How much do you really love her?Originally posted by PeaceToAll:Hi all,
I just joined this forum and i found it very helpful esp in regard to matters of the heart. So i wish to seek advice from all experts in here, like Yunhaier, etc ... ( I like your love story, Yunhaier ! )
I'll give a backgrd story of my problem. I had know this girl who was my friend's ex-gf. We actually knew each other for quite long, but no contact since she was still my fren's gf. From march, i had been having contact with her as we are taking a course together and we exchanged contact numbers
Thru all this contact, i started to have some feelings for her, n thus i started to ask her out. I bought her to ECP for cycling, went to stadium cove waterfront for a walk cum dinner. I really enjoyed her company.
And now, I felt that I wanted to tell her my feelings that I liked her. But do u think I should ? Or should I delay my timing till later ? We can talk alot during phone or when we met outside. We can talk abt anything and she can tell me that she got some1 who's chasing her (rejected) and she got a crush on some1(she knew that it's only a crush) But, the thing is that all the dates, SMS, phone calls are inititated by me. Is that normal ? How can I tell I have chance ?
I really can't bear to hold on, but I hoped to get a better timing and way to tell her my feelings. Is there any good way ? I know such things can be only 2 results; Success or Failure. Thus, I wanna get it over with and if Failure, i can adjust myself ASAP. But believe me, even if she reject me, I'll still treat her as well.
So all experts, plse help me out and a million thanx !!
I am flattered PeaceToAll - thank you for such kind words.Originally posted by PeaceToAll:Hi all,
I just joined this forum and i found it very helpful esp in regard to matters of the heart. So i wish to seek advice from all experts in here, like Yunhaier, etc ... ( I like your love story, Yunhaier ! )
I'll give a backgrd story of my problem. I had know this girl who was my friend's ex-gf. We actually knew each other for quite long, but no contact since she was still my fren's gf. From march, i had been having contact with her as we are taking a course together and we exchanged contact numbers
Thru all this contact, i started to have some feelings for her, n thus i started to ask her out. I bought her to ECP for cycling, went to stadium cove waterfront for a walk cum dinner. I really enjoyed her company.
And now, I felt that I wanted to tell her my feelings that I liked her. But do u think I should ? Or should I delay my timing till later ? We can talk alot during phone or when we met outside. We can talk abt anything and she can tell me that she got some1 who's chasing her (rejected) and she got a crush on some1(she knew that it's only a crush) But, the thing is that all the dates, SMS, phone calls are inititated by me. Is that normal ? How can I tell I have chance ?
I really can't bear to hold on, but I hoped to get a better timing and way to tell her my feelings. Is there any good way ? I know such things can be only 2 results; Success or Failure. Thus, I wanna get it over with and if Failure, i can adjust myself ASAP. But believe me, even if she reject me, I'll still treat her as well.
So all experts, plse help me out and a million thanx !!
Originally posted by PeaceToAll:Hi all,
I just joined this forum and i found it very helpful esp in regard to matters of the heart. So i wish to seek advice from all experts in here, like Yunhaier, etc ... ( I like your love story, Yunhaier ! )
I'll give a backgrd story of my problem. I had know this girl who was my friend's ex-gf. We actually knew each other for quite long, but no contact since she was still my fren's gf. From march, i had been having contact with her as we are taking a course together and we exchanged contact numbers
Thru all this contact, i started to have some feelings for her, n thus i started to ask her out. I bought her to ECP for cycling, went to stadium cove waterfront for a walk cum dinner. I really enjoyed her company.
And now, I felt that I wanted to tell her my feelings that I liked her. But do u think I should ? Or should I delay my timing till later ? We can talk alot during phone or when we met outside. We can talk abt anything and she can tell me that she got some1 who's chasing her (rejected) and she got a crush on some1(she knew that it's only a crush) But, the thing is that all the dates, SMS, phone calls are inititated by me. Is that normal ? How can I tell I have chance ?
I really can't bear to hold on, but I hoped to get a better timing and way to tell her my feelings. Is there any good way ? I know such things can be only 2 results; Success or Failure. Thus, I wanna get it over with and if Failure, i can adjust myself ASAP. But believe me, even if she reject me, I'll still treat her as well.
So all experts, plse help me out and a million thanx !!
What you want to do: just be yourself would be the best - the more you want to be something that is not naturally from you, the weirder you will appear and she may switch defensive mode on.Originally posted by PeaceToAll:Thanx guys for your posting.
I think thru n i also realised that I shouldn't be too haste. So i will plan my schedule n the day that i am gonna reveal to her. My idea is to meet up at Mt Faber's Altivo and we watch sunset together. After hving our dinner, i'll take out the flowers (brought n given to them for safe keeping earlier) and then tell her that I;m giving flowers to her, as i am going to tell her abt SOMETHING... how's that ??? I need ideas for improve my proposal further.
And something abt our relationship. We can talk abt anything, n sometimes, we can talk like pure frens, sometimes we can talk abt matters of the heart ... so do u think its normal ? I can't prevent myself from talking "cork" with her ... do u think i shld constraint my talking and talk more "charming" stuff to her ??
Thank you once again.![]()
Suggest not to use the flower. if she is not prepared, it might be too shocking for her.Originally posted by PeaceToAll:Thanx guys for your posting.
I think thru n i also realised that I shouldn't be too haste. So i will plan my schedule n the day that i am gonna reveal to her. My idea is to meet up at Mt Faber's Altivo and we watch sunset together. After hving our dinner, i'll take out the flowers (brought n given to them for safe keeping earlier) and then tell her that I;m giving flowers to her, as i am going to tell her abt SOMETHING... how's that ??? I need ideas for improve my proposal further.
And something abt our relationship. We can talk abt anything, n sometimes, we can talk like pure frens, sometimes we can talk abt matters of the heart ... so do u think its normal ? I can't prevent myself from talking "cork" with her ... do u think i shld constraint my talking and talk more "charming" stuff to her ??
Thank you once again.![]()
she has already sent out signals to u either to get u to speed up the process or the to get u to back off the gas... cause if she can tell u that she rejected some guy liao and has a crush on somone and bothers to explain that it's just a crush... she might be hinting u that she can accept u... just let her know how u feel about her, there's nothing wrong about revealing one's feelings...Originally posted by PeaceToAll:Hi all,
I just joined this forum and i found it very helpful esp in regard to matters of the heart. So i wish to seek advice from all experts in here, like Yunhaier, etc ... ( I like your love story, Yunhaier ! )
I'll give a backgrd story of my problem. I had know this girl who was my friend's ex-gf. We actually knew each other for quite long, but no contact since she was still my fren's gf. From march, i had been having contact with her as we are taking a course together and we exchanged contact numbers
Thru all this contact, i started to have some feelings for her, n thus i started to ask her out. I bought her to ECP for cycling, went to stadium cove waterfront for a walk cum dinner. I really enjoyed her company.
And now, I felt that I wanted to tell her my feelings that I liked her. But do u think I should ? Or should I delay my timing till later ? We can talk alot during phone or when we met outside. We can talk abt anything and she can tell me that she got some1 who's chasing her (rejected) and she got a crush on some1(she knew that it's only a crush) But, the thing is that all the dates, SMS, phone calls are inititated by me. Is that normal ? How can I tell I have chance ?
I really can't bear to hold on, but I hoped to get a better timing and way to tell her my feelings. Is there any good way ? I know such things can be only 2 results; Success or Failure. Thus, I wanna get it over with and if Failure, i can adjust myself ASAP. But believe me, even if she reject me, I'll still treat her as well.
So all experts, plse help me out and a million thanx !!
Don't rush... Do the appropriate things and just let nature take its course...Originally posted by PeaceToAll:Thanx to all who replied my posting ... i'm really heartened ...
Well, I believe i do luv her thru all the moments i had been together. I had developed this luv for her that I felt that I need to tell her my feelings, and hopefully know what's her feeling are for me too.
I do belive the whole issue now is "Time" ... if i tell her now, I may be too hasty and may not produce the desired effect. I may also lose the time to open myself up to her and also know her better. But, if i do not say earlier, there could also be a possibility that some1 may beat me to it, and she may agree to "him" instead of me, due to my own procrastination ...
That's the dilemma i am in now ... to tell now, or later ? I know its a very subjective argument, but i hope to listen to all views before i decide my choice. And r there any nice way/method i can do/employ to make sure my "spell" is cast appropriately ?
Again, thanks to all who contribute to my posting, esp Yunhaier.
Ah, understanding woman is a skill the acquire and its a new experience (though not exactly brand-new when you get the hang on it through a few relationships) with different woman. Everyone is unique - be it by character or physical appearance.Originally posted by PeaceToAll:Thanks guys, I'm really grateful to all who helped me out.
I think I perhaps may be trying and thinking too much ... I also believe I should just be myself and know her better in the process.
We met today, and she told me sth; she was deeper than what I thought and she may be different from what i perceived. How come all gers like to say someting like this ?? My ex said it and now she too ... issit gers are so complex in their character and thinking ? So does that meant we can't interpret their actions in our perceived rational/logical way ? I am confused no doubt ... but I'll steer my ship smoothly and try my best to understand her.
Hope experts out there could help me out. Thanks.