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I am so sad, i like a gal who is in sec 1, while i am 22 this year (dun think i am a playboy as i really love her) At first i know her thru an occasion. Slowly as we chat, we go out often. As our friendship is build more den perfect. I ask her if she wan to b my gf. she say yes! 
But than the next day she say she wan broke off. 
This i dunno why. maybe she think i too old for her.. den we stilll be normal friend.. than 3 weeks later, she suddenly message me dat she wan to patch back! 
Than i say ok loh... so again our relationship is resume. but both realtionship make a 24 hour (as each time we go steady is about 12 hrs and less a bit) so 2 * 12 = 24hrs (a bit less). Than for long we nv chat. Till last fri, she ask me out, say she miss me, asking if i wan to go out.. than i say ok loh. Than when go out, i hug her (as a friendship hugs as wad i normally did since de first day i know her) Than we board on de MRT to p.Ris.. DEn half way, she say she wan go bugis.. but i insist on going P.Ris. Den she say she wan to go out de train.. den i say, ok loh! (since dat evening, i am hafing a headaches and stress and dun wish to ask her to stay) den i say go loh!. She really go off.. At P.Ris, i ask her to come back to P.ris and meet me. she ignored my sms. yesterday, her flend (a gal) call me, i just ignored her call den till today morning, her flend sms me and say she got bf already (which is false), and ask me dun wan to chase her. (sounds like a telling off message). Than i ask her, tell her dat, ok! since she call her flend to tell me off, fine! i gif her up! And we b normal friends. Than she reply saying dat she wan to break friendships with me... so sad! now, our friendships have sunk already.. So how? I really need a solution to save our ship! Can anyone help? 
*PLease do not thinking dat i am playing with her feeling.. as i really love her dispite of her age!!!! understand? thanks! -
to you and her...Originally posted by Just_Me_loh: I am so sad, i like a gal who is in sec 1, while i am 22 this year (dun think i am a playboy as i really love her) At first i know her thru an occasion. Slowly as we chat, we go out often. As our friendship is build more den perfect. I ask her if she wan to b my gf. she say yes! But than the next day she say she wan broke off. This i dunno why. maybe she think i too old for her.. den we stilll be normal friend.. than 3 weeks later, she suddenly message me dat she wan to patch back! Than i say ok loh... so again our relationship is resume. but both realtionship make a 24 hour (as each time we go steady is about 12 hrs and less a bit) so 2 * 12 = 24hrs (a bit less). Than for long we nv chat. Till last fri, she ask me out, say she miss me, asking if i wan to go out.. than i say ok loh. Than when go out, i hug her (as a friendship hugs as wad i normally did since de first day i know her) Than we board on de MRT to p.Ris.. DEn half way, she say she wan go bugis.. but i insist on going P.Ris. Den she say she wan to go out de train.. den i say, ok loh! (since dat evening, i am hafing a headaches and stress and dun wish to ask her to stay) den i say go loh!. She really go off.. At P.Ris, i ask her to come back to P.ris and meet me. she ignored my sms. yesterday, her flend (a gal) call me, i just ignored her call den till today morning, her flend sms me and say she got bf already (which is false), and ask me dun wan to chase her. (sounds like a telling off message). Than i ask her, tell her dat, ok! since she call her flend to tell me off, fine! i gif her up! And we b normal friends. Than she reply saying dat she wan to break friendships with me... so sad! now, our friendships have sunk already.. So how? I really need a solution to save our ship! Can anyone help?
*PLease do not thinking dat i am playing with her feeling.. as i really love her dispite of her age!!!! understand? thanks!
i.m.m.a.t.u.r.e -
this one immature? then my one is wasted?Originally posted by Haven:to you and her...
i.m.m.a.t.u.r.e
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Yours is wasted, very very super duper wasted cos you don't understand what a girl is thinking and what she wants. Wasted cos she took the initiative!Originally posted by kopiosatu:this one immature? then my one is wasted?
hmmm is there a diff?
Inferior and being timid is the weakness you have.
Think about it....for this guy.
22 chasing a sec 1 (presumingly 13 yr old kid?)
Ok...love has no boundaries....
But gimmie a break, what can you get out of a 13 yr old?
Maturity? Support? Love-everlastin??? Understanding?
The 13 yr old is way too young to even talk about forever.
She has her own life and she has her phrase of life to walk.
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WEll e girl is still younger..
Guess she cant really manage her relationship well...
Hewnce dun be too sad... Go slow with her...
Make sure she feels comfortable when being with you...
BUt rem but be too nice until she treat you as her brother... Than reli no hope liao.... due to e age diff...
All e best cheers!!!
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i have no objection for a 23 and 33.....but for a 13 and 22....
I have lots and lots of questions -
21 n 32 can cos the younger is matured enuff
but 13 n 22 is a litle extreme lor
think the ger still immature at this stage of her life...if u really love her then maybe u dun mind waitinf a couple of yrs yeah?? -
What a age gap....
Though you have feelings for her, i think you should sort of let go of this relationship first. She's only 13, and i think she juz got out of Primary School. Thats lot of things in this world, may it be good or bad, that she hasn't experience. At her age, BGR might be new and exciting to her and thats why she going into the area.
13 isnt a good age to start a relationship. For her, there is a lot of learning to do and also needs alot of reality exposure. For now, its best to let her forgo such relationships and maybe pay attention to more important things like study, etc.
If you really like her, I think you should wait. For now, you could be just friends, and guide her as she mature. Maybe then, things might start to change. You two might have different opinions then and thats not too late.... -
22 years old guy liking a 13 years old girl?Originally posted by Just_Me_loh: I am so sad, i like a gal who is in sec 1, while i am 22 this year (dun think i am a playboy as i really love her) At first i know her thru an occasion. Slowly as we chat, we go out often. As our friendship is build more den perfect. I ask her if she wan to b my gf. she say yes! But than the next day she say she wan broke off. This i dunno why. maybe she think i too old for her.. den we stilll be normal friend.. than 3 weeks later, she suddenly message me dat she wan to patch back! Than i say ok loh... so again our relationship is resume. but both realtionship make a 24 hour (as each time we go steady is about 12 hrs and less a bit) so 2 * 12 = 24hrs (a bit less). Than for long we nv chat. Till last fri, she ask me out, say she miss me, asking if i wan to go out.. than i say ok loh. Than when go out, i hug her (as a friendship hugs as wad i normally did since de first day i know her) Than we board on de MRT to p.Ris.. DEn half way, she say she wan go bugis.. but i insist on going P.Ris. Den she say she wan to go out de train.. den i say, ok loh! (since dat evening, i am hafing a headaches and stress and dun wish to ask her to stay) den i say go loh!. She really go off.. At P.Ris, i ask her to come back to P.ris and meet me. she ignored my sms. yesterday, her flend (a gal) call me, i just ignored her call den till today morning, her flend sms me and say she got bf already (which is false), and ask me dun wan to chase her. (sounds like a telling off message). Than i ask her, tell her dat, ok! since she call her flend to tell me off, fine! i gif her up! And we b normal friends. Than she reply saying dat she wan to break friendships with me... so sad! now, our friendships have sunk already.. So how? I really need a solution to save our ship! Can anyone help?
*PLease do not thinking dat i am playing with her feeling.. as i really love her dispite of her age!!!! understand? thanks!
I know of a guy 18 - 20 going steady with a girl age 12 or primary six, whichever sounded older and the reason why he would go after her is because he couldn't get anyone else. Are you?
PLease do not thinking dat i am playing with her feeling - It's not you playing with her, its she playing with you.
Do you have a gf before? I doubt so, because if you had you would understand this is not love. Look at the 'mind games she is playing', come on! What do you know about her? What do you like about her? Figure? Looks? Character? Hey, you are already 22 and you are still playing the kind of I don't want to be your friend' kind of primary school friendship game people used to play when they were young?
The kind of emotional, spiritual, physical needs are a world of difference and she is just begining to enter the route of new experience, while you had already step close to the working society.
Cheers -
i think that the girl is much too immature for you and she doesn't even knows what she wants. Find somebody more of your maturity levelOriginally posted by Just_Me_loh: I am so sad, i like a gal who is in sec 1, while i am 22 this year (dun think i am a playboy as i really love her) At first i know her thru an occasion. Slowly as we chat, we go out often. As our friendship is build more den perfect. I ask her if she wan to b my gf. she say yes! But than the next day she say she wan broke off. This i dunno why. maybe she think i too old for her.. den we stilll be normal friend.. than 3 weeks later, she suddenly message me dat she wan to patch back! Than i say ok loh... so again our relationship is resume. but both realtionship make a 24 hour (as each time we go steady is about 12 hrs and less a bit) so 2 * 12 = 24hrs (a bit less). Than for long we nv chat. Till last fri, she ask me out, say she miss me, asking if i wan to go out.. than i say ok loh. Than when go out, i hug her (as a friendship hugs as wad i normally did since de first day i know her) Than we board on de MRT to p.Ris.. DEn half way, she say she wan go bugis.. but i insist on going P.Ris. Den she say she wan to go out de train.. den i say, ok loh! (since dat evening, i am hafing a headaches and stress and dun wish to ask her to stay) den i say go loh!. She really go off.. At P.Ris, i ask her to come back to P.ris and meet me. she ignored my sms. yesterday, her flend (a gal) call me, i just ignored her call den till today morning, her flend sms me and say she got bf already (which is false), and ask me dun wan to chase her. (sounds like a telling off message). Than i ask her, tell her dat, ok! since she call her flend to tell me off, fine! i gif her up! And we b normal friends. Than she reply saying dat she wan to break friendships with me... so sad! now, our friendships have sunk already.. So how? I really need a solution to save our ship! Can anyone help?
*PLease do not thinking dat i am playing with her feeling.. as i really love her dispite of her age!!!! understand? thanks! -
i treat u more curry then u grow up....
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huh? y curry?Originally posted by Xiao Long Nu:i treat u more curry then u grow up.... -
Maybe u shud consider getting to noe pple of ur age group...its true dat love has no boundaries, but...the ger is definitelt too young to be in love!!I dun think she even noe the meaning of love...maybe having u as her bf allows her to somehow "show off" to her frens, like:"See!i got bf liao!!"u noe,dat kinda stuffs..Originally posted by Just_Me_loh: I am so sad, i like a gal who is in sec 1, while i am 22 this year (dun think i am a playboy as i really love her) At first i know her thru an occasion. Slowly as we chat, we go out often. As our friendship is build more den perfect. I ask her if she wan to b my gf. she say yes! But than the next day she say she wan broke off. This i dunno why. maybe she think i too old for her.. den we stilll be normal friend.. than 3 weeks later, she suddenly message me dat she wan to patch back! Than i say ok loh... so again our relationship is resume. but both realtionship make a 24 hour (as each time we go steady is about 12 hrs and less a bit) so 2 * 12 = 24hrs (a bit less). Than for long we nv chat. Till last fri, she ask me out, say she miss me, asking if i wan to go out.. than i say ok loh. Than when go out, i hug her (as a friendship hugs as wad i normally did since de first day i know her) Than we board on de MRT to p.Ris.. DEn half way, she say she wan go bugis.. but i insist on going P.Ris. Den she say she wan to go out de train.. den i say, ok loh! (since dat evening, i am hafing a headaches and stress and dun wish to ask her to stay) den i say go loh!. She really go off.. At P.Ris, i ask her to come back to P.ris and meet me. she ignored my sms. yesterday, her flend (a gal) call me, i just ignored her call den till today morning, her flend sms me and say she got bf already (which is false), and ask me dun wan to chase her. (sounds like a telling off message). Than i ask her, tell her dat, ok! since she call her flend to tell me off, fine! i gif her up! And we b normal friends. Than she reply saying dat she wan to break friendships with me... so sad! now, our friendships have sunk already.. So how? I really need a solution to save our ship! Can anyone help?
*PLease do not thinking dat i am playing with her feeling.. as i really love her dispite of her age!!!! understand? thanks! -
OK! to be frank! I never have any gf before.. becoz i haf no confidence and dunno how to chase gal....
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hey...i was like you last time, no confidence and no skill, not to say that now have skill liao lah , but, you are still young, try to make more friend and slowly build up your confidence. there's no hurry in getting a gf just for the sake of it.Originally posted by Just_Me_loh:OK! to be frank! I never have any gf before.. becoz i haf no confidence and dunno how to chase gal....
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Well, I was so correct.Originally posted by Just_Me_loh:OK! to be frank! I never have any gf before.. becoz i haf no confidence and dunno how to chase gal....
You never have gf before doesn't mean you are lousy. It simply means you need to improve yourself and find someone suitable.
No confidence? Work on it. Do things that makes you feel confident. Expand social circle, increase your interest/hobbies/etc and learn it. All guys isn't born knowing how to chase girls, everyone learn from experiences.
P.S: Confidence is magnetic by nature. Guys without confidence will almost always lose out to guys with confidence, at least in matters of the heart. Ain't you going to tell yourself when you shall begin? Or you wish to remain like this forever? You never even attempt how you know you can't? And if you attempt did you even try your best? Give up so easy?
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near ten year gap...that's pretty extreme cos i think gals that age are still pretty immature in their thinking.... better find someone else...
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You might be mature enough to know that you are in love with her. She is not mature enough to not know that she is or isn't in love with or without you.
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i know a guy who's 29 but havent got a gf before, so dun think too bad of yourself. Think of it that Ms Right is still not here yet. And when u meet her, u will know how to do the "chasing", it's a male instinct, i believeOriginally posted by Just_Me_loh:OK! to be frank! I never have any gf before.. becoz i haf no confidence and dunno how to chase gal.... -
Thanks for everyone effort on guiding me.. i readly a newbie in love.. sob sob! Can gif me tips?
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Doesnt have a gf before doesnt mean anything bad, shameless or what... You jus need your time to get the right girl you want...Originally posted by Just_Me_loh:OK! to be frank! I never have any gf before.. becoz i haf no confidence and dunno how to chase gal....
You don't jus pick any girl from the street and declare that what you had for her is LOVE.
Moreover she's so young.. What can you expect from a 13-year-old girl and what can you give her?? Are you able to mould into her group of friends.. where everyone is 13-14 years.. and you a 22 year old guy that tags along??? Most teenagers at that age.. are mostly playing along.. "puppy love". There's absolutely no true love played there.
Confidence can build.. Chasing girls can learn.. YOu think everyone born out know all these... Everybody also start from scratch and learn from experiences...
NOw you know that you have pick the wrong age group, the next time when you are searching for someone.. You will know what age group of girls you will look for.. And from this experience.. the next one you go into.. you wont REPEAT history!!
Think about it thoroughly... I dun think you consider this as your 1st love.. I think is rather a crush only... Get your things done.. Get on with your life.. You bound to meet someone better out there...
CheerS!
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TIPS?? ahhaha..Originally posted by Just_Me_loh:Thanks for everyone effort on guiding me.. i readly a newbie in love.. sob sob! Can gif me tips?
Maybe this you can ask from our LOVE CONSULTANT mister YUn!! ahahhaha
Well, i dont think there;s much tips to teach.. Maybe some advices or comments.. the rest is upto yourself.. Teaching may not be the most effective.. Learning thru experiences could be the better medicine for you! -
sunrise, u are correct! This is just a crush! Not consider my first love.. so this case is, she wan to break friendship with me. but i dun wan. i treasure everyone as my flend, bro and sis.. so how do i save dis ship from sinking? Dun expect to let it sink...!
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since she dun wan to keep this friendship right now.. jus let her be...Originally posted by Just_Me_loh:sunrise, u are correct! This is just a crush! Not consider my first love.. so this case is, she wan to break friendship with me. but i dun wan. i treasure everyone as my flend, bro and sis.. so how do i save dis ship from sinking? Dun expect to let it sink...!
thanks!
Maybe later when she's feeling much better or wat.. Contact her again like a long lost friend...
This way maybe it will work out.. Don't push her any further.. cos she might back off real fast.. and maybe wants you to immediately disappear right in her face.. and never to appear again..
It will worsen the friendship.. At least now you keep a distance away from her first.. Let her know that you are not a nuisance or those ppl who always pester her... Cos girls will find it very irritating especailly at her age!