Miss a girl that has a boyfriend
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Hi Everyone,
Recently I met a girl and we got intimate with each other. However, she has a boyfriend and he does not know that we have slept with each other. She seems confused and not willing to commit to anything. Yet she gives me the impression that she is interested. I am growing to love her more and more each day and it is distressing for me to know that she is actually with someone else. I know that what i am doing is not right but I have fallen in love with this girl and don't know what to do. Am afraid to lose her.
Please help.
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you're an idiot and if you have any love for this woman, you should stay the hell away from her
if she sorts her head out and decides to leave HER GUY, then maybe you have some right to move
if she sorts out her head and stays with HER GUY, you should stay the hell away from her... simply because she's attached to someone WHO IS NOT YOU... -
Well, in the first place, u 2 aready do sth wrong ler. She has aready got a bf, and then u 2 got intimate with each other. She loves her bf so she feels tt she is guilty by treating her bf tt way. Tts y she is confused and not willing to commit.Originally posted by liquid77:Hi Everyone,
Recently I met a girl and we got intimate with each other. However, she has a boyfriend and he does not know that we have slept with each other. She seems confused and not willing to commit to anything. Yet she gives me the impression that she is interested. I am growing to love her more and more each day and it is distressing for me to know that she is actually with someone else. I know that what i am doing is not right but I have fallen in love with this girl and don't know what to do. Am afraid to lose her.
Please help.
Sad
Ask urself wat is the reason of u 2 sleeping tog? Is it really love or is it just tt one or two of u need intimate moments? I feel tt since she aready has a bf and stil u went in to break up the relationship, its not really appropriate of u to do so. I disrespect ppl who come in and break the relationship secretly. If its been a incident everyone can see and know, i dun mind, but behind the back is a bit too much.
Even if u lose her, i am not surprised cos i really dun think u shld be wif her in the first place. -
if really u really miss her cause u love her, do tell her cause i believe she's still open bout accepting u... that's wrong i know but it's ur happiness, so screw that guy i guess...
but if u miss making out with her as each day passes then i suggest u forget bout her then... by all means try... dun break up a happie couple... -
I totally agree with u Bear! I hate ppl who come in like tt behind everyone!Originally posted by the Bear:you're an idiot and if you have any love for this woman, you should stay the hell away from her
if she sorts her head out and decides to leave HER GUY, then maybe you have some right to move
if she sorts out her head and stays with HER GUY, you should stay the hell away from her... simply because she's attached to someone WHO IS NOT YOU... -
tis kind of ppl better keep away.. even if she chooses you, hu noes she might aso get intimate wif other guys without ur notice
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If she's in a relationship but could be intimate with you, that may signal that there is some issue in her relationship. it's not fair to jump ship if she indeed has problems with her bf. She needs to work it out with him. going to someone else for comfort is going to hurt her bf (imagine yourself in his shoes). To be fair to him, she should work out stuff in the relationship before contemplating other options.Originally posted by liquid77:Hi Everyone,
Recently I met a girl and we got intimate with each other. However, she has a boyfriend and he does not know that we have slept with each other. She seems confused and not willing to commit to anything. Yet she gives me the impression that she is interested. I am growing to love her more and more each day and it is distressing for me to know that she is actually with someone else. I know that what i am doing is not right but I have fallen in love with this girl and don't know what to do. Am afraid to lose her.
Please help.
Sad
After being intimate with someone, there is some exchange going on. Even though it isn't evident, there is some part of you given to her and vice versa. Afterall, you've shared something so intimate with each other. Your feelings for her could have developed from there. But without having been intimate, what do you like about her. is she someone you want to be with. I must add though that it may difficult for you to be objective now.
Even if she leaves her bf, it does not mean both of you should together. After the end of a relationship, we should have some time to recover. it's like sickness, but of the heart. We also may want to think about what happened in the relationship so that it wont happen again. If she starts a r/s with you right away, what guarantee is there that she wont let the same thing happen to you?
I know you have strong feelings for her now (and also because you have been intimate), slow down and think things over. any mistake will be emotionally costly! -
Even if she chooses u..will u be sure that she wun treat u like she treat her current bf now?
I know u miss her..but wad both of u have done is wrong..
But i'm not saying that u loving her is wrong..but dun u think it's very unfair for her current bf? Put urself in his shoes..how would u feel?
I suggest that u gib her some time to think abt all that has happen..ask her how she feels abt wad is happening now.
If you really love her..respect her decision.. -
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Wake up, what have you done and what are you doing?
First of all, whr did you get to know her? How long have you guys known each other to be so intimate?
Secondly, she built an impression that she's interested in you, how sure are you in this? I can build an impression in another guy that I'm interested in him, no big deal about it. Just whether we choose to do it or not. Matter of fact is, she may be lonesome, not able to get intimate with her bf that's why you got a chance to be intimate with her...
Hello? Hey, please wake up. Are you trying to say that you want her as a gf? What do you know about love? Love doesn't mean going behind another guy's back screwing his gal up. And love doesn't mean going behind bf's back and start on an affair. She can do it to her bf now, what makes you think she won't do it behind your back one day should you fail to satisfy her?
You're afriad to lose her? In the first place she don't belong to you. In fact you have no right to feel whatever you're feeling now coz you're the third party!
Gosh, you're old enough to think, there's a quote that goes something like 'Do whatever you want on others and let others do what on you.'
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Oopss same thing happen to me 3 years back.. hmmm could it be the same girl.
I was with her for a year. She was always on the point of breaking up with her bf...but it sort of just did not happen when i was with her. We were together for 1 year before i finally give in and left.
Its no good to have a 3 party relationship...no one of the 3 will feel good in the end. Thats Y now I only go after girl who have no bf currently. And for those who have...avoid at all cost.
If u are smarter than me...then leave her now...
but if u wish to prove that u are more foolish than me...Y not hang on another 2 years -
Originally posted by liquid77:Hi Everyone,
Recently I met a girl and we got intimate with each other. However, she has a boyfriend and he does not know that we have slept with each other. She seems confused and not willing to commit to anything. Yet she gives me the impression that she is interested. I am growing to love her more and more each day and it is distressing for me to know that she is actually with someone else. I know that what i am doing is not right but I have fallen in love with this girl and don't know what to do. Am afraid to lose her.
Please help.
Sad
You probably allow your emotions to get over your head.
She is confuse because of the fact that she is NOT willing to make a decision, yet at time same time, she probably has feelings for both parties. She could show that she is interested because she is on rebound onto you (poor relationship with bf currently, seeking another source of warmth.)
You had sexual relationship with her - devoid of any love, for her case at least, even if you strongly disagree with me. When such things happen, think hard: someone who could sleep with another guy, who isn't any much in relationship other than friends, speaks alot about herself, love definition and such.
Looking for a fling - probably its ok. For serious purposes, allow her to settle her feud and business with her bf first. Anything else can (& must) wait.
Cheers -
If she really be with you, you should be worried instead as she might do the same as what she has done to her ex...
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sigh u sound like my friendOriginally posted by liquid77:Hi Everyone,
Recently I met a girl and we got intimate with each other. However, she has a boyfriend and he does not know that we have slept with each other. She seems confused and not willing to commit to anything. Yet she gives me the impression that she is interested. I am growing to love her more and more each day and it is distressing for me to know that she is actually with someone else. I know that what i am doing is not right but I have fallen in love with this girl and don't know what to do. Am afraid to lose her.
Please help.
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Sounds like ONS issue?
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Thanks all of you for your valuable advice. Its tough to let go although I do not technically have her. I know that what i am doing is not right in any way but I do like her a lot and now i'm trying to distance myself from her so that i do not fall deeper into the hole. Is it true that she is only seeking physical comfort without any feelings tied in? Thats a hard pill to swallow. Is it also possible for her not to feel anything after we have become intimate on more than one occasion? It would be nice to hear from all of you as your experiences are a good guide for me.
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hard to swallow.. but do it...
learn from it and try not to get yourself in this situation again... sometimes, the heart leads where one should not go...
i figure, until someone is yours, let your head decide... after that, let your heart lead you
good luckOriginally posted by liquid77:Thanks all of you for your valuable advice. Its tough to let go although I do not technically have her. I know that what i am doing is not right in any way but I do like her a lot and now i'm trying to distance myself from her so that i do not fall deeper into the hole. Is it true that she is only seeking physical comfort without any feelings tied in? Thats a hard pill to swallow. Is it also possible for her not to feel anything after we have become intimate on more than one occasion? It would be nice to hear from all of you as your experiences are a good guide for me. -
Eh brudder..fight for her lah..treat her nice..but dont force her to make decisions yeah?Originally posted by liquid77:Hi Everyone,
Recently I met a girl and we got intimate with each other. However, she has a boyfriend and he does not know that we have slept with each other. She seems confused and not willing to commit to anything. Yet she gives me the impression that she is interested. I am growing to love her more and more each day and it is distressing for me to know that she is actually with someone else. I know that what i am doing is not right but I have fallen in love with this girl and don't know what to do. Am afraid to lose her.
Please help.
Sad
otherwise she would really break down man..
do wadever u can to comfort her..
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i feel sad for you dude.
but its not proper to go after another ger when she is attached loh. i donno y some guys cant just be a freind but haf to fock the ger than happy.hai~~~~ -
I agree with u! One shld nvr go for another's gf. I despise these ppl!!Originally posted by De|usi0n:i feel sad for you dude.
but its not proper to go after another ger when she is attached loh. i donno y some guys cant just be a freind but haf to fock the ger than happy.hai~~~~
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How you lose her when she's not even yours in the 1st place?Originally posted by liquid77:Hi Everyone,
Recently I met a girl and we got intimate with each other. However, she has a boyfriend and he does not know that we have slept with each other. She seems confused and not willing to commit to anything. Yet she gives me the impression that she is interested. I am growing to love her more and more each day and it is distressing for me to know that she is actually with someone else. I know that what i am doing is not right but I have fallen in love with this girl and don't know what to do. Am afraid to lose her.
Please help.
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exactly! nemo dat quad non habet....Originally posted by Devil1976:How you lose her when she's not even yours in the 1st place? -
Hi...Originally posted by liquid77:Thanks all of you for your valuable advice. Its tough to let go although I do not technically have her. I know that what i am doing is not right in any way but I do like her a lot and now i'm trying to distance myself from her so that i do not fall deeper into the hole. Is it true that she is only seeking physical comfort without any feelings tied in? Thats a hard pill to swallow. Is it also possible for her not to feel anything after we have become intimate on more than one occasion? It would be nice to hear from all of you as your experiences are a good guide for me.
what devil1976 is saying is true. She's not with you so you are not losing her. However, it does not mean that you do not have feelings for her and neither is this going to be easy. But to let go of her now is the best decision. If she is unattached in the future, you can then pursue her.
With regards to your other questions, having those answers may make it even harder for you to let go, suppose you find out that she has feelings for you. It's not appropriate at this time. If she can do this to her bf (be unsure of her feelings), suppose you guys get together, then things make turn out like now too. It's not just having someone but also how...
It's not easy but you are making a right decision... -
Have decided to step away by minimising my contact with her. But she wonders why I am getting colder and she tells me that she has feelings for me. Its getting tough friends. Its like wanting to do the right thing yet having deep feelings for her which cannot be erased instantaneously. Everyday is an effort to not think too much about her.
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AAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGH!!!!!!!
I do not know how to let go!!!
Its easy to say don't communicate with her but
my heart is yearning for her so much that it is difficult to
do without her!
I get to see her every other day and each time we meet up,
I just crave for her a little more with each rendezvous.
How to cope with this situation boys and girls...help. -
suck it up.. it's the cross you gotta bear.. the price for being human...Originally posted by liquid77:AAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGH!!!!!!!
I do not know how to let go!!!
Its easy to say don't communicate with her but
my heart is yearning for her so much that it is difficult to
do without her!
I get to see her every other day and each time we meet up,
I just crave for her a little more with each rendezvous.
How to cope with this situation boys and girls...help.