Ppl out there pls help... tml is the moment...
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Haiz... here's the problem, at a sch planning for some stuffs, i met this gal. First day, we did nt tok, second day, only chat on MSN, coz we have a contact list. 3rd day we went to watch movie. (even though she said she watched b4, and say she wanna watch it again)
At first i like her abit. But soon, i realised, she's gentle, soft-spoken and is someone who will initiate conversations... then we were "seen" by some of the sch ppl, they tease, etc etc, and tml we gonna see em, and the teasing will begin. And now, after tat day, i dun think i like her coz she isn't kinda my type... as in, the gals i like are those who will like jokingly tok back or wat la... but she's juz kinda quiet... and she gave hints like, "we are kinda same" etc etc...
So nw, if they start to tease, it will be like my fault la... kinda like the 1 who got her into this stuff... then i oso dunno if i like her anot... i juz feel a bit sian when she chat with me online... my fren says maybe 3 days is too short a time to fully noe her well???
another fren ask me to avoid her if i really dun like her liao, to prevent misunderstandings...
HOW??? HELP!!!
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Who call you to lead her on
lol
just tell her you like this another ger in sch la so easy -
feeling out process...
cannot be her guy, at least be her friend? -
juz sae dat u juz wanna b a fren lor..
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hmm.....if don like better say early if not wait for too long will have misunderstandings....
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yeah i noe be her fren, but they tml wait say n say, wait she wrong idea then tot i cheat her... piang..
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Dear w1nd,Originally posted by w1nd:Haiz... here's the problem, at a sch planning for some stuffs, i met this gal. First day, we did nt tok, second day, only chat on MSN, coz we have a contact list. 3rd day we went to watch movie. (even though she said she watched b4, and say she wanna watch it again)
At first i like her abit. But soon, i realised, she's gentle, soft-spoken and is someone who will initiate conversations... then we were "seen" by some of the sch ppl, they tease, etc etc, and tml we gonna see em, and the teasing will begin. And now, after tat day, i dun think i like her coz she isn't kinda my type... as in, the gals i like are those who will like jokingly tok back or wat la... but she's juz kinda quiet... and she gave hints like, "we are kinda same" etc etc...
So nw, if they start to tease, it will be like my fault la... kinda like the 1 who got her into this stuff... then i oso dunno if i like her anot... i juz feel a bit sian when she chat with me online... my fren says maybe 3 days is too short a time to fully noe her well???
another fren ask me to avoid her if i really dun like her liao, to prevent misunderstandings...
HOW??? HELP!!!
Relationships with someone that you may not like may involve in something disastrous especially if that particular someone belongs in your clique or in the same school as you.
Firstly, in your case, the girl may perceived that you have been leading her on as in the case of chatting and watching movies together. If you have no interest in doing so together with her alone, then why do it? Girls are very emotional beings. Despite having the iron-clad stature that they possess, they crumble with every insensitivity that you may emit. Thus by going out with her and having a liking for her initially, it only goes to show that she may ultimately, have a liking for you too
In any way, you mentioned that you and that girl are subjected to teasing by your friends and that is why, that you have changed your opinion about her. Feelings gone abruptly? I do not think so. Do not put yourself in a juxtapose position by placing you and her with your social circle.
Think about your feelings of her? Do you want the relationship to evolve or do you want it to cease? Ask your heart for only your heart has the answer.
Cheers
*Taken from Taufiq's Theory on Relationships* -
Thanks Taufiq ,
but its like, my feelings for her were nt affected by wat they say, its just tat i duno if i still like her anot... haiz... thanks anyway. -
mayb she jus treat u as normal frend? y frend cannot be 1 boy 1 girl? happy wif the prescence of one another den together la.. dun force urself to do thing u dun like.. do wad u feel is right.. mayb u like her?
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Continue being frens wif her... Slowly hint a little U dun really like her... Or if she da direct type 1, tell her straight. BUT still I tink its better to hint... coz who noes? She oso never took U as a potential "BF"?Originally posted by w1nd:Haiz... here's the problem, at a sch planning for some stuffs, i met this gal. First day, we did nt tok, second day, only chat on MSN, coz we have a contact list. 3rd day we went to watch movie. (even though she said she watched b4, and say she wanna watch it again)
At first i like her abit. But soon, i realised, she's gentle, soft-spoken and is someone who will initiate conversations... then we were "seen" by some of the sch ppl, they tease, etc etc, and tml we gonna see em, and the teasing will begin. And now, after tat day, i dun think i like her coz she isn't kinda my type... as in, the gals i like are those who will like jokingly tok back or wat la... but she's juz kinda quiet... and she gave hints like, "we are kinda same" etc etc...
So nw, if they start to tease, it will be like my fault la... kinda like the 1 who got her into this stuff... then i oso dunno if i like her anot... i juz feel a bit sian when she chat with me online... my fren says maybe 3 days is too short a time to fully noe her well???
another fren ask me to avoid her if i really dun like her liao, to prevent misunderstandings...
HOW??? HELP!!! -
Hey,frens teasing you...those are parts and partial of life. Just smile at those teasing.
I think u need to give more time to this friendship. No use judging at this moment. Whatever it turns out to be, let it be.
Treat her as a friend at this moment. It takes time to develop love. She may not be the one for you now....but who knows u might regret one day. We don't always get what we dream for.
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JUST PRETENT NOTHING HAS HAPPEN.Originally posted by w1nd:Haiz... here's the problem, at a sch planning for some stuffs, i met this gal. First day, we did nt tok, second day, only chat on MSN, coz we have a contact list. 3rd day we went to watch movie. (even though she said she watched b4, and say she wanna watch it again)
At first i like her abit. But soon, i realised, she's gentle, soft-spoken and is someone who will initiate conversations... then we were "seen" by some of the sch ppl, they tease, etc etc, and tml we gonna see em, and the teasing will begin. And now, after tat day, i dun think i like her coz she isn't kinda my type... as in, the gals i like are those who will like jokingly tok back or wat la... but she's juz kinda quiet... and she gave hints like, "we are kinda same" etc etc...
So nw, if they start to tease, it will be like my fault la... kinda like the 1 who got her into this stuff... then i oso dunno if i like her anot... i juz feel a bit sian when she chat with me online... my fren says maybe 3 days is too short a time to fully noe her well???
another fren ask me to avoid her if i really dun like her liao, to prevent misunderstandings...
HOW??? HELP!!! -
why r u so concern abt what other pple might say when you know that she's not the one? anyway, she did not mention she likes you right? and you didn't tell her you like her oso right?? so nothing has happened! just that both of you went to see a movie together does not proof anything.
take it easy bro....ask xln for help to ka cha those gossipy pple loh.
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I suggest u keep your distance but dont avoid her or so... coz girls are vulnerable.. u wouldnt wanna hurt them unintentionally and be labelled as "bad" guy. Just remain as friends...when some sensitive topics arrive when u 2 chat, just give it a twist..crack some jokes..or try to divert e topic...slowly things will cool down when your friends stop teasing u 2.... and who knows coz u only know her for a short period of time, u might wanna know her better to see if she really is your type.
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den u try to tell all ur frenxs lor.. ask the to stop if nt wait bcum too 'hot' to handle...Originally posted by w1nd:yeah i noe be her fren, but they tml wait say n say, wait she wrong idea then tot i cheat her... piang.. -
So how's the outcome?Originally posted by w1nd:Haiz... here's the problem, at a sch planning for some stuffs, i met this gal. First day, we did nt tok, second day, only chat on MSN, coz we have a contact list. 3rd day we went to watch movie. (even though she said she watched b4, and say she wanna watch it again)
At first i like her abit. But soon, i realised, she's gentle, soft-spoken and is someone who will initiate conversations... then we were "seen" by some of the sch ppl, they tease, etc etc, and tml we gonna see em, and the teasing will begin. And now, after tat day, i dun think i like her coz she isn't kinda my type... as in, the gals i like are those who will like jokingly tok back or wat la... but she's juz kinda quiet... and she gave hints like, "we are kinda same" etc etc...
So nw, if they start to tease, it will be like my fault la... kinda like the 1 who got her into this stuff... then i oso dunno if i like her anot... i juz feel a bit sian when she chat with me online... my fren says maybe 3 days is too short a time to fully noe her well???
another fren ask me to avoid her if i really dun like her liao, to prevent misunderstandings...
HOW??? HELP!!! -
I think that you only uncertain of whether you like her or not.
I suggest that you try to know her more before making any decision.
In relationships, go slow...