need advice
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i am rather displeased with my dad over somethings.
1 is a digital camera. i am going to buy my first camera lah.
what happened is that i was actually prepared to buy it last yr but my dad kept refusing to allow me to buy it,even though i am using my own money. he keep saying price drop price drop.
ok true enough,it did drop. but now i tell him i dont wanna wait anymore. after exams i go buy liao. i heck care him. but he say wait further, say now sars tourists not coming so price will drop.
and also tell me to use it as a reward,if i get good grades then i buy good camera. crap lah. i buy or he buy.
if i get lousy grade go buy lousy camera, he is going to kp again. insult me, say this say that. say this lousy camera, lousy skills in taking pics etc.
just because he is good in photography he expects me to instantly learn it all. he never uses nice words on me. but he never fails to insult me.
i really fed-up loh.like everything he also wanna control.
last year i go out with my friends, i so mahlu.i was having dinner with my friends and some of my new friends (they were the friends of my friend) then i got a phone call frm home ask me to come back home immediately. hello!!! i havent finish dinner yet loh. he still kp me say i never tell him. -
from what i read, i can only say that dun anticipate what ur dad would say or do... he hasn't scolded or insulted u in any way...
secondly, price will drop <--yes and no
price will only drop when new models come out... and before newer ones are available in the market, the prices wil remain... all electronics except hp will not drop in price... -
he never has anything nice to say. if i do as he expected, he will either keep quiet, or try to make it look like his effort.Originally posted by joe82:from what i read, i can only say that dun anticipate what ur dad would say or do... he hasn't scolded or insulted u in any way...
secondly, price will drop <--yes and no
price will only drop when new models come out... and before newer ones are available in the market, the prices wil remain... all electronics except hp will not drop in price...
he just insulted me a few weeks ago anyway -
old man can be a bit stubborn at times lah
somemore now hang cheng pai......dun spend unnecessary money.......especially if they are "wants" and not "needs"
maybe he has his way of teaching and bringing up his kids.....tt i do not know but i definitely respect it......
i oso understand that parents can be a bit strict but tts for ur own good.....
the "growing up" phase is always difficult and kids tend to wanna act adult, want freedom of choice and own financial control, rebel and oppose parents' ideas, find them naggy, always want to know where u go and who u are with, dun allow u to stay out late.......the list goes on and on......
i've gone thru that phase and now looking back.....i even laff at myself for being childish sometimes and bery naughty.....and realised the truth in some things tt i had overlooked or did not see from my perspective at tt time....
da jia dou shi yi jia ren....im sure can tok things out.......
jus let ur dad know about ur burning passion for digital photography and u would like to pursue this interest with ur own capital and hope he can support u and hopefully impart his photography skills to u......this might oso enhance father-son relationship..... -
This is life...........
sometimes my father also nag...
why they nag is because they don't understand us ...
from what i personally feel...
i think your father still treat you like his baby ...cannot this cannot that .. its normal lah ..
until one day when something comes up.. it will go into his brain. and everything will stop... -
for every moment he imparts any thing to me he insults me for 3 moments. how's that for enhancing r/sOriginally posted by FireIce:old man can be a bit stubborn at times lah
somemore now hang cheng pai......dun spend unnecessary money.......especially if they are "wants" and not "needs"
maybe he has his way of teaching and bringing up his kids.....tt i do not know but i definitely respect it......
i oso understand that parents can be a bit strict but tts for ur own good.....
the "growing up" phase is always difficult and kids tend to wanna act adult, want freedom of choice and own financial control, rebel and oppose parents' ideas, find them naggy, always want to know where u go and who u are with, dun allow u to stay out late.......the list goes on and on......
i've gone thru that phase and now looking back.....i even laff at myself for being childish sometimes and bery naughty.....and realised the truth in some things tt i had overlooked or did not see from my perspective at tt time....
da jia dou shi yi jia ren....im sure can tok things out.......
jus let ur dad know about ur burning passion for digital photography and u would like to pursue this interest with ur own capital and hope he can support u and hopefully impart his photography skills to u......this might oso enhance father-son relationship..... -
as for going out late.i have friends who are younger than me and they go out and come back well after midnight.and FYI, they are girls. i dont carry an ounce of metal that is more expensive than steel. my hp is a pathetic model ok? there are ppl with more expensive models ard.
i respect his demands to notify him before hand where i am going and with who. but he keeps controlling everything else. -
If u dun want ur parents to kp. Then dun tell them anything. Since its ur own money, I dun see why u have to seek ur parent's permission of buy it.
I've learnt to keep my parents out of my personal stuff to save the trouble.
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how ? how ?Originally posted by Xiaosa:If u dun want ur parents to kp. Then dun tell them anything. Since its ur own money, I dun see why u have to seek ur parent's permission of buy it.
I've learnt to keep my parents out of my personal stuff to save the trouble.
teach me
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bismarck, it's pretty obvious that your parents esp your Dad is being protective. Tell me, are u the oni son in the family? If so, then it's 'justifiable' that they are protective of you. They are afraid that u mixed wif bad company but what can u do abt it? Simple actually, bring your friends to your house once in awhile. Just ask them to come over for a game session in your room, watch vcds or even have dinner with your parents. Important thing is to assure your parents that u are in gd company of friends. Let them know who your friends are. Then, the least they will feel more obliged to let u go out as often or even as late as past midnite. They need assurances u c. Tell either your mom or dad that u r going out with friends whom they visited ur place b4. Ya, tis sounds unmanly but it'll helps.Originally posted by bismarck:how ? how ?
teach me
I do believe the notion that if u work for your own money, it's justifiable to buy something of your own. But do think abt this, are u buying a digital camera just for fun? Just bcos your of peer pressure? Are u gonna use it often to justify buying it? Be practical, dun buy if it's not really neccessary.
Lastly, somethings neber change. Action speaks louder than words. Instead of taking pains to talk to your parents, start helping out in the housework... washing plates and such after makan. Clean up your room once in awhile. U know, stuff like that. Slowly, they'll notice that u are more independent and active in helping out the chores... they'll lose the grip on you and maybe the relationship is better.
Cheers ya. -
i am the only male other than my dad in the family, i do have a brainless,useless,stupid,lazy elder sister
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Hey man, you should appreciate that your father is still caring abt you.
Yes, sometime "old man" can be nagging, but they did it out for "love" for their children. When you grew older and he's no longer around, you will miss him.
Believe me it's the truth
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No worries bismarck. Stand up and be counted. Proved them wrong u are independant and be reponsible. Try the things I mentioned but dun expect results so fast. You have to earn the respect.Originally posted by bismarck:i am the only male other than my dad in the family, i do have a brainless,useless,stupid,lazy elder sister
Cheer up bismarck. -
I mean is he dismisses me faster than anything else loh.Originally posted by BÃ¥seline:No worries bismarck. Stand up and be counted. Proved them wrong u are independant and be reponsible. Try the things I mentioned but dun expect results so fast. You have to earn the respect.
Cheer up bismarck.
the only thing i am going to do that commands respect frm him is that i dev this drug to cure cancer,aids,all major diseases. -
My dad used to scold me alot too. Always tell me to help out the housework, dun go out too late and such. Then I started to be responsible and they began to see a change in me. It's more significantly while I was in NS. He saw a big change in me and from there I was allowed to go clubbing and such.Originally posted by bismarck:I mean is he dismisses me faster than anything else loh.
the only thing i am going to do that commands respect frm him is that i dev this drug to cure cancer,aids,all major diseases.
It'll might take sometime your dad will value what u have done but he would eventually. It's up to you to see it right.