I've got a prob...
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Due to some complicated reasons, he and I would be very busy for the next few months... And we have very little time to spend together...
Friends would be asking me if im goin out with my bf, why am I at home? Arent u spending time with him??
What can I say?? That my bf doesnt want to meet me?? Even though we might not be able to meet up soon the next time round?
It's not like he is busy or what.. But he cant give me a definte ans when I ask him out.. And at the last minute he would change his mind, sometimes he wun change it at all...
Sometimes I feel like Im BEGGING him to go out with me, to spend time with me...
Whats wrong with spending time with me? Its not like we meet up very often...
Seriously, after this few incidents, I begin to wonder abt my significance in his life... Im sick of begging.... I dunno what to do now...
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Ever asked him why he doesn't want to go out with you? -
Sometimes he gives stupid reasons but he says he means well...Originally posted by Parka: Ever asked him why he doesn't want to go out with you?
Sometimes he jus say he's tired .. but I said I could come over to your place.. how tired can you get? It's not like Im asking him to tour the whole of sentosa island with me...
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Let him know how you feel loh.
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...it doesnt work...
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Originally posted by Day-dreamer:...it doesnt work... Doesn't work?!?
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yeah.... such a small prob yet it becomes so complicated.. hai... NVM...I guess there are better things to do then to get bothered by this... thanks for the help anyway...
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Originally posted by Day-dreamer:yeah.... such a small prob yet it becomes so complicated.. hai... NVM...I guess there are better things to do then to get bothered by this... thanks for the help anyway... Wait for the real Aunt Agonies to reply you ba. They are lurking around......
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Yupz...wait for Yun...the resident Aunt AgonyOriginally posted by Parka: Wait for the real Aunt Agonies to reply you ba. They are lurking around...... 
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When things happens - there is always a reason behind; nobody in front doesn't mean that there ain't people on the side.Originally posted by Day-dreamer:Due to some complicated reasons, he and I would be very busy for the next few months... And we have very little time to spend together...
Friends would be asking me if im goin out with my bf, why am I at home? Arent u spending time with him??
What can I say?? That my bf doesnt want to meet me?? Even though we might not be able to meet up soon the next time round?
It's not like he is busy or what.. But he cant give me a definte ans when I ask him out.. And at the last minute he would change his mind, sometimes he wun change it at all...
Sometimes I feel like Im BEGGING him to go out with me, to spend time with me...
Whats wrong with spending time with me? Its not like we meet up very often...
Seriously, after this few incidents, I begin to wonder abt my significance in his life... Im sick of begging.... I dunno what to do now...
There is two possible reasons:
I) He doesn't want to go out with you and the reasons could lie anything between the declining stage of a relation to certain exisiting problems or external factor that comes into the picture and add a whole new meaning to your relationship.
II) He feel bored/uncomfortable going out with you - also another hint that this relationship needs previewing.
Advice?
You both need to talk - and I mean talk as in recognise this as an issue and communicate about it. There is a hidden picture behind the curtain - if you want and wish to understand you have to talk with him.
For a start of the conversation - don't jump straight into the point; express your feelings and thoughts about it first. (Things like you both don't meet often, then why he like don't want meet you, etc) Your conversation will eventually find its way to this issue - then indirectly get the to bottom of it. Don't treat this as trashing things out - treat it as a concern.
Cheers -
Originally posted by RebeL:Yupz...wait for Yun...the resident Aunt Agony
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let me work on the premise that there may be no problems with the reln. in other words, he still likes/loves you, there's no third party, no super time-consuming things like exams, huge project at work, family probs.
if this is the case then we must look at the different levels of commitment you both are putting into the reln. for some couples, seeing each other once or twice a week is more than enuff, the rest of the time spending with friends or family. some couples live together and are happy with waking up seeing each others' faces everyday.
problems arise when a couple can't "decide" wat both of them want. obviously this "decision" has to be the same. it's not like it'll work when one person wants to meet twice a week and the other wants to move in!
this is something u may have to figure out, besides wat yun mentioned, that the reln may need reviewing.
u can choose to "sweep it under the carpet" but the junk is just gonna pile up and it's gonna be even harder to clean next time. nip the problem in the bud now. good luck~! -
Originally posted by Day-dreamer:yeah.... such a small prob yet it becomes so complicated.. hai... NVM...I guess there are better things to do then to get bothered by this... thanks for the help anyway...