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hi ppl,
feelin kinda confused.
:known a gal and became an item
after 2 1/2 yrs, broke up becos of one other man
tried all methods to get her back but failed.
tis ex gf very cold hearted.
made it seem as though im the third party now and hindering her relationship with this man
i have a lot of things runnin thru my head
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"ASHES to ashes, dust to dust...
For as long as it lasted, if it MUST it
DOES...."
Who tells you that you're NOT a third party now... Whatever grief you may think you hold.... Whatever unkind you may think done upon you.... Once you're out of a relationship, you're consider an outsider... And if you really think that your EX is so COLD and CRUEL to you.... You should learn to set yourself free and start flying in the right direction....
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wah...2 n a 1/2 yrs..thats rather long.. but guo qu jiu rang ta guo qu.. no use trying to salvage when the other party doesnt gif a damm.. hmm..perhaps really not worth it.. take ur time n try to forget her.. she might tell ppl that u are trying to harm her relationship wif her bf now...
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A very old phrase but there's some truth in it.
"If you love someone set her free, if she's yours to be she'll be back.
If not it was never meant to be..."
Maybe I will give a variation to it.
If after trying all means but she is still unmoved, I suggest you forget about her. The girl for you will treasure you as much as you treasure her. You wouldn't be happy to be with the girl you love if she doesn't love you at all.
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**I want u to be with me.....
be with me in the morning...be with me in the nite...with me when its dark out...with me when its light...
I want u to be with me...no matter what we do...just keep this reminder...of how much I love u...** -
Correct, no point holding on to a realtionship which cannot work out...Originally posted by Crysania:A very old phrase but there's some truth in it.
"If you love someone set her free, if she's yours to be she'll be back.
If not it was never meant to be..."
Maybe I will give a variation to it.
If after trying all means but she is still unmoved, I suggest you forget about her. The girl for you will treasure you as much as you treasure her. You wouldn't be happy to be with the girl you love if she doesn't love you at all.
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Correct, no point holding on to a realtionship which cannot work out...Originally posted by mikegk_76:[QUOTE]Originally posted by Crysania:
[b]A very old phrase but there's some truth in it.
"If you love someone set her free, if she's yours to be she'll be back.
If not it was never meant to be..."
Maybe I will give a variation to it.
If after trying all means but she is still unmoved, I suggest you forget about her. The girl for you will treasure you as much as you treasure her. You wouldn't be happy to be with the girl you love if she doesn't love you at all.
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PRECISE.... Hmm... A little surprised that you actually KNEW this....?
Thought you have a topic somehow similar to this...? 
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hi joanne,Originally posted by joanne:wah...2 n a 1/2 yrs..thats rather long.. but guo qu jiu rang ta guo qu.. no use trying to salvage when the other party doesnt gif a damm.. hmm..perhaps really not worth it.. take ur time n try to forget her.. she might tell ppl that u are trying to harm her relationship wif her bf now...
thx for your advice, tis problem is actually a thing of the past but recently it came back to my mind.
btw, i have another girlfriend now but i encounter another problem. her ex bf is back and demanding that i give her up or else i will be subjected to various means of suffering, as described by him.
what should i do?
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You should ask him to write down OR type out the various means of 'suffering' as described by him and bine them up before presenting it to you... Just in case you forget about the whole thing....Originally posted by vinvin:hi joanne,
thx for your advice, tis problem is actually a thing of the past but recently it came back to my mind.
btw, i have another girlfriend now but i encounter another problem. her ex bf is back and demanding that i give her up or else i will be subjected to various means of suffering, as described by him.
what should i do?
p.s. thanx ppl, for all your advice.
"We've learnt to handle threats in our life, but we've never really learn to handle FEARS...."
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I do agree wif wat devil1976 is saying.. coz watever happens u have some proof of who is doing it to u and can be reported to the police let's say if it's some life arson.. but then again of coz this sort of self-owning thingy wun happen in real life...
I can only say if u love this girl, I believe u wun mind subjecting to the watever he has in mind.. but usually in S'pore, pple seldom dare to things becoz of the law and police that's behind it. he do one thing, u jst report, if he ever so foolishly ever gonna hurt u physically he jolly know that he's gonna well up in jail, becoz he's likely the prime suspect amongst all other pple. Of coz there must still be evidence and witnesses lahz..
How ever if he's ever say he will jump or die to ur gf becoz of her.. I can olny say let him be.. he's just trying to get attention that's all.. he's not gonna do it.. This is not Hong Kong or Taiwan, where pple will jump off a building or train becoz of love... I dun hear pple die becoz Zoe or Fann or Celest got a bf or hubby... Singaporeans are too kiasee to do such things as long as u dun bother they will quiet down...
Right now since nothing has been done, or maybe u left some details of wat's gonna happen so there's nothing much that we can do.. so the above is wat I think might be helpful and boost ur confidence in ur r/s wif ur gf.. and ne be intimidated by her ex...
But one more thing that I want to remind u.. u mentioned that u just broke off wif ur ex and now u are wif another girl, I not poking my nose into ur business, but just wanna ask if u really like this girl or is it just a replacement?? Maybe u dun wanna announce it here, but I do haope that u will considerit very carefully becoz this is a r/s and it involves 2 pple.. it will be unfair to her and deny her of the possible opportunities...
Do update us on the latest happenings... We'll try to help...
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hmmm.. actually I do agree wif wat devil1976, coz if it's gonna happen then u can present it to the plice and he wull get it for sure.. but I doubt that anyway will be that silly to do such a thing...
Anyway u din really mention wat he will do to u or ur gf, so I can only help u out generally.. Dun have to worryz coz it's a proof of ur love to ur gf.. if u really lvoe her, I doubt u will ever mind such little obstacles... Anyway u have got the law and the police behind u shud he do anything foolish.. It will be worst if he's there to hurt u physically. he's definitely gonna get it.. it's just whether u wanna play ur part to help out... However, I do warn u not to play punk wif her ex but provoking him or giving false information to the polie, coz these are the worst things u can ever do to get urself involve lawsuits.
On the other hand if he's to try this other tactic by saying that he will kill himself or jump down from a building, I can ponly say let him be.. It's not that I'm heartless, but in S'pore there aren't many incidents where pple will die for love.. It's not Taiwan or Hong Kong where stars like Jimmy Lim gets gf and fans just start jumping off trains or buildings.. S'poreans are far too kiasee anyway...
However, I do have a question in mind... U mentioned that u broke off wif ur ex not too long ago, and now u are wif another girl, I do like to ask if u r really true to this girl... If is she just a sub.. I'm not suspecting u, but just reminding u to think carefully becoz in a r/s it works both ways.. and both of u will get hurt in the end if it's for the wrong reasons... think abt it at least...
Do update us on how's things are going for u and her... We'll try to providse help if there's a need...
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hi all,Originally posted by Bear:hmmm.. actually I do agree wif wat devil1976, coz if it's gonna happen then u can present it to the plice and he wull get it for sure.. but I doubt that anyway will be that silly to do such a thing...
Anyway u din really mention wat he will do to u or ur gf, so I can only help u out generally.. Dun have to worryz coz it's a proof of ur love to ur gf.. if u really lvoe her, I doubt u will ever mind such little obstacles... Anyway u have got the law and the police behind u shud he do anything foolish.. It will be worst if he's there to hurt u physically. he's definitely gonna get it.. it's just whether u wanna play ur part to help out... However, I do warn u not to play punk wif her ex but provoking him or giving false information to the polie, coz these are the worst things u can ever do to get urself involve lawsuits.
On the other hand if he's to try this other tactic by saying that he will kill himself or jump down from a building, I can ponly say let him be.. It's not that I'm heartless, but in S'pore there aren't many incidents where pple will die for love.. It's not Taiwan or Hong Kong where stars like Jimmy Lim gets gf and fans just start jumping off trains or buildings.. S'poreans are far too kiasee anyway...
However, I do have a question in mind... U mentioned that u broke off wif ur ex not too long ago, and now u are wif another girl, I do like to ask if u r really true to this girl... If is she just a sub.. I'm not suspecting u, but just reminding u to think carefully becoz in a r/s it works both ways.. and both of u will get hurt in the end if it's for the wrong reasons... think abt it at least...
Do update us on how's things are going for u and her... We'll try to providse help if there's a need...
juz to tell you all that i actually broke up with my ex abt 6 mths alreadi.
i can say that i have no more feelings for her anymore and i do hope that she will be happy.
by the way, this new gf of mine is veri gentle and caring and she treats me really well.
i must say that im really true to her.and she is not a substitute. i love her.
by the way, i saw my ex today and i have no more feelins for her...i felt nothing for her.i even sensed that she is trying to get away from me. she saw me and walked away quickly.
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Feels happy for u, must cherish the relationship, not easy for two pple to get together. All the best to both of uOriginally posted by vinvin:hi all,
juz to tell you all that i actually broke up with my ex abt 6 mths alreadi.
i can say that i have no more feelings for her anymore and i do hope that she will be happy.
by the way, this new gf of mine is veri gentle and caring and she treats me really well.
i must say that im really true to her.and she is not a substitute. i love her.
by the way, i saw my ex today and i have no more feelins for her...i felt nothing for her.i even sensed that she is trying to get away from me. she saw me and walked away quickly.
thx again...for helpin mi
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Hope to b your frd forever, Mike signing off -
As I said it's just word of caution... Dun mean anything... I dun suspect ur love to her...Originally posted by vinvin:hi all,
juz to tell you all that i actually broke up with my ex abt 6 mths alreadi.
i can say that i have no more feelings for her anymore and i do hope that she will be happy.
by the way, this new gf of mine is veri gentle and caring and she treats me really well.
i must say that im really true to her.and she is not a substitute. i love her.
by the way, i saw my ex today and i have no more feelins for her...i felt nothing for her.i even sensed that she is trying to get away from me. she saw me and walked away quickly.
thx again...for helpin mi
I, too, gif u my blessing for u and ur gf...
We'll still be ard if there's a ever a need for help... or u can intro us ur girl if there's a forum outing.. hehehhe~
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vinvin, you have been threatening us and now you get to taste your own medicine.Originally posted by vinvin:hi joanne,
thx for your advice, tis problem is actually a thing of the past but recently it came back to my mind.
btw, i have another girlfriend now but i encounter another problem. her ex bf is back and demanding that i give her up or else i will be subjected to various means of suffering, as described by him.
what should i do?
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dun worry, you still young, can find other girls...
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bitch....ohh...sorrie i mean...BITCH!
forget abt her....
best advice.... i noe hard...as i m still on the road for my healing heart~~
cheer up~ -
Let her go. If it happened with this guy, it could happen to anyone. So the fact that u broke up was something inevitable.
get over her. Move on. There'll always be someone worth ur while some day -
Originally posted by ^TzM 53^:bitch....ohh...sorrie i mean...BITCH!
forget abt her....
best advice.... i noe hard...as i m still on the road for my healing heart~~
cheer up~
OH MAN... ~COVER FACE with hands...~ ~Sigh..~ AIYA... NONE of our business lah... Go go... Go to other topics.... -
heard someone scolding mi....Originally posted by ^TzM 53^:bitch....ohh...sorrie i mean...BITCH!
forget abt her....
best advice.... i noe hard...as i m still on the road for my healing heart~~
cheer up~
jus being curious....how many percent do u believe what is written up there?
used to get very worked up when i heard ppl scolding mi abt this...just becos they believed everything that is being posted!!
i had always been very low-profile over this matter....but this doesn't meam i'm guilty.
i just wanted to avoid all those endless flaming here and there. Anyway, i don't have the time then.
please...nobody except the ones involved noe exactly what happen.
hmm....been so free lately...so jus wanna let out some of my frustrations... -
actually, i thought everything has already ended since january....really shocked to see this thread which is started in May.
ehh...this is posted at one of the thread in chit chat long ago. u guys can choose not to believe mi.
"To VnVin,
I had already told u many times that our breakup has got nothing to do with anybody. Since u came in and posted, i think i will say it one last time, maybe written words are easier for u to understand.
From late 1999 onwards, i had already slowly stop loving u. I'm sure u also know that by that time, we had already reduced greatly the number of times we met.In year 2000, the situation got even worse, we always quarrel every time we meet. At that time, I had attempted to break off with u a few times but u always threaten to commit suicide, that is why we had remained so long. (pls note that at that time, i have not met anyone from this forum.)I often called up Janice and told her that i'm very miserable cos i don't love u anymore but i can't break up with u. All these while, i had been waiting for a chance to leave u, but i'm just afriad that u will go n kill urself.
I only met the forumites in june 2000. I have told a few person in this forum about my misery and at that time, i don't even know oldman well and had never talk to him before. Do you know that i'm really so happy on that day of our breakup? I felt so relief that everthing is finally over. I can finally overcome all your threats and i had also realised one thing.
IF U REALLY WANT TO DIE, U WON'T KEEP TELLING ME. U HAD THREATEN TO KILL URSELF SO MANY TIMES, IF U REALLY HAD THE INTENTION, U R ALREADY DEAD. U JUST WANT TO USE IT AS A THREAT TO KEEP ME BY UR SIDE. PLS NOTE: I advice u that if u have a gf in future, this kind of method can only be used once or twice. Even stupid gers like me can see through ur trick.
OLDMAN, I LOVE U!!!~~~~~~" -
Huh...? Got such things as 0.5 cent mey...??Originally posted by Ruth|E:Oh Man...
So childish huh... hahahaha
I know belle and oldman personally... Bitch ?? I dun think so...
But VinVin,
My ex bf also threatened me with suicide... Hiakz...Suicide canx make her go back to u, but will make her think tt u r childish and usesless... How are u gonna take care of her???
*Phew.. Jus my 1/2 cent worth
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Oh my god. Here we go again......
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Sighz. Love again.
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wah wah wah.. rather confusing here.. so i c, hmm..that means vinvin n belle are ex, n then oldman n belle are together now???
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Never mind...Originally posted by joanne:wah wah wah.. rather confusing here.. so i c, hmm..that means vinvin n belle are ex, n then oldman n belle are together now??? It's NOT that IMPORTANT ANYMORE... The PAST should be buried... It's the FUTURE that await us....
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In LIGHT I shall FEAR NOT. FOR what I AM is CUT so DEEP inside of ME.
I LIVE my FLESH and SOUL ONLY to BLEED for the OTHERS.
FEAR ME NOT. FOR I AM YOUR 'MASTER'. GIVE YOU STRENGTH. FOR YOU ARE MY 'ENEMY'.
DEVIL PHRASE I
I have no 'friends' nor 'family'.
I hold no past and see not future...
These are just samples of illusions....
I don't exist, but I shall live ETERNITY..... DEVIL PHRASE II
ße COOL, NOT s¢rr¥....