my beloved bf love me not????
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we have been together for about 1 yr 7 months.. but its over ..
i tell him tat we cant be together anymore. i need a bf to care of me to accompany me to share with me anything...
but he said he love me, "STILL" wan me to be by his side...
tat day i told him tat we cant be together, he siad y i said 'u don seen to be my bf'..he siad ' y? izzit got pple fetch their gal gal to school alway go out together.' i didn't reply anything coz i was so sad and even noe the reasons.. i love him so much. all the thing he wan i gave him! but seen like he put his fren number 1..
when i breakoff with him, he like very relax, happy... i was very very very sad.. anyone can tell me.. tat can we be together again coz i reali love him, he also love me...
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Originally posted by nicole_hurts:
we have been together for about 1 yr 6 months.. but its over now..
i tell him tat we cant be together anymore. i need a bf to care of me to accompany me to share with me anything...
but he said he love me "STILL" wan me to be by his side...
tat day i told him tat we cant be together, he siad y i said 'u don seen to be my bf'..he siad ' y? izzit got pple fetch their gal gal to school alway go out together.' i didn't reply anything coz i was sad and i cried.. i love him so much. all the thing he wan i give him! but seen like he put his fren number 1 and me the second...
when i breakoff with him, he like very relax, happly... i was very very very sad.. anyone can tell me.. tat can we be together again coz i reali love him, he also love me... 
Before I begin, just cool down yourself.
The reason for your break-up is because you are feeling insecured and confused over what you want and what he gives. Basically, there is a little misunderstanding of needs and reality.
You want a bf, you want love and you want company - probably he can give the first two, but lacks in the last aspect. All I can say is that personal space to a guy is pretty important (Especially if he is a Aries, Leo or Sagi), however, over the burst of emotions from your words here, I suspect its more than what had just happened.
You felt disappointed when you have broke off with him and he barely put in any effort in trying to win you back - originally, different from what you had wanted in the first place. Now, when he claims that he loves you - you doubt. Its like a sinking ship - descending into a void of nothingness Is love (and only love) enough to substain a relationship?
You both have to talk - I silly to lose a relationship without even first communicating and coming into a proper & rational decision. I urge you to date him out to one good, quiet place and trash your feelings to him. What you want to know and what he is really feeling/thinking would be given from there.
P.S: Are you a PIsces, Scorpio or Cancer?
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Originally posted by Yunhaier:P.S: Are you a PIsces, Scorpio or Cancer?
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Are you ok? Has something happened recently or have you always been feeling this way on and off?Originally posted by nicole_hurts:
we have been together for about 1 yr 6 months.. but its over now..
i tell him tat we cant be together anymore. i need a bf to care of me to accompany me to share with me anything...
but he said he love me "STILL" wan me to be by his side...
tat day i told him tat we cant be together, he siad y i said 'u don seen to be my bf'..he siad ' y? izzit got pple fetch their gal gal to school alway go out together.' i didn't reply anything coz i was sad and i cried.. i love him so much. all the thing he wan i give him! but seen like he put his fren number 1 and me the second...
when i breakoff with him, he like very relax, happly... i was very very very sad.. anyone can tell me.. tat can we be together again coz i reali love him, he also love me... -
Originally posted by Yunhaier:P.S: Are you a PIsces, Scorpio or Cancer?
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understand that u r still v young
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are u suspecting that so called friend ur ex-bf went out with could be ur love rival?
if not i feel that sometimes girls got to understand that they cannot always stay 'number one' in guys' mentality....
other than giving guys some space to breathe...u must understand that they have their own lives to live....cannot always just 'revolve around their gf'....
if i were a guy, i will also be rather bek chek if my gf wants me to place her on top priority everytime...yeah it can be one of the top, but never the number one spot... -
sad to hear that u broke up... i can tell that u 2 still cherish 1 another. i too just broke up with my gf. i 2 wanted her to care 4 me, but she cant. we hadn't met in a month when we're still 2 gether.. i was upset. but like wat Yunhaier said, u should tell him how u feel abt being left out... if u think dat he won't change his way.then take time let it go... its hard when u lost something precious, but we have to let it go if it doesn't work out.... i'm slowly doing that as wellOriginally posted by nicole_hurts:
we have been together for about 1 yr 6 months.. but its over now..
i tell him tat we cant be together anymore. i need a bf to care of me to accompany me to share with me anything...
but he said he love me "STILL" wan me to be by his side...
tat day i told him tat we cant be together, he siad y i said 'u don seen to be my bf'..he siad ' y? izzit got pple fetch their gal gal to school alway go out together.' i didn't reply anything coz i was sad and i cried.. i love him so much. all the thing he wan i give him! but seen like he put his fren number 1 and me the second...
when i breakoff with him, he like very relax, happly... i was very very very sad.. anyone can tell me.. tat can we be together again coz i reali love him, he also love me...
all the best to ya.......
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if u 1 to patch y u initiate the break in the 1st place.. i think he will be damn fckdup if his gf wanna break den wanan patch..
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Could the issue you are struggling with be related to expectations? What do you think your bf should do for you? Are these realistic? They things we are looking for may be nice to us but is it something we can expect someone to do and to do it consistently? Does he know what you want him to do? It may not be fair to judge and say that since he cannot fulfill the 'roles and responsibilities', he cannot be your bf.Originally posted by nicole_hurts:
we have been together for about 1 yr 6 months.. but its over now..
i tell him tat we cant be together anymore. i need a bf to care of me to accompany me to share with me anything...
but he said he love me "STILL" wan me to be by his side...
tat day i told him tat we cant be together, he siad y i said 'u don seen to be my bf'..he siad ' y? izzit got pple fetch their gal gal to school alway go out together.' i didn't reply anything coz i was sad and i cried.. i love him so much. all the thing he wan i give him! but seen like he put his fren number 1 and me the second...
when i breakoff with him, he like very relax, happly... i was very very very sad.. anyone can tell me.. tat can we be together again coz i reali love him, he also love me...
If you are more calm, maybe you'd like to think about the relationship: what did you appreciate about him in terms of his personality? These things will stay with him. If you would like him to be more sensitive to you, that can take time to cultivate. For eg, most guys are not as sensitive as females not because they do not want to, but they are less in tune to read body language, understand how you feel from you facial expressions and all. If you should tell them that you are not feeling good, they'll go all out to make sure you feel better. That's the protective instinct in most guys (especially towards someone they care a lot about). Is the issue you face something that he can learn (and he is willing to) over time? -
well saidOriginally posted by pool.gal:Could the issue you are struggling with be related to expectations? What do you think your bf should do for you? Are these realistic? They things we are looking for may be nice to us but is it something we can expect someone to do and to do it consistently? Does he know what you want him to do? It may not be fair to judge and say that since he cannot fulfill the 'roles and responsibilities', he cannot be your bf.
If you are more calm, maybe you'd like to think about the relationship: what did you appreciate about him in terms of his personality? These things will stay with him. If you would like him to be more sensitive to you, that can take time to cultivate. For eg, most guys are not as sensitive as females not because they do not want to, but they are less in tune to read body language, understand how you feel from you facial expressions and all. If you should tell them that you are not feeling good, they'll go all out to make sure you feel better. That's the protective instinct in most guys (especially towards someone they care a lot about). Is the issue you face something that he can learn (and he is willing to) over time? -
boys are like that
when no gf wan a gf
when hav gf find that a gf is damn mafan
u hav to giv ur bf space... dun make him feel that having a gf is making him lose times for his personal stuffs
u and ur bf are not alone in this world... frens and everything
if u could u can join him together when he meets his frens
no good fren would be unhappy if a female tags along when they go out (they would be damn happy coz got ger around
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reconsider it properly.. if u patch us, the same thing might happen
maybe u need to find someone who is willing to spend all his time for u -
sorry, i am new here..
sorry for late reply..
i'm libra and he is scorpio...
ans tens alot of ya advise.
but i don have to courage to meet up and talk the feeling tat i am havin... when meet up i noe we wun talk much..
anyway i now at school. i will reply u more when i am at home..
tens anyway.
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tens anywayOriginally posted by sleepy:boys are like that
when no gf wan a gf
when hav gf find that a gf is damn mafan
u hav to giv ur bf space... dun make him feel that having a gf is making him lose times for his personal stuffs
u and ur bf are not alone in this world... frens and everything
if u could u can join him together when he meets his frens
no good fren would be unhappy if a female tags along when they go out (they would be damn happy coz got ger around )
reconsider it properly.. if u patch us, the same thing might happen
maybe u need to find someone who is willing to spend all his time for u
but i have gave him a lot of space.. n i am very sure he everyday is with his frenz, playin soccer, every nite... wat abt me, i now study, all i need is his listening ear, i wan to share with him abt my sch day.. but everytime i called him, he said 'i called u back later, i'm woking..' i understand.. and i waited... and when is 1am i nv hear him even a msg.. i am very disappointed and very very sad.. i need a guy share his things to me.. even is bad or good... tat all i wan..
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Sorry.. oldman like me is a little confussed.... who broke up with who har?
You broke up with yr bf and he feel relax?
I don't have a gf now but the last time when I have.... I felt that I'm being monitored where I go, who I'm with have to be made known.....
now without a gf, I feel very 'free' but then I realised that sometimes is not that yr gf don't allow you to go out with yr friends but they just want to be the MOST important person in yr social life.
The best will be both spend most of the time together but yet have their own free time (as to go out without the other half)
Realstionship is like flying a kite.... pull the string too tight the string will break, let the string too loose... it will fly away. The best thing is to pull the string at the right time and let it go at the right time in order for the kite to fly high.... -
is me who broke up with him... he also agree but in the end he don wan. he say he love me bla bla bla. say actually he wan to accompany go shopping. but he wan me to ask him out..but i donno cos i am a gal who pple ask me out then i go out.. i didn't ask pple out... and i did gave him lot of spaces..Originally posted by X-men:Sorry.. oldman like me is a little confussed.... who broke up with who har?
You broke up with yr bf and he feel relax?
I don't have a gf now but the last time when I have.... I felt that I'm being monitored where I go, who I'm with have to be made known.....
now without a gf, I feel very 'free' but then I realised that sometimes is not that yr gf don't allow you to go out with yr friends but they just want to be the MOST important person in yr social life.
The best will be both spend most of the time together but yet have their own free time (as to go out without the other half)
Realstionship is like flying a kite.... pull the string too tight the string will break, let the string too loose... it will fly away. The best thing is to pull the string at the right time and let it go at the right time in order for the kite to fly high.... -
maybe in this case u have given him too much space and he is taking it for granted.
its good to meet him face up and confront him on this issues. nothing much to say is an excuse to a personal confrontation with him. staying by urself and keeping all these holed up will only confuse u further and hallucinating that he dun love u. -
its right 4 u 2 let the relationship go. its sad to know that he neglected your feelings..... i honestly think u deserve someone better. if ur ex can't commit himself, no point holding on. the problem with him is that he doesn't face the mirror and ask if he has treated you the way u should be treated. yes he loves you, but loving a person is not enough. its easy to say i love u, but u cannot expect him or her to be there all the time. ur ex is taking u for granted. i've been in your shoes, exactly. but its alot more worse. but u did the right thing in chosing ur decision to leave. its hard to let go, but u'll get over it. i'm sure u will. all the best to ya....Originally posted by nicole_hurts:tens anyway
but i have gave him a lot of space.. n i am very sure he everyday is with his frenz, playin soccer, every nite... wat abt me, i now study, all i need is his listening ear, i wan to share with him abt my sch day.. but everytime i called him, he said 'i called u back later, i'm woking..' i understand.. and i waited... and when is 1am i nv hear him even a msg.. i am very disappointed and very very sad.. i need a guy share his things to me.. even is bad or good... tat all i wan.. 
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sorry, i am new here..Originally posted by Yunhaier: Before I begin, just cool down yourself.
The reason for your break-up is because you are feeling insecured and confused over what you want and what he gives. Basically, there is a little misunderstanding of needs and reality.
You want a bf, you want love and you want company - probably he can give the first two, but lacks in the last aspect. All I can say is that personal space to a guy is pretty important (Especially if he is a Aries, Leo or Sagi), however, over the burst of emotions from your words here, I suspect its more than what had just happened.
You felt disappointed when you have broke off with him and he barely put in any effort in trying to win you back - originally, different from what you had wanted in the first place. Now, when he claims that he loves you - you doubt. Its like a sinking ship - descending into a void of nothingness Is love (and only love) enough to substain a relationship?
You both have to talk - I silly to lose a relationship without even first communicating and coming into a proper & rational decision. I urge you to date him out to one good, quiet place and trash your feelings to him. What you want to know and what he is really feeling/thinking would be given from there.
P.S: Are you a PIsces, Scorpio or Cancer?
Cheers
sorry for late reply..
i'm libra and he is scorpio...
ans tens alot of ya advise.
but i don have to courage to meet up and talk the feeling tat i am havin... when meet up i noe we wun talk much.. i was so jealous to see couples walkin at orchard.. cos we din go out shopping or watchin movie.. but every week end we will meet up at him place, everytime we did the same thing. i am very bored of this days but i nv say it out. cos i got meet him up than nothing.. and now he wan me back.. he don wan to break actually.. cos he dot tat i have fall in love with others...
-Loving is not how u forget but how u forgive, not how u listen but how u understand, not wat u see but how u feel and not how u let go but how u hold on..- -
tens anywayOriginally posted by fumih_81:are u suspecting that so called friend ur ex-bf went out with could be ur love rival?
if not i feel that sometimes girls got to understand that they cannot always stay 'number one' in guys' mentality....
other than giving guys some space to breathe...u must understand that they have their own lives to live....cannot always just 'revolve around their gf'....
if i were a guy, i will also be rather bek chek if my gf wants me to place her on top priority everytime...yeah it can be one of the top, but never the number one spot...
but i have gave him a lot of space.. n i am very sure he everyday is with his frenz, playin soccer, every nite... wat abt me, i now study, all i need is his listening ear, i wan to share with him abt my sch day.. but everytime i called him, he said 'i called u back later, i'm woking..' i understand.. and i waited... and when is 1am i nv hear him even a msg.. i am very disappointed and very very sad.. i need a guy share his things to me.. even is bad or good... tat all i wan.. -
ya.. true.. my fren also told me tat.. but.. i cant let go...Originally posted by echandra:its right 4 u 2 let the relationship go. its sad to know that he neglected your feelings..... i honestly think u deserve someone better. if ur ex can't commit himself, no point holding on. the problem with him is that he doesn't face the mirror and ask if he has treated you the way u should be treated. yes he loves you, but loving a person is not enough. its easy to say i love u, but u cannot expect him or her to be there all the time. ur ex is taking u for granted. i've been in your shoes, exactly. but its alot more worse. but u did the right thing in chosing ur decision to leave. its hard to let go, but u'll get over it. i'm sure u will. all the best to ya....
maybe i will meet him up and decide whether we can be together again.. thank anyway
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i'm sure u'll make the right decision watever it is... all the bestOriginally posted by nicole_hurts:ya.. true.. my fren also told me tat.. but.. i cant let go...
maybe i will meet him up and decide whether we can be together again.. thank anyway -
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i dun understand ur last thread nicole. pls rephrase so ppl can better understand ur situation and help u.