should i or should i not?
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i am currently have this dilemma... i have this really good girl fren whom i'm very comfortable wif and we can talk non stop on everything...i treat her like my sister like tt until one day i realised tt i've developed feelings for her.... however she already has a bf.. so should i tell her tt i like her or should i not? i don't wana break up her relationship wif her bf and i'm afraid tt she'll avoid me after i've told her... should i just suck up the feeling inside and suffer in silence?
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Ideally you should just keep things to yourself.... If things get ugly you could be putting all of you involved in a difficult position... And the best scenerio I can imagine for now is that everything's gonna be neutral...? Ok... Maybe she'll fall for you if she's not on good terms with her bf and both of you would live happily ever after...? Well... DREAM ON....?Originally posted by frOst^~^nOva:i am currently have this dilemma... i have this really good girl fren whom i'm very comfortable wif and we can talk non stop on everything...i treat her like my sister like tt until one day i realised tt i've developed feelings for her.... however she already has a bf.. so should i tell her tt i like her or should i not? i don't wana break up her relationship wif her bf and i'm afraid tt she'll avoid me after i've told her... should i just suck up the feeling inside and suffer in silence? can anyone pls advise me??
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honestly i don't think you should be involved just be there for her first... don't break into their relationship... just be normal and you also doesn't know if she got feelings for you or not.... so don't be the third party.... just treat her like a fren.... and look around instead.... btw how is the realtionship between her and her bf?? are they happily together or always have quarrel....Originally posted by frOst^~^nOva:i am currently have this dilemma... i have this really good girl fren whom i'm very comfortable wif and we can talk non stop on everything...i treat her like my sister like tt until one day i realised tt i've developed feelings for her.... however she already has a bf.. so should i tell her tt i like her or should i not? i don't wana break up her relationship wif her bf and i'm afraid tt she'll avoid me after i've told her... should i just suck up the feeling inside and suffer in silence? can anyone pls advise me?? -
Originally posted by Devil1976:Ideally you should just keep things to yourself.... If things get ugly you could be putting all of you involved in a difficult position... And the best scenerio I can imagine for now is that everything's gonna be neutral...? Ok... Maybe she'll fall for you if she's not on good terms with her bf and both of you would live happily ever after...? Well... DREAM ON....?
Ok back to the topic.
Ideally, you should really try backing out of this relationship till you know that you're ready to be a 'friend only'.
But frankly...i understand it's hard to be neutral and act like one.
But if you truly want to preserve this relationship. You reallly should step out and think carefully of what you want out of it.
I'll stop here 1st.
Pounce!
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wait n see in mean time open ur self to other gal
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her relationship wif her boyfriend is okay loh... sometimes they quarrel but tt's onli natural... sigh... it's so difficult...
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Exact paragraph I going to type and express. (Ok, maybe not exact word but same meaning)Originally posted by Devil1976:Ideally you should just keep things to yourself.... If things get ugly you could be putting all of you involved in a difficult position... And the best scenerio I can imagine for now is that everything's gonna be neutral...? Ok... Maybe she'll fall for you if she's not on good terms with her bf and both of you would live happily ever after...? Well... DREAM ON....? -
Then don't go in between..... worse you two might not be able to be frens....Originally posted by frOst^~^nOva:her relationship wif her boyfriend is okay loh... sometimes they quarrel but tt's onli natural... sigh... it's so difficult... -
Hmm... I think you've just got the correct solution in your signature already...?Originally posted by frOst^~^nOva:her relationship wif her boyfriend is okay loh... sometimes they quarrel but tt's onli natural... sigh... it's so difficult... -
I COPIED your script before you're able to submit it....Originally posted by Yunhaier:Exact paragraph I going to type and express. (Ok, maybe not exact word but same meaning) 
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suffer in silence! be her friend...
always best if you put yourself in others' shoes... how would you like it if someone came between you and your partner?
this would be something you would be doing if you went ahead...
it's a bitter pill to swallow but that's life sometimes -
It's a tough one! think this is a very common problem faced by a lot of people. You are not alone. Well, go with your sentiments. But I feel that as a human being, one should not regret. So perhaps would be better if you could pop the question or hint to her, so that you know at least you've tried and know the answer to your burning question.
But before you go and pop the question to her, you should have come up with a few 'if' situations. If she agree, what are you going to do and how to handle the current situation? On the other hand, if she rejects, can you both treat each other the same way as before and carry on with this platonic relationship? Do some homework with your heart. And listen to what has it got to say to you and act.
Good Luck!
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