can anyone advise me?
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hi to all! i have a prob tt's bugging me for quite some time.... u see, i like this girl who happens to be a very good fren of mine. one day i expressed my feelings to her and she said tt she and me have no sparks together so she feels tt a relationship is not possible... hence i wuz dejected and decided to like keep a distance away from her so tt the feelings for her would die off.... but then she still continues to sms me and i feel like i should stop talking to her for a while... Should i keep a dist from her and let thingd cool off or continue to keep in contact as if nothing happen? if i continue to talk to her, i think i'll still feel kind of hurt... sighz... can anyone advice me?
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guess why she continued to msg u is bcoz she wanna maintain friendship with you. probably sensing you will distant yourself from her, thus she's putting effort to make you feel at ease?
dont read too much into it. maintain friendship with her. who knows one day there will be sparks between the two of us?
good luck..
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dun be sad lah... i've been rejected 7 times until last year when i found The One... i had one case like yours... what i did was that i continue to talk to her and stuff lah... but i didn't tell her that i like her anymore... at first u'll feel damn awkwar, but just treat her as a fren... before long, everything will be over...
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dun be sad lah... i've been rejected 7 times until last year when i found The One... i had one case like yours... what i did was that i continue to talk to her and stuff lah... but i didn't tell her that i like her anymore... at first u'll feel damn awkward, but just treat her as a fren... before long, everything will be over...
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thanks guys... hopefully evrything would just turn out fine...
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i hope so too
pray and place your faith in Him
i did not write anything coz cereal and alphanumeric said the things i would haveOriginally posted by frOst^~^nOva:thanks guys... hopefully evrything would just turn out fine... -
r u a Christian?Originally posted by the Bear:pray and place your faith in Him -
yah Catholic
i'm betting frost nova is Christian looking at the sig textOriginally posted by bluez_sky:r u a Christian? -
Originally posted by frOst^~^nOva:hi to all! i have a prob tt's bugging me for quite some time.... u see, i like this girl who happens to be a very good fren of mine. one day i expressed my feelings to her and she said tt she and me have no sparks together so she feels tt a relationship is not possible... hence i wuz dejected and decided to like keep a distance away from her so tt the feelings for her would die off.... but then she still continues to sms me and i feel like i should stop talking to her for a while... Should i keep a dist from her and let thingd cool off or continue to keep in contact as if nothing happen? if i continue to talk to her, i think i'll still feel kind of hurt... sighz... can anyone advice me?
Ok, for such cases, there is no correct decision, however allow me to analysis for you to make better decisions.
I) She has no chemistry and feelings for you - however, from your post, no doubt she treats you like a good friend and probably wouldn't want to witness this friendship falling into waste. Thus the continuous SMS.
II) If behaving like last time would cause you some amount of hurt and tension, probably a little break/rest may be good. However, do take note that she wants to salvage this friendship thought a relationship may be impossible. By keeping distance, you are telling her indirectly that the friendship is permanently affected and things may not be the same anymore.
III) You can talk to her and come to some kind of conclusion - like remaining as very good friends like before and all that stuff. Probably this is the best solution to everything - provided if stress and tension is not very hurting to your soul. Rejection is common part and parcel of life. In matter of the heart - it simply meants that she may not be the one.
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alermak... the yun sayings... haha... true... well, sometimes, you'll find the one after many rejections... it's life... i've been rejected 7 times lehz... then my current girlfren, you know how we started? we were loggerheads in the past cos of some shit, then just last year november, whiile msging halfway, we both msg each other same time telling each other that we used to like each other when we first met... is that fate or what? frost, God will let u have ur other half in due time one... He merely wants u to be prepared for the emotionally-charged roller coaster life of love...
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yups! i'm a catholic too!...Originally posted by the Bear:yah Catholic
i'm betting frost nova is Christian looking at the sig text
i'll just leave evrything in God's hands and one day everything will all rite. 
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priests taught that we put our faith in God and we also do what we think is right...
faith alone is not enough
we have to do our part tooOriginally posted by frOst^~^nOva:yups! i'm a catholic too!...i'll just leave evrything in God's hands and one day everything will all rite. -
wow.....ur 1 very unique ......Originally posted by alphanumeric:alermak... the yun sayings... haha... true... well, sometimes, you'll find the one after many rejections... it's life... i've been rejected 7 times lehz... then my current girlfren, you know how we started? we were loggerheads in the past cos of some shit, then just last year november, whiile msging halfway, we both msg each other same time telling each other that we used to like each other when we first met... is that fate or what? frost, God will let u have ur other half in due time one... He merely wants u to be prepared for the emotionally-charged roller coaster life of love...