Help needed.... Relationship problem!
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My relationship is falling apart..
My BF's dad's in the hospital.. And he's pretty stress over it, he's also going overseas within 1 week's time and he wouldnt be back for about a month or two..
We rarely have time together, since he's still working and so am I.
We try to meet up at least once a week...
absence is supposed to make one's heart grow fonder...
It seems to be doing the opposite for me.. We still have our petty quarrels and Im sick of it..
I see us drifting apart and Im starting to feel confused abt my feelings for him...
Are these the signs of a break up?? ....
Or is there anymore hope for the two of us...
Im so confused.. how to test if I still love him?? -
Originally posted by Day-dreamer:My relationship is falling apart..
My BF's dad's in the hospital.. And he's pretty stress over it, he's also going overseas within 1 week's time and he wouldnt be back for about a month or two..
We rarely have time together, since he's still working and so am I.
We try to meet up at least once a week...
absence is supposed to make one's heart grow fonder...
It seems to be doing the opposite for me.. We still have our petty quarrels and Im sick of it..
I see us drifting apart and Im starting to feel confused abt my feelings for him...
Are these the signs of a break up?? ....
Or is there anymore hope for the two of us...
Im so confused.. how to test if I still love him??
Absence makes the heart grow fonder - this is true, minus the petty quarrel part though.
Busy, busy and busy - both of your attention should be highly focused on your work. Both rarely meet each other and argument still can take place - this will definitely weaken the foundation of your relationship.
When people meet up often and share equal amount of quarrels, many a times, it isn't so bad, because when you both meet up, you both will definitely enjoy that kind of good time together, goes together with the pinch of quarreling - it counter-act each other. For your case - its the other way round.
Sign of drifting from the relationship? Chances are - it is.
How? Advice?
This is the time to come together for a good talk - not the kind of lunch conversation you would have with your friends, rather the kind people always hated to have for some reasons. To talk with your emotions, good tone and a great spot.
What must you ask? Simply enlightened him about your feelings and ask if he is feeling the same. Look for a possible solution if this is what both party wished. If not - probably the conclusion would be the same. Its important to let him know and if he desire to do or work for a compromise/solution/ways/etc.
P.S: You can't clap with one hand and when the other hands don't react - you just have to forget about clapping altogether.
Cheers -
It's not a matter of 'testing if you still love him'.... But it certainly be a QUESTION of.. "Do you still love him?"Originally posted by Day-dreamer:My relationship is falling apart..
My BF's dad's in the hospital.. And he's pretty stress over it, he's also going overseas within 1 week's time and he wouldnt be back for about a month or two..
We rarely have time together, since he's still working and so am I.
We try to meet up at least once a week...
absence is supposed to make one's heart grow fonder...
It seems to be doing the opposite for me.. We still have our petty quarrels and Im sick of it..
I see us drifting apart and Im starting to feel confused abt my feelings for him...
Are these the signs of a break up?? ....
Or is there anymore hope for the two of us...
Im so confused.. how to test if I still love him??
If your answer is "yes, I do love him..." Then let's just start with the simple thing...? Tell him that you love him.... Let him know how much you actually love him and care for him....
A month or two really isn't such a long time as compared to people going on a long distance relationship where bf has to study abroad for years... It isn't much for bfs outstationed overseas at work for long term projects... Or the guys stuck in camp for years of NS service...
His father's condition would change for sure.. So would he... For better, for worse... Things would change... Just be prepared....
If you don't really feel for each other, this short break would certainly be such a good excuse for both of you to just walk away from each other's lives... Escape...? Is that what you want...? Is your being together just a prelude... Looking forward to this very day...? go think about it...?
Once in a while in our lives we would get confused or stressed up... But that doesn't mean that we would certainly have to start giving up on everything...? Agree? ~reach hand out for this Day-dreamer...~
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u seem an understanding girl...
dun worry so much... take things as they come
ur bf's going abroad in a week's time, for u that's anxiety
his dad's in hospital, for him that's low tide and stressful
petty quarrels will surface cause both are in reasonably bad moods... the slightest things will cause friction...
tell him u're worried for him... give him support in times of need... he needs comfort too even though he may look strong on the outside...
take care and all the best... things are still intact -
talk with him... not "to" him
try to figure out what's eating him... confess to him what's eating you...
if both of you care about each other, then find out the problem and try your damnest to solve it...
but have honest communication with him... find out.. and then solve it..
take care yah? -
even if u dun love him.. pls stay by him for the tough period.. his dad hospitalize n gf leave him? can he take it?