how can i help myself??
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seems that i am in serious depression...or izzit categorize as depression, nervous breakdown or insane?
it seems that when i am very stressed and depressed, i have no control over my feelings...
i will cry & cry.....sometimes hurting myself...in the end, making lots of bruises to myself...
i know something is going very wrong...i want to help myself..but i really dunno how...
in many times, i will console myself in ways...but sometimes, it backfires...emtionally, it just overwhelmed me...
told my bf abt it but he just told me that he cun help me...only i can help myself..
who can i turn to?
i really wish to help myself before something drastic happens to me.. -
wow sounds serious.
have u sought help? from family and friends or even professional help? at least try it out?
put it this way, u're sane enuff to post here for help. that much is good. look up and ahead. u can do it! -
Oh my god~~~Originally posted by tHUmbUP:seems that i am in serious depression...or izzit categorize as depression, nervous breakdown or insane?
it seems that when i am very stressed and depressed, i have no control over my feelings...
i will cry & cry.....sometimes hurting myself...in the end, making lots of bruises to myself...
Pls stop doing this to urself~~~
When u started these actions~~~
I hope to help u~ I experience it too~~ tell U i'll try to helo u~ -
try self-help bks? or talk to a frd or a counselor...juz dun do stupid things tt u might regret....Originally posted by tHUmbUP:seems that i am in serious depression...or izzit categorize as depression, nervous breakdown or insane?
it seems that when i am very stressed and depressed, i have no control over my feelings...
i will cry & cry.....sometimes hurting myself...in the end, making lots of bruises to myself... -
Dear Thumbup,Originally posted by tHUmbUP:seems that i am in serious depression...or izzit categorize as depression, nervous breakdown or insane?
it seems that when i am very stressed and depressed, i have no control over my feelings...
i will cry & cry.....sometimes hurting myself...in the end, making lots of bruises to myself...
i know something is going very wrong...i want to help myself..but i really dunno how...
in many times, i will console myself in ways...but sometimes, it backfires...emtionally, it just overwhelmed me...
told my bf abt it but he just told me that he cun help me...only i can help myself..
who can i turn to?
i really wish to help myself before something drastic happens to me..
Please... i am pleading with you.. dun be a cutter! Dun self mutilate yourself! Its the worst thing u can ever do at times like this.
Sometimes when you have depression and you turn to your friends and family to help you, you may not always get the results you want. I think that your boyfriend does care about you but there are things that are preventing him from comforting you in your time of need. For one, since he does care for you so much, he probably is very concerned for you and may not really know what the best thing he can do to help you out is. Therefore, instead of trying to help you and making the problem worse, he is trying to ignore the situation and run from it.
People tend to run from situations that scare them or that they feel they have no control over. Try not to be so hard on your boyfriend but don't feel so bad because you do. Being frustrated with him and feeling as if he doesn't care is a way for you to express your feelings. While it may not be the best way to go about releasing your anger, I think when you do that, you're thinking about what is going in your life. I think it's important to continue opening up to your boyfriend but if he doesn't give you the answers you want, you need to count on other people to help you, like your parents, friends or other relatives.
I suggest you approach your parents and tell them that you want to try going to a counselor so you can discover what is causing you to be so depressed. The main thing I want you to realize is that people care about you so don't think that because they don't tell you exactly what you want to hear, they don't care. Take care of yourself and take one day at a time, you can get through this. You are in my prayers dear... 
Cheers and Take Care -
there is no one i can turn to...
friends? they will juz listen & say a few thingy & that's it...who will ever be sincere to help?
family? they are already making me loose sane
professional help? how to?
i reckon it's real ex..
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no...hv free counseling service 1 i pte msg u the no.Originally posted by tHUmbUP:there is no one i can turn to...
friends? they will juz listen & say a few thingy & that's it...who will ever be sincere to help?
family? they are already making me loose sane
professional help? how to?
i reckon it's real ex.. -
oh no..
do u believe in any religion?
coz sometimes spiritual help will make u more relaxed.. -
What is causing the stress and depression? There are many who always feel the their problems are so great and huge, nothing can be done and these problems totally crush them.Originally posted by tHUmbUP:seems that i am in serious depression...or izzit categorize as depression, nervous breakdown or insane?
it seems that when i am very stressed and depressed, i have no control over my feelings...
i will cry & cry.....sometimes hurting myself...in the end, making lots of bruises to myself...
i know something is going very wrong...i want to help myself..but i really dunno how...
in many times, i will console myself in ways...but sometimes, it backfires...emtionally, it just overwhelmed me...
told my bf abt it but he just told me that he cun help me...only i can help myself..
who can i turn to?
i really wish to help myself before something drastic happens to me..
In fact, all problems are shallow water if you believe them to be.
Stop harming yourself.
Your boyfriend is kinda of cruel; its true that everything has to depend on yourself, but I mean doesn't mean that he can just leave everything to you. He has to be there for you, guiding and encourage you. If you already lost the rational sense to think positive - the next thing is that you would seek for your love one for protection, soothing words, some cuddling, etc.
You could post the source of your distress here or pte msg me, before I can further analysis your problem and sort you out.
Cheers -
hi hopy...Originally posted by hopy:no...hv free counseling service 1 i pte msg u the no.
thks for the number.....i will help myself & seek help..
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no problemOriginally posted by tHUmbUP:hi hopy...
thks for the number.....i will help myself & seek help.. i hope that it can help u thru this phase in life...
juz remember, no problems is 2 big or unable to be solved...things will always turn for the better, besides, u still hv ur frds, family and sgforums , try to think on the bright side of life...
life can be beautiful, its up to u to beautify it! -
Not bad ar.. somebody!Originally posted by hopy:no problem i hope that it can help u thru this phase in life...
juz remember, no problems is 2 big or unable to be solved...things will always turn for the better, besides, u still hv ur frds, family and sgforums , try to think on the bright side of life...
life can be beautiful, its up to u to beautify it! 
Woohoo! Hows life?
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aiya...its nothing lahOriginally posted by Yunhaier:Not bad ar.. somebody!
Woohoo! Hows life? , we must help each other when in need mah
me ok lor, currently having my holiday and getting on w/ my life, took ur advice to stop contact for the moment...how abt u? -
Originally posted by hopy:no problem i hope that it can help u thru this phase in life...
juz remember, no problems is 2 big or unable to be solved...things will always turn for the better, besides, u still hv ur frds, family and sgforums , try to think on the bright side of life...
life can be beautiful, its up to u to beautify it! You reminds me of this saying... "When the going gets tough, the TOUGHER I go....." -
Like most others have suggested here, you should ideally seek PROFESSIONAL ADVICE.Originally posted by tHUmbUP:seems that i am in serious depression...or izzit categorize as depression, nervous breakdown or insane?
it seems that when i am very stressed and depressed, i have no control over my feelings...
i will cry & cry.....sometimes hurting myself...in the end, making lots of bruises to myself...
i know something is going very wrong...i want to help myself..but i really dunno how...
in many times, i will console myself in ways...but sometimes, it backfires...emtionally, it just overwhelmed me...
told my bf abt it but he just told me that he cun help me...only i can help myself..
who can i turn to?
i really wish to help myself before something drastic happens to me..
Some additional things here? People inflicting pain and wound on themselves during certain painful or extreme periods ain't really an uncommon thing (though it's not really a normal right thing to do)...
One of the prelimenary way of handling it is to learn to LOVE YOURSELF and YOUR BODY. People often take for granted the things they have around them, and that doesn't exclude their own body. What you're doing is probably an indirect 'control balance' act. Just like some people like to go for runs/ jogs or play computer games to vend their anger or frustrations, there're others who like to inflict pain or physical damage on themselves or others.
1st of all, you've got to understand that it ain't gonna help anything if you inflict injury on yourself. Things won't change for the better. In fact, chances are they might even get worse to complicate things... You might also realise that your act is almost like a sunconscious one. You might be inflicting pain (you probably might not even feel the pain) like it's the 'only right thing to do'.... What you can do in the future when such occasions are to occur (or about to occur) is to AVOID and stay away from any objects or ideas that can be used to harm yourself. Do NOT focus on those thoughts. Prepare beforehand some activities which you can perform beforehand and save them to be done ONLY at those moments. You can try shopping, swimming or running etc.. Whatever works for you... If your 'control' does not permits you to have an ORGANISED ACTIVITY carried out, you can always resort to yelling out like (try not to do this in the public?), you can bang things or twist & tear paper... If you can't feel the 'release', try tearing thicker layers of paper or damaging more robust objects (unimportant ones...)....
Meanwhile, I think you should still go for the PROFESSIONAL ADVICE.... Can always come back to us when you feel a need to? I'll gladly help you... Oh yeah... Try talking to more people about your people... Though they might not be able to provide you with the proper solutions (you might not even wanna ask for advices..?), it'll probably still help...
~Good luck
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well i guess that is part of growing up?Originally posted by Devil1976: You reminds me of this saying... "When the going gets tough, the TOUGHER I go....."
sometimes really feel that we humans always thout tt our problems are so big that it can't be solved and as a result, ended up killing themselves...but hey, that is not the case...i rather fight then to surrender!
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Hiak hiakOriginally posted by hopy:aiya...its nothing lah , we must help each other when in need mah
me ok lor, currently having my holiday and getting on w/ my life, took ur advice to stop contact for the moment...how abt u?
Still the same old self. I knew you will walk out of your sorrow eventually - well, the power lies within your own hands.
Cheers -
ya...the walking in circles is making me real dizzy hahaha so of coz must walk out mahOriginally posted by Yunhaier:Hiak hiak
Still the same old self. I knew you will walk out of your sorrow eventually - well, the power lies within your own hands.
Cheers -
THAT'S the SPIRIT...Originally posted by hopy:well i guess that is part of growing up?
sometimes really feel that we humans always thout tt our problems are so big that it can't be solved and as a result, ended up killing themselves...but hey, that is not the case...i rather fight then to surrender! -
tytyOriginally posted by Devil1976:THAT'S the SPIRIT...
so hows life??? still as evil as ever? -
Ok... I am proud of you, keep it up eh?Originally posted by hopy:ya...the walking in circles is making me real dizzy hahaha so of coz must walk out mah -
Originally posted by Yunhaier:Ok... I am proud of you, keep it up eh?
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Whenever Im in depression, there's always a way out for me coz I will tell myselfOriginally posted by tHUmbUP:seems that i am in serious depression...or izzit categorize as depression, nervous breakdown or insane?
it seems that when i am very stressed and depressed, i have no control over my feelings...
i will cry & cry.....sometimes hurting myself...in the end, making lots of bruises to myself...
i know something is going very wrong...i want to help myself..but i really dunno how...
in many times, i will console myself in ways...but sometimes, it backfires...emtionally, it just overwhelmed me...
told my bf abt it but he just told me that he cun help me...only i can help myself..
who can i turn to?
i really wish to help myself before something drastic happens to me.. If this is the lowest in life I can hit, I cant go any lower but to go UP in life. Since life can only goes UP, I can decide how long I wanna stay in the lowest pit or to create the highest peak in my life.
It's true that you can only help yourself, even a professional will tell you so but they can guide you along the way to acknowledge the impt but in the end, the decision leaves to you. Depression is uncontrollable but preventable, recognisable abd solvable. Nothing is impossible unless you decide so.
It's a gd sign that you have recognise having depression, there's help. Try to keep yourself occupied, avoid things or pple who bring your mood down. Stay close with pple who can make you happy, not neccessarily frenz, it can be a stranger, like an old ah-ma whom you see daily picking up cans for livelihood but she can still maintain her smile everyday in her life though life has been harsh on her. Learn to see that there are far more pple in this world who have BETTER reasons to go into depression but they did not.
Keep talking to pple to divert your attention on your stuffs. Example, visit Aunt Agony often (Devil, remember to pay me advertisment fee ), try to help these pple solve their problems by lending a hand. When you do so, you will feel much more better that you are recognised and developing a sense of satisfaction.
Divulge in HEALTHY activities that you enjoy. Can be cooking, swimming, cycling, jogging & etc.... Juz remember to keep your siprit up -
Oh yeah... I've almost forgotten about life....?Originally posted by hopy:so hows life??? still as evil as ever? -
Originally posted by reallieRAW:(Devil, remember to pay me advertisment fee