wah..damm suei..help help...
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got a v v stupid story to tell.. see if u all can suggest anything to help...
well, i have been wif my bf slightly more than 4 months..we are perfectly alrite together..my family agar agar noe abt him cos i nv really tell them much..but my sis did see him n tok to him before but my parents only roughly noe abt him..
that day we met up for dinner near my house, so after dinner when he sent me home,in the lift we started kissing..well, kinda just a gdbye kiss mah..then when the lift door opened...shit..my mum was standing at the door..really got a big shock of my life..i ran out..leaving my bf n my mum to share the same lift...hmm..that's the first time my mum see my bf..n i think u can imagine wat she thinks of him...i mean my mum is v conservative type..cham liao lah..me n my bf haf been rather helpless abt the matter, blaming all on our luck! now we are trying to do things to help improve my mum's impression on him..wat do u think can help?
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how was ur mum reaction after that to u? did she ignore or scold u or anythg? find a chance to talk to her & let her know ur rs with ur bf & bring him home more often to mix ard more with ur family lor. ur mum will eventually accept d fact that her girl girl has grown & take care of herself.. unless u had past records of other bf tat give her bad impression b4??
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What had happen had happen, the only thing for u to do nw is to sit down with your mum and explain to her, surely she will understand.Originally posted by yc:how was ur mum reaction after that to u? did she ignore or scold u or anythg? find a chance to talk to her & let her know ur rs with ur bf & bring him home more often to mix ard more with ur family lor. ur mum will eventually accept d fact that her girl girl has grown & take care of herself.. unless u had past records of other bf tat give her bad impression b4??
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hmmmm....try xplaining 2 her?
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leave it as it is... if u try explaining too much...things might b blown out of proportion...tts worse...so juz leave it and see hao it goes...
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hmm..my mum she didnt scold me but she called up my sis cos she noes that i am v close to my sis..then she asked my sis to convey the msg to me..tell me not to get into r/s etc. n study hard... u noe..tat type of things mothers always say...
just now she tok to me, she just ask me to study hard etc lah.. but she kips "suaning" me here n there at home..like if i going out, she will say "dun always go pah toh" when i am not loh.. aiyah..v fan leh...
actually wanna bring my bf home soon one, now he himself dun dare come to my house.. hahaha.. he dun dare to face my mum...
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Every parents wants the best for their children! Give ur mum a break...Lie low for the time being. In your mum's eye, you'll forever be her little darling...even when you're 30! Respect her decisions and be discreet when out with ur bf !
Love conquers all
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wad ever she says...juz say oR~~ or ok....u noe?Originally posted by joanne:hmm..my mum she didnt scold me but she called up my sis cos she noes that i am v close to my sis..then she asked my sis to convey the msg to me..tell me not to get into r/s etc. n study hard... u noe..tat type of things mothers always say...
just now she tok to me, she just ask me to study hard etc lah.. but she kips "suaning" me here n there at home..like if i going out, she will say "dun always go pah toh" when i am not loh.. aiyah..v fan leh...
actually wanna bring my bf home soon one, now he himself dun dare come to my house.. hahaha.. he dun dare to face my mum...
i oso like tt... my mom always ask me not to ride..and nag abt it.....ever come home b4 wif blood everywhere... haiz...juz let time soothe the situation first... from there thn pa sng...
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aiyah explain that u got study, just need someone to share your thoughts and stuffs lah. Having a b/f means nothing what, siao. We are humans, we have thoughts and feelings what. Getting into relationships are part of life. Cannot hide one. Expain this to ur mum. Hope she understands...
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Joanne...
Haizzz.... next time do must do discretely lor. hyiak hyiak... i think your mother will get over it sooner or later but don't get yourself into bigger trouble till then.
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Hmm....Originally posted by ^TzM 53^:leave it as it is... if u try explaining too much...things might b blown out of proportion...tts worse...so juz leave it and see hao it goes... -
so easily understand meh.. hmm.. now i am trying to study hard lohz.. that's all i can do!!!Originally posted by TZR:aiyah explain that u got study, just need someone to share your thoughts and stuffs lah. Having a b/f means nothing what, siao. We are humans, we have thoughts and feelings what. Getting into relationships are part of life. Cannot hide one. Expain this to ur mum. Hope she understands...
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You mother wants you to study because want to chu ren tou di (be successful one day)... and also afraid that you kena cheated by ABC mahz... (not American Born Chinese lahz) it's Alligator, Buaya (not Bear okiez!), and Crocodile... Since you so young... and also it will hurt her to see sink into depression if the relationship doesn't work out... haiz.. but if don't let you experience the feeling, you won't be satisfied with her, and will turn rebellious.. haiz.... And you already mentioned that your parents only have a vague impression of him... of course will tell you not to get serious... One way is since your sister have contacted with him can tell her to explain to your mother things that are going on between the both of you and also how he is... And maybe sometime later can ask him to drop by your house.. just maybe what they call 'see face' and not interrogation lahz.. or maybe sometimes ask him to be by the door so that there are opportunities for some form of communication... so that you trust can be bounded by you, your family and him...
Sounds that I'm that old manz.... hehheh~
Wait... I go study my psychology first then I come back to you.. hehehhe~ But the above is that best thing that I can tell you to do...
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next time round..do a thorough check...
coast clear liao then do it..
hahahaha
anyway..shd tell ur mom is the 21st century liao..a goodbye kiss is bery common..
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more affectionately known as...
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haha..if i still go n tell my mum a goodbye kiss is common ah...i think she will kill me liao.. hahaha..do such a thing rite in front of her..hmm.. u think i still haf the guts to tok back ah? heeOriginally posted by FireIce:next time round..do a thorough check...
coast clear liao then do it..
hahahaha
anyway..shd tell ur mom is the 21st century liao..a goodbye kiss is bery common.. but things are getting better...think she forgetting abt the matter liaoo..
btw, bear, u sound a an ah peh.. ah gong jiang gu.. hahaha.. but nvm, thanks for ur advices!!! -
hahahah..
okae..if she neber ask or mention anything then u diam diam oso lah..
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more affectionately known as...
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FI: hmm common aR hey hey ...y not we go out oso...thn i send u home u gif me big big goodbye kiss?gum bo ?haahaahaaOriginally posted by FireIce:next time round..do a thorough check...
coast clear liao then do it..
hahahaha
anyway..shd tell ur mom is the 21st century liao..a goodbye kiss is bery common.. :p -
eeks..chi koh peh!!! hahaha...Originally posted by ^TzM 53^:FI: hmm common aR hey hey ...y not we go out oso...thn i send u home u gif me big big goodbye kiss?gum bo ?haahaahaa :p -
can loh...Originally posted by ^TzM 53^:FI: hmm common aR hey hey ...y not we go out oso...thn i send u home u gif me big big goodbye kiss?gum bo ?haahaahaa :p
pls take lumber and queue..
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more affectionately known as...
tHe eXtrA-oRdiNaRy eCCenTriC PaRanOid BiTch wiF thE PaiZaBor aTTiTudE
(that happens to love prata...and Quickly PearlTofu) -
haiz... so many peopel in the forum already call me uncle Bear liaoz.. how not be old... haiz... *cough* *cough* besides, me studying psychology how not to be old.. *ahem* *ahem* must be wiser to help people out mahz.. you have to understand *cough* i have to bind the family *cough* together, and not just side with the children or the parents.. have to draw the *cough* line in between... *ahem* you know what is 'zhong yong zi dao'??have to respect both parties and to let both parties understand people... thought i know that most people already what's going on.. but as time goes by, we just tends to take it for granted and it becomes a nag to you... and just need someone else to drive it into you again...Originally posted by joanne:btw, bear, u sound a an ah peh.. ah gong jiang gu.. hahaha.. but nvm, thanks for ur advices!!!
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now then u know ah? haiyoh.....Originally posted by joanne:eeks..chi koh peh!!! hahaha...
Btw when's the next queue ha? muahahahah~~
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Maybe all mothers are the same coz my mum oso like dat!Originally posted by joanne:hmm..my mum she didnt scold me but she called up my sis cos she noes that i am v close to my sis..then she asked my sis to convey the msg to me..tell me not to get into r/s etc. n study hard... u noe..tat type of things mothers always say...
just now she tok to me, she just ask me to study hard etc lah.. but she kips "suaning" me here n there at home..like if i going out, she will say "dun always go pah toh" when i am not loh.. aiyah..v fan leh...
actually wanna bring my bf home soon one, now he himself dun dare come to my house.. hahaha.. he dun dare to face my mum...
But can see dat ur mum cares a lot for u lor..if she dun care,then she wont asked ur sis to tell u all dat.
Whats done cannot be undone..i dun think explaining will be a gd idea.Unless the relationship btw ur mum n u is very close,if not i think it'll be quite awarkard to explaining such things to here,especially when u said ur mum is the conservative type!! :p
Juz leave it as it is lor.All u can do now is to study hard,get good results to prove it to her dat by having a bf doesnt affect ur studies at all!And as time goes by,ask ur bf to go up sit sit(onli sit sit leh!no more than dat!) but muz rmbr to buy something lah!to por ur mum(u noe??) and i think soon, ur mum will 4get abt the kissing in the lift episode and start to like ur bf!! Gd luck!!
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y? u jeolous aR? haahaahaaOriginally posted by joanne:eeks..chi koh peh!!! hahaha... -
joanne:
If you are able to assure your mum by your daily behaviour, I believe you can change her mindset about having a boyfriend at such a young age. But my advice is:
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