Rushed to get attached?
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Hi forumites!
Hmmm....i noticed that more and more people are either getting very frustrated or even sad to the point of feeling hopeless due to them not having the things they want in some part of their life. Well, what i refer to here is their "love life". I find it quite absurd when people lament about how their bf/gf does this, did that or some people that they like ignored their feelings which made them feel hopeless. Actually i feel that to actually LIKE a person is a happy thing, why must people take it so hard when things are not going smoothly? Setbacks are there to guide you to the correct path, it is to help you understand the situation, understand yourself better and of course the other half. So when you meet up with something that is not favourable to you, take a step back, take a breather and think.
Perhaps some people place too much feelings and hope onto someone they like til the extend that it is impossible to accept a flaw in that person. But remember that humans are not perfect, they err too. Accept that person as he/she is, don't place your hopes too high and you'll find yourself to be a much happier person. -
Nice advice you have there dude. I suppose you play Ragnarok online eh?Originally posted by Ragnarok:Hi forumites!
Hmmm....i noticed that more and more people are either getting very frustrated or even sad to the point of feeling hopeless due to them not having the things they want in some part of their life. Well, what i refer to here is their "love life". I find it quite absurd when people lament about how their bf/gf does this, did that or some people that they like ignored their feelings which made them feel hopeless. Actually i feel that to actually LIKE a person is a happy thing, why must people take it so hard when things are not going smoothly? Setbacks are there to guide you to the correct path, it is to help you understand the situation, understand yourself better and of course the other half. So when you meet up with something that is not favourable to you, take a step back, take a breather and think.
Perhaps some people place too much feelings and hope onto someone they like til the extend that it is impossible to accept a flaw in that person. But remember that humans are not perfect, they err too. Accept that person as he/she is, don't place your hopes too high and you'll find yourself to be a much happier person.
This is your preception and probably it only belongs to you. There are people who share similiar thinking, but when it comes to love, everyone has their own ways, behavior, character - because of their own unique personality and partners (Do you know that people do not really behavior the same way for every relationship?)
In this era we are living, probably everyone has to go through between 2 - 5 relationship before committing yourself to marriage. Of course there are people who have a strings of ex - these are the people who never learn/reflect/ponder over their own self, love definition and probably life.
So if you encounter a couple of relationship that is not meant to be - these are building blocks to your final marriage. People are sad and down because they feel they lost something. You know feel depress and terrible when you lose your wallet/hp/etc right? However, material stuff affects probably the mind (unless you really saved and worked hard to get the cash to purchase your item - then heartache would occur or it's a sentimental item) - stress & tension would take place.
A lover belongs to the matter of heart - therefore your heart would bleed.
P.S: If you can see through the future and work towards it, thinking back on the past - its probably sweet memories.
Cheers -
i agree with Yunhaier. you can forget a material loss in a day or two but it takes ages to heal a emotional scar.[/code][/quote]
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Sometimes you need to be in their shoes. People in love more than often, do not make logical decisions.Originally posted by Ragnarok:Hi forumites!
Hmmm....i noticed that more and more people are either getting very frustrated or even sad to the point of feeling hopeless due to them not having the things they want in some part of their life. Well, what i refer to here is their "love life". I find it quite absurd when people lament about how their bf/gf does this, did that or some people that they like ignored their feelings which made them feel hopeless. Actually i feel that to actually LIKE a person is a happy thing, why must people take it so hard when things are not going smoothly? Setbacks are there to guide you to the correct path, it is to help you understand the situation, understand yourself better and of course the other half. So when you meet up with something that is not favourable to you, take a step back, take a breather and think.
Perhaps some people place too much feelings and hope onto someone they like til the extend that it is impossible to accept a flaw in that person. But remember that humans are not perfect, they err too. Accept that person as he/she is, don't place your hopes too high and you'll find yourself to be a much happier person.
I am one of them. About placing too much hope, i think probably you just ghave to learn to be at contentment with yourself. That would make you a happier person too. 
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dont just settle for someone you can live with.
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hmm.. agree with saintboy that People in love more than often, do not make logical decisions.. agree with yuhaier that people dont always behave the same in every relationship.. and not every shares the same perceptions and views about love and life..
personali i think.. more than often, a person will lose himself/herself when he/she is really in love.. hmm.. its quite impossible to be so rational then.. cuz they will be thinking with their hearts.. not their brains..
i guess.. its nobody's fault.. this juz work of nature.. need alittle more self control.. yah juz that.. other than that.. i dont really see anything wrong with mere following your heart.. -
I agree totally with thisOriginally posted by I'm out there:i agree with Yunhaier. you can forget a material loss in a day or two but it takes ages to heal a emotional scar.[/code][/quote] -
Eh....online games weren't that popular in AD 2000, so does "ragnarok online"......hehe.Originally posted by Yunhaier:Nice advice you have there dude. I suppose you play Ragnarok online eh?
This is your preception and probably it only belongs to you. There are people who share similiar thinking, but when it comes to love, everyone has their own ways, behavior, character - because of their own unique personality and partners (Do you know that people do not really behavior the same way for every relationship?)
In this era we are living, probably everyone has to go through between 2 - 5 relationship before committing yourself to marriage. Of course there are people who have a strings of ex - these are the people who never learn/reflect/ponder over their own self, love definition and probably life.
So if you encounter a couple of relationship that is not meant to be - these are building blocks to your final marriage. People are sad and down because they feel they lost something. You know feel depress and terrible when you lose your wallet/hp/etc right? However, material stuff affects probably the mind (unless you really saved and worked hard to get the cash to purchase your item - then heartache would occur or it's a sentimental item) - stress & tension would take place.
A lover belongs to the matter of heart - therefore your heart would bleed.
P.S: If you can see through the future and work towards it, thinking back on the past - its probably sweet memories.
Cheers
Anyway, i just want to encourage and hope to send a message across to those who are "heartbroken" or sad that being rational after something disastrous happened in your love life is a good way to carry on your life. Love brings about jealousy, greed, lust, etc....but when there's "evil", there's always "good" around to counter it. Hmmm...am i making sense? -
u're rite... man i need help.Originally posted by Ragnarok:Hi forumites!
Hmmm....i noticed that more and more people are either getting very frustrated or even sad to the point of feeling hopeless due to them not having the things they want in some part of their life. Well, what i refer to here is their "love life". I find it quite absurd when people lament about how their bf/gf does this, did that or some people that they like ignored their feelings which made them feel hopeless. Actually i feel that to actually LIKE a person is a happy thing, why must people take it so hard when things are not going smoothly? Setbacks are there to guide you to the correct path, it is to help you understand the situation, understand yourself better and of course the other half. So when you meet up with something that is not favourable to you, take a step back, take a breather and think.
Perhaps some people place too much feelings and hope onto someone they like til the extend that it is impossible to accept a flaw in that person. But remember that humans are not perfect, they err too. Accept that person as he/she is, don't place your hopes too high and you'll find yourself to be a much happier person. -
Agree on the point that you said that there's nothing wrong to follow your heart, that's also the thing that will bring us deeper into a person. 99.99% of the time, its just natural, in other words, SHENG BU YOU ZI! DOesn't mean you follow your heart , things will get right...Originally posted by *kaiLi*:hmm.. agree with saintboy that People in love more than often, do not make logical decisions.. agree with yuhaier that people dont always behave the same in every relationship.. and not every shares the same perceptions and views about love and life..
personali i think.. more than often, a person will lose himself/herself when he/she is really in love.. hmm.. its quite impossible to be so rational then.. cuz they will be thinking with their hearts.. not their brains..
i guess.. its nobody's fault.. this juz work of nature.. need alittle more self control.. yah juz that.. other than that.. i dont really see anything wrong with mere following your heart..