how to let your bf cherish u more?
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what would you do if your bf takes you for granted? how to let him cherish me more?
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Its more about what he wants out from this relationship - a half-hearted, couldn't care much less guy wouldn't learn the value of treasure because, crudely put, you don't really meant much to him. Or simply, he has never enter into a proper relationship before.Originally posted by jeslin:what would you do if your bf takes you for granted? how to let him cherish me more?
Definition of Proper: Long term, committment based, chemistry, etc.
Try trashing things out with him and learn to see what could be the reason from his point of view - you never know unless you have communicate the issue together.
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maybe dun treat him too well..dun let him take u for granted.. maybe then.. he will start cherishing u.. for fear of losing you..
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but he's those dun care dun care type lor.. once i asked him, if i dun care about him, then he say he oso bo chub lor.. i dun care abt him, den he heck care me lor..
our friends assure me that he's really like me.. but he has really take me for granted.. when i ask him if he wanna see me... he says dun mind, anything... when i ask him to accompany me for the night, he says next time... whats dun mind? whats next time? whats anything? do i mean anything to him? guys.. can u plz tell me how ur brain works? -
hai !!!
sometime i really hope to have a girlfriend like you , a ger who care . My girlfriend is something like your boyfriend and i think even
WORST She totally dont care about me !!! sometime i think letting her go , but ......but...... just cant gather myself to do it . i treat her so good that i think she take for granted .
hai !!! thats life ........ guess when you lose a person then you will really appreciated them !!! -
This relationship even need your mutual friends to reassure for him about his love for you?Originally posted by jeslin:but he's those dun care dun care type lor.. once i asked him, if i dun care about him, then he say he oso bo chub lor.. i dun care abt him, den he heck care me lor..
our friends assure me that he's really like me.. but he has really take me for granted.. when i ask him if he wanna see me... he says dun mind, anything... when i ask him to accompany me for the night, he says next time... whats dun mind? whats next time? whats anything? do i mean anything to him? guys.. can u plz tell me how ur brain works? Ridiculous.
Why not try telling him that you will be marrying to his best friend next month? Probably he will give his earnest blessing. Rubbish.
This is where you stand in his heart - company when he needs it. Emotionally, of course this is an unfulfilling relationship. Allow me to ask crudely - what do you actually sees in him before being together? May I know if this relationship was borned after knowing each other for a short amount of time period?
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that's me, before my gf break up with me...Originally posted by jeslin:but he's those dun care dun care type lor.. once i asked him, if i dun care about him, then he say he oso bo chub lor.. i dun care abt him, den he heck care me lor..
our friends assure me that he's really like me.. but he has really take me for granted.. when i ask him if he wanna see me... he says dun mind, anything... when i ask him to accompany me for the night, he says next time... whats dun mind? whats next time? whats anything? do i mean anything to him? guys.. can u plz tell me how ur brain works?
it's only the moment that we broke up, then i realised how important she is.....
when we broke up then i want to meet her, spend time with her
but too late liao.......
maybe he won't know it until he really know that u r no longer there for him anymore.... -
i'm with him for 1 year plus liao [from last patch].. we broke and patched alot times.. if i count the total time we have been together, i think we are together for more than 3 years. there's once he fell for another girl, but he came back, so, from then on, i afraid of him go away again, treat him better. maybe too good liao..
now he says he wans freedom.. but he has lots of it already.. i just need him just to be there.. thats all. am i too posessive? -
when you love someone, you'll naturally cherish the other person.. u don't need to do anything about it.. think about this..
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Originally posted by jeslin:i'm with him for 1 year plus liao [from last patch].. we broke and patched alot times.. if i count the total time we have been together, i think we are together for more than 3 years. there's once he fell for another girl, but he came back, so, from then on, i afraid of him go away again, treat him better. maybe too good liao..
now he says he wans freedom.. but he has lots of it already.. i just need him just to be there.. thats all. am i too posessive? To be frank with you - never had I seen/witness/heard/etc a successful relationship from one that undergo break/patch vicious cycle.
It may not be your fault; probably its the combination of both.
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dere's no way to let him cherish u more..only hope tt things turn out better.. mi too, was in a similar situation as u b4, treat him TOO gd..in e end..Originally posted by jeslin:what would you do if your bf takes you for granted? how to let him cherish me more?
Mabbe e care u gave him is too much for him to take, tt's why he said he wan freedom?? some guys wil regret nt cherishing u after u haf gone..
aniway..all e best!! hope everything turns out well 4 e both of ya..
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Hey....you are at least better then me leh....
I'm not allowed to talk to any other guys...and mix around with those friends of mine in the past.....now i totally is not contacting with any of my friends...even though i see my friends outside when i was with my boyfriend i don't even dare to greet my friend hi or bye....now he's getting more and more jia lat....my movements are controlled...... -
Still i am still in contact with 2 or 3 or my friends (which are girls)...but neber come out 1....contact as in once a month or once every 2 months........even though my friends and parent tell me how to solve it....They ask me not to do things he say....example..he ask me go out or anything i agreed straight away.......they teach me try to play hard to get.....so he will cherish me more.............but fear of breaking up.......i din heed their advice though i noe it can be used....and very good to use.......
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i sympathise with u bro cos i can relate to it.sigh.....
Originally posted by archie84:
hai !!!
sometime i really hope to have a girlfriend like you , a ger who care . My girlfriend is something like your boyfriend and i think even [b]WORST She totally dont care about me !!! sometime i think letting her go , but ......but...... just cant gather myself to do it . i treat her so good that i think she take for granted .
hai !!! thats life ........ guess when you lose a person then you will really appreciated them !!!
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2 make things short...
hmmm.. i broke up w my bf.. cuz he say he love someone else more.. yet now he's back.. n we r kinda back 2gether.. but i hve no idea where's this is going.. n i will get real worried frm time to time..
but i'd learnt not to grumble that much.. hmm.. as in i wont expect frm him.. i wont expect him to do this or do that..
i guess this is natural.. cuz its obvious that i do love him more than he love me.. n.. tink i'm blessed enough to hve him by my side now.. n e fact that he is actually tryin al he can.. puttin effort in2 dis relatnshp.. kinda reassures me more..
i guess.. try not to expect... hmm.. u wil feel better that way.. seriously...
juz put it dis way.. somethings r juz meant to be.. it juz happens.. if he really cares 4 u.. it shows.. mayb u din notice it.. or mayb u been expectin much more than he can give... on e other hand.. if he juz dun bother.. dun tel me u cant feel it...
if u reali luv him.. juz kp ur fingers crossed.. n b glad that he's aredi by your side.. there's alot of pple out there who r stil yearnin 4 someone whom they can cal their own..
no worries.. everythin hve their own way of wrkin out.. it'l b fine.. cheers
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playing hard to catch is good but dun overdo it as he might lose interest easily.
hmm. but if he does, bet he dun really love u...
what u say of him seems like he wants it out of a relationship.
for me i think he is not ready or got tired after a couple of failures...
maybe try sorting things out with him over a conversation.
how i wish i have some gers who love me too....
just some stupid advice. i been only in 1 relationship. haha -
relationships are like a heart, u must learn how to contract and relax at the right time.. sometimes u have to be good to him, at times u have to be firm and make ur stand, at times u be a little demanding, at times be cheeky.Originally posted by jeslin:what would you do if your bf takes you for granted? how to let him cherish me more?
give and take,
and if he doesnt give, well dump him, -
probelms like this arises at times i cannot bring myself to understand the general psyche of mypeers they want to get into a relaitonship because well they CAN make mistakes ...
The stupidity in that... the ironic process that goes in their head ...they say they are allowed to make mistakes well if they are aware of them why make them and si it fun to be happy or more crudely have usch superficial relationships and human interaction when the other party has a different view in taking that seriously.that asa ifni the relationship or the BOND itself .. playing at the expense of others sigh how sad the world is -
ui am not tryi toi imply that your relaiionship is of one
your boyfriend may be tryin his own way of making you cherish him
one word --observe -
How about finding someone who can cherish you more?Originally posted by jeslin:what would you do if your bf takes you for granted? how to let him cherish me more?
There is no way to change a guy. It's a lot easier for a guy to change a girl.
You can either accept him the way he is, or change boyfriend. -
i've changed... since i met her..
but that's beside the point...
mostly, if the guy takes you for granted, he will continue to do so.. and if he "cherishes" you sporadically, unfortunately, it's probably some kinda guilt kicking in... he may not have done anything but his not caring for you will somehow eat at him...
unfortunately, there is no way i can think of -
Wah, who is that girl? So power!Originally posted by the Bear:i've changed... since i met her.. -
the girl i love and may have lost...
so power? yes
i have actually found myself and see changes in me... i'm no longer cold and analytical... i still analyse things but i feel a lot more these days
she's basically thawed out my frozen heartOriginally posted by Honeybunz:Wah, who is that girl? So power! -
Sorry to hear about your problem! Well, to my point of view... some people will never learn how to cherish someone special or be happy and content with what they have until they lose it. Its the same with me... we are going through the same problem. The only different is that mine lasted for 6 years before finally breakingOriginally posted by jeslin:i'm with him for 1 year plus liao [from last patch].. we broke and patched alot times.. if i count the total time we have been together, i think we are together for more than 3 years. there's once he fell for another girl, but he came back, so, from then on, i afraid of him go away again, treat him better. maybe too good liao..
now he says he wans freedom.. but he has lots of it already.. i just need him just to be there.. thats all. am i too posessive? 
I don't think that you are posessive but just feeling very insecure. Sometimes, i believe that it is better to loved and lost then to have never at all. If you know that this relationship is worth trying then don't give up without a fight. Good luck and hope for the best!