please help..
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well, i got to know a guy a few weeks ago.. got to know hiim through a friend.. after many times of converstion, i began to developed some feelings for him. he treat me very well too. he is always there to encourage me and when i need help, he always there for me..occassionally, we both went out togther and my feelings for him had grow stronger. i really enjoy the times i spend with him. he told me he is also happy to spend the time with me.
now the problem is, sometimes i feel like telling him how i feel. but i afraid that he just treat me as an oridianry friend. i don know what he think. i was afraid of being rejected. this thing have been making me sleepless for many weeks. what should i do? and for the guys out here, what do u all thiink? does he only want to be friend with me?
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haha, u nv try u nv know...some guy will juz choose to hide their feelin rather than risk being turned dwn.. actuali compared to findin a true love, losin face is nthin big.. dun worri u will lose a frenz, cos if he's a worthy frenz, hw will understand wat u r goin thru..
bt if u choose to hide ur feelin, u might miss the chance to be 2gether wif ur loved one Go for it!!! -
u must be ready to accept the consequences... if he says he like u too!! then great! u all can start dating each other but if if he tells u he treats u like a good fren, then don't be disheartened... just a word of advice, things will never go back to normal once u tell him u like him.. pls be prepared for tt...
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Nobody here can tell you an answer on whether he likes you or not deep within his heart. He may be interested or just being himself. The answer will derive ONLY if you ask or when he tells you yourself.Originally posted by huy:well, i got to know a guy a few weeks ago.. got to know hiim through a friend.. after many times of converstion, i began to developed some feelings for him. he treat me very well too. he is always there to encourage me and when i need help, he always there for me..occassionally, we both went out togther and my feelings for him had grow stronger. i really enjoy the times i spend with him. he told me he is also happy to spend the time with me.
now the problem is, sometimes i feel like telling him how i feel. but i afraid that he just treat me as an oridianry friend. i don know what he think. i was afraid of being rejected. this thing have been making me sleepless for many weeks. what should i do? and for the guys out here, what do u all thiink? does he only want to be friend with me? 
In love, there is always risk and nothing is absolute. If you want the best way to solve this: probably you can wait/pressure/force him indirectly to reveal his real feelings to you.
If it is the friendship you fear that may be destroyed - then hold your tongue. When it comes to love, nothing must be held back - either all or nothing. So when it comes to expressing - you must have no worries behind your head. Why do something while putting your other foot on safety shores? You won't go far and probably sink as well.
Cheers -
hey sweetie, you merely know him for a couple of weeks. how well do you know him? you mentioned he treats u very well, is this only exception to you or he's a 'mr nice guy' to every other gals? (btw, some guys know how to appreciate gals, thus they're nice to every single gal they come across.)
when he said he also enjoy spending time with you, can you see if it's genuine or merely reciprocating back on wat you've complimented him on?
y not test water by asking him for his expectation as a gf? if he hints to you on things like he wants a gf to be someone of your kind, then i think it's jolly well a clear situation that he likes you.
of coz i'm no encouraging you to play mind games with him, in case he's one who doesn't know the rule of the game and things get backfired.
dont venture unnecessarily, unless you are pretty sure of the situation. i will suggest y not bid your time in growing to understand him more? you don't need to rush into telling him abt your feelings, coz utimately if he can sense that you like him, it's just a matter of time he'll ask you abt it.
it's too petty an issue to lose your beauty sleep over an issue like this. take it in your stride. don't imagine for the worst yet be prepared for anything that comes along.
all the best -
Give it a try. u wouldn't feel that hurt even if it fails. Its worse keeping the feelings inside you.
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FAST...Originally posted by Yunhaier:Nobody here can tell you an answer on whether he likes you or not deep within his heart. He may be interested or just being himself. The answer will derive ONLY if you ask or when he tells you yourself.
In love, there is always risk and nothing is absolute. If you want the best way to solve this: probably you can wait/pressure/force him indirectly to reveal his real feelings to you.
If it is the friendship you fear that may be destroyed - then hold your tongue. When it comes to love, nothing must be held back - either all or nothing. So when it comes to expressing - you must have no worries behind your head. Why do something while putting your other foot on safety shores? You won't go far and probably sink as well.
Cheers -
Was rushing to go outOriginally posted by Devil1976:FAST... 
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i tght cut n paste...Originally posted by Yunhaier:Was rushing to go out 
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go AA outing?Originally posted by Yunhaier:Was rushing to go out -
You probably know I didn't mean that...?Originally posted by Yunhaier:Was rushing to go out
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LOL!Originally posted by skeujin:i tght cut n paste... -
AA no outing wor, maybe next time uncle devil may want to plan.Originally posted by M©+square:go AA outing? -
Originally posted by Devil1976:You probably know I didn't mean that...?
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yun, you're in Alcoholics Anonymous?
just kidding
the acronym for this forum always got me as strange...Originally posted by Yunhaier:AA no outing wor, maybe next time uncle devil may want to plan. -
One sentence of advice. " You just know him for a few week, how much you understand him and of course, u never try, w will never know." Don't think so muchOriginally posted by huy:well, i got to know a guy a few weeks ago.. got to know hiim through a friend.. after many times of converstion, i began to developed some feelings for him. he treat me very well too. he is always there to encourage me and when i need help, he always there for me..occassionally, we both went out togther and my feelings for him had grow stronger. i really enjoy the times i spend with him. he told me he is also happy to spend the time with me.
now the problem is, sometimes i feel like telling him how i feel. but i afraid that he just treat me as an oridianry friend. i don know what he think. i was afraid of being rejected. this thing have been making me sleepless for many weeks. what should i do? and for the guys out here, what do u all thiink? does he only want to be friend with me? -
Originally posted by Yunhaier:AA no outing wor, maybe next time uncle devil may want to plan.
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Actually its both ways lor..Originally posted by ashgoh:Give it a try. u wouldn't feel that hurt even if it fails. Its worse keeping the feelings inside you.
If its meant to be, it will be.
Sometimes its good to keep feelings to yourself otherwise frenship could be strained lor...
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Originally posted by the Bear:yun, you're in Alcoholics Anonymous?
just kidding
the acronym for this forum always got me as strange...