Problem which has been bothering me for years
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I had change jobs many time. Never work long in any company, all about 2 to 8 mths. Always bcos of colleagues problems. And I had to resign instead of staying to face the problem, due to health affected (too much stress).
I don't mean to always end up being unpopular at workplace and had to resign at the end. I know the problem is in me. I am immature, don't like to mix around, I scream a lot (due to stress), I am too sensitive, I am not assertive, I don't like to please anybody.
I was a cheerful, helpful, friendly and confident girl when I was in school last time. But now - poor self-esteem, quiet, withdrawn, negative and depressing lady. Now when I am stress a bit, I'll just can't sleep and eat well.
I've seek psychiatric help but they can only help me that much... (don't want to tok abt this).
A failure I am, I am out of job again. But this time, I only spend 2 mths to recover. Consider an improvement cos last time I spent about 6 mths. But no, I am still not ready to look for another job now, thinking of upgrading myself instead.
I used to like studying v.much (study until poly) and despite getting mostly Cs, I am already satisfied. Now I feel v.much wanted to study another Diploma course, but I can't make up my mind, whether to study Secretary, Biz Admin or Marketing. Either one is also helpful in my career. Just that, I don't know whether I'll have problems with my studies or not. Cos last time, I did enrol for a Certificate Part-Time Course, and I failed the exam, which I had never failed any exams during my early school days.
I finally have the courage to write my problem here cos I need advises badly... advises on how to overcome my colleagues problems. Thanks. -
SERIOUSLY? OK THEN...
TELL ME (1)how old are you NOW? (2)How old were you when you had your 1st job? (3)Was the problem already like that (You being a negative lady who screams under stress) when you were having your 1st job...? (4)OR was it ACCUMULATIVE as you got to more jobs? (5)Did ANYTHING happened on a particular job(s) that might have caused the change(or is totally unrelated BUT special)? (6)What kinda firm or job field you work for? (7)What are the nature of your jobs? (
Any kinda person that you particularly detest? (9)Do you have a feeling of hating to work as you proceed on? (10)You under any kinda stress other than your workplace? (11)What is your horoscope? (12)What is your blood group? (13)Have you took a 'break' in between jobs before just to cool things down? (14)If so, how many times and for how long? (15) If so, what were you doing most of the time during that period? (List out the things that you're 'forced to do' and also the things that you've always wanted to do and finally have time for)
My GUESS is you should be kinda FREE now... Write to me at [email protected] if you may?
REGARDS
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In LIGHT I shall FEAR NOT. FOR what I AM is CUT so DEEP inside of ME.
I LIVE my FLESH and SOUL ONLY to BLEED for the OTHERS.
FEAR ME NOT. FOR I AM YOUR 'MASTER'. GIVE YOU STRENGTH. FOR YOU ARE MY 'ENEMY'.
. DEVIL PHRASE I
I have no 'friends' nor 'family'.
I hold no past and see not future...
These are just samples of illusions....
I don't exist, but I shall live ETERNITY..... DEVIL PHRASE II
ße COOL, NOT s¢rr¥.... -
u have a prob .....seek further help.....not ask loonies at forums,,,,,,,,,or u can jump of a building.......hahahahahahahahahaha
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Devil1976,
Spent 2 hrs typing but all gone bcos my PC hang, will email you in a few days, no mood now... -
hey girl, u should try to relax urself more often, instead of stressing urself and anyhow think this and that, u should go for a holiday. Maybe go Sentosa? Go East Coast cycle with some friends or relatives? Go sit on the beach and listen to the waves, it'll help u think better... and relax better...Originally posted by raingal:I had change jobs many time. Never work long in any company, all about 2 to 8 mths. Always bcos of colleagues problems. And I had to resign instead of staying to face the problem, due to health affected (too much stress).
I don't mean to always end up being unpopular at workplace and had to resign at the end. I know the problem is in me. I am immature, don't like to mix around, I scream a lot (due to stress), I am too sensitive, I am not assertive, I don't like to please anybody.
I was a cheerful, helpful, friendly and confident girl when I was in school last time. But now - poor self-esteem, quiet, withdrawn, negative and depressing lady. Now when I am stress a bit, I'll just can't sleep and eat well.
I've seek psychiatric help but they can only help me that much... (don't want to tok abt this).
A failure I am, I am out of job again. But this time, I only spend 2 mths to recover. Consider an improvement cos last time I spent about 6 mths. But no, I am still not ready to look for another job now, thinking of upgrading myself instead.
I used to like studying v.much (study until poly) and despite getting mostly Cs, I am already satisfied. Now I feel v.much wanted to study another Diploma course, but I can't make up my mind, whether to study Secretary, Biz Admin or Marketing. Either one is also helpful in my career. Just that, I don't know whether I'll have problems with my studies or not. Cos last time, I did enrol for a Certificate Part-Time Course, and I failed the exam, which I had never failed any exams during my early school days.
I finally have the courage to write my problem here cos I need advises badly... advises on how to overcome my colleagues problems. Thanks.
so abt later on, u can read up news papers every morning, understand whats happening around the world and market. And plan what u wanna do... an example will be, no point studying marketing and business as now the market are so bad, economy crashing and such... study what u like most, and useful in future... ok?
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Sorry to hear that... Take your time dear...? I'll be listening...Originally posted by raingal:Devil1976,
Spent 2 hrs typing but all gone bcos my PC hang, will email you in a few days, no mood now...
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In LIGHT I shall FEAR NOT. FOR what I AM is CUT so DEEP inside of ME.
I LIVE my FLESH and SOUL ONLY to BLEED for the OTHERS.
FEAR ME NOT. FOR I AM YOUR 'MASTER'. GIVE YOU STRENGTH. FOR YOU ARE MY 'ENEMY'.
DEVIL PHRASE I
I have no 'friends' nor 'family'.
I hold no past and see not future...
These are just samples of illusions....
I don't exist, but I shall live ETERNITY..... DEVIL PHRASE II
ße COOL, NOT s¢rr¥.... -
Hi Raingal, I would like to help u too. For jobs, I can recommend u one that is not so stress and yet have many pple to help u and not being pressured by them. Email me, ok?
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Thanks MyLife. I am still writing the answers in reply to Devil1976... thinking about my past, my present and my future in the process... so it's taking me a long time to write. I will email to you as well once I've finished writing.Originally posted by MyLife:Hi Raingal, I would like to help u too. For jobs, I can recommend u one that is not so stress and yet have many pple to help u and not being pressured by them. Email me, ok?
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In work, there's always stress in one way or another. Like where to go for lunch, what time to go home, etc etc.
Just kidding. Stress is everywhere. It's how u manage it that matters. U sound depressed in the first place and that hardly sounds healthy. I believe u are quite a young person given the facts u have provided. Learn to take things easy and life would feel so much better.
If u really want to know more about stress, I can always start the story of my work-life here.
I'm in IT and trust me, not everyone is really ready for IT.
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[/B][/QUOTE]Originally posted by raingal:Thanks MyLife. I am still writing the answers in reply to Devil1976... thinking about my past, my present and my future in the process... so it's taking me a long time to write. I will email to you as well once I've finished writing.
[QUOTE]Originally posted by MyLife:
[b]Hi Raingal, I would like to help u too. For jobs, I can recommend u one that is not so stress and yet have many pple to help u and not being pressured by them. Email me, ok?
Been so long since I last heard from you? Have you got a new job already? A few things to add? 1st of all, try to include ANSWERs to the questions I've POSTED earlier on this TOPIC...? 2nd, e-mails tend to be cut off if it's too long when sent to me (Some sort of yahoo system...?) Please try to send out in separate meaningful and smaller mails (1-2k) files if you can...? If you want to you may also type out as a Word file or something and have it attached to the e-mail...? Thanks...
REGARDs,
YOURS TRUTHFULLY, -
Hi Raingal, I am not sure if u have received my e-mail. Please reply me if u are interested. Thanks
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Dear raingal,I can see that U need a bit of counselling.U must change your attitude of Yourself and of life.U can learn self help to boost your concentration.If U need more advice come to http://forums.delphi.com/CasinoWinner/start
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Hmm...?
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Thanks all for the replies, but I am too depressed to talk, for the time being, I'll just listen.
With depression, life is much tougher, attitude and perspective of life also v.different from a "normal" person. Many times, it's like "got heart no strength" to move on, v.tiring.
And I think Winner do sounds understand me better.
Got to sleep now. Good Nite. -
Hmm... INTERESTING..? Perhaps we should talk..?Originally posted by raingal:Thanks all for the replies, but I am too depressed to talk, for the time being, I'll just listen.
With depression, life is much tougher, attitude and perspective of life also v.different from a "normal" person. Many times, it's like "got heart no strength" to move on, v.tiring.
And I think Winner do sounds understand me better.
Got to sleep now. Good Nite.
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In LIGHT I shall FEAR NOT. FOR what I AM is CUT so DEEP inside of ME.
I LIVE my FLESH and SOUL ONLY to BLEED for the OTHERS.
FEAR ME NOT. FOR I AM YOUR 'MASTER'. GIVE YOU STRENGTH. FOR YOU ARE MY 'ENEMY'.
DEVIL PHRASE I
I have no 'friends' nor 'family'.
I hold no past and see not future...
These are just samples of illusions....
I don't exist, but I shall live ETERNITY..... DEVIL PHRASE II
ße COOL, NOT s¢rr¥.... -
Hmm...problem...but still can solve as long as u help urself.its true dat when u r feeling down u need pple to comfort u,to give u advises an so on.But the end result all depends on urself.If u r unwilling to force urself to stand up and face the problems, no matter how much advises pple give u is still no use.
Its ur own life,u decide how u want it to be and not others.Therefore,y not u try some positive thinking instead?Since u said dat u r a cheerful person during school time,so y not try to look for dat person again in u?
U can do it one okie?Dun be so negative,its unhealthy.
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Nobody's a failure, u r brave to admit u r immature, not everyone admits their mistake. Think the most impt thing now for u to do is to upgrade yourself, go for the course, who knows u may get to know many gd frdz there. U r not the only one studying, if others can pass, why can't u, giv yourself some confidence, mayb u shd try talking to someone instead of just posing a topic here, it's better to pour out your troubles to someone, u will feel better, but till now, just try to control your temper lor...Originally posted by raingal:I had change jobs many time. Never work long in any company, all about 2 to 8 mths. Always bcos of colleagues problems. And I had to resign instead of staying to face the problem, due to health affected (too much stress).
I don't mean to always end up being unpopular at workplace and had to resign at the end. I know the problem is in me. I am immature, don't like to mix around, I scream a lot (due to stress), I am too sensitive, I am not assertive, I don't like to please anybody.
I was a cheerful, helpful, friendly and confident girl when I was in school last time. But now - poor self-esteem, quiet, withdrawn, negative and depressing lady. Now when I am stress a bit, I'll just can't sleep and eat well.
I've seek psychiatric help but they can only help me that much... (don't want to tok abt this).
A failure I am, I am out of job again. But this time, I only spend 2 mths to recover. Consider an improvement cos last time I spent about 6 mths. But no, I am still not ready to look for another job now, thinking of upgrading myself instead.
I used to like studying v.much (study until poly) and despite getting mostly Cs, I am already satisfied. Now I feel v.much wanted to study another Diploma course, but I can't make up my mind, whether to study Secretary, Biz Admin or Marketing. Either one is also helpful in my career. Just that, I don't know whether I'll have problems with my studies or not. Cos last time, I did enrol for a Certificate Part-Time Course, and I failed the exam, which I had never failed any exams during my early school days.
I finally have the courage to write my problem here cos I need advises badly... advises on how to overcome my colleagues problems. Thanks.
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Hope to b your frd forever, Mike signing off