Troubled... :|
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I've been good friends with this girl for quite some time, we can get along very well as we both are lame persons who like to crack really lame jokes.. over the years i have developed some feelings for her , but i never told her as i scared it might affect our good friendship. Its like a very risky thing to do if u ask, u either suceed or u lose a good friendship.... what should i do to tell her while not spoiling our friendship?
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if i were u, i would go ahead and ask.....nothing ventured nothing gained....if she is open/mature enough she will not let watever her decision is affect ur current friendship....I personally experienced it before tooOriginally posted by Ben-i:I've been good friends with this girl for quite some time, we can get along very well as we both are lame persons who like to crack really lame jokes.. over the years i have developed some feelings for her , but i never told her as i scared it might affect our good friendship. Its like a very risky thing to do if u ask, u either suceed or u lose a good friendship.... what should i do to tell her while not spoiling our friendship?
but im not u so do wat u think is right....wat is u -
Apart from being lame, is she mature in her thinking?
Reason for asking if she's mature is, since both of you are good friends, even if she don't have any slightest feeling for you, things should be back at ground zero - friendship. Unless she's got a childish mentality, then I'm sorry, chances are it'll affect your friendship. Of coz the above situation is dependant on the individuals.
A girl can clique really well with a guy, yet it's purely platonic. But to a guy, there's hardly a thing call platonic r/s if you ask me. There is bound to have certain attraction, be it in its slightest form. You mentioned 'some feelings', how strong are these feelings? Maybe you like her as a friend and nothing more that that?
Maybe you should learn to bid for your time.. It's not as if now you must go into a r/s with her. Since both of you are good friends and chances are both of u enjoy each other's company, why not make use of every opportunity to know her better?
Stop cracking lame jokes, time to be serious if you think she's the one. Coz if you carry on being a lamer *pardon me for that* even when the day comes where you tell her you like her, she'll take it as yet another lame joke, if you get what I'm trying to say here.
How old are you and she by the way? How long have you both known each other?Originally posted by Ben-i:I've been good friends with this girl for quite some time, we can get along very well as we both are lame persons who like to crack really lame jokes.. over the years i have developed some feelings for her , but i never told her as i scared it might affect our good friendship. Its like a very risky thing to do if u ask, u either suceed or u lose a good friendship.... what should i do to tell her while not spoiling our friendship? -
no i think she's mature , though we still like to be lame time to time(anything to get the laughs) u know what i mean?. She and i will be both be 18 this year.. Anyway, ill juz give it a go n see how it goes...
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yalo..sometimes its like kind of risk..onces the girl know u like her..she will aviod u lah...fren also cannot be ...but if she is mature enough..i think...even if cannot..she be ur fren like as before....btw...good luck
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i had a few experiences like that.. initially i wil hate that guy... i treasure the friendship so much.. and juz cuz he says he likes me.. e friendship's kinda ruined.. cant deny the fact that it will spoil the friendhip.. either one of you will feel weird..
somehow i tink it hurts.. losin a gd fren reali hurts...
but now.. i get kinda numb.. juz ignore that person till he give up.. if he eva does... i actuali came to a pt tinkin that al guys r juz out 2 look 4 gers 4 them 2 fall for.. more than lookin 4 gd frenz... hahaz.. kinda dumb...
anyway.. juz 2 share.. hope it doesnt affect ur plan... as an outsider.. i tink its beta 4 u 2 tel her.. mayb she oso feel somethin 4 u.. but both of u r juz keepin quiet.. the fact that she actuali goes out w u.. means e impression is gd enuf.. observe 1st i tink.. juz incase she oni take u as a gd fren.. u wun wan 2 lose a gd fren like this...
jiayou
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i scared timming no good man, sometimes the girl wait for the boy to tell her, but then if the boy takes to long she loses interest, so for my case i think i waited too long liao, somemore i good fren with her for like 3 years already , i suddenly go tell her like that , i bet she feels weird for sure
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me also in the same situation... haizzz... dunno wat to do also... mine is worst... she's got a bf... but i got a liking for her... tink i'll just wait for her and be a good fren of her for now...
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Telling is nothing - provided if you take no action. The real issue is only when you chase her and she feels it.Originally posted by Ben-i:i scared timming no good man, sometimes the girl wait for the boy to tell her, but then if the boy takes to long she loses interest, so for my case i think i waited too long liao, somemore i good fren with her for like 3 years already , i suddenly go tell her like that , i bet she feels weird for sure
Of course, it is modified by how exactly close you are to her and her personality.
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Just go ahead. Nothing venture nothing gain.
Good Luck pal.