My sad story.......
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Hi everyone, i'm new here. Just want to share my story with everyone here, maybe u all can help me to move on.
I broke up with my gf of 7 years 2years plus ago. ever since the break up i never been myself again. watever i do and anything i do i don't feel happy at all...... Even i'm luffing and smiling in front of my friend but deep down inside of me i really feels NOTHING. Things r just not the same anymore. 7 years wonderful relationship gone. i should say it's my fault it ended up like that.
it when i just entered army. u know life suxs and i hardly have time for myself. then we both become unhappy with each other over small matters. i also don't know y i'm so easily work up... she also just change her job lah. maybe thats y she's so moody also. then suddenly after one small matter we had a big fight and we just don't contact each other anymore. for about 2 months then i think i have already adjust to my army life then i call her to ask for forgiveness. but she say she's happy with her life now and she want to stay this way. At that point of time i'm really shock and angry. Then till now i still don't know wat to do. now i've just ORD and currently looking for a job. i've got alot of free time to think about wat have happened. and i really REGRET wat i've done. i try everything to be with her again but still failed.
so i advice to all the ppl who have GF/BF chrish wat u have don't do anything stupid or say anything stupid when u r in the HEAT OF THE MOMENT. something which will make u regret of the rest of ur life.
To be frank, i'm fat ugly and poor. And after wat have happened, i've loss all confidance in looking for "TRUE LOVE" already. IT's really a big REGRET of my life. i hope those ppl that see this topic can like to chrish those around u more and learn to be more understanding and patient. -
My heart feels for you - 7 long years ain't a short span of time.Originally posted by BFB:Hi everyone, i'm new here. Just want to share my story with everyone here, maybe u all can help me to move on.
I broke up with my gf of 7 years 2years plus ago. ever since the break up i never been myself again. watever i do and anything i do i don't feel happy at all...... Even i'm luffing and smiling in front of my friend but deep down inside of me i really feels NOTHING. Things r just not the same anymore. 7 years wonderful relationship gone. i should say it's my fault it ended up like that.
it when i just entered army. u know life suxs and i hardly have time for myself. then we both become unhappy with each other over small matters. i also don't know y i'm so easily work up... she also just change her job lah. maybe thats y she's so moody also. then suddenly after one small matter we had a big fight and we just don't contact each other anymore. for about 2 months then i think i have already adjust to my army life then i call her to ask for forgiveness. but she say she's happy with her life now and she want to stay this way. At that point of time i'm really shock and angry. Then till now i still don't know wat to do. now i've just ORD and currently looking for a job. i've got alot of free time to think about wat have happened. and i really REGRET wat i've done. i try everything to be with her again but still failed.
so i advice to all the ppl who have GF/BF chrish wat u have don't do anything stupid or say anything stupid when u r in the HEAT OF THE MOMENT. something which will make u regret of the rest of ur life.
To be frank, i'm fat ugly and poor. And after wat have happened, i've loss all confidance in looking for "TRUE LOVE" already. IT's really a big REGRET of my life. i hope those ppl that see this topic can like to chrish those around u more and learn to be more understanding and patient.
Here's some question for you: What age did both you came together? What's your astrological sign and hers? Both of your birthdaes? And if you know her birth time, when is it?
I will reply you tomorrow, as I am getting too tired now. Don't ponder too much - love is a cycle.
Cheers -
Originally posted by BFB:...To be frank, i'm fat ugly and poor...
dear pal..nobody but nobody gets away with calling my pals fat, ugly or poor..i'll learn them..good to invest earlier in heartaches to prepare oneself for the real thing later..better late than never..never say die.. -
Thanks both of you for ur support. Just feels hopeless sometime. I really wanted to move on but everytime i try i failed. now i don't even dare to think about it now. so dispair and alone i feels.
but sorry if i offend any gals, but to state a fact. Singapore gals now set their standard so high. either u must have money, if not then u must have the looks. i don't really think there's anyone out there who wants someone which is fat, ugly and poor....
i have a few girl friends that go out with rich guys just so that they can showoff their BF and compare them. WAT's this world coming to? gals nowaday would like to go for money and looks rather then someone true to her??? this is y i felt so dispair and hopeless. Is money and looks all that can attract gals?
sorry i may have offended so gals. but wat i saying is true and maybe some of u can give me ur views. -
can't deny there are girls who only go for looks and money.. just tat there are guys who only go for pretty girls or hot bods.Originally posted by BFB:but sorry if i offend any gals, but to state a fact. Singapore gals now set their standard so high. either u must have money, if not then u must have the looks. i don't really think there's anyone out there who wants someone which is fat, ugly and poor....
i have a few girl friends that go out with rich guys just so that they can showoff their BF and compare them. WAT's this world coming to? gals nowaday would like to go for money and looks rather then someone true to her??? this is y i felt so dispair and hopeless. Is money and looks all that can attract gals?
sorry i may have offended so gals. but wat i saying is true and maybe some of u can give me ur views.
But there are girls who go for guys who have a good character and personality, are sincere and honest.
And since you feel tat you do not measure up on the looks and $ categories, i suggest you pay more attention to bettering your character and personality.
And lastly, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, you may think you don't look good, but there may be girls who think u are.
All the best! -
some people don't get over the one they love.
maybe she wasn't meant to be?
not too sure about the "women out there" because i was never "in the field" anyway...
all i know is that breakups suck.. no matter how amicable they are... it tears your inside apart and ruins you in so many ways... some people do not get over it.. but they learn to live with it...
take this time to ponder over things... how you may learn.. how this experience may enrich your life.. mourn, cry, wail, rant, rage if you have to... find a good friend to talk to, or something... try not to keep it bottled up...
how i am coping with my heartbreak is simple... i go back to what i believe in... and it helps.. i knew in the beginning that my philosophy will end up hurting me if things go wrong.. but i went on anyway... and it hurts so much one feels like walking into the path of a speeding bus...
i remember what i am.. love is.. to hell with the consequences... when loving someone, love with all your might... i did, and so did she.. however, things did not work out... things both of us couldn't change, or failed to change, tore us apart...
how the healing process (still going on) started for me started with my priest... his homily reminded me of my philosophy... love.. damn the consequences... and i was renewed...
i'll continue to love her... even if we are never going to be together, even if she does not want to see me again, i will love her...
your story is sad.. but it probably isn't unique.. these days in sgforums, there seems to be too many broken hearts.. we are all trying to support each other in our heartbreak, spilling our guts, offering kind words, sharing our stories... hoping that each broken heart knows they are not alone.. and therefore, know that everyone's pulling towards healing...
and hoping our sharing helps another towards being whole again.
i wish you peace,
i wish you serenity
i wish you luck
i wish you joy...
welcome to the club of broken hearts... may yours mend soon... -
Wat can i say. Thanks all of u for the support..... I've a alot since the break up. I'm sure i'm a better person. I will have to move on, easy to say not easy to do. she'll always be in my heart. Thanks everyone.
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no one can help it.ya can just decide to snap out of it.put it all aside n get on w ur life...no one is gonna say that this guy could have done so much onli if his gf did not do that to him....no way..... u r responsible for ur life....wat ever u make out of it is urs n urs alone.life is about choices..... choose wisely.
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Love sux.
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now...now...hart breaks hart but u can stop the pain if u will urself to.Originally posted by DaneIngal:Love sux. -
BinG bIAN.....
HaiZ..... -
If u can't even go thru this, then u have shown to the rest of the world that u have been defeated, beaten down and lost, and for the rest of ur life, life will be pushing you around.
So what if it's 7 or 17 yrs? Yes the emotional attachment is longer and heavier with a longer time frame but the point is still the same, u can't get over it and wanna wander around lifelessly, u have lost life's battle and u will be pushed u around like many pple u see out in the streets. Look into their eyes, look at the situation their in, they have been crushed by life's challenges and physically may look normal, but emotionally and mentally, they are a gonner. U want to be like them? Or u wanna shake urself up, get back on ur feet, start setting goals, start reigniting that passion for life in urself and achieve for greater heights? Do u want to really improve urself and be more self confident? Or do u wanna continue let life push u around like a rock? U go where life pushes u, u become curled up inside like a coward who has lost in life only because of a girl? Come on man!!! There are pple out there who lost their parents, pple who become bankrupt overnite and still have a family to feed! They persevered, stared at reality hard and not let life push them around cause they push and fight back! NOW THAT IS A FIGHTER! Which one are u? FIGHTER or COWARD?
In life, u see 2 types of pple: STRONG, WEAK...
This is the survival of the fittest: Strong will live, weak will die.
'Fundamental Law of Nature'
Qn is: Which one are u? -
True true.... I will get out of this and be a stronger and better man..... my this post is to remind ppl to teasure those around them. don't take them for granted....Originally posted by MetalGear:If u can't even go thru this, then u have shown to the rest of the world that u have been defeated, beaten down and lost, and for the rest of ur life, life will be pushing you around.
So what if it's 7 or 17 yrs? Yes the emotional attachment is longer and heavier with a longer time frame but the point is still the same, u can't get over it and wanna wander around lifelessly, u have lost life's battle and u will be pushed u around like many pple u see out in the streets. Look into their eyes, look at the situation their in, they have been crushed by life's challenges and physically may look normal, but emotionally and mentally, they are a gonner. U want to be like them? Or u wanna shake urself up, get back on ur feet, start setting goals, start reigniting that passion for life in urself and achieve for greater heights? Do u want to really improve urself and be more self confident? Or do u wanna continue let life push u around like a rock? U go where life pushes u, u become curled up inside like a coward who has lost in life only because of a girl? Come on man!!! There are pple out there who lost their parents, pple who become bankrupt overnite and still have a family to feed! They persevered, stared at reality hard and not let life push them around cause they push and fight back! NOW THAT IS A FIGHTER! Which one are u? FIGHTER or COWARD?
In life, u see 2 types of pple: STRONG, WEAK...
This is the survival of the fittest: Strong will live, weak will die.
'Fundamental Law of Nature'
Qn is: Which one are u?
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Hi BFB,Originally posted by BFB:Hi everyone, i'm new here. Just want to share my story with everyone here, maybe u all can help me to move on.
I broke up with my gf of 7 years 2years plus ago. ever since the break up i never been myself again. watever i do and anything i do i don't feel happy at all...... Even i'm luffing and smiling in front of my friend but deep down inside of me i really feels NOTHING. Things r just not the same anymore. 7 years wonderful relationship gone. i should say it's my fault it ended up like that.
it when i just entered army. u know life suxs and i hardly have time for myself. then we both become unhappy with each other over small matters. i also don't know y i'm so easily work up... she also just change her job lah. maybe thats y she's so moody also. then suddenly after one small matter we had a big fight and we just don't contact each other anymore. for about 2 months then i think i have already adjust to my army life then i call her to ask for forgiveness. but she say she's happy with her life now and she want to stay this way. At that point of time i'm really shock and angry. Then till now i still don't know wat to do. now i've just ORD and currently looking for a job. i've got alot of free time to think about wat have happened. and i really REGRET wat i've done. i try everything to be with her again but still failed.
so i advice to all the ppl who have GF/BF chrish wat u have don't do anything stupid or say anything stupid when u r in the HEAT OF THE MOMENT. something which will make u regret of the rest of ur life.
To be frank, i'm fat ugly and poor. And after wat have happened, i've loss all confidance in looking for "TRUE LOVE" already. IT's really a big REGRET of my life. i hope those ppl that see this topic can like to chrish those around u more and learn to be more understanding and patient.
I used to be somewhat in your shoes some time ago (just that I'm the female role). My ex was in the army for his NS. I started picking on him about small little things because there were some things I don't like what he did. He didn't offer to make any compromises even when i brought it up to discuss. He just want me to change the way I feel about it. I got so pissed off with him that I broke up with him. within few months, I know I made a mistake. I realised how important he was to me, how I didn't feel it because I was taking him for granted (and vice versa).
So I swallowed humbled-pie and apologised to him for hurting him. I'm willing to start all over again, willing to change how I feel about those things I didn't like about. But he said he was very happy with his life.
*lightning strucks*(sound effects)
How come things have changed this way? One wrong step, and you will never have the same ending again.
Then, something unpleasant between us happened. (pleasant for him, not for me) That was like a slap from him to tell me that he's changed, we can't be together anymore kind of signal.
Thinking back, I don't know whether it could turn out another way if I held my tougue and cool down before I said those things. I don't know if it will still turn out this way if I just held my tougue.
What's done can't be undone. I don't hate him for the unpleasant things he did, nor, do I still love him to want to go back to him.
But I really cannot erase away all the memories we had together, nor stop myself from thinking if, in the future the both of us would turn our big circles and end up back together again. (Kinda inspired by BFB after NS syndrome - free, looking for job, nothing to do, keep thinking of the past; I wonder if he would think of me too?)
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Winky, i can really understand how u feel. u r just like me.
Our impluse cause us our relationship. i think we should learn from our past mistake and learn our lesson. like me in the past i don't express myself well enough, i don't care for her when we r in front of our friends and family(BECAUSE I'M A MCP). It's not that i don't care or wat. It's i care for her just that i don't show it. i feels paisei and shy to care for her in front of friend and my family. BUT THATS STUPID~~~~~ it's my mistake i think there's alot of guys out there that do this also. treat this as a living example, son't do this cause it hurts ur relationship. don't just because of our "face" problem we hide our care and conern.
Wat done is done. wat happened had happened. i would really want to tell her how much i really love and miss her. but since she's happy with her life, i think i should not bother her. as chinese would say, "if u really love her, let her be happy". Now my only wish for her is for her to find someone that treat her good, caring and someone true to her. she's so native and simple minded, i hope she won't find someone as Ba#@!d as me. i really want her to be happy, thou she cannot be with me.
Winky, an advice from one of my friend. THERE IS NOTHING THAT REMAIN THE SAME IN THIS WORLD. the world keep on going and things keep on changing. Just treasure those around u, those that really care and loved u. don't be like me. i let my chance goes. IT's a REGRET in life, A Scar a uneraseable SCAR.... If can give ur relationship another shot. if fail then have to moved on. don't be like me for 2 years suffer alone no one and nobody knows. now i decided to tell is to let ppl learn from my mistake don't take the same path as i do. -
This qoutes reminds me of the thread i post earlier...but still...as yunhaier said...thiis kind of gals oni look for surface love...which is mandatory and doesnt bring u true happiness....in the end u still feel emptiness....Originally posted by BFB:Thanks both of you for ur support. Just feels hopeless sometime. I really wanted to move on but everytime i try i failed. now i don't even dare to think about it now. so dispair and alone i feels.
but sorry if i offend any gals, but to state a fact. Singapore gals now set their standard so high. either u must have money, if not then u must have the looks. i don't really think there's anyone out there who wants someone which is fat, ugly and poor....
i have a few girl friends that go out with rich guys just so that they can showoff their BF and compare them. WAT's this world coming to? gals nowaday would like to go for money and looks rather then someone true to her??? this is y i felt so dispair and hopeless. Is money and looks all that can attract gals?
sorry i may have offended so gals. but wat i saying is true and maybe some of u can give me ur views. -
i do not agree with you about this...
we are human.. therefore we have the sentience to help the weak, so that we can all move along, as a collective...
in animals, we usually find the weak and injured being abandoned to the predators.. but not all the time.. even some animals with tight social structures like African Elephants and African Hunting Dogs will bring their injured or sick with them.. looking out for them as best the herd or pack can... offering them food and water...
if animals can, what more humans?
that is why when one of us falters, it is an honour to be able to help him/her along... to keep up with the rest... and with this, we find our own humanity...Originally posted by MetalGear:In life, u see 2 types of pple: STRONG, WEAK...
This is the survival of the fittest: Strong will live, weak will die.
'Fundamental Law of Nature'
Qn is: Which one are u?