:(:( She is feeling low but i dunno wad happen :( :( :(
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[23:08:54] GO RABBIT G..: u still busy? need help?
[23:09:07] Oliver Jame..: nvm/
[23:09:07] Oliver Jame..: no need..
[23:09:12] Oliver Jame..: be independent
[23:09:17] GO RABBIT G..: LOL
WHAHAH
[23:09:30] GO RABBIT G..: say la.. mayb i help faster
[23:09:38] Oliver Jame..: nvm..
[23:09:41] GO RABBIT G..: k
[23:09:42] Oliver Jame..: i hurt even more..
[23:09:44] Oliver Jame..: nth lqr..
[23:09:52] GO RABBIT G..: something to do wif david?
[23:09:59] Oliver Jame..: no lar..
[23:10:00] Oliver Jame..: xiao..
[23:10:04] GO RABBIT G..: den u say wad hurt
[23:10:05] Oliver Jame..: stupid..
[23:10:09] Oliver Jame..: huh??
[23:10:15] GO RABBIT G..: i hurt even more..
[23:10:22] Oliver Jame..: huh
[23:10:23] Oliver Jame..: 4 wat??
[23:10:30] GO RABBIT G..: Oliver James(Ian)is soOOOOO HANDSOME~!!!
says:
i hurt even more..
[23:10:58] Oliver Jame..: huh
[23:11:02] Oliver Jame..: huh!!
[23:11:06] Oliver Jame..: did i say tt
[23:11:09] GO RABBIT G..: DUH!!!!
[23:11:10] Oliver Jame..: oh..
[23:11:13] Oliver Jame..: thne wrong..
[23:11:14] Oliver Jame..: pp..
[23:11:15] Oliver Jame..: sorry..
[23:11:17] Oliver Jame..: ahhahahaha
[23:11:37] GO RABBIT G..: msg wrong u mean?
[23:11:49] Oliver Jame..: i mean i msg i alot of pp..
[23:11:54] Oliver Jame..: thne i go wrong site..
[23:11:55] Oliver Jame..: happi\\?
[23:12:35] GO RABBIT G..: wtf u toking
[23:12:39] GO RABBIT G..: so now u busy chatting ar
[23:12:46] Oliver Jame..: NVM!!
[23:12:49] Oliver Jame..: AS LONG AS TT WAS NOT REFERRIGN 2 U!!!
[23:14:50] GO RABBIT G..: wow lao u like keep so much thing from me..
WE ARE GD FREND RITE!!
[23:15:14] y i still h..: wa!!!!
[23:15:19] y i still h..: I DIDNT KEEP ANYTHING LAR!!!
[23:15:22] y i still h..: IS NTH!!
[23:15:26] y i still h..: JUX TT I NO TIME 2 SAY...
[23:15:31] GO RABBIT G..: relac
[23:15:32] y i still h..: N U CANT GET THIGN S..
[23:15:35] GO RABBIT G..: i joking la!
[23:15:35] y i still h..: SO NVM!!!!!!!!1
[23:15:36] GO RABBIT G..: relac
[23:15:43] y i still h..: i relali no mood 2 tok..
[23:15:46] y i still h..: so scram 1st..
[23:15:49] y i still h..: b4 i realli burst
[23:15:53] GO RABBIT G..: kk
[23:15:56] GO RABBIT G..: sry -
oliver james... is her.. the other nick is me.. jus a quick summary of our conversation.. i also dun quite wad she means.. the sentence "I hurt even more" is sure not msging to me.. tt means she msging other? she no mood to tok to only me? or she only wanan tok to tt particular person?? i noe i a bit fan cos recently i like show her a bit i am jealous cos she reply me very lan lan like tt.. she is not my stead.. but i cant help it.. den we quarrel.. tts when she bcome like low mood den i dunno wad happen i cant do any shit.. i msg her trying to help n she ask me to scram
i noe she no mood to tok.. i can understand.. i realiee damn sad..
dun think u guys noe wad i toking abt cos its only a quick unclear summary.. jus nid a place to vent my sadness -
if she finds u a trusted confidante she will share with u eventually. and u can't force someone to trust u.
and also, i find it sometimes that i'm troubled but for some reason just don't bother to find someone to talk to. and if u know me personally u'll know i TALK ALOT! so gotta see mood sometimes..
don't stress too much, give her her space.
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Invaa
as much as I sympathize sometimes you have to make ur own decisions in life, coming here asking for answers all the time will not change anything. Do wat you think is right and hey if it screws up then so be it, not everything comes on a silver platter. -
i jus need a place a "su ku"
should i msg her something like.. i noe tis few days u quite down n i very fan.. i jus trying to cheer u up.. sorry.. -
Y not get some good frens out and see what they say over supper would that not be better?
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Is she attached to someone else?
cause I'm sure ur interested in her in some way -
yo invaa, i haven't really been following ur stories fervently, but have noticed u post almost everytime something "bad" happens between u and her, which is like VERY often!Originally posted by InVaa:i jus need a place a "su ku"
should i msg her something like.. i noe tis few days u quite down n i very fan.. i jus trying to cheer u up.. sorry..
i'm not saying i'm sick of reading ur stories, but maybe the energy is better put elsewhere. typing it out like this constantly just means that u can't get it out of ur head and that's wat u've gotta do now. like the suggestion above, maybe go out with some friends for supper or kopi, of course u DON'T have to talk about her.
u know just an example, just LAST NITE... my housemate (guy) and i were chatting for quite a while, about girls. so we talk talk talk like quite depressing like that... then we changed topic to our dreams, or education, or life experiences, how much money we wanna earn, wat we should do with our lives, stuff like work where, travel where, live where. then we spoke about things like war, and disease and things happening around us.
there's SO MANY things to talk about and we found ourselves laughing and it was just so interesting talking about other things, and realised that we just shouldn't worry about "girls" too much. the more we talk about it the more depress it seems, and always ends up with... arrr wat to do? time will tell.
so sometimes just forget about it, talk about something else helps. i sure hope u have good buddies then u can really just tok cock with. -
Seriously, I agree with Joho.Originally posted by jOhO:yo invaa, i haven't really been following ur stories fervently, but have noticed u post almost everytime something "bad" happens between u and her, which is like VERY often!
i'm not saying i'm sick of reading ur stories, but maybe the energy is better put elsewhere. typing it out like this constantly just means that u can't get it out of ur head and that's wat u've gotta do now. like the suggestion above, maybe go out with some friends for supper or kopi, of course u DON'T have to talk about her.
u know just an example, just LAST NITE... my housemate (guy) and i were chatting for quite a while, about girls. so we talk talk talk like quite depressing like that... then we changed topic to our dreams, or education, or life experiences, how much money we wanna earn, wat we should do with our lives, stuff like work where, travel where, live where. then we spoke about things like war, and disease and things happening around us.
there's SO MANY things to talk about and we found ourselves laughing and it was just so interesting talking about other things, and realised that we just shouldn't worry about "girls" too much. the more we talk about it the more depress it seems, and always ends up with... arrr wat to do? time will tell.
so sometimes just forget about it, talk about something else helps. i sure hope u have good buddies then u can really just tok cock with.
Don't revolve on your life on just love (furthermore not even your gf) and that's it.
The other thing is that: you kept pressuring her to tell you things that she is so relunctant to speak to you. Firstly: she has her own rights to keep things to herself. Come on, if she feels comfortable with you - she would AUTOMATICALLY tell you, save you the hassle of trying to get her to talk about her stuff. I don't understand what's wif the 'we are good friends and there must be no secret between us' kind of thing.she no mood to tok to only me? or she only wanan tok to tt particular person?? i noe i a bit fan cos recently i like show her a bit i am jealous cos she reply me very lan lan like tt.. she is not my stead.. but i cant help it.. den we quarrel..
Pardon for my words, offensive not intended - I feel the need to post this.
I) Why can't she talk to other people? (My reasoning and logic behind this is put bluntly into this statement: Who are you to her?')
II) Show that you are jealous doesn't mean that she has to react in a way to compromise your feelings.
III) You know she is not your gf - then why act as if you are one?
Under psychological term Johari Window - there is this thingy called the Hidden Self - there is something about you that you don't realise is pissing and irritating her, which is ruining your chance to maintain good friendship with her or even possible romance.
Self reflect and read books on understanding woman - I am sure it will help alot.
Peace -
brudder yunnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn
invaa is lucky, both of us are constantly advicing him!
well said too man, it's good to be slapped with the truth sometimes, even tho it may seem harsh.
bottom line invaa: who are u to her? if she's just a NORMAL fren if she don't tell u, u'd probably bochap, right? -
mmm.. alright from now on i will stop contacting her.. thx a lot
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er... we (or I) never said that u had to...Originally posted by InVaa:mmm.. alright from now on i will stop contacting her.. thx a lot
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You don't have to stop contacting her, however if it is a choice you want to make, then its your decision made, not mine. Life is about making choices that you know it will do you good and not listening to everyone's opinon and make a decision out from there. Seriously speaking you don't have to read my post - you can read posts that doesn't speak of the picture - however, its you who will sink deeper. If I have to be the bad guy to prick your dream and speak the truth to you - I will.Originally posted by InVaa:mmm.. alright from now on i will stop contacting her.. thx a lot
You know what's the whole problem between you and this girl? You want to chase - using good friend as a screen cover, feel she is friendly - no sense of security and when communicating with her, you are causing this rift distance between you and her UNCONSCIOUSLY. You don't realise it, neither do I, until when you paste your conversation with her onto this topic and when I read it, the whole picture is much clearer.
Private message ANY ladies, preferrably 18 years and above, in sgforum and paste this conversation to them. Ask them if they were her, will they get pissed and irritated - you answer will surface. (Key points that has to be mentioned: You are just her normal friend.)
Its has nothing to do with right or wrong - you are only 15 and your love journey is only the beginning. Years down the road and after a couple of relationships - come back and read this post. You will discover the reason why yourself suddenly. Enlightenment? I guess so.
P.S: You will be fine. The world don't stop spinning because of her -learn to grip firmly onto your life and not let your life be gripped by others.
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Nope, I wasn't constantly replying to every of his post - because what he posted mostly is surface problem - what topic to talk, she angry how I sad, etc. This topic probably speaks the root of the problem itself, or at least somewhere near.Originally posted by jOhO:brudder yunnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn
invaa is lucky, both of us are constantly advicing him!
well said too man, it's good to be slapped with the truth sometimes, even tho it may seem harsh.
bottom line invaa: who are u to her? if she's just a NORMAL fren if she don't tell u, u'd probably bochap, right?
Invaa - you may treat her like a good friend or a best friend - but that doesn't mean that in her preception, she is doing the same thing. In love - nothing is absolute. Assumption kills.
Anyway: yoOoZzZz jooohOOoooo! (Just to reply back)
Peace -
It's not that... But UNDERSTAND that your world does NOT revolves around just A GIRL.... No matter HOW IMPORTANT she might seems to you...?Originally posted by InVaa:mmm.. alright from now on i will stop contacting her.. thx a lot -
i dunno wtf is wrong wif her.. she had a BIG CHANGE in atitude towards me.. i speak wif her like a close frend in the conversation bcos she use to treat me as 1.. share secrets.. tell problems.. i dunno y tis few days she stop auto msging me online replying like half dead.. i noe i sound fan in the conversation but.. i jus cant get it y she had a change in atitude towards me..
Not long before, she wanan buy hp.. her 1st 1.. den she like ask me which fon to get den her tone sound like u say which model den i buy which model.. den we share secrets.. call each other.. mayb i think too much.. ALL these is nothing last time she alwayz call me.. or when she is online she will msg me.. but now.. like online for 2hrs.. i dun even receive a hi.. she is a girl who is VERY open to girls n scare to be lonely.. mayb those days she very lonely? jus need need some1 to tok to?
i dunno y when i start to tok to her i will start to make thing worse by pestering her.. i read back the log file n i hate myself for saying all those sh!t.. -
wad do u mean? can further explain? u conclude tis from my previous post?Originally posted by Yunhaier:You know what's the whole problem between you and this girl? You want to chase - using good friend as a screen cover, feel she is friendly - no sense of security and when communicating with her, you are causing this rift distance between you and her UNCONSCIOUSLY. You don't realise it, neither do I, until when you paste your conversation with her onto this topic and when I read it, the whole picture is much clearer. -
If she doesn't want to speak to you - she wants to be left alone. Even if she wants someone to talk to her - OBVIOUSLY you ain't the person because if she wants you - she would message you immediately instead of you messaging her.Originally posted by InVaa:i dunno wtf is wrong wif her.. she had a BIG CHANGE in atitude towards me.. i speak wif her like a close frend in the conversation bcos she use to treat me as 1.. share secrets.. tell problems.. i dunno y tis few days she stop auto msging me online replying like half dead.. i noe i sound fan in the conversation but.. i jus cant get it y she had a change in atitude towards me..
Not long before, she wanan buy hp.. her 1st 1.. den she like ask me which fon to get den her tone sound like u say which model den i buy which model.. den we share secrets.. call each other.. mayb i think too much.. ALL these is nothing last time she alwayz call me.. or when she is online she will msg me.. but now.. like online for 2hrs.. i dun even receive a hi.. she is a girl who is VERY open to girls n scare to be lonely.. mayb those days she very lonely? jus need need some1 to tok to?
i dunno y when i start to tok to her i will start to make thing worse by pestering her.. i read back the log file n i hate myself for saying all those sh!t.. -
Conclusion is simply being:Originally posted by InVaa:wad do u mean? can further explain? u conclude tis from my previous post? IF she wants to be left alone, leave her alone because if she wants you to be there for her - she will ASK. Keep pestering her when she wants to be left alone will further agitate her. -
have you ever thought that instead of deeming urself as someone who can brighten up her day, you may be a prick in her ass? Dun restrict her every single move as you are not even lovebirds yet, nothing more than mere friends.
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Originally posted by Yunhaier:Conclusion is simply being: IF she wants to be left alone, leave her alone because if she wants you to be there for her - she will ASK. Keep pestering her when she wants to be left alone will further agitate her. How true.
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i will erase her no. n dun go msn to prevent myself from pestering her anymore.. hate myself for being a fcking pest
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My dear friend, please dun degenerate urself until like that...Originally posted by InVaa:i will erase her no. n dun go msn to prevent myself from pestering her anymore.. hate myself for being a fcking pest
i dun like the fact that my fellow dude here has failed in love... love is all about timings..and they play a significant part in every relationship.. u just have to be patient because that trait is lacking mostly in everyday man
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U are just a fren. there are things u will not noe as a fren. And gers when they dun want to tok, they really dun wan to tok..... so y not u just leave her alone and let her be until she is iin the mood to ok again...? just be there for her when she needs it and support her...Originally posted by InVaa:oliver james... is her.. the other nick is me.. jus a quick summary of our conversation.. i also dun quite wad she means.. the sentence "I hurt even more" is sure not msging to me.. tt means she msging other? she no mood to tok to only me? or she only wanan tok to tt particular person?? i noe i a bit fan cos recently i like show her a bit i am jealous cos she reply me very lan lan like tt.. she is not my stead.. but i cant help it.. den we quarrel.. tts when she bcome like low mood den i dunno wad happen i cant do any shit.. i msg her trying to help n she ask me to scram i noe she no mood to tok.. i can understand.. i realiee damn sad..
dun think u guys noe wad i toking abt cos its only a quick unclear summary.. jus nid a place to vent my sadness
not aski her wat happen and forcefully try to help.. she will hate u more for tt... -
You are being TOO EXTREME... You should calm yourself down a little? Perhaps you are still young and relatively inexperience in a love relationship... Do not know how to grab hold of your emotions proprely... That's why?Originally posted by InVaa:i dunno wtf is wrong wif her.. she had a BIG CHANGE in atitude towards me.. i speak wif her like a close frend in the conversation bcos she use to treat me as 1.. share secrets.. tell problems.. i dunno y tis few days she stop auto msging me online replying like half dead.. i noe i sound fan in the conversation but.. i jus cant get it y she had a change in atitude towards me..
Not long before, she wanan buy hp.. her 1st 1.. den she like ask me which fon to get den her tone sound like u say which model den i buy which model.. den we share secrets.. call each other.. mayb i think too much.. ALL these is nothing last time she alwayz call me.. or when she is online she will msg me.. but now.. like online for 2hrs.. i dun even receive a hi.. she is a girl who is VERY open to girls n scare to be lonely.. mayb those days she very lonely? jus need need some1 to tok to?
i dunno y when i start to tok to her i will start to make thing worse by pestering her.. i read back the log file n i hate myself for saying all those sh!t..