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If you are attached, will you still go out with opposite sex friends on 1 to 1 basis ?
If your bf/gf meet their opposite sex alone, are you able to accept it with an open mind ?
I know that it is nothing when a guy n gal goes out alone as friends. However, will you bring yr partner along when you meet yr opposite sex friend ? -
sometimes is better 2 tell him d true & bring him along...rather than hiding it frm him...hiding frm him will make matter worst if he happen 2 find out...he'll think ur cheating on him...Originally posted by thg7:If you are attached, will you still go out with opposite sex friends on 1 to 1 basis ?
will ask him along
If your bf/gf meet their opposite sex alone, are you able to accept it with an open mind ? will like him 2 ask mi along
I know that it is nothing when a guy n gal goes out alone as friends. However, will you bring yr partner along when you meet yr opposite sex friend ? sure will -
hi ^mm^,Originally posted by ^mm^:sometimes is better 2 tell him d true & bring him along...rather than hiding it frm him...hiding frm him will make matter worst if he happen 2 find out...he'll think ur cheating on him...
my bf does not ask me along when he meets his female friend.
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I will tend to be open abt this to my gf with whoever i go out with. There really shudn be anything to hide. If honesty is practiced then there shudn be any worry for ur partner, whether to bring her along to meet that opp sex friend really have to see thje occassion etc.. mayabe ur opp sex friend have some problems. In all I guess there are certain areas of our lives that really cant mix a lot..Originally posted by thg7:If you are attached, will you still go out with opposite sex friends on 1 to 1 basis ?
If your bf/gf meet their opposite sex alone, are you able to accept it with an open mind ?
I know that it is nothing when a guy n gal goes out alone as friends. However, will you bring yr partner along when you meet yr opposite sex friend ? -
Its pretty normal, unless you know that you bf has ulterior motive, then its time to trash things out. If not, give him the benefit of the doubt. Or when he LIES - thats where the critical issues walks into your love.Originally posted by thg7:If you are attached, will you still go out with opposite sex friends on 1 to 1 basis ?
If your bf/gf meet their opposite sex alone, are you able to accept it with an open mind ?
I know that it is nothing when a guy n gal goes out alone as friends. However, will you bring yr partner along when you meet yr opposite sex friend ?
Have more confident in yourself and remember this: It is NOT neccessary to spend time 1 v 1 with an opposite gender outside for him to dump you and go for her. If he wants to dump you - it doesn't need all that - he will dump eventually. Trust yourself and most importantly: Your own relationship.
P.S: Always give benefit of the doubt UNLESS your bf is a lier and betrayed you before (more than once).
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Sometimes guy wants to spend time with good friends and not ask gf along. Its pretty normal and reasonable. In other ways: if you want to go out with you guy friend 1 v 1, clean motive and intention from both side, then he should also give you the trust too.Originally posted by thg7:hi ^mm^,
my bf does not ask me along when he meets his female friend.
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I will bring my girlfriend along if i am meeting another gal. This is to play safe.
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The word here is 'trust'
If you trust your bf, such thoughts won't be running ard and playing hide and seek with you.
You mentioned he went out on a date with a gal friend. Give him the benefit of the doubt. Even both of you are together, he still has his own circle of friends. As long as there're no ulterior motives for the meet, all should be fine. Same goes for you meeting your other guy friends on a 1 to 1 basis.
To answer ur question, I think bottom line is still how much you trust him and he to you. Think abt it that there's no need for a third party to get involved to cause a r/s to end,if he's not interested in you anymore. Isn't it?Originally posted by thg7:If you are attached, will you still go out with opposite sex friends on 1 to 1 basis ?
If your bf/gf meet their opposite sex alone, are you able to accept it with an open mind ?
I know that it is nothing when a guy n gal goes out alone as friends. However, will you bring yr partner along when you meet yr opposite sex friend ? -
You don't trust yourself.Originally posted by MelonSeed:I will bring my girlfriend along if i am meeting another gal. This is to play safe.
I will use it as a test, to see how much trust she has in me. Afterall, if you want to dump her - you don't have to go through all this big round just to dump her - You would have, for all kind of reasons. -
Originally posted by ^cereal^:
Yes, you are right. If he want to end things with me, he ll try all means to do so.need not just depend on gg out with female friends alone to agitate me.
The word here is [b]'trust'
If you trust your bf, such thoughts won't be running ard and playing hide and seek with you.
You mentioned he went out on a date with a gal friend. Give him the benefit of the doubt. Even both of you are together, he still has his own circle of friends. As long as there're no ulterior motives for the meet, all should be fine. Same goes for you meeting your other guy friends on a 1 to 1 basis.
To answer ur question, I think bottom line is still how much you trust him and he to you. Think abt it that there's no need for a third party to get involved to cause a r/s to end,if he's not interested in you anymore. Isn't it?
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Trust is the key factor in a r/s.
i did tell him how i feel. he said must depend on occasion n timing schedule even if wan to bring me along.
anyway,only when i mentioned the subject, then he asked me if wanted to join him 2ml to meet his frd.
i didn't say yes or no. -
i'd feel a little insecure. unless the relationship is very good then its still fine. but i'd find it an insult if tt person is hitting on her when he knows she has a bf already.
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i will stil go out with my guy frenz lo, cos even if u got a bf, life still goes on.. i certainty nt givin up my social life juz for e sake of a possessive bf..
bt sometimes a white lie works, dun tell him noe tt u r always goin out wif a guy, maybe lie once in a blue moon
i will intro my bf to some of my closest guyfrenz to reassure him tt nthin will hapen..
aiya, most impt is trust... do u trust urself n ur bf tt matter -
Hi Yunhaier,Originally posted by Yunhaier:You don't trust yourself.
I will use it as a test, to see how much trust she has in me. Afterall, if you want to dump her - you don't have to go through all this big round just to dump her - You would have, for all kind of reasons.
you are right too. anyway, thanks for yr advice too
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Just to point out here, I may be wrong.
Firstly, to make things simpler, guys and gals think differently. To him, meeting up with a gal friend is just as simple as that, no ill intentions whatsoever. Just a meet-up and fullstop. To her, we'll think, 'why meet up with a gal friend and you dont want to bring me along?' and it's whole lotsa question marks that follow thru.
Initially he didn't even think about bringing you along to meet his friends from opp sex coz it didn't occur to him that issue is so big. He'll only know you mind when you tell him. So bottom line? Don't expect guys to know what you're thinking. Tell him straight in the face what you want, don't let him go about thinking and guessing what you want. Throw your cards on the table and let him know exactly, your feelings, thoughts etc. Being frank is another impt factor to the r/s.
You don't know how to answer him when you're troubled initially when he don't ask you along? omg.. please settle your internal conflict before you actually tell him what you want... no offence. If I'm him, I'll be damn confused as to what I have to do...Originally posted by thg7:Yes, you are right. If he want to end things with me, he ll try all means to do so.need not just depend on gg out with female friends alone to agitate me.
Trust is the key factor in a r/s.
i did tell him how i feel. he said must depend on occasion n timing schedule even if wan to bring me along.
anyway,only when i mentioned the subject, then he asked me if wanted to join him 2ml to meet his frd.
i didn't say yes or no. -
i don't wan to ans him is becos i was angry that only when i mentioned the subject, then he ask me to go.Originally posted by ^cereal^:
Just to point out here, I may be wrong.
Firstly, to make things simpler, guys and gals think differently. To him, meeting up with a gal friend is just as simple as that, no ill intentions whatsoever. Just a meet-up and fullstop. To her, we'll think, 'why meet up with a gal friend and you dont want to bring me along?' and it's whole lotsa question marks that follow thru.
Initially he didn't even think about bringing you along to meet his friends from opp sex coz it didn't occur to him that issue is so big. He'll only know you mind when you tell him. So bottom line? Don't expect guys to know what you're thinking. Tell him straight in the face what you want, don't let him go about thinking and guessing what you want. Throw your cards on the table and let him know exactly, your feelings, thoughts etc. Being frank is another impt factor to the r/s.
You don't know how to answer him when you're troubled initially when he don't ask you along? omg.. please settle your internal conflict before you actually tell him what you want... no offence. If I'm him, I'll be damn confused as to what I have to do...
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hmm white lie and "trusting each other" is kinda contradictary dun u tink? trust isn't merely just say "oh i trust u i trust u" trust is something which is earned isn't it? and i dun tink lying is a way to earn it. white lies are still lies aren't they? in whatever colour or form it takes.Originally posted by [S]tay:i will stil go out with my guy frenz lo, cos even if u got a bf, life still goes on.. i certainty nt givin up my social life juz for e sake of a possessive bf..
bt sometimes a white lie works, dun tell him noe tt u r always goin out wif a guy, maybe lie once in a blue moon
i will intro my bf to some of my closest guyfrenz to reassure him tt nthin will hapen..
aiya, most impt is trust... do u trust urself n ur bf tt matter
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Why not
If you confident of ur relationship, you won't even think of that as competition. Anyway having a gf/bf doesn't mean u must cut off all social contact wat -
not realli as in cut off....balance it....u can't possible cut off it totally......Originally posted by Forever84:Why not
If you confident of ur relationship, you won't even think of that as competition. Anyway having a gf/bf means u must cut off all social contact wat -
Cut off is too harsh.Originally posted by Forever84:Why not
If you confident of ur relationship, you won't even think of that as competition. Anyway having a gf/bf means u must cut off all social contact wat
my bf thinks that if by asking him to stop contact his gal frds, n spend time with me,that will satisfy me.
That is unreasonable of me doing it.
merely want him to bring me along. yet he claim this n that. saying a lot of things blah blah. sayin he can't possibly ask me to take leave tml aftnoon. True enuff.anyway, ll see if he ll get me to involve in future or not.
me not gg to call or sms him tml aftnoon when he meets his gal frd.
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Easier said than done.Originally posted by duotiga83:not realli as in cut off....balance it....u can't possible cut off it totally......
Balancing btw friends n gf/bf
U may accidentally lost balance on either sides. -
Bish
box myself
shld be 'doesn't mean'
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wouldn't do that if i'm attached...
don't wish to create some unwanted problem for myself in future
hmm.... if my gal go out with guys that i know it's ok loh...
but if i know that that fellow is up to no gd, i'll say NO! -
on the other hand should someone avoid asking a friend of the opposite gender( who is already attached ) out?
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how i wish my bf can think like u .Originally posted by leilan84:wouldn't do that if i'm attached...
don't wish to create some unwanted problem for myself in future
hmm.... if my gal go out with guys that i know it's ok loh...
but if i know that that fellow is up to no gd, i'll say NO!
too bad he is not.
he asked his frd out to meet her alone.
what could i do ?
nothing but to accept the fact