Expecting the moon.....
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I am sure some of us have face this scenario.
There you are, noticing this particular guy/girl and admiring that person from afar for quite a long time. However, when you finally mustered enough courage to chat up with the person, you realised you have fallen for him/her and you found out, unfortunately, that he/she is attached. You begin to miss that person and start to get neurotic whenever he/she is not around. Ultimately, your life results in a mess because you learnt that you can never attain reciprocative feelings from that person.
For goodness sake, the first thing you should do is give him/her ur blessings for their relationship. Maintain as friends if u must but never try to break up their relationship. So, what is my point? It's definitely easier to grow attracted to someone than it is to let go of them. But, I don't think it is necessary to let go. I never tried breaking people's relationship and I never will. What I have let go of is the love that i once had for these particular someone and preparing myself to share that love with someone else.
Ok, so what is the only other possibility? Well, that is that you don't know the person well enough to be their friend. Would you really want to enter a relationship with someone you didn't know well enough to know if you wanted to be their friend? NO. Of course not. If you don't know them well enough to be friends with them, you DEFINITELY don't know them well enough to be in a closer relationship with them.
It's that simple. There is a reason that people use the phrase "more than friends." A relationship is more than a friendship. Don't become more than friends until you are friends first. You must not expect the moon at such short notice. Be content with what you have and even as friends, you LIFE, for once will be a happier one.
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Moral of the story
Dun decide too early your feelings for someone until getting to know them better. Make a better judgement by that time, neither too late nor too early. If feelings are mutual, things will be possible for both. If not, love is learning to let go & giving your blessing to the one you love -
You firstly, have to outweigh the advantages of a friendship and a relationship. For sure, some of us prefer friendship over a relationship or maybe vice versa.However, we need to understand why such a thing happen in the first place.Originally posted by loneryu00:Oh.........
In a relationship you have certain standard requirements that have to be met, you have to look good for that special someone, pamper them and such. Pressure is certain in almost every single relationship. Now take a friendship for instance, you talk on the phone usually, you see each other when you can, you can forgive and forget easily without any hard conscience. Intimacy is not a necessity, it's an option depending on how close you are
For a friendship, you can widen or narrow it as and when you like. For instance, you go to a party and u widen ur circle of friends but narrowing of circle of friends is not recommended.
Then there's arguing. I think this is not a good idea in either case. However you may get away with it and work things out if you are just friends. If you are involved in a relationship, arguments can cause a great decline in communication and ultimately, the relationship.
Both friendships and relationships need communication. You have to be able to tell the other person how you feel when you feel it. Otherwise it all gets bottled up inside of you and it could end up making you burst. This is not a pretty sight. I feel it is easier to communicate something to your friend however. Now you should be able to talk with that special someone but friends are more honest. If you're involved, you try not to hurt the other person. This is where communication comes to be a big part of relationships.
Accountability cum Resposibility is also another factor especially in friendships, be accountable for your actions and reactions. In relationships, you have to be accountable for things you do together and also when you aren't together to stay focused and faithful to the other person you are involved with. Infidelity is a big NO NO!
You are supposed to have fun in a relationship but you need a basis first. Essentially you need a friendship, a good friendship as a base for a relationship. This way you'll know if you get along, your do's and don'ts and your pet peeves. You can't build a friendship from a relationship but you can build a relationship from a friendship. -
y sound so much like my last relationship?
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haha...now then u knowOriginally posted by harryryan:y sound so much like my last relationship?
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erm.. the first thing that came to my mind when i wrote this was how uncannily you appearedOriginally posted by harryryan:y sound so much like my last relationship?
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i here all along...me patrol e forums one mah...actually cos at work n nothing much to do so here all e time...he...he...Originally posted by Master -_-:erm.. the first thing that came to my mind when i wrote this was how uncannily you appeared -
he's not referring to ur appearance.Originally posted by harryryan:i here all along...me patrol e forums one mah...actually cos at work n nothing much to do so here all e time...he...he...
he's referring to how much u resembles to the content discussed.
u very cute leh -
Originally posted by reallieRAW:he's not referring to ur appearance.
he's referring to how much u resembles to the content discussed.
u very cute leh -
Cute?Originally posted by reallieRAW:he's not referring to ur appearance.
he's referring to how much u resembles to the content discussed.
u very cute leh 
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he think i gal is it?haha,,,, i go borrow knife n gunz from xln....Originally posted by loneryu00:Cute? -
No lah... she tink U cute for a guy... dats y...Originally posted by harryryan:he think i gal is it?haha,,,, i go borrow knife n gunz from xln....
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ha...actually i e blur sotong kind....sotong cute meh?Originally posted by loneryu00:No lah... she tink U cute for a guy... dats y... -
I a guy... so no comment... ask a gal... All I noe is... sometimes I do things, ppl sae I cute... dun get them...Originally posted by harryryan:ha...actually i e blur sotong kind....sotong cute meh?
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DisclaimerOriginally posted by reallieRAW:he's not referring to ur appearance.
he's referring to how much u resembles to the content discussed.
u very cute leh Cute = reply provided, not opinion for person discussed 
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wah lau... this thread serious thread leh
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not my fault
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Originally posted by harryryan:not my fault
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Story of German Gas (Fart)
When British fart, they say 'Pardon me'
When American fart, they apologize 'Excuse me'
When Singaporeans fart, they go 'Not me, Not me!'
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something to do with the topic?Originally posted by reallieRAW:Story of German Gas (Fart)
When British fart, they say 'Pardon me'
When American fart, they apologize 'Excuse me'
When Singaporeans fart, they go 'Not me, Not me!'
next time u start a topic, i know what to do -
Originally posted by reallieRAW:Story of German Gas (Fart)
When British fart, they say 'Pardon me'
When American fart, they apologize 'Excuse me'
When Singaporeans fart, they go 'Not me, Not me!' 
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Chey........reply to topic lor
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think he wanna suan me onli lahOriginally posted by loneryu00: -
nvm.. continue crapping... no one gives a big fu[/i]ck to any of my topics... spare the thought there.. i'm going off now