how to cope with breakups?
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now he's wans a breakup liao.. how to cope? i'm really really shattered.. so weak and tired.. what should i do? how to let go? i really afraid of being single after being with him for 4 years. ppl pls help. i really feel like letting go, but can't find enough strength to do it.
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Imagine ur life without him, and think about the time before u ever met him. You were doing just fine than right? And comparing the 4 yrs that you are together with him, its such a short time. Imagine tat the time u spend with ur parents.Originally posted by jeslin:now he's wans a breakup liao.. how to cope? i'm really really shattered.. so weak and tired.. what should i do? how to let go? i really afraid of being single after being with him for 4 years. ppl pls help. i really feel like letting go, but can't find enough strength to do it.
You are just got so used to haf someone to care for you, to be by your side, by im sure you can do without it also. You need to be strong and pick up the pieces, its going to be hard at 1st, but time will heal your wound. If he is not meant for you, even if together, there wont be any happiness.
Indulge in ur work, or sch, and try to leave urself as little free time as possible, so tat you will not wonder away in ur thoughts. Read a book till you are dozing off before you go to slp. Simply keep urself busy, you will be surprised how fast you can get over it.
Go out with friends, ask them how they cope with breakup in the past, u might gain to learn new insights about things.
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let him go...even u beg him 2 stay,he doesn't love u anymore
btw...how about going out with mi
i'll treat u better
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As De|usi0n mention,u survive really well b4 meeting him.i know its neber easy but u can talk to the ppl here.they r really friendly.how abt joining us for the gathering??? Originally posted by De|usi0n:Imagine ur life without him, and think about the time before u ever met him. You were doing just fine than right? And comparing the 4 yrs that you are together with him, its such a short time. Imagine tat the time u spend with ur parents.
You are just got so used to haf someone to care for you, to be by your side, by im sure you can do without it also. You need to be strong and pick up the pieces, its going to be hard at 1st, but time will heal your wound. If he is not meant for you, even if together, there wont be any happiness.
Indulge in ur work, or sch, and try to leave urself as little free time as possible, so tat you will not wonder away in ur thoughts. Read a book till you are dozing off before you go to slp. Simply keep urself busy, you will be surprised how fast you can get over it.
Go out with friends, ask them how they cope with breakup in the past, u might gain to learn new insights about things.
take care. -
Gurl..
Just let it go..Since it already over and u know it's the truth..
Dun dwell in the past when u can rejoy wad's ahead of u..
Dun let the shadow of yesterday destroy tomolo's dreams..
Live life happier..coz when u look back..u will feel that u have made the right choice of living happily..
Why feel so sad over someone that do not love u anymore..if u cry, pain urself..does he know? Will he care? Will this bring him back?
The answer is NO..so..please let it go..i know it's not easy..but the world still spins and life still goes on..
He letting u go will be his biggest mistake..it's his lost..not yours..so cheer up k..
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i oso needa learn hw 2 cope..
tink i wil collapse again if that day eva come again.. -
Only u urself can convince urself to do it, no matter how many advice ppl here gif, only u can pull urself together, and get on wif life without him.
I have to admit, it's not going to be easy.
But think abt it, when u are born, only ur parents, ur family is with you. He is NOT there. u are standing on ur feet, till he came into ur life. wat is four years compared to ur childhood, or even ur life?
Think abt his bad points, and keep urself occupied.
I've been there, I noe how it feels.....
But....
jiu de bu qui, xin de bu lai~
so....
Live ur life well....... Live it better den when u are wif him.....
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from ur earlier post, allow me to suggest tat u let go of him... if he doesn't treasure u wat's the point of staying together? let him go so tat u can be free from wondering wat's he thinking when he says 'dun mind' or 'anything'... spare urself the agony of him telling u 'next time' when u wan him to accompany u somewhere... has he ever been there for u, physically or emotionally? dun say last time... last time could be so long ago... we r talking abt now, recently...Originally posted by jeslin:now he's wans a breakup liao.. how to cope? i'm really really shattered.. so weak and tired.. what should i do? how to let go? i really afraid of being single after being with him for 4 years. ppl pls help. i really feel like letting go, but can't find enough strength to do it.
girl, get a hold of urself... u may be w him for 4 yrs, but considering u break up n patch n break up n patch ........... it just shows tat things r not going rite n r still not going rite since now he wans to break again... i'm sure u got lotsa other gal pals out there... u may feel lost without him, but i'm sure when ur gal pals noe they will be ever willing to support u n help u pull thru... -
Well...You've got to be strong, its either you be strong and try not to think so much, thou its easier said then then done, you got to be strong. tRy to do some sports to keep you away from thinking about it. maybe you can go swimming, blading, or any sports you play. Swimming is really a good way to keep yourself free and you can really thinks better after a swim. keeps swimmign laps. it helpsOriginally posted by jeslin:now he's wans a breakup liao.. how to cope? i'm really really shattered.. so weak and tired.. what should i do? how to let go? i really afraid of being single after being with him for 4 years. ppl pls help. i really feel like letting go, but can't find enough strength to do it. -
You ain't afraid of moving on - you fear walking alone in the future. The relationship has set roots in it - your daily life, friends, social events, etc probably revolves around the both of you - you feel the pressure and find it difficult to go back to single life.Originally posted by jeslin:now he's wans a breakup liao.. how to cope? i'm really really shattered.. so weak and tired.. what should i do? how to let go? i really afraid of being single after being with him for 4 years. ppl pls help. i really feel like letting go, but can't find enough strength to do it.
Are you sure there is reasons to remain in this relationship other than just the fear of walking alone in your life from now onwards?
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erm... na de qi yao fang de xia! i knoe itz easy to say but difficult to do.... but at least try. last time i broke up wit my ex. i took 2-3 years to forget him. i try to hate him. think of his bad points. think.... is he worth while? mian qiang shi bu hui you xing fu de.... i know u will think of the past. but tat was the past... wang shi zhi neng hui wei. so let it go.... i encourage u to cry... for few days after tat tell ur self to stop. itz enough. get on wit life. if u think u did ur best to save this relationship then u wont regret. is he the one who will regret. take care friend.
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Originally posted by jeslin:now he's wans a breakup liao.. how to cope? i'm really really shattered.. so weak and tired.. what should i do? how to let go? i really afraid of being single after being with him for 4 years. ppl pls help. i really feel like letting go, but can't find enough strength to do it.
if it's even possible, i'd like to know how too.. -
He wants a break up and you're feeling tired too? Breaking up might not always be a bad thing in life... Some people might agree if they've experience in struggling with a down turn relationship just to see it fall apart finally...Originally posted by jeslin:now he's wans a breakup liao.. how to cope? i'm really really shattered.. so weak and tired.. what should i do? how to let go? i really afraid of being single after being with him for 4 years. ppl pls help. i really feel like letting go, but can't find enough strength to do it.
4 years shouldn't be taken as a determinant factor... Whether you let it go or not, what's his decision? A relationship works both ways.... And you're tired... Are there really good reasons to keep the relationship going other than the fact that it has been 4 years...? What are the chances of him turning back and things going on smoothly...?