My bf let me down...
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u poor thing... I read ur story and felt really sorry for u. People do change and yes vry fast.
I changed too. My ex changed me to someone resentful of life and so on... Why? her neglecting him and making me cry at nites make me hate her and everyting.
I changed from someone nice to someone defensive, alert and fearful of anything new!
i believed that he changed becos he's tired of u, esp ur jealousy. So for me, i made a wise decision to break up and i found a better one, my current gf! Though my gf not so perfect, but can make it lah, since i not so good looking either -
hMmm....cAn elaborate further ?Originally posted by harryryan:we have e same criteria but dun know y i always end up w crappy pple who are only out to play play onli.....
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i just wanted to show her e stuff i wrote for her....sian a.... i think i really no hope liao.... give up liao..... hart break into too many pieces to be mended.....Originally posted by |Uv`-f|UtE-`:aWw , i love badminton....But i'm going out with him tml....wanna settle things once and for all....
It seems that you are scaring her off by claiming that you wanna tok to her about the both of you....Let her settle things with her bf 1st....Can understand that its bothering her a lot....If shes yours , she will be yours eventually....iF not i see no point in taking thing that dun belongs to you....Be satisfy that she lives in your heart and nobody can take her away from you mentally.....At the moment , just be her gd buddy.....
Maybe you can call her and tell her that you all are going to just enjoy yourselves , nothing else....Wish you the best of luck ~!
Have fun tml !! Maybe will join you all for the next outing...
u seem like a real understanding person..... he was real lucky to have u ..... how could he go destroy all that he has..... i think i will grow out of the emotional attachment for her.... hope things work out between u 2....wish u all e best.U can still go out w him means things are still salvagable..... all e best. -
pple who onli wanna play around w ur feelings loh..... u put in everything n they just sit back n take n take n dun give.... n pple who dun commit..... just wanted someone to be by my side thru bad n good times....to pamper her n be loved by her in return....dun think it's to much to ask for rite?Originally posted by |Uv`-f|UtE-`:hMmm....cAn elaborate further ? -
from what you have said....It makes me thinks harder....Now i'm confused.....Originally posted by kawa:u poor thing... I read ur story and felt really sorry for u. People do change and yes vry fast.
I changed too. My ex changed me to someone resentful of life and so on... Why? her neglecting him and making me cry at nites make me hate her and everyting.
I changed from someone nice to someone defensive, alert and fearful of anything new!
i believed that he changed becos he's tired of u, esp ur jealousy. So for me, i made a wise decision to break up and i found a better one, my current gf! Though my gf not so perfect, but can make it lah, since i not so good looking either
I'm not sure if i've been neglecting him as we only go out once in a week and the reason is becoz i don't wanna waste his time since he is taking his 'O' Levels tis year.....I wanted to go and find him more frequently but am afraid that after going out wif me , he'll be very tired for school next day.....
2 days ago on the phone wif him , he told me that he felt neglected but claiming that he still loves me.....I dunno whether to believe him or not....
I hope u will be happy together wif ur current gf...All the beSt tO u ~ -
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It's entirely my ex's fault: She also say her mum forbids her to have relationship, that our religion clash, and so on.
I felt open and free when i talk to my current gf. BTW, i was already talking and chatting a lot to my current gf (let's call her Z) when i was together with my ex. U c, my ex likes to talk and have fun or company around her buddy and i did tell her that becos of that i feel neglected. My ex said this: "Aiyah, i noe lah, u tell her(referring to her buddy) urself also lah" I Feel very
Over phone cannot talk, face to face also no chance.
Moreover, when we out together or even together, her buddy will tag along and both of them hand in hand walk happily together, leaving me behind (like i a pervert stalking them).
initially, i feel that Z was just another female friend that i can talk to as i cant talk to my ex a lot. She's always so attentive to me and we have laughter and joy and all these happen when my ex was around us(we walk as a group often). But 6 mths later, i soon realise that i something's not rite.Y, am i crying throughout the nite? Is she worthit? Wat about Z, we seems to get along together and she's still single. We chat, we discuss homework, we joke over the phone and i practically call her everynite(gf Z).
Finally, i made a decision as again she turn down my offer to go out with me during the Sch holidays. I broke up with her and felt shaken! but relieved of a heavy burden. And i started dating Z (actually is asking her out, i didnt let her know that i like her or i want to date her, just need her company to go window shopping).
Was delighted that she agreed, and we went out everyday, and really have fun, fool around with her(healthy one like hiding at one corner and give her the scare).
All these while, ex did not contact me.... I didnt feel a thing either... Slowly but surely, i subconsiously started puting my hands around Z on her shoulder sometimes(lke a buddy). She didnt mind. Then i continued with a hand around her waist sometimes and she didnt push it away. And finally i held her hands as we about to cross the road and she didnt qn me after that. (Later when we together, she told me that she was shocked tat i held her shoudler, waist and even her hands, The hand part was really a shock to her but she act normal).
All this dating ended in a month.... And we were together!Yehhhh..
So nvm if u neglected him, dump him and find another one.My ex asked me why i never contacted her(after a month from breakup and i was already attached to Z). It's all over....... The guy will find someone new too.
please heed my advice, drop that guy and let him be with that bandgirl or whatsoever. 'Cos they will haunt him again and again... -
..... ......Originally posted by |Uv`-f|UtE-`:Sorry for that general statment...It was a moment of anger that i typed that...
I'm a libra and he is a saggitarius....Both our blood type is the same-O+....I don't know about the other two girls horoscope though...
Just my genreal opinion? Both of you ENJOYS the 'company' of each other... At least from the appearance of it...? Rather 'matching' in a sense...? But as your relationship goes further, both parties would probably starts to question it a little... What's he really after in a relationship... What are you like... Maybe not really meant for each other...?
He's quite an active boy? You.... Are you more like the 'lazy' type..? Hmm..... Just based on SURFACE ANALYSIS.... He might be searching for a 2nd option...? Just a guess..? Don't get all too bothered over the comment...? -
guys..... jerks...
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ya.... agree...Originally posted by star princess:guys..... jerks...
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Don't tar all men with the same brush.
Just like some men who had their hearts broken swear that all women are b**ches.
Everyone deals with things differently.. but it is horrible when one gives up on love... it exists...Originally posted by babygalz:ya.... agree... -
I think i've got to meet up with you to give some counsel. Really need to grow up and be rationale.Originally posted by star princess:guys..... jerks...
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You also need counselling.....Originally posted by babygalz:ya.... agree...
Girls talking like that need to grow up.
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would advise u to dump the guy..my boyfriend of 5 years 2-timed me last year so I totally understand how u feel now..this is a lose-lose situation for you...if u continue to put up wif this shit, you'll end up very miserable...yet even if he decides to choose u and not the girl, it'll be difficult for u to ever trust him again and thus, the relationship is already destroyed... leave him while u are still young and not wait till a few years down the road liao, then such crap happen again then you'll feel even more bad....
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Originally posted by M©+square:I think i've got to meet up with you to give some counsel. Really need to grow up and be rationale.
Aiyo... relax Mcsquare!
Lets meet! Aunt Agony first official general meeting.
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totally agreed! get over wif it fast n carry on wif ur lifeOriginally posted by ~GaL~:would advise u to dump the guy..my boyfriend of 5 years 2-timed me last year so I totally understand how u feel now..this is a lose-lose situation for you...if u continue to put up wif this shit, you'll end up very miserable...yet even if he decides to choose u and not the girl, it'll be difficult for u to ever trust him again and thus, the relationship is already destroyed... leave him while u are still young and not wait till a few years down the road liao, then such crap happen again then you'll feel even more bad....
there r better ones out there
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Maybe... Depends on where we are...? If we're in a car, we probably would jerk a little...?Originally posted by star princess:guys..... jerks... -
5 yrS ?! oh mY , how did you walk out of the misery ?Originally posted by ~GaL~:would advise u to dump the guy..my boyfriend of 5 years 2-timed me last year so I totally understand how u feel now..this is a lose-lose situation for you...if u continue to put up wif this shit, you'll end up very miserable...yet even if he decides to choose u and not the girl, it'll be difficult for u to ever trust him again and thus, the relationship is already destroyed... leave him while u are still young and not wait till a few years down the road liao, then such crap happen again then you'll feel even more bad....
hmm , as for my situation , its still can be salvage.. At least he did not two-timed me..
I believe its quite alright to develop a liking for other girls despite the face that he is still attached.. Anyway its onli a small crush..
And i did let him down once when i had a crush on a guy in my class last yr..
Trust has to be accumulated slowly , since i still choose to be by his side.. He promised to try his best to change for me so i've decided not to gif him up afterall..
Thanks a great deal for ur concern ~ However , i'll bear ur words in mind
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kawa ,
I'm glad that you are able to find someone you love and be loved back , its definitely a pleasure..
Do treasure your present gf and happiness will be on the way.. -
Well , i suppose you may be correct.. I do enjoy his companion..Originally posted by Devil1976:..... ......
Just my genreal opinion? Both of you ENJOYS the 'company' of each other... At least from the appearance of it...? Rather 'matching' in a sense...? But as your relationship goes further, both parties would probably starts to question it a little... What's he really after in a relationship... What are you like... Maybe not really meant for each other...?
He's quite an active boy? You.... Are you more like the 'lazy' type..? Hmm..... Just based on SURFACE ANALYSIS.... He might be searching for a 2nd option...? Just a guess..? Don't get all too bothered over the comment...?
But things here r really getting confusing.. I'm starting to doubt the relationship , it doesn't look like its getting anywhere.. just remaining stagnant.. Maybe he is getting too much stress from his sch work.. hMm..
Yup , he is quite active.. i am too.. but sometimes i can be beri nua..hehe..
No problem , comments and opinions r the most welcomed.. i wun be offended or bothered.. I'm his 1st gf , so it isn't tat bad if he is searching for a 2nd option.. ? gee , my words make no sense.. -
A big thank you to those who have contributed one way or another to this thread..
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hmmzzZ.. read yr story... think u should leave him... find a better person.. i juz cant seem to understand galssSss.. y they so stubborn?? knowin tat hes not gd still stick to him when theres a better choice outside..........
haiZzz all the besT~ -
jerk~Originally posted by |Uv`-f|UtE-`:>From: yip yongseng
>To: joanna88
>Subject: Hello~!!!
>Date: Tue, 20 May 2003 18:42:23 +0800 (CST)
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>Joanna,
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> Joanna, I dunno why leh.... Everytime I saw you I
>just felt that my heart is pounding very fast and
>became so shy... then when ever i see u smile, it
>melts my heart... Why??
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>Yong Seng
I seldom check my bf's e-mail inbox in the past...Only that this few months he has been letting me down again and again , i feel that its very hard to differentiate frm his lies and the truth , so i do it...And tis time , seeing the above msg frm him to another gal juz makes my blood boils...The situation here is abt the same as floppy_zee...Feel tat i needed to share wif someone else , so i choosed tis forum.Those hu haf been reading my posts will noe more in detail abt wad happened...
I reli pity my tearducts , haf been sheding tears a lot of times juz becoz of him...Sometimes will even breakdown n sob...
dump him ASAP gal.. -
Being his 1st gf can be viewed as both a 'plus' & a 'minus'.... The 'good' point being the reason why the relationship might 'last' longer.... The bad point is though it would drag the duration of your relationship a little longer, it also adds more 'complications' to it....Originally posted by |Uv`-f|UtE-`:Well , i suppose you may be correct.. I do enjoy his companion..
But things here r really getting confusing.. I'm starting to doubt the relationship , it doesn't look like its getting anywhere.. just remaining stagnant.. Maybe he is getting too much stress from his sch work.. hMm..
Yup , he is quite active.. i am too.. but sometimes i can be beri nua..hehe..
No problem , comments and opinions r the most welcomed.. i wun be offended or bothered.. I'm his 1st gf , so it isn't tat bad if he is searching for a 2nd option.. ? gee , my words make no sense..
The reason why you starting to doubt this relationship... Probably he's having a little of that too...? Just that this is his 1st BGR, so he could probably be a little more 'blind' to what's going on... Or should I say uncertain...? Nonetheless, humans are instinctive creatures by nature... He'll probably figure his way out in time to come... Coupled with his characteristics, chances are pretty high....
I'm not saying that both of you cannot be together... But both of you would have to organise your thoughts well and derive what you can't get out of a BGR from your LIFE instead... That level of management is certainly no easy task, not to mention that he's someone new to this BGR thing....
But your thoughts...? Kinda weak too...? The relationship can be described like a chick hatching out of its egg... SOFT SHELL & the IMPULSES eager to break through into the unknown....
TIME would probably let nature takes its course... It could be avoided... But quite VERY DIFFICULT... Major dependency is HIM & STRATEGY to overcome this... If withholding this relationship, many more challenges would lie ahead for now... It's not that both of you can't be... Just that age range and mentality matters do not favor this relationship for now.... -
Grow up.Originally posted by star princess:guys..... jerks... -
U too need to grow up.Originally posted by babygalz:ya.... agree...