Originally posted by Day-dreamer:
My relationship is falling apart..

My BF's dad's in the hospital.. And he's pretty stress over it, he's also going overseas within 1 week's time and he wouldnt be back for about a month or two..
We rarely have time together, since he's still working and so am I.
We try to meet up at least once a week...
absence is supposed to make one's heart grow fonder...
It seems to be doing the opposite for me.. We still have our petty quarrels and Im sick of it..
I see us drifting apart and Im starting to feel confused abt my feelings for him...
Are these the signs of a break up?? ....
Or is there anymore hope for the two of us...
Im so confused.. how to test if I still love him??

Absence makes the heart grow fonder - this is true, minus the petty quarrel part though.
Busy, busy and busy - both of your attention should be highly focused on your work. Both rarely meet each other and argument still can take place - this will definitely weaken the foundation of your relationship.

When people meet up often and share equal amount of quarrels, many a times, it isn't so bad, because when you both meet up, you both will definitely enjoy that kind of good time together, goes together with the pinch of quarreling - it counter-act each other. For your case - its the other way round.

Sign of drifting from the relationship? Chances are - it is.
How? Advice?

This is the time to come together for a good talk - not the kind of lunch conversation you would have with your friends, rather the kind people always hated to have for some reasons. To talk with your emotions, good tone and a great spot.

What must you ask? Simply enlightened him about your feelings and ask if he is feeling the same. Look for a possible solution if this is what both party wished. If not - probably the conclusion would be the same. Its important to let him know and if he desire to do or work for a compromise/solution/ways/etc.

P.S: You can't clap with one hand and when the other hands don't react - you just have to forget about clapping altogether.
Cheers