I agree....communicate wif yr family members...Originally posted by the Bear:hiding isn't going to help...
maybe can call a "family meeting" of sorts.. where only 1 person can speak at any one time.. tell your side.. let them tell their side.. maybe with his communication, everyone will know what's going on... right now, maybe no one knows what the other side is suffering like or anything...
good luck yah?
U need to discuss wif yr family... Yes... yr brothers included... tell them da situation U r in. Tell them not to spend unnecessarily... until they can earn their own $$$... I sympathize wif U, coz soon after NS I will somewat be in yr shoes...Originally posted by thoreldan:Hello, I'm the eldest son of my family with schooling brothers. My parents did not have savings, hence the main financial responsiblities fell on me. (my father is a relief taxi driver and like to spend money on 4D's and my mother a homemaker)
Ever since I left the army in 01 Dec, I've been saving every cents from my job salary. I've struggling with the household expenses. I dare not spend money on leisure like other young people of my age. Dating and getting a girlfriend is the last thing ever to come to my mind.
One of my brother really likes to waste money on unneccessary things. They hardly understand the circumstance I am in.
I really hate it when I face such big responsibilities and all the sacrifices for my family. At this rate I am going, I think things will be going to be better only after my youngest brother finish school in 5-6 yrs time. I really envy friends who are able to get the things they want for themselves and enjoy themselves out in the weekends. Sometimes I even wish to go hidding and avoid all the problems but I cant do it. What are some of the things I can do? Any suggestions?
How about allocation of money.Originally posted by thoreldan:Hello, I'm the eldest son of my family with schooling brothers. My parents did not have savings, hence the main financial responsiblities fell on me. (my father is a relief taxi driver and like to spend money on 4D's and my mother a homemaker)
Ever since I left the army in 01 Dec, I've been saving every cents from my job salary. I've struggling with the household expenses. I dare not spend money on leisure like other young people of my age. Dating and getting a girlfriend is the last thing ever to come to my mind.
One of my brother really likes to waste money on unneccessary things. They hardly understand the circumstance I am in.
I really hate it when I face such big responsibilities and all the sacrifices for my family. At this rate I am going, I think things will be going to be better only after my youngest brother finish school in 5-6 yrs time. I really envy friends who are able to get the things they want for themselves and enjoy themselves out in the weekends. Sometimes I even wish to go hidding and avoid all the problems but I cant do it. What are some of the things I can do? Any suggestions?
one of my friend is also like in ur shoes.Originally posted by thoreldan:Hello, I'm the eldest son of my family with schooling brothers. My parents did not have savings, hence the main financial responsiblities fell on me. (my father is a relief taxi driver and like to spend money on 4D's and my mother a homemaker)
Ever since I left the army in 01 Dec, I've been saving every cents from my job salary. I've struggling with the household expenses. I dare not spend money on leisure like other young people of my age. Dating and getting a girlfriend is the last thing ever to come to my mind.
One of my brother really likes to waste money on unneccessary things. They hardly understand the circumstance I am in.
I really hate it when I face such big responsibilities and all the sacrifices for my family. At this rate I am going, I think things will be going to be better only after my youngest brother finish school in 5-6 yrs time. I really envy friends who are able to get the things they want for themselves and enjoy themselves out in the weekends. Sometimes I even wish to go hidding and avoid all the problems but I cant do it. What are some of the things I can do? Any suggestions?
Are your brothers mature and old enough to think? If so, calling for a 'family meeting' once in a while as suggested by Bear could be something which might help in the situation....Originally posted by thoreldan:Hello, I'm the eldest son of my family with schooling brothers. My parents did not have savings, hence the main financial responsiblities fell on me. (my father is a relief taxi driver and like to spend money on 4D's and my mother a homemaker)
Ever since I left the army in 01 Dec, I've been saving every cents from my job salary. I've struggling with the household expenses. I dare not spend money on leisure like other young people of my age. Dating and getting a girlfriend is the last thing ever to come to my mind.
One of my brother really likes to waste money on unneccessary things. They hardly understand the circumstance I am in.
I really hate it when I face such big responsibilities and all the sacrifices for my family. At this rate I am going, I think things will be going to be better only after my youngest brother finish school in 5-6 yrs time. I really envy friends who are able to get the things they want for themselves and enjoy themselves out in the weekends. Sometimes I even wish to go hidding and avoid all the problems but I cant do it. What are some of the things I can do? Any suggestions?
Slow and easy boy... Once your family members realise and acknowledge the IMPORTANCE of your part in the family, they would learn to respect your decisions (provided they're reasonable enough?)....Originally posted by thoreldan:Wow thanks for the response from all of you, I feel much better after hearing all the advices. I will officially step in as the finance minister of my family :p