haiz..wad ter do...?
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Hi guys..me and my stead..has alreadi been together fer 6 mths..and durin these 6 mths..he left me twice b4..has he told me dat he still hab feelings fer his ex..and..yeahz..i choose to leave him..so dat..he could find his so called happiness..though as much as i cnt bear..i still did..but both time..it was him hu wanted to patch..and yeah..as my feelings fer him was still der..i agreed..
now..de prob ish..he said i dun understand him..and lack communication and trust..i mean..how can i trust him..when dat happen twice b4?hey..i gib in alot...ppl ard me can see dat..why cnt he..whenever my frens told me dey could help me check out him..as dey hab frens in is sch..i always decline dem..as i trust him..i gave up few not bad guys fer him..and now..his feelins fer his ex is back again..he told someone close to me dat..but when i ask him..whether he still wanna continue..he said he wuld tell me tis after my exams...i'm realli lost now..i scare if i break..ders goes our r/s and i scared he doesnt intent to break at all...wad shud i do....?
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Can U do smth 1st? READ ALL DA TOPICS of dis forum... sure got a few similar to yr prob... & oso some ideas & comments...
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Well, I feel that u shld talk things out clearly with him. Tell him all that you haf been through and how u feel. See if u 2 can reach a conclusion to things.Originally posted by Xclusive:Hi guys..me and my stead..has alreadi been together fer 6 mths..and durin these 6 mths..he left me twice b4..has he told me dat he still hab feelings fer his ex..and..yeahz..i choose to leave him..so dat..he could find his so called happiness..though as much as i cnt bear..i still did..but both time..it was him hu wanted to patch..and yeah..as my feelings fer him was still der..i agreed..
now..de prob ish..he said i dun understand him..and lack communication and trust..i mean..how can i trust him..when dat happen twice b4?hey..i gib in alot...ppl ard me can see dat..why cnt he..whenever my frens told me dey could help me check out him..as dey hab frens in is sch..i always decline dem..as i trust him..i gave up few not bad guys fer him..and now..his feelins fer his ex is back again..he told someone close to me dat..but when i ask him..whether he still wanna continue..he said he wuld tell me tis after my exams...i'm realli lost now..i scare if i break..ders goes our r/s and i scared he doesnt intent to break at all...wad shud i do....?
I also feel that u shld be happy and move on... Since he can still haf feelings for his ex, he shldnt be with you to hurt u at all.. u cant say tt whenever hes feelings for sm1 is back u 2 break off again.. this is going to be very hurting for u....
I suggest u tell him to get clear his mind 1st... Who does he really love most? you or the ex? Why would he want to be with you when his feelings for the ex is not over? Sorri that i may be harsh, but i hope u live happily and not bound by such a selfish guy...
If he cant bury his past and not mention abt feelings for his ex coming back anymore, tts gd.. IF he cant put them down, lets move on to find a better guy.. I am sure there are alot more gd guys better than him out there as u mentioned...
BUt pls be assured u can haf all the fresn here to support u... 
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xclusive,
let him sort out his feelings for his ex first..
if he cannot move on from his attachment of feelings to his ex, then u'll eventually get hurt again..
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means..i hab to gib us both some time?i'm hurt till i'm numb..it doesnt matter anymore..i choose between him and a guy b4..cuz i noe i cnt be lovin him..and likin another..i gave up a guy i like fer 7 mths..dat guy in de end..admits he like me..buden..i already given up..sometimes when i think bad..i quite regret..now.........i'm lost..
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yes, give both yourself and him time... i think both of you are not in the state to make sound decision... it applies to the other guy who likes you too.. it is certainly an emotional difficulty for you.. but try to just maintain things at friendship basis..Originally posted by Xclusive:means..i hab to gib us both some time?i'm hurt till i'm numb..it doesnt matter anymore..i choose between him and a guy b4..cuz i noe i cnt be lovin him..and likin another..i gave up a guy i like fer 7 mths..dat guy in de end..admits he like me..buden..i already given up..sometimes when i think bad..i quite regret..now.........i'm lost..
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yup, i think its better to give urself and him some time to sort things out.... Let urself haf some moments of peace and a gd rest b4 u carry on to think abt wat to do.... mean while also let him think...Originally posted by Xclusive:means..i hab to gib us both some time?i'm hurt till i'm numb..it doesnt matter anymore..i choose between him and a guy b4..cuz i noe i cnt be lovin him..and likin another..i gave up a guy i like fer 7 mths..dat guy in de end..admits he like me..buden..i already given up..sometimes when i think bad..i quite regret..now.........i'm lost..
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Sounds young...? How old are you and your bf...? Do you still love him...? ( <-try to be as frank as you can in this question) If the answer is 'yes', next question is WHY?Originally posted by Xclusive:means..i hab to gib us both some time?i'm hurt till i'm numb..it doesnt matter anymore..i choose between him and a guy b4..cuz i noe i cnt be lovin him..and likin another..i gave up a guy i like fer 7 mths..dat guy in de end..admits he like me..buden..i already given up..sometimes when i think bad..i quite regret..now.........i'm lost..
Ask yourself what ya want in this relationship... Perhaps you should ask him what he wants too? (not in an interrogating manner pls....)