Any Advice?My ex gf's first bf wanna patch up with her!
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Hi...
Any advice as my ex today called me and told me abt it...she is having doubts abt him...he claim that during the 6 yrs although he had changed tons of gfs....he still have a place for my ex-gf.She is confused and i'm also feeling quite sad.Cos i'm trying hard to patch up with her....I feel he is taking her as a sub as he jus broke off with his gf (a relationship for 4 yrs) and i feel he jus wanna find somebody and fill up the space and not really love her!...i dun wish my ex to be hurt....Wat can i advise her?...wat can i do? -
Originally posted by Jover1979:Hi...
Any advice as my ex today called me and told me abt it...she is having doubts abt him...he claim that during the 6 yrs although he had changed tons of gfs....he still have a place for my ex-gf.She is confused and i'm also feeling quite sad.Cos i'm trying hard to patch up with her....I feel he is taking her as a sub as he jus broke off with his gf (a relationship for 4 yrs) and i feel he jus wanna find somebody and fill up the space and not really love her!...i dun wish my ex to be hurt....Wat can i advise her?...wat can i do?
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Trying to use some valuable advice here to dissuade her about him for your own advantages?
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advice? tell her to leave you alone
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Why wants her to leave me alone?Originally posted by AzRaeL:advice? tell her to leave you alone -
Probably just tell her your OWN opinion and let her decide for herself...?Originally posted by Jover1979:Hi...
Any advice as my ex today called me and told me abt it...she is having doubts abt him...he claim that during the 6 yrs although he had changed tons of gfs....he still have a place for my ex-gf.She is confused and i'm also feeling quite sad.Cos i'm trying hard to patch up with her....I feel he is taking her as a sub as he jus broke off with his gf (a relationship for 4 yrs) and i feel he jus wanna find somebody and fill up the space and not really love her!...i dun wish my ex to be hurt....Wat can i advise her?...wat can i do? -
she needs to make up her own mind...
serious...
some things, no one can make the decision for.. what more, it concerns HER heart...
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what is called advice?
it's just a way of trying to find the best course of action out of a situation... usually given by someone "outside of the situation"
when u give advice, u can only hold "goodwill" for that person... that person may not listen to u, but at least u've said ur piece....
an advice, is afterall... an advice.... nothing falls through if the person at the recieving end doesn't follow the advice.....
juz dun think too much, and juz be sincere when giving ur advice... if u want to patch back with her.... try not to be biased in ur advice.... remember the fishing rule... pull too hard, the string will snap..... -
Originally posted by Yunhaier:
Heehee...i also dunno..she herself now also feels that the guy dun sound convincing enough...that's why she called me.I somehow feel the guy jus wanted somebody to fill up the gap.It's kinda like bcos of career status that it's the cause of the problem for the guy previous relationship that i heard he choose to leave the gal(4yrs relationship).Didnt care abt wat the gal feels..bcos of himself...(
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Trying to use some valuable advice here to dissuade her about him for your own advantages? [/b]
face) or wat he leave the gal....
And now he tries to get my ex-gf back...and the situation is almost the same as wat it is with his 4rys relationship gal....Then wat...he walks away again and find somebody else...
Based on wat i say...how you guys think i shld advice my ex or try to stop them from advancing...she also kinda in a confusion state and also dun wish to be hurt... -
Yeah..told her and let her decide...i have done that already...but in the end we still end up quarrelling bcos we mention abt our own past relationship..keke....gotta wait for her to simmer down...Originally posted by Devil1976:Probably just tell her your OWN opinion and let her decide for herself...?
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I know....she knows that too...but she wans some advice.Or help to see the picture clearer...Originally posted by the Bear:she needs to make up her own mind...
serious...
some things, no one can make the decision for.. what more, it concerns HER heart...
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No point quarrelling... it's all about decision making....Originally posted by Jover1979:Yeah..told her and let her decide...i have done that already...but in the end we still end up quarrelling bcos we mention abt our own past relationship..keke....gotta wait for her to simmer down... -
Ask her to make her own decision..it's not like u are going to stead with her ex..it's her happiness..ask her to search it for her own..
If tt relationship fails..she has no1 to blame but herself..
And u both also breakup liao..try to let things simmer down before u all start to be friends and talk again..tt would be better..than jumping right into friendship at the end of a relationship..alot f things will complicate the friendship like the past relationship..best is dun talk abt it..coz it will make both of u feel uneasy..
Imagine being so close together..and now...haiZz..
sOo..best is to let her make up her own mind..if she insist..then u ask her dun patch loh..coz..she is not even sure if she wan the relationship..dun let tt poor ex suffer..it will be just another breakup in the end..
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Haiz...my ex gf decided to patch with him!..She even told me she dun really like him or know him..she rather give him a try then give me one more chance!I was simply late for a few days and she wont wan to listen to me bcos she doesnt wan that to affect her relationship with that guy.I didnt even got a chance to try!....I so totally dishearten...i feel it's retribution for how i have treated her for the past 3yrs...making her giving up hope on me...Why ppl r so funny...when u have her....she give u tons of chances...u didnt take it seriously...when she leaves u start to think....but wat pains me the most is this time i very certain that i've changed...but it's too late...And to make things worst...she still think i'm like b4...trying to find excuses....but i've really changed....i'm a bastard...i know...but there will be no longer a chance to tell her the truth or let her know that this time is the truth...My heart is totally shattered...i dun know when i can forget her as i dun wan to take anybody as a sub...i feel it's so unfair...i dunno how long this thing gonna toture me but i hope i can stand up on my feet asap...to keep my life going..i dun wan to live in depression.
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Learn to MOVE ON..... Life is not all about happy endings....Originally posted by Jover1979:Haiz...my ex gf decided to patch with him!..She even told me she dun really like him or know him..she rather give him a try then give me one more chance!I was simply late for a few days and she wont wan to listen to me bcos she doesnt wan that to affect her relationship with that guy.I didnt even got a chance to try!....I so totally dishearten...i feel it's retribution for how i have treated her for the past 3yrs...making her giving up hope on me...Why ppl r so funny...when u have her....she give u tons of chances...u didnt take it seriously...when she leaves u start to think....but wat pains me the most is this time i very certain that i've changed...but it's too late...And to make things worst...she still think i'm like b4...trying to find excuses....but i've really changed....i'm a bastard...i know...but there will be no longer a chance to tell her the truth or let her know that this time is the truth...My heart is totally shattered...i dun know when i can forget her as i dun wan to take anybody as a sub...i feel it's so unfair...i dunno how long this thing gonna toture me but i hope i can stand up on my feet asap...to keep my life going..i dun wan to live in depression.