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I've been feeling pretty down lately and I don't know why I feel this way.. My life is actually going quite smoothly now and I know I shouldn't be feeling troubled. Thing is, I alternate between feeling very happy and then very depressed.
The past two years have been very turbulent for me and it has left me with a lot of emotional scars.. Sometimes I can't help but remember the past in painful detail, especially when someone has hurt or upset me...I suspect that I've been feeling like crap now because I regret my past actions and maybe, even hate myself for not preventing it....
Sometimes, i feel that i have high expectations for myself but I just have no motivation to set out and acheive my goals. I really want to get out of this rut I am stuck in -
Dear Desiree,Originally posted by .-'Des|reE'-.:I've been feeling pretty down lately and I don't know why I feel this way.. My life is actually going quite smoothly now and I know I shouldn't be feeling troubled. Thing is, I alternate between feeling very happy and then very depressed.
The past two years have been very turbulent for me and it has left me with a lot of emotional scars.. Sometimes I can't help but remember the past in painful detail, especially when someone has hurt or upset me...I suspect that I've been feeling like crap now because I regret my past actions and maybe, even hate myself for not preventing it....
Sometimes, i feel that i have high expectations for myself but I just have no motivation to set out and acheive my goals. I really want to get out of this rut I am stuck in
Looks like its back to my wise sage mode.
Whatever has happened, has happened. Its time to let it go dear. Don't let these experiences linger onto you. Don't keep thinking about the past. I think you are just being pessimistic about your life. Cheer Up Dear! Things are not that bad you know.
You don't need just a positive attitude, you need a better attitude toward yourself! You may feel that you're socially behind or backwards, but you're not. You're only 19 or 20?You're depressing yourself needlessly over things that really don't matter that much.
But if you want to do something about the situation, you're going to have to take the initiative and the first thing you need to do is to have a better attitude towards yourself. Hating yourself isn't going to get you anywhere. No one's gonna improve your situation but yourself. People can sense when someone doesn't have much of a self esteem and they instinctively don't want to be around those kind of people. Examine yourself for awhile and get to know yourself a little better in terms of your strengths and weeknesses and work from there. Once you are more secure with yourself, you're socially more confident. And things get better from there.
This whole process takes time, and in the end it may not work. Many people live happy and meaningful lives and aren't social animals. Stop judging yourself by other people's standards and live the life that you're comfortable and happy with.
Do something worthwhile with your life and develop yourself.Hang out with friends. It's all up to you to decide and it's your choice. Giving up just because you're pissed with life isn't fair. Take the challenge & face life's problems with strength. Be a positive influence so that life wouldn't be that "so fu[/i]cked up". Don't give urself goals that you can never achieve e.g. going to Mars or living on the Moon
Cheers and Cheer Up -
Doh!!! Mas-_- beaten me to it...
Yah... I agreed wif him... (coz I oso wanna write 1... but U faster...)
Let go of those past emotions... we look FORWARD, not backward...
Its good U reflect back on those past memories, be it happy or sad... but we dun linger ard it... we use it for our advantage... to better ourselves for da future. cherish who U r & wat U have.
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Thank you for your advice, I really appreciate itOriginally posted by Master -_-:Dear Desiree,
Looks like its back to my wise sage mode. Whatever has happened, has happened. Its time to let it go dear. Don't let these experiences linger onto you. Don't keep thinking about the past. I think you are just being pessimistic about your life. Cheer Up Dear! Things are not that bad you know.
You don't need just a positive attitude, you need a better attitude toward yourself! You may feel that you're socially behind or backwards, but you're not. You're only 19 or 20?You're depressing yourself needlessly over things that really don't matter that much.
But if you want to do something about the situation, you're going to have to take the initiative and the first thing you need to do is to have a better attitude towards yourself. Hating yourself isn't going to get you anywhere. No one's gonna improve your situation but yourself. People can sense when someone doesn't have much of a self esteem and they instinctively don't want to be around those kind of people. Examine yourself for awhile and get to know yourself a little better in terms of your strengths and weeknesses and work from there. Once you are more secure with yourself, you're socially more confident. And things get better from there.
This whole process takes time, and in the end it may not work. Many people live happy and meaningful lives and aren't social animals. Stop judging yourself by other people's standards and live the life that you're comfortable and happy with.
Do something worthwhile with your life and develop yourself.Hang out with friends. It's all up to you to decide and it's your choice. Giving up just because you're pissed with life isn't fair. Take the challenge & face life's problems with strength. Be a positive influence so that life wouldn't be that "so fu[/i]cked up". Don't give urself goals that you can never achieve e.g. going to Mars or living on the Moon
Cheers and Cheer Up
You do make sense... Actually I know what I have to do and I have been working on it. I guess I am pretty hard on myself sometimes.
Thing is, I am not a social outcast or anything... In fact, I am happy with myself in most aspects...a lot of my friends will be shocked to know I feel this way because maybe I hide my feelings so well... I guess maybe I just need to do something worthwhile with my life -
"Its ok. Better luck next time. *claps* " -
-_-"Originally posted by .-'Des|reE'-.:Thank you for your advice, I really appreciate it You do make sense... Actually I know what I have to do and I have been working on it. I guess I am pretty hard on myself sometimes.
Thing is, I am not a social outcast or anything... In fact, I am happy with myself in most aspects...a lot of my friends will be shocked to know I feel this way because maybe I hide my feelings so well... I guess maybe I just need to do something worthwhile with my life
you mean all these while, i don't?
Anyway, a person can simply exist and be cynical to the world. Another person can seem serious and fine to others, yet one day take his life. -
Thank youOriginally posted by loneryu00:Doh!!! Mas-_- beaten me to it...
Yah... I agreed wif him... (coz I oso wanna write 1... but U faster...)
Let go of those past emotions... we look FORWARD, not backward...
Its good U reflect back on those past memories, be it happy or sad... but we dun linger ard it... we use it for our advantage... to better ourselves for da future. cherish who U r & wat U have. I will remember that...
I guess I really gotta work on moving forward and try to forget whatever happened in the past -
I mean I agree with what you said, not saying that you don't make sense all this while til nowOriginally posted by Master -_-:-_-"
you mean all these while, i don't?
Anyway, a person can simply exist and be cynical to the world. Another person can seem serious and fine to others, yet one day take his life.
Yep, people have to battle their inner demons and others around them may be oblivious to their problems and they ahve no one to turn to and take their life...
I want to work on being a better person, maybe I'll be happier then -
Try not to hide more... da more U bottle up, da more powerful da "explosion" is gonna be... find yr buddy (good fren), have a good chat. Pour everything to dat buddy... U WILL feel better.Originally posted by .-'Des|reE'-.:Thank you for your advice, I really appreciate it You do make sense... Actually I know what I have to do and I have been working on it. I guess I am pretty hard on myself sometimes.
Thing is, I am not a social outcast or anything... In fact, I am happy with myself in most aspects...a lot of my friends will be shocked to know I feel this way because maybe I hide my feelings so well... I guess maybe I just need to do something worthwhile with my life -
Could be an AWAKENING...? If ya grab hold of it and steers it well.... Could mean a whole NEW SENSE of DIRECTION(s)?Originally posted by .-'Des|reE'-.:I've been feeling pretty down lately and I don't know why I feel this way.. My life is actually going quite smoothly now and I know I shouldn't be feeling troubled. Thing is, I alternate between feeling very happy and then very depressed.
The past two years have been very turbulent for me and it has left me with a lot of emotional scars.. Sometimes I can't help but remember the past in painful detail, especially when someone has hurt or upset me...I suspect that I've been feeling like crap now because I regret my past actions and maybe, even hate myself for not preventing it....
Sometimes, i feel that i have high expectations for myself but I just have no motivation to set out and acheive my goals. I really want to get out of this rut I am stuck in
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I think you might be rightOriginally posted by Devil1976:Could be an AWAKENING...? If ya grab hold of it and steers it well.... Could mean a whole NEW SENSE of DIRECTION(s)? -
Hi .-'Des|reE'-.,Originally posted by .-'Des|reE'-.:I've been feeling pretty down lately and I don't know why I feel this way.. My life is actually going quite smoothly now and I know I shouldn't be feeling troubled. Thing is, I alternate between feeling very happy and then very depressed.
The past two years have been very turbulent for me and it has left me with a lot of emotional scars.. Sometimes I can't help but remember the past in painful detail, especially when someone has hurt or upset me...I suspect that I've been feeling like crap now because I regret my past actions and maybe, even hate myself for not preventing it....
Sometimes, i feel that i have high expectations for myself but I just have no motivation to set out and acheive my goals. I really want to get out of this rut I am stuck in
Learn from what you have done.. Since last time what you did was a mistake.. Don't do it again!
Though is a painful experience.. but don't you think you attended the most precious lesson in your life??
Always think positive.. Even when you are looking back to the past.. Be it somethin that upset you alot or some painful moments.. Smile whenever it flashes in your mind again..
Past is past.. What has happened cannot be undone.. Learn to accept the fact and move on.. You can't change the reality neither can you prevent it the last time.. It was jus a wrong move that you have made.. and is not something which you can turn back! It's still not late.. right?
So now you have to chose your own path.. make sure is right.. Having high expectations doesn't mean no good..
Most importantly.. you must build up your self-confidence and motivation.. Don't let the past bothers you.. Or leave a bad image.. This is jus part of your life.. Many people out there have worse experiences than you.. But arent they still living happily??
All these are only perceptions... Happy or not.. YOu still need to go with your life.. Why make yourself living in misery rather than happy person?? Happiness is what you need to seek for.. You also hope that everyone around get their happiness.. If everyone oso look gloomy.. depressed or other negative signs.. Issit this world so unlively, dull and motionless?
Cheer up my dear friend.. Get some activities to do.. and try to widen your social circles.. make more friends.. EVeryone bound to meet some unpleasant moments.. But in a way.. it teaches you and guide you along.. Be thankful that it does cross your path.. if not wouldn't your life be so meaningless... You wont learn from experiences.. Noone teaches you.. It's self-learn!
Cheers! -
USE it WELL...?Originally posted by .-'Des|reE'-.:I think you might be right