Originally posted by m.c.king:Recently, I wrote a letter to a gal which I have loved secretly for 3 years already telling her about my feeling. You see 3 years ago when I was about to tell her, she just found a bf, so I refrained from breaking this to her.
Hence I've been pretty moody and kept asking myself, "what if I had told her about my feeling? What could have happened then?".
In the end, a few days ago, I decided to end this guessing game and just wrote a letter to her explaining everything. I also stated that I'm not expecting anything from her now since we've almost lost touch for so long and she may already be engaged liaoz, but I'm just seeking an answer to a question that has been bothering me for years. Once I get the answer I'll move on with my life and leave her alone.
Well, it sure feels great to finally get it off my chest. Now I've just slotted the letter into the postal box and waiting for her reply. It could be a simple "yes" or "no" but it more than suffices.
I think I've finally done the correct thing to trash everything out and move on, instead of leaving it to fester longer and more years of agony for me. What do you think? Do you think I've done the right thing? Or is it totally uncalled for?
Originally posted by m.c.king:Just to to precise, I'm not asking her to accept me or anything. The question I asked her was: If I had told you my feeling 3 years ago, would you at that time had said "yes"?
She can either say "yes" or "no" and I'll still move on you see. I'm not forcing her to say anything I wish to hear. There's no "standard answer" expected. If she says "no", at least I can tell myself it doesn't matter if I did pose the question to her 3 years ago; we would not have ended up together in the end.
So I'm not asking anything from her *now*. Just needed some clarification in case I get condemned again. I just hate to see the issue dragged on w/o a definite answer on what could have happened.
Originally posted by m.c.king:The worst thing has happened -- she has decided not to answer me at all. Problem is I do not even know she actually received my mail.
I sent her the letter and she did not reply to me either thru email, phone or mail. I sent her 2 SMSes asking her if she has received and read my mail and she never replied. I tried calling her once and she does not pick up my call. She seems to be avoiding me now and not offering me an answer.
I believe she has actually received my letter and is avoiding me. I assume her answer to be a "no".
Some things are better left unsaid....?Originally posted by Parka:I think you can treat it as "No."
I hate people who don't reply when they are asked a question.
Originally posted by Devil1976:Some things are better left unsaid....?
You've got the rights to ask, she've got the rights not to answer you... Since such is her intention, why force your way through and make things difficult for everybody...?Originally posted by m.c.king:The worst thing has happened -- she has decided not to answer me at all. Problem is I do not even know she actually received my mail.
I sent her the letter and she did not reply to me either thru email, phone or mail. I sent her 2 SMSes asking her if she has received and read my mail and she never replied. I tried calling her once and she does not pick up my call. She seems to be avoiding me now and not offering me an answer.
I believe she has actually received my letter and is avoiding me. I assume her answer to be a "no".
X2Originally posted by Parka:Somethings better left unsaid are for people who don't have a habit of `hanging around`.
Some people want to heard just a simple answer. Just a simple answer.
u should have done it long agoOriginally posted by m.c.king:Recently, I wrote a letter to a gal which I have loved secretly for 3 years already telling her about my feeling. You see 3 years ago when I was about to tell her, she just found a bf, so I refrained from breaking this to her.
Hence I've been pretty moody and kept asking myself, "what if I had told her about my feeling? What could have happened then?".
In the end, a few days ago, I decided to end this guessing game and just wrote a letter to her explaining everything. I also stated that I'm not expecting anything from her now since we've almost lost touch for so long and she may already be engaged liaoz, but I'm just seeking an answer to a question that has been bothering me for years. Once I get the answer I'll move on with my life and leave her alone.
Well, it sure feels great to finally get it off my chest. Now I've just slotted the letter into the postal box and waiting for her reply. It could be a simple "yes" or "no" but it more than suffices.
I think I've finally done the correct thing to trash everything out and move on, instead of leaving it to fester longer and more years of agony for me. What do you think? Do you think I've done the right thing? Or is it totally uncalled for?
Originally posted by m.c.king:Recently, I wrote a letter to a gal which I have loved secretly for 3 years already telling her about my feeling. You see 3 years ago when I was about to tell her, she just found a bf, so I refrained from breaking this to her.
Hence I've been pretty moody and kept asking myself, "what if I had told her about my feeling? What could have happened then?".
In the end, a few days ago, I decided to end this guessing game and just wrote a letter to her explaining everything. I also stated that I'm not expecting anything from her now since we've almost lost touch for so long and she may already be engaged liaoz, but I'm just seeking an answer to a question that has been bothering me for years. Once I get the answer I'll move on with my life and leave her alone.
Well, it sure feels great to finally get it off my chest. Now I've just slotted the letter into the postal box and waiting for her reply. It could be a simple "yes" or "no" but it more than suffices.
I think I've finally done the correct thing to trash everything out and move on, instead of leaving it to fester longer and more years of agony for me. What do you think? Do you think I've done the right thing? Or is it totally uncalled for?
wastedOriginally posted by aHGer^83:o well...this scenerio sounds familiar to me tho...hmm...just last yr...a guy from church whom i had liked for 3 yrs...and din gave me any answer...and i was like give it up everything...den he suddenly called me...both of us were single when he suddenly broke the news to me dat he has been liking me for the same amt of time dat i liked him...and ionly said to him..."if 3 yrs ago u tell me dis...if out hesitaion...i wld even gif u my virginity...but u're too late now...ive oready given up hope on the both of us...."
until now...we still keep in touch tho...but only 1 mt h 1 sms...haha~~![]()