Cherish yourself and your loved ones
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-- the following was written by me to all my friends last thursday... it really happened to me, and it sort of woke me up from some dreamland that if you take much pre-caution, you just can't be too careful... Hope you guys will be enlightened...
You guys ever thought about your life?? about what you will miss if you're not around - as in you're no longer living?? Ever thought who will miss you?? Ever
thought who are the people who will continue to acknowledge your existence in this world?? Ever thought of who you will wish you could see just before you close your eyes for the very last time?? Is your life a day in which you have lived by with some people who you consider them as friends, just because you hang out with them??
Well, I think no matter how old you are, you ought to know who you will want to see for a last time and treat that person or people well... He/she could have been the very person who have been spanking you since
you know what is good and bad. For all you know, this is the very person who have taught you the most important lessons in life.
This is something that happened to me less than 6 hours ago. I was crossing the road and a car just hit me. I'm not injured though, as it was at a very very slow speed and the car hit my leg, but it's just a
push, and I jumped off the bike, and had it land under the car, which sort of shocked the driver. I was not in the wrong too, I was crossing the road legally. However, it left me thinking what will happen if
something had happened to me...
People who knows me will know that I do a lot of reflection. Thinking about my actions and words, whether if they are good or bad, or have hurt someone... I used to recall the days when my dear parents who use to beat me and scold me.. those were always like every day. I think my dear brothers can justify that. For all the things that have done, I
still respect my dear ol' papa and mama at home, and I do love them for all that they have done for my dear brothers and I. Even my dear brothers, I know we have been through a lot. We used to play together, and had our fights together, but in the end we still basically can't be seperated from each other for in us, there's each other.
However on this day, I realized that even when you miss the people that you love and know you will be with them for your whole life... but the thing is you never know when your life will come to an end. Mine could have ended today... Even for all the precaution that you take... I did wait for the white man to come out before I cross the road.. but sometimes, things just happen to you. If I had been involved in a major
accident, I doubt I would even have this chance to realize the life is so delicate. You might not even have the chance to tell your last wishes or even to see you loved ones the last time.
I only want to say, when you still can cherish your own life and your loved ones, even they may be the ones who have hurt you emotionally or physically, just forget the grudges, and love them and cherish them
again, for you may not even have the chance to do it.
Last thing, Pa, Ma, Kor, Jun, I love you...
Lotz of love...
& *hugg|z*...
Ly
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( 'o' ) Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear
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(.)_(.) Beary Bear *Huggiez*...
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No time no chat...how's ur life in america... bad to hear tat u r involve in a car accident, but how's ur injuries to ur leg...
Strangely enough, today i saw a terrible accident along river valley road whereby a whole tour bus went out of control and got into the opposite side of the road, hitting two or three vehicles... and furthermore the entire road was closed and our fellow officers have to divert the traffic... Hope injures inccured is to the minimum and no deaths occured...
ya... i agree with u... life is so unpredictable... imagine driving along the road freely and happily, longing to meet ur loved ones at home to have dinner, without a single intention of breaking any traffic rules and was cruising in a casual manner... and all of the sudden... *BANG!* ... your life is gone due to an unfortuate accdient with other reckless drivers... leaving behind pain of sorrows of ur loved ones and uncompleted dreams...
Sometimes this life or death situations tend to "wake" up a person who have just narrowly
missed mr death himself. And in that instant, a million and one things will pop up to our heads... and maybe it's a turning point of ur life to cherish more ur loved ones than ever...
u better take care and study hard... me wan to pull ur bearie face when u set foot onto this island...
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"A relationship is like a rose,
How long it lasts, no one knows;
Love can erase an awful past,
Love can be yours, you'll see at last;
To feel that love, it makes you sigh,
To have it leave, you'd rather die;
You hope you've found that special rose,
'Cause you love and care for the one you chose." -
~ *Sad_Soul*:
yoz brudder....
you still in there arhz?? tot it's time for you come out liaoz??? then last day or clearing your leave liaoz??? I'm coming back soon lahz.. but doubt you will be pulling my face when I step 'paw' on the island lorz.. coz I'm arriving in the middle of the night... and really like in the middle lorz... so you better guai guai and ororz, if not the next day cannot go to work then you know... heheheh~
anyway, I'm alright lahz.. no injury on me.. coz I jump off the bike it time.. actually saw the truck (not car) come all that close to me... only injury is on my dear 2nd hand bike... Just got it moments ago and I Was going back to my dorms from the ex-owner's place... seriously, if I had not think of getting the bike, none of this will have happen... why at that time, at that place?? and why me?? some things in life just fated... got to learn to be more careful, esp when you're abroad.
anyway can email me your email or not?? don't think I have it in my list here lehz.. email to <[email protected]>... anyone who wants to contact me also can email me lahz..
~ ruth|e:
Sorryz to hear that.... well, think on the bright side, there's still a lot more people out there for you to cherish... for you to love them, or love them back... you still have the time to share your love and moments with them, rather than to regret later...
I'm sorryz to have provokes your sad memories.. but if you would like to tell me about you life story, I would love to hear it.. coz mi really interested in knowing you and lives of human... how come they grow up as they are... psych major.. can't blame me...
Take care...
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( 'o' ) Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear
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(.)_(.) Beary Bear *Huggiez*...
~.~.~. For you, I care and love. -
Me ORD loh... but no job all thanks to the current ecomonic crisis...*sob sob*
My email is [email protected]... no virus pls... and one day we have a gathering to have a makan session with nivek and gang... plus some counterstrike session to c whether u improve ur skills in america... -
It reminds me of one song... The Living Years by Mike & The Mechanics...Originally posted by Ruth|E:I never had a chance to tell my papa how much I love him
My advise to you is all in the song...
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"A relationship is like a rose,
How long it lasts, no one knows;
Love can erase an awful past,
Love can be yours, you'll see at last;
To feel that love, it makes you sigh,
To have it leave, you'd rather die;
You hope you've found that special rose,
'Cause you love and care for the one you chose." -
I tot so too.. I was wondering why you still say fellow officers.. ahahha~ no more warrant card = no more responsibility and can don't care about the whole organization liaoz... furthermore mi over here is just a nobody, so I guess I really give up all the power and authority... I do missed the days though... esp when I used to have that protective, problem-giving "mother" of mine - Peggy!!!! ahhaha~ Dunno whether you're ard or not at that time.. I think so lahz..
Over here seldom play CS liaoz... in fact really play very very little games... coz firstly no personal computer for me, if want to play have to use my roommate's and usually he's always in the room. Moreover, I also dunno why, I actually did more than 12 hours of studying a day over here. I really read through all the texts that was taught in class.. ahhaha~ I have never done that before esp since JC days.
Anyway how are you and everyone back there??? Will be coming back on the 23rd of Dec, and leaving on somewhere ard the 20th of Jan. Kind of short, but what to do got to make plans to buy milk powder for the future mahz.. haiz... so have to put in more effort now, then at least still can provide Fernleaf brand one.. hahahah~ Dunno why someone say that brand better.. can't remember.. ehhehe~
------------------Originally posted by *Sad_Soul*:Me ORD loh... but no job all thanks to the current ecomonic crisis...*sob sob*
My email is [email protected]... no virus pls... and one day we have a gathering to have a makan session with nivek and gang... plus some counterstrike session to c whether u improve ur skills in america...
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( 'o' ) Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear
(,) (,) =======================
(.)_(.) Beary Bear *Huggiez*...
~.~.~. For you, I care and love. -
i totally agree with u bear...Originally posted by Bear:-- the following was written by me to all my friends last thursday... it really happened to me, and it sort of woke me up from some dreamland that if you take much pre-caution, you just can't be too careful... Hope you guys will be enlightened...
You guys ever thought about your life?? about what you will miss if you're not around - as in you're no longer living?? Ever thought who will miss you?? Ever
thought who are the people who will continue to acknowledge your existence in this world?? Ever thought of who you will wish you could see just before you close your eyes for the very last time?? Is your life a day in which you have lived by with some people who you consider them as friends, just because you hang out with them??
Well, I think no matter how old you are, you ought to know who you will want to see for a last time and treat that person or people well... He/she could have been the very person who have been spanking you since
you know what is good and bad. For all you know, this is the very person who have taught you the most important lessons in life.
This is something that happened to me less than 6 hours ago. I was crossing the road and a car just hit me. I'm not injured though, as it was at a very very slow speed and the car hit my leg, but it's just a
push, and I jumped off the bike, and had it land under the car, which sort of shocked the driver. I was not in the wrong too, I was crossing the road legally. However, it left me thinking what will happen if
something had happened to me...
People who knows me will know that I do a lot of reflection. Thinking about my actions and words, whether if they are good or bad, or have hurt someone... I used to recall the days when my dear parents who use to beat me and scold me.. those were always like every day. I think my dear brothers can justify that. For all the things that have done, I
still respect my dear ol' papa and mama at home, and I do love them for all that they have done for my dear brothers and I. Even my dear brothers, I know we have been through a lot. We used to play together, and had our fights together, but in the end we still basically can't be seperated from each other for in us, there's each other.
However on this day, I realized that even when you miss the people that you love and know you will be with them for your whole life... but the thing is you never know when your life will come to an end. Mine could have ended today... Even for all the precaution that you take... I did wait for the white man to come out before I cross the road.. but sometimes, things just happen to you. If I had been involved in a major
accident, I doubt I would even have this chance to realize the life is so delicate. You might not even have the chance to tell your last wishes or even to see you loved ones the last time.
I only want to say, when you still can cherish your own life and your loved ones, even they may be the ones who have hurt you emotionally or physically, just forget the grudges, and love them and cherish them
again, for you may not even have the chance to do it.
Last thing, Pa, Ma, Kor, Jun, I love you...
Lotz of love...
& *hugg|z*...
Ly
i too love my dad and mom...
even though we quarrelled and argued
my bro too
i was hospitalized once...and my family will never fail to come immediately after work to see me..
(hospitalized in NEW CHANGI HOS. and i live in bukit panjang )
and speaking of love...
i jus dont get it...
the minute the word 'love' is spoken,
some ppl ( or kids ? ) will tink ONLY and ONLY their boyfriends and girlfriends
didnt they ever thought about family love???
they really should read your post and get it drilled into their skull
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Do not regret what you have done , instead regret what you wanted to do but have not done -
Bear:
Hey man. Better take care of yourself when u are overseas.
I have always being a loner, even to the day I die. But I would never forget who brought me into this world, and so shall be it. -
Well, thanx for your support and understanding... I really wish that you and your family will live happily together... I know how hard it is for family to maintain their cool, as all are still different individuals, but it's through this differentness that people get to know each other, and hence making us loving each other for who we are... and that's what you call a united whole... and that's a family... that was, and is my family...
Sometimes we can't really say that people just think about their bfs and gfs, esp for youngsters.. As for a teenager, having a gf or a bf is a new thing, thus you're more attracted to it. For instance, when a kid has a new toy, he will play with it more often than the old ones he had right??? people will grow up.. it's just a phase in life...
Me too, I used to think that way too, when I was a teenager, and I used to think that my parents who kept on scolding me everyday then did not understand me... It took me several years to realise their care and love for me before I begin to love them back again... I realise a lot in the recent years... but I'm still learning to be a better man, for my family and for the person(s) who are going to depend on me. Even in my psych class essays that I'm taking in my uni, I wrote most of my essays on my family. In fact, this recent accident, had even made me know more about myself and to know what is love and what is being love...
Sometimes, this sort of things, you need to learn it the hard way to appreciate it better... Like I said even for myself, I loved a parents lotz already, but that day, I found out I still have more to learn...
Anyway, doubt you guys will believe this, since then, I began to have less interest in r/s, or the girl that I'm interested in. For anything that happens to me, what will she do?? will she know about my accident even?? will she empathize with me then?? All I know is that after sometime, she will grow out of it if she's my gf, and be with another guy.. I would be long forgotten in her life. If I just admire her, it's even worse... doubt she will even know about it if no one tells her... even if she knows, she's at most just weeping for a friend. I asked myself why do I have to go through such an extent of getting her attention then, if she's just to treat me like a friend on my death bed?? Doubt it's worth it, rather give more to my family, and closer friends who are more caring and concern about me...
Bless you and your family with happiness and warmth... =)
------------------Originally posted by Prodigy:i totally agree with u bear...
i too love my dad and mom...
even though we quarrelled and argued
my bro too
i was hospitalized once...and my family will never fail to come immediately after work to see me..
(hospitalized in NEW CHANGI HOS. and i live in bukit panjang )
and speaking of love...
i jus dont get it...
the minute the word 'love' is spoken,
some ppl ( or kids ? ) will tink ONLY and ONLY their boyfriends and girlfriends
didnt they ever thought about family love???
they really should read your post and get it drilled into their skull
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( 'o' ) Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear
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(.)_(.) Beary Bear *Huggiez*...
~.~.~. For you, I care and love. -
bless you too... for a happy and heart-warming family...
but I would like to ask what do you mean by being a loner?? as in only child?? don't think so right?? or are you saying you have always been alone, without no one to care for??? doubt so too, for there's you family, your fiance, and some of you closer friends... you're not alone... I'm sure.. just that it's probably waiting for you to realise who care for you...
Take care too...
------------------Originally posted by Larry:Bear:
Hey man. Better take care of yourself when u are overseas.
I have always being a loner, even to the day I die. But I would never forget who brought me into this world, and so shall be it.
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( 'o' ) Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear
(,) (,) =======================
(.)_(.) Beary Bear *Huggiez*...
~.~.~. For you, I care and love. -
erm..just rite bear, as i read abt this post, i thought abt my ex-classmate whose father just passed away yesterday morning.. didnt noe wat to say or how to react when i received the news from my fren. haven been contacting her for quite some time, and wat a news to catch from her.. it's been the 5th case since i graduated from my sec sch.. 5 of my schoolmates had just lost their fathers in a glimpse. scary.
cannot imagine if it happen to me..(choy~) my parents do complain abt me saying that i am rude to them, complaining that i am lazy, nagging at me etc. but no matter wat, i still love them so much. sometimes when my parents or sisters still haven reach home when it's late at nite, i will start to panick n worry.. n will start praying. hope everythings' fine..
for those who had family members that passed away, i hope that u all can cope wif the fact n cruel truth, continue to live well and make your life a worthwhile one..
love the ppl around you..
love,
joa
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its my life.. n i should be the only one that can choose how i want to live it!~ so, GET LOST!!!~
remember to support "Shen ah, qing ge wo duo yi dian shi jian.."! cityTv mon-thurs,9-10pm!!!~ -
PRACTICALLY nobody can ESCAPE DEATH in this world... If you DIE in an ACCIDENT (or suddenly), it'll probably be just a NORMAL DAY for you.... Yes, no doubt you have NO CHANCE to see WHOEVER you wanna see for the last moment, and say whatever you wanna say for the last min... But I guess this would in a way REDUCE the PAIN and ATTACHMENT you'll give to them? Is it BETTER to have people think of you and miss you MORE after you're GONE? Would it even make a DIFFERENCE when you're already GONE...? Some people die of GRIEF... GRIEF of others' DEATH... Some just SUFFER from it....
If you're SUFFERING a SLOW DEATH like an ILLNESS... Chances are people can SEE you and you can SEE them...? Then again MAYBE NOT? And would you like what you see IF the UGLY side of people starts to show...? CARING side of them which would ONLY lead to further DISPUTES over YOUR CONDITION.... Is that bed you're lying on COMFORTABLE?
Perhaps BEING A DEVIL makes things EASIER....? When people die you get DETACHED MORE READILY... And when you die people won't be much BOTHERED by it... I wish NOBODY would be SAD for me the day I die? For I guess that's the ONLY NATURAL THING to happen to be LIVING in this world.... UNLESS I wish to be 'eternity'? Which probably MIGHT NOT make much of a DIFFERENCE anyway? See how?
DEATH would most probably be considered as a BLISSED day for me CONTRADICTARY to the fact that I view my birthday as a CURSED ONE....
About things I wanna tell the people around me when I die.... I guess whatever I wanna say and whatever I wanna do I have been doing all along... The KEY is to be YOURSELF... You must probably won't die which day you're really gonna die anyway? So like they ALWAYS say... "Live each day like the LAST day of your life..." Death is also a DAY of your life... Without it, a life would NOT be COMPLETED....
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In LIGHT I shall FEAR NOT. FOR what I AM is CUT so DEEP inside of ME.
I LIVE my FLESH and SOUL ONLY to BLEED for the OTHERS.
FEAR ME NOT. FOR I AM YOUR 'MASTER'. GIVE YOU STRENGTH. FOR YOU ARE MY 'ENEMY'.
DEVIL PHRASE I
I have no 'friends' nor 'family'.
I hold no past and see not future...
These are just samples of illusions....
I don't exist, but I shall live ETERNITY..... DEVIL PHRASE II
In DREAMS you CAN NEVER DIE.....
For YOUR LIFE is about the EXISTENCE of....
Your Happiness.... Your Sadness... Your Pain.... Your Pleasure....
Like a painted sky, when it rains... All CEASE to BE... DEVIL PHRASE IV
When Law & Rules are there,
they are NOT about JUSTICE.
While reality & dreams are there,
they are NOT about SURVIVAL..
And Life & Death NOT about LIVING...
Good & Evil NOT about definitions....
IF truly there is EVIL, it is NOT just one of its kind......
ße COOL, NOT s¢rr¥.... -
I'm sorry to hear that my dear... I believe that it must have been hard on you and your family at first.. all the sudden loss, the acceptance, the adjustments... I can empathize what you went through, though I have not met up with any of my closer relatives who passed away, except for my maternal grandmother who died due to cancer on the day I leave for the U.S. this semester...
Well, she's not that close to my family except for my mother, but it is still someone who looked after me and my siblings when we were still in the arms.
I guess it mostly all well now for you... Having to mature till this time, through hardship, probably made you a more well-learned person...
------------------Originally posted by Ruth|E:life is pretty fragile~ i lost my Dad 6 yrs back... i was shock when the doc told mi tt hes was gone... never in my life i felt so lonely at tt time... but of cos... we know we have to take care of the family and of cos my mum...
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( 'o' ) Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear
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(.)_(.) Beary Bear *Huggiez*...
~.~.~. For you, I care and love. -
Yup, life is really fragile, my frd's bf juz died frm an accident. They are actually planning to get engaged next yr...Originally posted by Ruth|E:life is pretty fragile~ i lost my Dad 6 yrs back... i was shock when the doc told mi tt hes was gone... never in my life i felt so lonely at tt time... but of cos... we know we have to take care of the family and of cos my mum...
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Hope to b your frd forever, Mike signing off -
u waited for de white man? hmm...no wonder u kanna hit.Originally posted by Bear:-- I did wait for the white man to come out before I cross the road.. -
Bear, u still in sgforums, seldom see your mails nowadays, having your exams now?Originally posted by Bear:I'm sorry to hear that my dear... I believe that it must have been hard on you and your family at first.. all the sudden loss, the acceptance, the adjustments... I can empathize what you went through, though I have not met up with any of my closer relatives who passed away, except for my maternal grandmother who died due to cancer on the day I leave for the U.S. this semester...
Well, she's not that close to my family except for my mother, but it is still someone who looked after me and my siblings when we were still in the arms.
I guess it mostly all well now for you... Having to mature till this time, through hardship, probably made you a more well-learned person...
And Ruthie, must take care of yourself hor...
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Hope to b your frd forever, Mike signing off -
well I'm in.. just that read through some of the other post, and din really spark much inspirations to reply.
learn a lot of things over there.. saw a lot of things from a different view.. accepted a lot of things in life, sometimes feel like arguing in a different prespective, but it will hurt a lot of people, so just kept it to myself...
My only advice to all... if there's a chance, take a course of sociology...
------------------Originally posted by mikegk_76:Bear, u still in sgforums, seldom see your mails nowadays, having your exams now?
And Ruthie, must take care of yourself hor...
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( 'o' ) Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear
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(.)_(.) Beary Bear *Huggiez*...
~.~.~. For you, I care and love.