1. Be realistic about each other.
Don't try to turn ur partner into something he or she is not. Let's
face
it, guys-there's only 1 Pamela Anderson in the world, and even she has
had
her implants removed! Give ur gal a break and understand that her
physical
appearance is NOT going to change overnite with the help of a few
facials !
or treat ments. And ladies, Brad Pitt has already been taken, so u're
gonna
have to do with what ur guy is like! Chill out, love each other for
what u
are. There is more to ur partner than what meets the eye.
2. Always talk things out.
Now guys, I know this is not ur fave pastime or mode of resolving
issues,
but u know what? This works with the gals. Don't make assumptions about
each other's feelings. Learn to xpress urself better so that ur partner
undrstands what u're angry about, or hurt about, or even happy about!
When
u stop talking to each other from the heart, it's the beginning of the
end.
3. Do stuff together.
Make an effort to do things together. Do some sports or involve
urselves in
some shared activities; something both of u enjoy or are interested in.
It
could be as simple as watching movies together, or jus strolling
hand-in-hand down Orchard Road. Watch soccor with him once in a while
though the green patch on TV puts u to sleep in 3 seconds. And guys, do
give in if ur gal asks for another day at window-shopping, rather than
suggest that she go out with her girlfriends for "that sort of
activities"
instead. If u're spending more time with ur friends rather than with ur
partner, it's a warning sign that u're drifting apart!!!
4. Meet each other halfway.
If he agrees to throw out that rotten T-shirt with the "The_Rock"
print, u
shouldn't kick up much of a fuss if he asks u to keep ur room tidy.
There's
gotta be a little giving and taking in a relationship, so learn to meet
each other halfway.
5.Show ur love
Buy her flowers or candy or perfume everynow and then, even if u have
been
together for 5years. It's wonderful to continue showing someone that u
care
for him or her. Cook him a special meal, paint him a Valentine's Day
card.
Knit him mini-socks he can't wear ( like for decoration purposes => ),
buy
him a packet of milk for breakfast, or pack his wardrobe for him...so
he
knows u can still be romantic and loving despite having been together
for
quite a while.
6. Respect each other.
Stop making jokes about her hair or skin, or whatever it is u love to
laugh
at. Ask urself if she thinks if its funny. And if he has an inferiority
complex about his height, stop ogling at tall guys and make him feel
worse!
Love is about respecting each other's feelings and being sensitive to
each
other at all times.
7. Bury the past.
Stop bringing up the past. Gals..don't bring up the happy things about
u
and ur ex to ur guy, it would jus make him jealous or unhappy. And
guys,
don't talk about the happy times that u had with ur ex or mention about
her
in ur every other sentence as it would make ur gal feel un-happy and
she
might think that u saying all this b'cos u are gonna get back with ur
ex or
not interested in her anymore.
8. Sit on ur jealousy.
All of us go thru' spells of insecurity at the beginning of the
relationship, but don't translate that insecurity into jealousy. If
u're
gonna go through ur partner's mail and cupboard, and eavesdropping on
conversations, u know something is wrong - with u!!! Jealousy is like a
poison that slowly spreads thru' the relationship before finally
killing
it. Trust ur partner; love has to have trust in it.
9. Keep ur commitments to each other.
If ur partner is standing u up all the time and cancelling dates and
breaking promises, u need to talk! If u're in a relationship, make ur
partner ur priority and don't disappoint them if u can help it. It's
really
terrible when someone promises to take u to dinner, and then calls to
cancel it. Don't make promises u can't keep. If ur partner starts to
feel
that he/she is not important enough to u, u may jus lose him/her.
10. Be honest.
Honesty is not scowling at how awful she looks first thing in the
morning,
or telling him that he has the biceps of a fly~! When we say "be
honest",
we mean expressing ur feelings clearly, not being bitingly cruel. When
u're
hurt, say so, and when u're angry, tell him/her, w/o getting
hysterical. If
u can't be honest with ur partner, who can u be honest with? æ Love is
also
about honesty, and a relationship where no honesty exists probabl! y
isn't
worth it!
