why cant everything be like before?
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my best guy friend went overseas yesterday... and he is not coming back for another few more years...so sad ...
... and the worst part is a few mins ago he just called me ... (although im missing him already) we just ran out of things to say... it feels so weird ... so arkward...we used to talk about everything...really everything ... but recently before he left...whenever we have a conversation there will always be akward slience(hate it!)...why did it happen?i duno...i just want the old feelings back... but it seems so hard now... esp now that he is away...im really afraid that we will lose contact... i really dun1 to lose such a gd friend.... -
U r NOT losing a fren... U 2 r currently going yr OWN paths dat DO NOT meet each other... I tink he oso not happy to "lose" U... So wat to do? U noe wat is net for rite? can email, ICQ, etc, etc...
I TINK U have a "special" kinda feelings for him, even though U 2 r only GOOD frens... I dunno... but in da mean time while U 2 r "seperated", U can try to get a hobby, or smth to occupy yrself...
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When one of my buddies went overseas for studies the feeling was like FROZEN down there too...? But after everything if it's there it's THERE.... We're back to our GOOD OLD DAYS again...? Good luck to you....?Originally posted by butter:my best guy friend went overseas yesterday... and he is not coming back for another few more years...so sad ... ... and the worst part is a few mins ago he just called me ... (although im missing him already) we just ran out of things to say... it feels so weird ... so arkward...we used to talk about everything...really everything ... but recently before he left...whenever we have a conversation there will always be akward slience(hate it!)...why did it happen?i duno...i just want the old feelings back... but it seems so hard now... esp now that he is away...im really afraid that we will lose contact... i really dun1 to lose such a gd friend.... -
what make u say that ?Originally posted by loneryu00:I TINK U have a "special" kinda feelings for him, even though U 2 r only GOOD frens 
.... actually im not really sure how im feeling too... sometimes i really feel jealouse when he talks about other gers ... but ... im also always the one who encourage him when he likes someone... cos i know its impossible for us...(ah... im missing him again...)
u are sooo lucky... many pple change after they come back from abroad...and my friend is not even going to come back...hes not a singaporean....Originally posted by Devil1976:When one of my buddies went overseas for studies the feeling was like FROZEN down there too...? But after everything if it's there it's THERE.... We're back to our GOOD OLD DAYS again...? Good luck to you....? 
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If hes NOT coming back... Y not.... VISIT him...? Dat simple... & Yah... U DO have a "special" feeling for him... BUT may not be love... sum thing else lah... watever it is... do cherish him & keep in CONTACT wif him... in da meantime while he gone, U can search for another 1...
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well after being GOOD frens with each other, i believe there'll be a sense of belonging?? you MIGHT have special feelings for him, but on the other hand, might not.........oh am i contradicting here again?? haizzzz
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u r a gay!?!?!Originally posted by loneryu00:If hes NOT coming back... Y not.... VISIT him...? Dat simple... & Yah... U DO have a "special" feeling for him... BUT may not be love... sum thing else lah... watever it is... do cherish him & keep in CONTACT wif him... in da meantime while he gone, U can search for another 1... -
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Wat made U tink I am 1......?Originally posted by J fellow:u r a gay!?!?!
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Yes U r...Originally posted by Estee:well after being GOOD frens with each other, i believe there'll be a sense of belonging?? you MIGHT have special feelings for him, but on the other hand, might not.........oh am i contradicting here again?? haizzzz 
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my buddy went overseas to be PR..at 1st i also cant bear to part with him, cos we're close since uni days...but den will get used to it after a period of time...get in touch through email lor..tat's wat me has benn doing..
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My buddies are not local too.... And one of them might be leaving Singapore for good...? Imagine our friendship and brotherhood is gonna end up like dust in the air...? No matter what happens now.... But why think so much? Even if I'm not gonna ever see him again after that, NOTHING's gonna change our FRIENDSHIP.... This is not an INVESTMENT... This is my BUDDY....Originally posted by butter:u are sooo lucky... many pple change after they come back from abroad...and my friend is not even going to come back...hes not a singaporean.... 
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Woohooo!Originally posted by Devil1976:My buddies are not local too.... And one of them might be leaving Singapore for good...? Imagine our friendship and brotherhood is gonna end up like dust in the air...? No matter what happens now.... But why think so much? Even if I'm not gonna ever see him again after that, NOTHING's gonna change our FRIENDSHIP.... This is not an INVESTMENT... This is my BUDDY....
WEE-U-WEE!
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wah how i wish i can look for him man...ya true... maybe my special feelings are not really 'that' kind of feelings that im thinking of...Originally posted by loneryu00:If hes NOT coming back... Y not.... VISIT him...? Dat simple... & Yah... U DO have a "special" feeling for him... BUT may not be love... sum thing else lah... watever it is... do cherish him & keep in CONTACT wif him... in da meantime while he gone, U can search for another 1... 
Hai ya ... really regretted taking him for granted all these years...do u guys really think that friendship can last that long? but somehow i still feel that one day we will lose contact ... (duno why)...i guess he will be so busy making news friends that he will forget me lo...or maybe even if we keep contact we will eventually lost the 'mo qi' that we use to have...i think thats what im most afraid of.... -
If BELIEVING is gonna make things come TRUE, then you should START BELIEVING.... But have ya chose the right direction yet...?Originally posted by butter:wah how i wish i can look for him man...ya true... maybe my special feelings are not really 'that' kind of feelings that im thinking of...
Hai ya ... really regretted taking him for granted all these years...do u guys really think that friendship can last that long? but somehow i still feel that one day we will lose contact ... (duno why)...i guess he will be so busy making news friends that he will forget me lo...or maybe even if we keep contact we will eventually lost the 'mo qi' that we use to have...i think thats what im most afraid of.... -
Dear Butter,Originally posted by butter:my best guy friend went overseas yesterday... and he is not coming back for another few more years...so sad ... ... and the worst part is a few mins ago he just called me ... (although im missing him already) we just ran out of things to say... it feels so weird ... so arkward...we used to talk about everything...really everything ... but recently before he left...whenever we have a conversation there will always be akward slience(hate it!)...why did it happen?i duno...i just want the old feelings back... but it seems so hard now... esp now that he is away...im really afraid that we will lose contact... i really dun1 to lose such a gd friend....
I got a feeling that u have a crush on him unless ur a guy also la Well, a few years is not long. Before u know it, its all over. Just like my years in Poly, so damn fast. Three years gone. *haiz*
Anyway, about your problem. What u are facing now is LDFs or Long Distance Friendships. LDFs are very hard. I will tell you that right off the top,often they don't work. First, you have to decide if you want to make it work because if you're with him out of pity or because you're afraid to tell him then you're not doing either of yourselves any good. Everyone's life is like moving through a fog without destination,you never know where your going or how you're going or where you'll end up. You have to have a plan on where you'll end up. Look at it as the lighthouse in the fog, you still have the fog albeit the uncertainty of the future but now you have a goal to shoot for. Now you have direction because you're following the light house. Stupid story hor Now that you've got direction you need to figure out ways to bridge the gap. Maybe go visiting him if u got the money and time
The key to making sure you survive is to stay busy and not to neglect your on-going life. As long as you continue to hang out with friends, attend family functions, play games or watch movie or come to sgforums
To keep in touch with him, write lots of letters, send him little things that make the letters extra special. Maybe some clean pictures
or a postcard?Like most of us. we're very lucky to be in the age of computers that we are. Email, chatting via icq or any messaging clients help us to contact anyone in the world without any hefty price.
Friendships happen naturally and you will find another really close friend but keep in touch with the friend that moved.He is miles away but you can still continue the friendship. It's all about outlooks and with a negative one you will close yourself from all the good things someone might offer you not because they didn't try but because you didn't listen and open your heart
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Yes. As long as U 2 value da frenship, yes. Lose "Muo Qi"? No lah... Muo Qi is hard to comprehend in a good r/s... like me & my buddy... noe for more than 1/2 my life time liao... even tok to a state nth to tok... but "Muo Qi" still there... Dun worry... things r NOT as bad as U tink...Originally posted by butter:wah how i wish i can look for him man...ya true... maybe my special feelings are not really 'that' kind of feelings that im thinking of...
Hai ya ... really regretted taking him for granted all these years...do u guys really think that friendship can last that long? but somehow i still feel that one day we will lose contact ... (duno why)...i guess he will be so busy making news friends that he will forget me lo...or maybe even if we keep contact we will eventually lost the 'mo qi' that we use to have...i think thats what im most afraid of.... -
just treasure the times wif him in yr heart... although he might be very far away but at least you know you'll have a friend like him in yr heart... hehe.. it jyst feels weird tt you're not going to see him for a while and he might not be yr best guy fren anymore... that's why u all have nothing to tok abt.. but relax.. it's quite natural for u to feel this way.. i felt the same too when my best fren left for the states...
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IF you are a girl, I think you really have a crash on him.. and I guess likewise too, both of you lost when on line. unless both of you open out.. soon its all gone..
I used to be very close to this friend of mine, for years, we have been together thick and thin, even after we left school into wroking life and he lived just one street behind me. ALmost everynight we chat until late, typical 1-2am and on weekend, almost into the dawn hour.
Tehn sudenly, he decided to married and leave the coutnry within few weeks... gone that's 10 years. Initially we kept contact and talk on line, each way about 1 hour, then soon the bill mount up... soon ..the talking became lesser.. then gone.. once in a while.. but thats' not good enough. once he came back for his brother's wedding... guess what, we had an argument over my work schedule.. as he could not find me. Manage to get him before he left, nd since then, no contact what so ever, he didn't want any disturbance, not even me...
He came back few years ago... but everything, is never the same, I suppose he had changed...although we are still in contact... its never the smae -
time pass v fast 1...............time will heel