) When someone hates and shun you , maybe she's a bitch. BUT when a group of people hates n shun you, u know who's the bitch !!! " hahahhahaha nice one rite? i think one whole day liaop -
maybe i m no good at giving advices....haiz~~
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Heckcarelar!!! Banned her from your hp.
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or mayb u could talk it out wif her nicely?
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Quoted by Klactovak:
Heckcarelar!!! Banned her from your hp.
waste one memory in my hp. sim card not enuff space..
Quoted by yolanda_tan:
or mayb u could talk it out wif her nicely?
r u sure u read the previous postings?
'all man make mistakes. Wise men learn frm them'
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Originally posted by p|gGyPeN:
looks like tt gurl is not even abit wise.
Quoted by Klactovak:
[b]Heckcarelar!!! Banned her from your hp.
waste one memory in my hp. sim card not enuff space..
Quoted by yolanda_tan:
or mayb u could talk it out wif her nicely?
r u sure u read the previous postings?
'all man make mistakes. Wise men learn frm them'
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maybe wat yolanda is trying to say is...give her another chance ... which i think is sensible...
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e thing is, we did tot of tokin 2 her.. but she gave us a very unfriendly attitute. we tot of even askin her if she any help.. cuz she's consistently absent frm sch..Originally posted by ^TzM 53^:maybe wat yolanda is trying to say is...give her another chance ... which i think is sensible...
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but, now we r juz so disappointed w dis person.. juz dun like e idea tt she backstab.. tryin 2 make herself e angel n we e devils..
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forget it this...type of frd...no pointOriginally posted by *kaiLi*:e thing is, we did tot of tokin 2 her.. but she gave us a very unfriendly attitute. we tot of even askin her if she any help.. cuz she's consistently absent frm sch..
but, now we r juz so disappointed w dis person.. juz dun like e idea tt she backstab.. tryin 2 make herself e angel n we e devils.. -
Originally posted by p|gGyPeN:
Better waste one memory than have your hp flooded by stupid sms. Your story reminds me of something I went through.
Quoted by Klactovak:
[b]Heckcarelar!!! Banned her from your hp.
waste one memory in my hp. sim card not enuff space..
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I used to have a so called "brother" in my last work place but it ended up that he's more "humsup" and attention craving then being a brother to me. He lied to me, pretend to be a friend but probably saying bad things behind my back to gain favour with girls... so I wrote him off my list. It was painful but he's an asshole and I've no regrets about it. Now I'm very happy I did what I did.
If you don't react to her backstabbing what can she do. Most people will see through her in the end. Those who believe are probably not good quality for potential friends. Guess that's all I've to say.
Be good!
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Quoted by domyoji33:
True Friends stab you in the front.
Agree very much, perhaps i'm also one who's straight forward. Dun really like to handle pple who r 'plastic'.
Quoted by Klactovak:
I used to have a so called "brother" in my last work place but it ended up that he's more "humsup" and attention craving then being a brother to me. He lied to me, pretend to be a friend but probably saying
bad things behind my back to gain favour with girls... so I wrote him off my list. It was painful but he's an asshole and I've no regrets about it. Now I'm very happy I did what I did.
really sad to have such pple arnd, coz they duno how to treasure a frenship. But i still dun understand y they do such stuffs.
'chance makes our parents, choice makes our frens.' -
Originally posted by p|gGyPeN:
But u cn't deny the existence of such pple, am I rite? Juz carry on with your life and ignore them so long your conscience is clear, agreed?
Quoted by domyoji33:
[b]True Friends stab you in the front.
Agree very much, perhaps i'm also one who's straight forward. Dun really like to handle pple who r 'plastic'.
Quoted by Klactovak:
I used to have a so called "brother" in my last work place but it ended up that he's more "humsup" and attention craving then being a brother to me. He lied to me, pretend to be a friend but probably saying
bad things behind my back to gain favour with girls... so I wrote him off my list. It was painful but he's an asshole and I've no regrets about it. Now I'm very happy I did what I did.
really sad to have such pple arnd, coz they duno how to treasure a frenship. But i still dun understand y they do such stuffs.
'chance makes our parents, choice makes our frens.'
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Hope to b your frd forever, Mike signing off -
Originally posted by p|gGyPeN:
Well you have the answer in your last sentence. We always have a choice to pick our friends. It's not always us being picked as friends sometimes it's the other way round.
Quoted by Klactovak:
[b]I used to have a so called "brother" in my last work place but it ended up that he's more "humsup" and attention craving then being a brother to me. He lied to me, pretend to be a friend but probably saying
bad things behind my back to gain favour with girls... so I wrote him off my list. It was painful but he's an asshole and I've no regrets about it. Now I'm very happy I did what I did.
really sad to have such pple arnd, coz they duno how to treasure a frenship. But i still dun understand y they do such stuffs.
'chance makes our parents, choice makes our frens.'
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Why they do such things is probably they're mentally messed up. On a positive note think of your best friends that will go through "Knives Mountains Fire Seas" with you. Always remember the good friends and treasure them cos they are difficult to come by :~ Don't pre-occupy yourself with "people" who wound you like this. Because they're NOT Worth it. I think I've erased that "guy" off my memory. Can't remember how he looks like although I still remember the hurt. No big loss though. Forgive and Forget -
guess i'm goin 2 do juz tt.. no point yah..?Originally posted by ^TzM 53^:forget it this...type of frd...no point
haiz... juz sad tt we meet a fren like tt, hmm.. shuldnt call hera fren anymore rite?
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I didn't really lose much coz she wasn't like, one of my best frens. Anyway, juz the word disappointed to describe and thanks for ur help guys/gals.
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no problem, u r most welcome, all of us came to this forum bcos we hav problems yet to solve, agreed?Originally posted by p|gGyPeN:I didn't really lose much coz she wasn't like, one of my best frens. Anyway, juz the word disappointed to describe and thanks for ur help guys/gals.
'all man make mistakes. Wise men learn frm them'
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Hope to b your frd forever, Mike signing off -
yar,true