relationship wif relative
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Dear all, do give me advise on the following situation. I have fallen in love with my distant relative. he is my father's cousin's son. Would like to ask if there is anyone here who have a relationship wif her/his relative? Wat do u ppl think of this kind of relationship? Is it true that blood related guy/gal cannpt be together? pls advise on wat i shld do. Thanks. We both love each other truthfully except that we do not dare to disclose our relationship to any of our relatives.
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U might wanna reconsider such a relationship. If your bf (of which I assume u are a lady based on your nickname) has the similar chromosomes linked to your father's bloodline, then u are going to experience difficulties in future with your children-to-come.
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err thanks for yr reply...but we really love each other.
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babygal:
Loving each other and creating deformed offsprings in time to come are issues u have to consider seriously. If u really want to have deformed children which are going to be future problems, then please go ahead.
Of course u can adopt children if u are fearful of the above-mentioned.
The issue u will have to consider is the families of both parties. Are your parents willing to become in-laws to your uncles and aunties?? I don't think so.
Think again. I think u are still young. There are other people out there which might be less of such a problem here. -
Well babygal,
The decision still lies in you, I would agree with what Larry have said. Furthermore, I feel that you may be a little too in love to consider the possible outcomes of this relationship at the moment... It has to your future family and you current family too.
Probably you have just started on the relationship.
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hmm..babygal i think hor, u can continue your r/s wif him.. if u 2 really love each other i think it's fine.. dun need think much first..still so far away to ur marriage.. furthermore,u already said that he is ur distant cousin.. so i think it should be really alrite.. i think so lah..
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thanks joanne. But we do have lot of difference. he is sec sch eduacted and me uni graduate. However he dun mind my education nor me minding him. guess it will be unacceptable for our or i guess more specifically my parents
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there is always opportunity to upgrade, sch dosent stop once u start working, many of my relatives r part time students too
read from a recent news report, a lady got her law degree at 70!! -
there is always opportunity to upgrade, sch dosent stop once u start working, many of my relatives r part time students too
read from a recent news report, a lady got her law degree at 70!!
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since u dun mind n he also dun mind..i dun see the problem. your parents will surely gif u pressure, but TRUE LOVE CONQUERS ALL! all e best again!Originally posted by babygal:thanks joanne. But we do have lot of difference. he is sec sch eduacted and me uni graduate. However he dun mind my education nor me minding him. guess it will be unacceptable for our or i guess more specifically my parents -
You KNOW ANYTHING about CROSS GENERIC DNA?Originally posted by joanne:since u dun mind n he also dun mind..i dun see the problem. your parents will surely gif u pressure, but TRUE LOVE CONQUERS ALL! all e best again!
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This is NOT a problem with VALUEs and such. I would see the MAJOR problem here as CROSS GENERIC DNA. OF COURSE, you could EXPECT alot of PRESSURE from both sides of your family. My MAIN QUESTION would be HOW OLD are you TWO? And the MORE IMPORTANT one would be, DO YOU THINK you're REALLY MATURE enough for this WITHOUT regards..?Originally posted by babygal:Dear all, do give me advise on the following situation. I have fallen in love with my distant relative. he is my father's cousin's son. Would like to ask if there is anyone here who have a relationship wif her/his relative? Wat do u ppl think of this kind of relationship? Is it true that blood related guy/gal cannpt be together? pls advise on wat i shld do. Thanks. We both love each other truthfully except that we do not dare to disclose our relationship to any of our relatives.
YES. The POWER of LOVE is STRONG and it's VERY DIFFICULT to tear two loving couple apart like this. My SUGGESTION for you right now would be IF both of you are DETERMINED to be together and OVERCOME all PRESSURE from the people around you. You COULD try carrying on with him and KNOW him better 1st and let him know you VERY MUCH better? BUT I MUST WARN you. IF you got to the STAGE of MARRIAGE, you CANNOT have children. MOST PROBABLY it would lead to birth of UNNATURE CHILD or in some cases EVEN DEATH of the baby. It's NOT FAIR to the child.
Pre-marital sex that could lead to PREGNANCY is a BIG NO NO for your case. Just spend more time KNOWING each other. I BET your relationship might just END NATURALLY before you decide to carry on. If so, GOOD for you... ELSE, TAKE CARE...? -
well.. i guess the discussion can end here. WE BROKE OFF! sigh.... thanks everyone!
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GOOD for you!! For CRYING OUT loud, AVOID him for the REST of your life..??!! :pOriginally posted by babygal:well.. i guess the discussion can end here. WE BROKE OFF! sigh.... thanks everyone! -
hmm..are u alrite? well,at least u dun haf to worry abt the problems anymore!Originally posted by babygal:well.. i guess the discussion can end here. WE BROKE OFF! sigh.... thanks everyone! -
eh i better abit, NTC2 education, got chance anot? hehehe
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it is impossible to avoid hin for the rest of the life cos we still have family gathering at least once a yr.Well i guess it will be lesser problem. :-)
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U will get it over it soon. Dun worry.Originally posted by babygal:it is impossible to avoid hin for the rest of the life cos we still have family gathering at least once a yr.Well i guess it will be lesser problem. :-)
Wish u all the best.
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Guess u shd face it lor, try talking to him as a frd and take your situation as an example and see what he says, ok?Originally posted by babygal:it is impossible to avoid hin for the rest of the life cos we still have family gathering at least once a yr.Well i guess it will be lesser problem. :-)
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Hope to b your frd forever, Mike signing off