Help mi.m i wrong????
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Hey guys,mi dam ruan now.hope u guys can help out.mi n my gf broke off 2wks back.cos it was sun,she was at my hm.bside me.den a guy col n started toking.wen ask where she was,she hestitate for 3 sec den say outside.when i ask her y cant she sae she at my hm,her reply was-Bcos not beri nice to let pple noe i at yr hm ma.wat will he tink???Gosh,we been together 1 yr + and sun is our 'family day'. . .she kept saying she is rite. ..m i 2 sensiive???i posted this bcos i tink mayb u guys can c it better den me or izit her who is juz trying to cover up.
btw,tis guy is trying to sian her n even wen i wth her,will tok closely to her.they noe 4 years but he oni sian her abt 1-2 yrs back. . .ho??m i over sensitive???nver once did she sa sori or tink she wrong. . .
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Sp51:
No offence, but I do have some problem understanding what u are trying to say.
It could be possible that she's keeping a second option. But as a guy, u shouldn't really mind such trivial matters. My personal experience is that if we choose to close our eyes to trivial matters, most relationships can last. -
try to ask her the real reason behind it
and the most simple way and harsh way is to ask her:"who is the one she really love"
if the answer is U. u should be happy and try to make her feel good, and she cant answer u, give her time to choose
dont force her, its a very important question
so DONT FORCE HER.
i know u really love her so much to u r too afraid to lost her. so give her time to think about the question. its the only way to know how she is feeling now
no one know how she feel except her.
if she choose the other parties. u should just say that the fate between u and her had just end and wish all the best for her -
wEll,wat i mean is she actualli hestitate to tell tat guy abt were she actualli is la. .tats all la. .n her reason as to tat is was not nice to let tat guy noe she at my hm didnt go dwn 2 well wth mi. . .i mean,wat is 'not nice'?????tat reali bothers mi. . .i kept tinking,was i wrong or wat by bein angry.....Originally posted by Larry:Sp51:
No offence, but I do have some problem understanding what u are trying to say.
It could be possible that she's keeping a second option. But as a guy, u shouldn't really mind such trivial matters. My personal experience is that if we choose to close our eyes to trivial matters, most relationships can last. -
n i oso found out tat 2 days aft we broke,she was at a pub n a guy gave her sm flowers. . .although he didnt got the number or wat,she actually bought it hm and left it on her bed. . .she keep claim she not interested in noeing him. . .i reali dam stres. . .y she do all these type of tings n she dun tink is wrong. .
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Hmm,sounds like ur gf n u have a big prob here...Originally posted by Sp51:n i oso found out tat 2 days aft we broke,she was at a pub n a guy gave her sm flowers. . .although he didnt got the number or wat,she actually bought it hm and left it on her bed. . .she keep claim she not interested in noeing him. . .i reali dam stres. . .y she do all these type of tings n she dun tink is wrong. .
Firstly u said dat the both of u had been together for 1yr+,iwant u to ask urself dis qn: during dis 1yr+,were the both of u realli happy together?were the both of u alwaz doing the same thing every wk?
If u ans is yes..then i guess u realli need to change.
For a relationship to work out,u need to add some spice to it!esp for a long term relationship like urs.If the ger dun love u,she wouldnt have been with u for so long lor.have u ever wonder how cum she can be with u for so long?Firstly is most probably she loves u a lot although the relationship is a bit "no taste". Secondly,may b bcoz she's waiting for a miracle to happen..she hope dat this relationship will bcum more interesting.Dun tell me dat u dun...
U said the both of u had broken up n i think u r quite unwilling to let go n u still want back the relationship rite? If dats the case,boy,let me tell u,u realli have a lot to do.Dun care abt the other guy who wants to sian her,now all u can do is to gan dong her..as to hoe to go abt doing it..u'll have to think abt it urself.Stop probing over the guy n her.concentrate on how to win her back.
But if u dun want to continue the relationship,then dun be a meany..dun question so much abt her life..think abt it.
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1. I think there's NOT your gf's FAULT that someone's after her.
2. I think she have the RIGHTS to CHOOSE her FRIENDS and RESERVE whatever INFORMATION she wants as her own PRIVACY from her FRIENDS.
3. I DON'T think there is ANYTHING wrong with her bringing FLOWERs back home SINCE she've got NO BF already. I also THINK her EX. might not be SO SWEET as to buy her FLOWERS. You HAD your CHANCE. You just GAVE it AWAY....
4. I ALSO THINK you BETTER take this as A LESSON for YOURSELF so that your NEXT (?) relationship would be a more fruitful one. I DON'T know anything about your gf to comment about HER. BUT IF that's all the 'MAJOR FAULTs' you can FIND in her to have CAUSED you this BREAKUP. I ADVISE you to do some SOUL SEARCHING....
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In LIGHT I shall FEAR NOT. FOR what I AM is CUT so DEEP inside of ME.
I LIVE my FLESH and SOUL ONLY to BLEED for the OTHERS.
FEAR ME NOT. FOR I AM YOUR 'MASTER'. GIVE YOU STRENGTH. FOR YOU ARE MY 'ENEMY'.
DEVIL PHRASE I
I have no 'friends' nor 'family'.
I hold no past and see not future...
These are just samples of illusions....
I don't exist, but I shall live ETERNITY..... DEVIL PHRASE II
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Girls don't like people to know they are at their bf's house. People tend to think wild.
U say broke off liao, then still bother about it for what?
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**I want u to be with me.....
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hmm..maybe she really thinks that a girl to be at a guy's house is not too nice so she didnt want to tell that guy.. but i do think that u haf a right to get angry over it.. if i were u, i too will be angry i think.. but then it's too kua zhang to break up cos of this silly reason, it just shows tat the relationship b/w u 2 cannot even tahan trivial matters like this.. now it's over b/w u 2, n i think it's fine for her to accept flowers n courtship from other guys.. n if u wan to get her back, make sure that u are able to withstand the weird behaviour of her loh..if not the r/s is bound to fail again...
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Gers always think differently from guys...... and guess we just have to accept these facts......
And if you really mind all these small matters, it won't be easy for both of you to go far.......... try to take things slightly easier....... there are much more stressful things in a relationship for you to handle.
Just some of the things i felt she might be thinking:
i) Yup, she wants to up keep her image as a 'guai guai' ger so if pple know she's actually at her bf's hm (actually nothing wrong, but diff pple diff thinking), she fear that others might think rotten.
ii) She's still young and have a couple of yrs ahead for her to choose her Mr Rite. So she is giving herself additional option.
iii) maybe, or just maybe, she do see something special in the guy.
Just my own point of views. Not to be taken as a fact.
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I agreed totally, it's too small a matter to lead to a break up, did u ever sit down and talk things out with your gf when everyone is calm. Don't say "break up" in a fit of anger, understd?Originally posted by joanne:hmm..maybe she really thinks that a girl to be at a guy's house is not too nice so she didnt want to tell that guy.. but i do think that u haf a right to get angry over it.. if i were u, i too will be angry i think.. but then it's too kua zhang to break up cos of this silly reason, it just shows tat the relationship b/w u 2 cannot even tahan trivial matters like this.. now it's over b/w u 2, n i think it's fine for her to accept flowers n courtship from other guys.. n if u wan to get her back, make sure that u are able to withstand the weird behaviour of her loh..if not the r/s is bound to fail again...
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Originally posted by Devil1976:
eH,THANX ALOT AH. . .YR ENTIRE POST REALI PISS ME OFF. . . YA RITE,LET YR MOUTH DO ALL THE TOKING AH. .EVERY SINGLE WORD,THOUGH SOME RITE BUT SOME ARE. . . R U SHOOTING MI OFF???OR DID SMTHING BAD HAPPEN TO U. . HEY DOG,U DUN HAV TO SHOOT MI OFF LIKE TAT. . .I ADVISE U TO CM N LET MI WHACK YR CANDY ASS. . . TAKE TIS!!! ..!..
1. I [b]think there's NOT your gf's FAULT that someone's after her.
2. I think she have the RIGHTS to CHOOSE her FRIENDS and RESERVE whatever INFORMATION she wants as her own PRIVACY from her FRIENDS.
3. I DON'T think there is ANYTHING wrong with her bringing FLOWERs back home SINCE she've got NO BF already. I also THINK her EX. might not be SO SWEET as to buy her FLOWERS. You HAD your CHANCE. You just GAVE it AWAY....
4. I ALSO THINK you BETTER take this as A LESSON for YOURSELF so that your NEXT (?) relationship would be a more fruitful one. I DON'T know anything about your gf to comment about HER. BUT IF that's all the 'MAJOR FAULTs' you can FIND in her to have CAUSED you this BREAKUP. I ADVISE you to do some SOUL SEARCHING....
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Originally posted by Devil1976:
wen u r in his shoes then u'll noe hw it actually feels like... fancy u being so lau lan abt your comments.... wen yr day comes .... u'll then noe hw it feels....u r one arrogant fella huh.....
1. I [b]think there's NOT your gf's FAULT that someone's after her.
2. I think she have the RIGHTS to CHOOSE her FRIENDS and RESERVE whatever INFORMATION she wants as her own PRIVACY from her FRIENDS.
3. I DON'T think there is ANYTHING wrong with her bringing FLOWERs back home SINCE she've got NO BF already. I also THINK her EX. might not be SO SWEET as to buy her FLOWERS. You HAD your CHANCE. You just GAVE it AWAY....
4. I ALSO THINK you BETTER take this as A LESSON for YOURSELF so that your NEXT (?) relationship would be a more fruitful one. I DON'T know anything about your gf to comment about HER. BUT IF that's all the 'MAJOR FAULTs' you can FIND in her to have CAUSED you this BREAKUP. I ADVISE you to do some SOUL SEARCHING....
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Originally posted by Sp51:
Oh YA,WAT U MEAN BY ex Wont send her flowers??after all,i did send a couple of WREATH TO YR MUM FUNERAL WAT. . .HEY,U EVEN DID SAY THANX WAT. . .SIGH,SHORT MEMORY. . .DOES THE WORD SON OF A BITCH SOUNDS FAMILLER???/HEY,STOP REACTING. . .SORI TO GET U SO AGITED BUT 3 WORDS 4 U-BRING IT ON
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Devil1976:
[b]1. I [b]think there's NOT your gf's FAULT that someone's after her.
2. I think she have the RIGHTS to CHOOSE her FRIENDS and RESERVE whatever INFORMATION she wants as her own PRIVACY from her FRIENDS.
3. I DON'T think there is ANYTHING wrong with her bringing FLOWERs back home SINCE she've got NO BF already. I also THINK her EX. might not be SO SWEET as to buy her FLOWERS. You HAD your CHANCE. You just GAVE it AWAY....
4. I ALSO THINK you BETTER take this as A LESSON for YOURSELF so that your NEXT (?) relationship would be a more fruitful one. I DON'T know anything about your gf to comment about HER. BUT IF that's all the 'MAJOR FAULTs' you can FIND in her to have CAUSED you this BREAKUP. I ADVISE you to do some SOUL SEARCHING....
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I have no 'friends' nor 'family'.
I hold no past and see not future...
These are just samples of illusions....
I don't exist, but I shall live ETERNITY..... DEVIL PHRASE II
ße COOL, NOT s¢rr¥....
and we all know why he has no frens or family...well start from the lau lan point and u r on the rite track.... oei 1976 boy..... u piss me off too man. -
HEY,thanx 4 replying. . .appreciate it alot. . .Originally posted by mikegk_76:I agreed totally, it's too small a matter to lead to a break up, did u ever sit down and talk things out with your gf when everyone is calm. Don't say "break up" in a fit of anger, understd? -
to all who help(except tat devil 1976 ass),i appreciate. . .sori to post such rude comments to tat bastard(devil1976) but u saw hw arrogant he was rite. . .i do love animals but gues sm juz remain as they r,the sons of bitches. . . .no offence to the rest
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Hmm... THANKS for your REPLY, POOR ATTEMPT at FLAME and 'little act' (You should know better yourself, I have NO INTENTION of exposing anything for you right now...)... YES, I'm ARROGANT... With OR without friends or family, it's MY OWN decision for now... You don't pretty much have to worry about it for now.... I think you should have BETTER LUCK taking care of yourself 1st for now...?
Another thing for you? Before I start, I reckon you might even wanna consider going back to your POSTs and do some 'modifications' for me...? Hehheh... 
1. If the NEEDLE didn't stick RIGHT into your ASS, you WON'T feel the PAIN...
2. You seems to have a VERY BAD TEMPER (Not to mention CHILDISH and DISHONEST behavior...) Maybe that EXPLAINs a little WHY your EX would wanna leave you..? <- I'm just SUGGESTING... Who knows? MAYBE not...? If I am YOU, I might wanna consider letting go of the NICK and come back as a GOOD BOY? Hehheh... HAVE A NICE DAY...
"Medications... Mama always say it has to be BITTER in order to HEAL DEEP..."
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In LIGHT I shall FEAR NOT. FOR what I AM is CUT so DEEP inside of ME.
I LIVE my FLESH and SOUL ONLY to BLEED for the OTHERS.
FEAR ME NOT. FOR I AM YOUR 'MASTER'. GIVE YOU STRENGTH. FOR YOU ARE MY 'ENEMY'.
DEVIL PHRASE I
I have no 'friends' nor 'family'.
I hold no past and see not future...
These are just samples of illusions....
I don't exist, but I shall live ETERNITY..... DEVIL PHRASE II
ße COOL, NOT s¢rr¥.... -
WAH LAO!!! WOT HAPPENED?!? Relax lah... basket like that sooner or later the chit chat people die from heart attack. Devil, you damn "ay-sai". So fierce your post but... quite true, not tactful but true.Originally posted by Devil1976:Hmm... THANKS for your REPLY, POOR ATTEMPT at FLAME and 'little act' (You should know better yourself, I have NO INTENTION of exposing anything for you right now...)... YES, I'm ARROGANT... With OR without friends or family, it's MY OWN decision for now... You don't pretty much have to worry about it for now.... I think you should have BETTER LUCK taking care of yourself 1st for now...?
Another thing for you? Before I start, I reckon you might even wanna consider going back to your POSTs and do some 'modifications' for me...? Hehheh...
1. If the NEEDLE didn't stick RIGHT into your ASS, you WON'T feel the PAIN...
2. You seems to have a VERY BAD TEMPER (Not to mention CHILDISH and DISHONEST behavior...) Maybe that EXPLAINs a little WHY your EX would wanna leave you..? <- I'm just SUGGESTING... Who knows? MAYBE not...? If I am YOU, I might wanna consider letting go of the NICK and come back as a GOOD BOY? Hehheh... HAVE A NICE DAY...
"Medications... Mama always say it has to be BITTER in order to HEAL DEEP..."
Sp51: Must understand people lor... I always say "Heck lar, its okaaaayyyy!!". Go try it sometimes.
Is it possible to reconcile with your gf? She's not wrong, neither is she right... so don't kill yourself over it. Some things are better left unsaid. You are kind of sensitive and a little bit suspicious. Maybe your suspicions are true, maybe not. Now... you won't know... -
Ai yar..dun quarrel lar..
sp51:
i dun think devil maen to agitate u lor...dun be so angry lar..
Y not u juz forget abt all the unhappiness lor..dun make ur life so diffcult.Is it true dat ur gf n u cun get back anymore?if its true..then dun dwell on it lar..get on if with own life!
U have to prove it to her dat u still can carry on ur life without her!maybe even beta!im not asking u to fan lian with her lah,still can remain as frens lor but u muz noe the diff between frens and steads.dun torture urself liao..i bet for the past few daes u havent been feeling gd rite?U dun deserved all these!Treat urself beta by getting out of this..let bygones be bygones okie??
devil:
Dun be so angry lar...be happy!
Realli dun wish to c u pple quarrelling in here...dis is supposed to be a place where pple share their probs n not a place for pple to quarrel leh...dun quarrel muz he mu gong chu kk??
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As LoNg As I SHaLL LiVe
I'LL HoLd U dEaR
AnD I wILL rEMiNiScE
Of OuR LoVe ALL ThRoUgH
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For some people being TACTFUL won't help... You can ALWAYS see yourself as a VICTIM but you SHOULD know BETTER yourself...?Originally posted by Klactovak:WAH LAO!!! WOT HAPPENED?!? Relax lah... basket like that sooner or later the chit chat people die from heart attack. Devil, you damn "ay-sai". So fierce your post but... quite true, not tactful but true.
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In LIGHT I shall FEAR NOT. FOR what I AM is CUT so DEEP inside of ME.
I LIVE my FLESH and SOUL ONLY to BLEED for the OTHERS.
FEAR ME NOT. FOR I AM YOUR 'MASTER'. GIVE YOU STRENGTH. FOR YOU ARE MY 'ENEMY'.
DEVIL PHRASE I
I have no 'friends' nor 'family'.
I hold no past and see not future...
These are just samples of illusions....
I don't exist, but I shall live ETERNITY..... DEVIL PHRASE II
ße COOL, NOT s¢rr¥.... -
Don't worry about me ok?Originally posted by ApPlE_PiE:Ai yar..dun quarrel lar..
devil:
Dun be so angry lar...be happy!
Realli dun wish to c u pple quarrelling in here...dis is supposed to be a place where pple share their probs n not a place for pple to quarrel leh...dun quarrel muz he mu gong chu kk?? I'm NOT angry NOR am I prepared to quarrel NONSENSE with him.... He's the one who FANTASIZING that he could be PISSING me off...? Hehheh... But take this though it might be a little HARD to SWALLOW.... He's the one IN TROUBLE, NOT me... Why should I be bother to be caught up and share a piece of his SHIT?
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FINALLY, back to you SP51.... I do have to ADMIT that I'm VERY STRAIGHTFORWARD and perhaps even RUDE or CRUDE in my earlier POSTs... I APOLOGISE PARTIALLY (Because I still BELIEVE that PART of it are INTENTIONAL...) for that if I've made you feel that way.... BUT I'm not taking back my words....
You can still POST and just HANG AROUND as you like... I'll hold no grudge against you... VERY LAZY to do so....
LAST but NOT LEAST... I HOPE you would LEARN from this LESSON... IF you even BOTHER to...
1. "Help mi... And I wrong..?" YES... You REALISED that you could be in the WRONG... BUT STILL, you ask people to HELP you?? How SO? You want people to point out your mistakes and SHOW you where you're wrong...? OR do are you SIMPLY TOO STUBBORN to admit that you're wrong and NEEDS MORE SUPPORT for your OWN UNCONVINCING thinking?
You then went about 'shooting' at your EX.... Suggesting she don't care about how you THINK and so... But have you gave it a THOUGHT? Since WHEN have you put yourself into her shoes? And you wonder why she've not even say a 'sorry'...? Hehheh.. Which you REALLY THINK you DESERVES...? Hehheh...
SORRY to SAY, but YOUR 1st POST has ALREADY REVEALED that your idea was NOT to ask for HELP... But to ask for MORE SUPPORT AGAINST your EX.... Based on your WEAK and UNCONVINCING thinking.....
2. I'll FORGIVE whatever you've SAID earlier on BASED on the FACT that you're already TROUBLED and CONFUSED... But for your OWN GOOD... KNOW what you're talking about the next time round...
3. Do NOT ATTEMPT to be a 'despictable' guy.... That is the kinda person I give the LEAST RESPECT to.... LEARN to walk on the RIGHT path and be TRUTHFUL to yourself... Otherwise you'll see yourself running in CIRCLE and your life REPEATING itself AGAIN..... It's YOUR LIFE... I'm NOT INTERESTED in teaching you how to run it... May you have a BRIGHTER future.....
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In LIGHT I shall FEAR NOT. FOR what I AM is CUT so DEEP inside of ME.
I LIVE my FLESH and SOUL ONLY to BLEED for the OTHERS.
FEAR ME NOT. FOR I AM YOUR 'MASTER'. GIVE YOU STRENGTH. FOR YOU ARE MY 'ENEMY'.
DEVIL PHRASE I
I have no 'friends' nor 'family'.
I hold no past and see not future...
These are just samples of illusions....
I don't exist, but I shall live ETERNITY..... DEVIL PHRASE II
ße COOL, NOT s¢rr¥.... -
For some people being TACTFUL won't help... You can ALWAYS see yourself as a VICTIM but you SHOULD know BETTER yourself...?Originally posted by Devil1976:[QUOTE]Originally posted by Klactovak:
[b] WAH LAO!!! WOT HAPPENED?!? Relax lah... basket like that sooner or later the chit chat people die from heart attack. Devil, you damn "ay-sai". So fierce your post but... quite true, not tactful but true.
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klactovak, u are really cute.. hahaha.. always Heckcare lah...haha! well, sp51, relax, i think prob u misunderstand the things that devil trying to say loh.. he is a friendly devil lah...not an evil one! n devil ah, prob shd learn to be more tactful cos sp51 is already v upset so dun add oil to the fire loh.. peace is great.. dun quarrel in AA lah.. here always v peaceful one...