Originally posted by m.c.king:actually, I've not comitted myself to be in love with her already. It just that during the gathering, I'm attracted to her personality and the way she speaks and reacts and would like to know her better and she said she's still single and available.
Problem is how to get near and to know her better on the sly. If I start calling her all of a sudden, she would start to suspect I'm interested in her and might shy away. I hope to know her (and for her to know me) better before I can tell if I really like her and then would tell her about it.
Also, I started the topic bcos I fear that my financial position would be hard to sustain a relationship. Definitely it's not like as if I don't wish to spend on cent at all, but still I would give her some gifts every now and then though I won't be able to afford expensive watches and jewelleries and I can't expect her to dine in foodcourts all the time for any dates rite?
Originally posted by m.c.king:I went for a class gathering recently and the girls that I know are already in the working world with a stable income whereas I'm still studying in university bcos of NS and of course no income.
Assuming at this stage of my life I found someone attractive, should I try to go for it and probably try to get to know that girl better or wait until I'm in a better financial position later when I graduate and found a job. Of course, I also fear that by that time, the available ones have already become unavailable.
I think I'm a person who would go for a girl I know instead of trying to pick one up in some pub or off the street.
How and what would the majority of Sg girls think? Do they look at guys a possible mate as economic partner and would shun them if they're currently earning less than them (or nothing?) or would they be prepared to overlook a bit at least temporarily until I complete my studies?
You should be concentrating on your studies...Study is your 1st prority..The requiremnts what a gal wants from a guy:-
1) Stable Job
2) Stable finanical
3) Secure
4) Happiness
Take for an example if you do not have stable job, you will not have a stable finanical. You will be able to give the gal whom you like or love any happiness and secure that she wants.
Do you wants to quarral with your gf everiday regarding the finanical issue. Do you wants her to be happy or do you wanna her to suffer with you for the near future if both of you will to get married.
I believe you are mature enuff to know what is best for your future. Which one has the most impact for your future. There are many factors that you should consider very carefully. Nowadays, it getting tougher to survive in Singapore as technology is getting more and more advance; furthermore Singapore is a very reality society.
Some of my guy frds did told me b4 why they do not wants to have a gf cos they dun have the roots of the finanical stable unable to give the gal any happiness if she will to stick with him. He will not let the gal to suffer with him, he wants the gal to be happy.