thanx for the responses...Originally posted by sillyme:it's not unusual to feel the way you are..
like what the Bear says.. needing more personal space is part of growing up..
but try to talk to your family.. sometimes it feels like that they'll never understand u.. but the truth is that they are your family.. and u'll be surprised how much they know u..
i don't talk much at home too.. and my family understands that.. as longs as they are ok with it, i'm ok with it too.. but they are still the most important people in my life..
Originally posted by wuming78:sigh.. dunno y ... i jus canot make myself happi at home.
feel that i canot do the things tt i shud be able to do in the privacy of my home... feel very restricted and feel a lack of freedom, altho i mus say my parents do not pose any restrictions on me at all... but the fact is i dun tok to my family at all.
dunno if its cos i jus ord and so still not used to going home everyday as i am doing now. whenever i go home, jus feel the hidden torrents inside me rise up and feel the unhappiness build up inside.
simply wish i can go out, find a hostel/flat to stay myself....den i can realli do watever i like there...
is there something wrong wif me? sigh...
no lar.. nth wrg wid u... mayb ask u said u juz ord.. den not use to go home mah... b4 ord u spend most of ur time in camps... staying wid campmates of ard ur own age and after ord going back home is different...Originally posted by wuming78:sigh.. dunno y ... i jus canot make myself happi at home.
feel that i canot do the things tt i shud be able to do in the privacy of my home... feel very restricted and feel a lack of freedom, altho i mus say my parents do not pose any restrictions on me at all... but the fact is i dun tok to my family at all.
dunno if its cos i jus ord and so still not used to going home everyday as i am doing now. whenever i go home, jus feel the hidden torrents inside me rise up and feel the unhappiness build up inside.
simply wish i can go out, find a hostel/flat to stay myself....den i can realli do watever i like there...
is there something wrong wif me? sigh...
Nothing's wrong with you... People do have such thoughts from time to time...Originally posted by wuming78:sigh.. dunno y ... i jus canot make myself happi at home.
feel that i canot do the things tt i shud be able to do in the privacy of my home... feel very restricted and feel a lack of freedom, altho i mus say my parents do not pose any restrictions on me at all... but the fact is i dun tok to my family at all.
dunno if its cos i jus ord and so still not used to going home everyday as i am doing now. whenever i go home, jus feel the hidden torrents inside me rise up and feel the unhappiness build up inside.
simply wish i can go out, find a hostel/flat to stay myself....den i can realli do watever i like there...
is there something wrong wif me? sigh...
Brudder... I get wat U mean... many things I oso dun chat wif my family much... furthermore since I was 17 then I started dat... but U shld noe there r frens, close ppl? these ppl maybe can offer help...Originally posted by wuming78:sigh.. dunno y ... i jus canot make myself happi at home.
feel that i canot do the things tt i shud be able to do in the privacy of my home... feel very restricted and feel a lack of freedom, altho i mus say my parents do not pose any restrictions on me at all... but the fact is i dun tok to my family at all.
dunno if its cos i jus ord and so still not used to going home everyday as i am doing now. whenever i go home, jus feel the hidden torrents inside me rise up and feel the unhappiness build up inside.
simply wish i can go out, find a hostel/flat to stay myself....den i can realli do watever i like there...
is there something wrong wif me? sigh...
Originally posted by M©+square:Hmm....it's always a moral struggle to stay home so to take care of our parents. Filial piety.
And breaking free from the bond and be 'truly free' of how we live our lives.
Thinking for others and thinking for self. Hmmm....
/me ponders.![]()
Though i agree with you. However not all of it.Originally posted by the Bear:I once told my folks this... I wonder if they will ever understand.. the words were to this effect
My generation will probably go through a lot of changes... changes that make it one of the toughest to live through.
Some of us realise the selfish attitude Asian parents place on their children... they invoke "Filial Piety" and expect their children to look after them as if people made children as some kind of insurance that will be collected. Children are seen as investments instead of progeny who were created out of love.
Some of us, of this generation, come to see this. We will NEVER place such a heavy burden on our children. If they would like to look after us, then we're happy. If not, we will NOT gnash our teeth and be angry. This is what parents are supposed to be like. We will not place expectations on our children. We would want our children to go be all they can be, without being held back because they are expected to be "filial".
The burden on us, this generation, will be a heavy one. We will have to look after our past generation because it is something they have already placed on us. We will have to look after ourselves. And we will have to look after our children until they are able to be independent and NOT expect anything from them in return. This is the unconditional love we will give our next generation.
From there, the cycle of "expectation to stay and look after the past generation" will hopefully be broken.
Anyone out there in the forums think as some people and I did when we discussed this?
Originally posted by M©+square:
Though i agree with you. However not all of it.
I would prefer to see it in the point of value.
[b]Sometimes life is not all about yourself.
It's who's around you that makes your life.
[/b]
That's what makes the world round!Originally posted by the Bear:That's true....
However, it is my personal philosophy that if I do not want people to mess with my life, I should not mess with theirs too...
But others don't think so and in the end, because I want to be left to my own devices, and they want to meddle and interfere, everyone's unhappy
Originally posted by M©+square:Anyway in this generation....
LOVE is missing and greatly deprived. That's makes what people think - it's better to be on their own.
Home is the greatest institution of LOVE.
However sadly....it's no more.....
This generation??? It's in your hands and mine.
Cheers
I'll still stand on my statement that Family as the greatest institution of LOVE is deterioting rapidly.Originally posted by the Bear:That's a generalisation... it may be true for many, most even.. but not all...
Sometimes, it's best to be on our own.
We can't choose our folks, but what gives them the right to choose how we live our lives?
Many say it's because of "concern" but what damage is done!
Love comes in many manifestations... one is to let your grown child make their own mistakes, while being unconditionally supportive...
How many folks can say that they have done that?
well... i haf to say not all parents expect and demand tt their children look after them. in all our hearts o cos we hope this will be the case. for me my parents never explicitly made tt .. request.Originally posted by the Bear:I once told my folks this... I wonder if they will ever understand.. the words were to this effect
My generation will probably go through a lot of changes... changes that make it one of the toughest to live through.
Some of us realise the selfish attitude Asian parents place on their children... they invoke "Filial Piety" and expect their children to look after them as if people made children as some kind of insurance that will be collected. Children are seen as investments instead of progeny who were created out of love.
Some of us, of this generation, come to see this. We will NEVER place such a heavy burden on our children. If they would like to look after us, then we're happy. If not, we will NOT gnash our teeth and be angry. This is what parents are supposed to be like. We will not place expectations on our children. We would want our children to go be all they can be, without being held back because they are expected to be "filial".
The burden on us, this generation, will be a heavy one. We will have to look after our past generation because it is something they have already placed on us. We will have to look after ourselves. And we will have to look after our children until they are able to be independent and NOT expect anything from them in return. This is the unconditional love we will give our next generation.
From there, the cycle of "expectation to stay and look after the past generation" will hopefully be broken.
Anyone out there in the forums think as some people and I did when we discussed this?
i agree.. the society/world now is lacking of love. Without love, people feel insercure etc..Originally posted by M©+square:Anyway in this generation....
LOVE is missing and greatly deprived. That's makes what people think - it's better to be on their own.
Home is the greatest institution of LOVE.
However sadly....it's no more.....
This generation??? It's in your hands and mine.
Cheers