gf and female friends
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i noticed tht 1 of my friends(a girl) has someone in mind.and 2 of my friends already have bfs.
I have no gf now but i get abit jealous when a female friend of mine says she got a gf or has a crush on someone(confirm not me 1).
but i get abit jealous though,when this thing happens.sometimes i think,oh nvm. so i think it's not "I must have a gf now".even so there is this undoubtedly jealousy when a girl i know.....(as mentioned abv) or when my male friends have a gf.
actually i am hoping for a friend who can talk with me abt any topic on earth(not necessary abt sex or anything) and share similar likes if not the same.and someone who has no qualms abt asking her out to go with me to buy some stuff in town or anything then walk ard ending the day with a movie. i dont mean a date or something. just someone who is a close friend.whether is there any dev into a r/s,that's not the point.there is no need for me to have a gf lah.though it would be nice,i would rather wait for someone i like to pop by. either by love at first sight or simply by feelings that grow after spending sometime together.
so waht u think?
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huh? i din get wat u mean..
u mean u get jealous when your male or female friends have partners or have someone that likes them? did i get that right? -
It's natural to feel so mah. Hoping to have someone who is of opp sex to share everything under the sun & moon with
, though may not be bgr lor. It cld be the urge of wanting to be a recognized & potential being to the opp sex? 
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Be a monk
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haiyah i dun think this is jealousy, this is envy. cos mayb u wanna see urself to b as happy as them with a partner?
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Agree..sometimes i tink like that also. But iit's difficult lor. I want to like, love someone, have like something to live for..you get what i mean?Originally posted by bismarck:i noticed tht 1 of my friends(a girl) has someone in mind.and 2 of my friends already have bfs.
I have no gf now but i get abit jealous when a female friend of mine says she got a gf or has a crush on someone(confirm not me 1).
but i get abit jealous though,when this thing happens.sometimes i think,oh nvm. so i think it's not "I must have a gf now".even so there is this undoubtedly jealousy when a girl i know.....(as mentioned abv) or when my male friends have a gf.
actually i am hoping for a friend who can talk with me abt any topic on earth(not necessary abt sex or anything) and share similar likes if not the same.and someone who has no qualms abt asking her out to go with me to buy some stuff in town or anything then walk ard ending the day with a movie. i dont mean a date or something. just someone who is a close friend.whether is there any dev into a r/s,that's not the point.there is no need for me to have a gf lah.though it would be nice,i would rather wait for someone i like to pop by. either by love at first sight or simply by feelings that grow after spending sometime together.
so waht u think?
Sometimes i see couples so happy..then get so envious..hai~
i wonder if any gals feel the same... -
Think you need to hang out more often with your friends... Also, you might wanna do some life management of your own...? Work out your life style and ask for dates from single or even attached ones (as long as their bf's COOL with that and ya don't hamper her time with bf...)...Originally posted by bismarck:i noticed tht 1 of my friends(a girl) has someone in mind.and 2 of my friends already have bfs.
I have no gf now but i get abit jealous when a female friend of mine says she got a gf or has a crush on someone(confirm not me 1).
but i get abit jealous though,when this thing happens.sometimes i think,oh nvm. so i think it's not "I must have a gf now".even so there is this undoubtedly jealousy when a girl i know.....(as mentioned abv) or when my male friends have a gf.
actually i am hoping for a friend who can talk with me abt any topic on earth(not necessary abt sex or anything) and share similar likes if not the same.and someone who has no qualms abt asking her out to go with me to buy some stuff in town or anything then walk ard ending the day with a movie. i dont mean a date or something. just someone who is a close friend.whether is there any dev into a r/s,that's not the point.there is no need for me to have a gf lah.though it would be nice,i would rather wait for someone i like to pop by. either by love at first sight or simply by feelings that grow after spending sometime together.
so waht u think? -
i agreed with Devil1976. Envy n jealousy r facets of the green eye monster. Most if not all singles r envious of couples u know or see onthe street, but u got 2 weigh ur priority in life n also whether the right person is right there, right now in ur life.
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This is what I called the unneccessary feelings. Because does anyone else around you feels what you are feeling? Does the people who causes the jealousy actually knows or even feels about it?Originally posted by bismarck:i noticed tht 1 of my friends(a girl) has someone in mind.and 2 of my friends already have bfs.
I have no gf now but i get abit jealous when a female friend of mine says she got a gf or has a crush on someone(confirm not me 1).
but i get abit jealous though,when this thing happens.sometimes i think,oh nvm. so i think it's not "I must have a gf now".even so there is this undoubtedly jealousy when a girl i know.....(as mentioned abv) or when my male friends have a gf.
actually i am hoping for a friend who can talk with me abt any topic on earth(not necessary abt sex or anything) and share similar likes if not the same.and someone who has no qualms abt asking her out to go with me to buy some stuff in town or anything then walk ard ending the day with a movie. i dont mean a date or something. just someone who is a close friend.whether is there any dev into a r/s,that's not the point.there is no need for me to have a gf lah.though it would be nice,i would rather wait for someone i like to pop by. either by love at first sight or simply by feelings that grow after spending sometime together.
so waht u think?
No?
Then so what the feelings is for? (You can't do a thing about it except to recognise that emotions and solved it within)
Yours jealousy comes from the root of fact that you are still single and people's life (in aspect of relationship) is already moving far away from you. OR because they were once single, and you felt that you both were the same kind of 'status'. When they had bf and moves away from this status - are you 'alone'.
I derive my conclusion from your first 2 paragraph speaking about your problems, followed by a huge paragraph talking about the kind of girl you wished. Obviously you desired someone - not neccessary a target - but someone emotionally.
P.S: Everything has its own plan and time (and as a good friend of your female friends, you should be happy for them if they found a good guy instead of being jealousy - which you ain't in the position to be jealous over)
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yes yes u are right/ cleverOriginally posted by puppylove:huh? i din get wat u mean.. u mean u get jealous when your male or female friends have partners or have someone that likes them? did i get that right? -
the last point. abit of yes. but not too serious or obsessed with it.Originally posted by reallieRAW:It's natural to feel so mah. Hoping to have someone who is of opp sex to share everything under the sun & moon with , though may not be bgr lor. It cld be the urge of wanting to be a recognized & potential being to the opp sex?
not really share. i dont want to share gf.
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hmmm damn true.Originally posted by esil3:haiyah i dun think this is jealousy, this is envy. cos mayb u wanna see urself to b as happy as them with a partner?
envy meh? ok loh
u say 1 -
i know what u mean. not diff to understand mahOriginally posted by cyclo:Agree..sometimes i tink like that also. But iit's difficult lor. I want to like, love someone, have like something to live for..you get what i mean?
Sometimes i see couples so happy..then get so envious..hai~
i wonder if any gals feel the same... -
i was thinking of doing this,Originally posted by Devil1976:Think you need to hang out more often with your friends... Also, you might wanna do some life management of your own...? Work out your life style and ask for dates from single or even attached ones (as long as their bf's COOL with that and ya don't hamper her time with bf...)...
there is this girl whom i get along,occasionally feel abit for her.
then she tells me she got a crush.
so i thought,maybe cont to treat her as a good friend whom i talk crap with. -
Originally posted by Yunhaier:
i get waht u mean in the first paragraph.
This is what I called the [b]unneccessary feelings. Because does anyone else around you feels what you are feeling? Does the people who causes the jealousy actually knows or even feels about it?
No?
Then so what the feelings is for? (You can't do a thing about it except to recognise that emotions and solved it within)
Yours jealousy comes from the root of fact that you are still single and people's life (in aspect of relationship) is already moving far away from you. OR because they were once single, and you felt that you both were the same kind of 'status'. When they had bf and moves away from this status - are you 'alone'.
I derive my conclusion from your first 2 paragraph speaking about your problems, followed by a huge paragraph talking about the kind of girl you wished. Obviously you desired someone - not neccessary a target - but someone emotionally.
P.S: Everything has its own plan and time (and as a good friend of your female friends, you should be happy for them if they found a good guy instead of being jealousy - which you ain't in the position to be jealous over)
Cheers[/b]
but for the status and moving away thingy. i beg to differ,
i mean i dont see having a gf/bf as a status symbol.
only thing is that my dad told me some girls want a bf because others have 1 or something ( i am not sure liao) so some are abit obsessed with it
yr last para quite true. there's 1 thing i dont really get what u mean.how come i am not in the position to get jealous ? i just wanna know. i am not arguing against yr point,
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Originally posted by bismarck:i get waht u mean in the first paragraph.
but for the status and moving away thingy. i beg to differ,
i mean i dont see having a gf/bf as a status symbol.
only thing is that my dad told me some girls want a bf because others have 1 or something ( i am not sure liao) so some are abit obsessed with it
yr last para quite true. there's 1 thing i dont really get what u mean.how come i am not in the position to get jealous ? i just wanna know. i am not arguing against yr point, 
When you are in the position to get jealous over a girl - it is when you are his gf - You have your rights and position. Since both of you are only friends, do you think you are in the position to? I mean in status you are nobody to her and she is nobody to you. -
hmm.. eh, wah, i think for some pple it might be normal bah, maybe cos everyone like got company then u dun have~ then everyone got pple to love and pple hu love them but u dun have.. more of envy than jealous bah~~ think u lonely maybe?Originally posted by bismarck:yes yes u are right/ clever -
Note. I am MALEOriginally posted by Yunhaier: When you are in the position to get jealous over a girl - it is when you are his gf - You have your rights and position. Since both of you are only friends, do you think you are in the position to? I mean in status you are nobody to her and she is nobody to you. -
since u know me that well.Originally posted by puppylove:hmm.. eh, wah, i think for some pple it might be normal bah, maybe cos everyone like got company then u dun have~ then everyone got pple to love and pple hu love them but u dun have.. more of envy than jealous bah~~ think u lonely maybe?
can u be my gf ?
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It's common to have this phrase in life once in a while.
It may be so called "unnecessary Feelings" by Yun. I would say that you're looking for a 'ideal friend' that can share your heart delights and that could be very subtlely sub-concious activity in your mind.
Do you always picture yourself and a girl (regardless if you're interested or not) having fun together in your mind? It can be just purely a very normal but special kind of relationship? Do you have all those images in your mind?
I think i've faced tat before. And it was quite depressing thinking that no one understands you and everyone else were doing their own things. Heh...it's all about i, me and myself. Self Centered.
Let me know if i'm still on the right track. Will check on this page again.
Meanwhile....think right.
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Originally posted by bismarck:
Precisely!
Note. I am [b]MALE[/b]
Ok let me put it this way: You being a male, have this good female friend. She has someone in mind as a crush or recently got a boyfriend. Then you being just a friend ain't in the position to stop her or even being jealous BECAUSE you are just a friend, and not her bf.
Clearer?
Cheers -
huh?Originally posted by Yunhaier:Precisely!
Ok let me put it this way: You being a male, have this good female friend. She has someone in mind as a crush or recently got a boyfriend. Then you being just a friend ain't in the position to stop her or even being jealous BECAUSE you are just a friend, and not her bf.
Clearer?
Cheers
u put wrongly leh? -
From your previous thread you mention that your parent seldom allow you to go out if not they will trace you. Maybe from here i can conclude that you seldom go out, hence, having less friends. You should be lonely. Go out more often if possible and make new friends.
rgds
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er... form u threads on getting angry over parents, wanting a virgin gf and this!!!Originally posted by bismarck:i noticed tht 1 of my friends(a girl) has someone in mind.and 2 of my friends already have bfs.
I have no gf now but i get abit jealous when a female friend of mine says she got a gf or has a crush on someone(confirm not me 1).
but i get abit jealous though,when this thing happens.sometimes i think,oh nvm. so i think it's not "I must have a gf now".even so there is this undoubtedly jealousy when a girl i know.....(as mentioned abv) or when my male friends have a gf.
actually i am hoping for a friend who can talk with me abt any topic on earth(not necessary abt sex or anything) and share similar likes if not the same.and someone who has no qualms abt asking her out to go with me to buy some stuff in town or anything then walk ard ending the day with a movie. i dont mean a date or something. just someone who is a close friend.whether is there any dev into a r/s,that's not the point.there is no need for me to have a gf lah.though it would be nice,i would rather wait for someone i like to pop by. either by love at first sight or simply by feelings that grow after spending sometime together.
so waht u think?
face up man... things dont always go ur way. if u could had made it so, u wont be here lamenting...'
i think u got a very serious problem here. if u dont do some self reflection, u might end up as those scums every one hates!!!
ie... backstabbers, promise breakers, liers, bootlickers..
i'm saying wat i feel as one who cant control oneself and live in a world of envy and hatred will no doubt succumb to the devil in time to come...
maybe u should read up the 3 zhi gin and proceed to the gentlemans way in due time to come... -
go out and do it instead of just talking about it.