Originally posted by huijun_takeshi:

can anyone tell me how to maintain gd relationship?
my one and a half yr bf just told me tat i've change alot..... he told me tat i'm not the gal tat he used to noe before.... he told me tat the distance between us has drifted..... he said tat he's always the one who give in to me... and i admit tat i always take him for granted.... than he ask me to find a solution to close the up the distance.... i didn't noe wat to do... everyday i go to skool, but i can't forcus, and i'm having my 'O' level this yr... can anyone tell me wat to do.... i dun wish to hav a break up....
...i admit tat i always take him for granted...One thing about people is that he KNOW that certain characteristic is killing the relationship, but they CHOOSE not to do anything about it. Its like when you are sick, you refuse to seek medical help. In the end, when things gets fatal and everyone regrets.
At least you boyfriends talks about this to you and seek for a mutual solution. Well, you don't see guys doing that generally do you? You wish to maintain this relation and let me tell you the only way to is effort and appreciation - both of them work hand in hand.

You know that you are taking him for granted - improve on this aspect. Don't request yourself to change, because changing habit, characteristic is a slow moving model that starts from improving one self. Don't take him for granted - show your appreciation. Start with small things like encouragement, write little cards, don't show negative words/statement every now and then, etc. When you show you appreciate his doings, or him basically - things will improve.

When things happen, calm down and thinking rationally as soon as possible. Then take initiative to seek for solution and problem solve together. Problems, crisis, etc solved by the effort of two parties are legendary traits shared by all successful couples.

Watch your studies. You have studied 10 years for this O level and don't waste it because of relations.

Cheers