how to win a girl back?
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well.... so far, all replies are rather like,
move on...
get someone better...
be happy...
its over.....
looks like we all have to wake up to the cold harsh reality hor?
any success story or tips to share? -
from my point of view, as a female, forget it man.
If she likes u enough in the first place, she wouldnt have told you to back off lah~...
U urself also know how to say u werent acting urself the whole you were with her. Even if she does like you at that time, it wasnt the real you that she likes. So why drag on? Why hold on to a relationship that didnt take place and trouble urself? -
i was trying to impress loh... bring out the better side of me....Originally posted by bloom:from my point of view, as a female, forget it man.
If she likes u enough in the first place, she wouldnt have told you to back off lah~...
U urself also know how to say u werent acting urself the whole you were with her. Even if she does like you at that time, it wasnt the real you that she likes. So why drag on? Why hold on to a relationship that didnt take place and trouble urself?
din know she liked me for the "bad" side...
if now, i were to be "bad" from now on, wouldn't it be a bit unnatural liao?
really stupid of me hor... -
be yourself... be honest...
else all your life would be a sham..Originally posted by pinkish purple papayas:i was trying to impress loh... bring out the better side of me....
din know she liked me for the "bad" side...
if now, i were to be "bad" from now on, wouldn't it be a bit unnatural liao?
really stupid of me hor... -
i agree tat we must persude and strive for our happiness.Originally posted by pinkish purple papayas:i was trying to impress loh... bring out the better side of me....
din know she liked me for the "bad" side...
if now, i were to be "bad" from now on, wouldn't it be a bit unnatural liao?
really stupid of me hor...
however we also must know when to let go....
if it is urs, everything will come smooth.
no point showing ur good side. just be urself....
how real and long can u maintein this way .
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just be urself lah.Originally posted by pinkish purple papayas:i was trying to impress loh... bring out the better side of me....
din know she liked me for the "bad" side...
if now, i were to be "bad" from now on, wouldn't it be a bit unnatural liao?
really stupid of me hor...
If she likes you, she likes you.
If she dont, then no matter wat you be, good or bad, she still wont like you. Get it man? -
yeap... heard it a million and one times....
feelings...
there means there...
not there means not there....
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A spell waiting to be cast needs it time to prepare and nuture. Cast too hasty and you lose it potential effect right away. A good spell is a spell made from patience and steadily advancement.Originally posted by pinkish purple papayas:in our last conversation....
i said....cant u give me another chance?
she said...."this kind of things...how to give chances? there means there, not there means not there......"
i said....can we cool down?
she said ok....
i said....will the flame rekindle again after we cool down?
she said........."xxx, i dunno the future.... but i dun think so...."
its been almost a week..... on our cooling off stage...we have not contacted each other since....
please my dear forumers, how could i do to win her back?
tell me the tactics...
tell me the stategies....
tell me the ways.....
tell me ur experiences.....
thanks....
You are not being yourself - woman being sensitive creatures will detect the slightest bit when you are 'acting' upon a role and not being yourself. You lose yourself, you ruin your mystery, you implanted fear into her. She feared because she is not ready to accept the emotional advancement you gave - NATURALLY, she will back off and retreat.
You presumed that woman like straightforward guys - as always, things differ from person to person. If I say that girls are materialistic, so are you going to get her a diamond ring as a gift? No right?
When you want to catch a fish - you throw the bait and hope for it to get hooked and not grab the hook and try to hook up a fish.
Advice?
Back off for a moment and wait to see how things goes. You mentioned what like you too much cannot be friends - again, further ruining whatever small chance you could have. Pressuring tactics never work. And in case you din know - what you did was just that.
She is confused, but the more you tried to frantically reach for her, the more you reveal a side of you that is so anti-seductive. She will drift further. Leave everything to fate now - throw in a break time for a moment. When things get heated up, you need to chill it. When the storm is over, try being a friend, starting all over again - this time, if chances are given to you, dump your pressuring tactics and BE yourself.
Cheers -
Ya... And seems like the lady he's interested in probably don't share the same definition as him...?Originally posted by ^cereal^:I cant quite agree with u on that though...
Love has got no fixed definition, it varies according to different individuals and how you look at 'love' is what you'll be doing to achieve love in the end. -
Originally posted by Yunhaier:
thanks....
A spell waiting to be cast needs it time to prepare and nuture. Cast too hasty and you lose it potential effect right away. A good spell is a spell made from patience and steadily advancement.
You are not being yourself - woman being sensitive creatures will detect the slightest bit when you are 'acting' upon a role and not being yourself. You lose yourself, you ruin your mystery, you implanted fear into her. She feared because she is not ready to accept the emotional advancement you gave - NATURALLY, she will back off and retreat.
You presumed that woman like straightforward guys - as always, things differ from person to person. If I say that girls are materialistic, so are you going to get her a diamond ring as a gift? No right?
When you want to catch a fish - you throw the bait and hope for it to get hooked and not grab the hook and try to hook up a fish.
Advice?
Back off for a moment and wait to see how things goes. You mentioned what like you too much cannot be friends - again, further ruining whatever small chance you could have. [b]Pressuring tactics never work. And in case you din know - what you did was just that.
She is confused, but the more you tried to frantically reach for her, the more you reveal a side of you that is so anti-seductive. She will drift further. Leave everything to fate now - throw in a break time for a moment. When things get heated up, you need to chill it. When the storm is over, try being a friend, starting all over again - this time, if chances are given to you, dump your pressuring tactics and BE yourself.
Cheers [/b]
but could anyone time me,
how long should a break time be? -
Originally posted by pinkish purple papayas:thanks....
but could anyone time me,
how long should a break time be?
It differ from people to people & cases to cases; probably not less than one month though. Some needed longer period, others around that time - use your judgement.