How to answer this question when you ask a girl out?
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Hi people,
I believe this topic dilema is pretty common among guys....
When you ask a girl out casually, she replies: "can I ask my friend along?" or "are we the only 2?" How would you respond? i mean especially when you want it to be a date and with no light bulbs around........
I know at a beginning stage a person wants to get to know you in a group first but besides that, any suggestions? -
Want to know in a group is a minor factor - feeling uncomfortable with you contribute a larger percentage.Originally posted by Augustin:Hi people,
I believe this topic dilema is pretty common among guys....
When you ask a girl out casually, she replies: "can I ask my friend along?" or "are we the only 2?" How would you respond? i mean especially when you want it to be a date and with no light bulbs around........
I know at a beginning stage a person wants to get to know you in a group first but besides that, any suggestions?
Who would want to go out with somebody on a date feeling slightly uncomfortable with him/her?
The day when she feels comfortable with you, would be the day she accept your date 1 v 1.
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take the hint,
dont bother asking her out and wasting your time. -
Yar, she's bring a friend bcos she wants to feel more assured and comfortable going out with you. If you already asked her out and she didn't reject, you're already one step in front. Let her bring her friend, you can bring yours. Maybe during this outing, she will know you better, and slowly, she'll be able to assure herself that its safe to go out with you.
That'll be the time when yes, she will agree to a 1-1 date with you. But don't relax so soon. Show her that you appreciate going out with her, whether its a 1-1 or with her friend. These are the little things girls notice, alot. -
one thing i learn..if u wanna like her, u must also try to like her frens too...
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I would be straight forward and say its just the 2 of us.. if she doesnt want then I'll say oklah bring a friendOriginally posted by Augustin:Hi people,
I believe this topic dilema is pretty common among guys....
When you ask a girl out casually, she replies: "can I ask my friend along?" or "are we the only 2?" How would you respond? i mean especially when you want it to be a date and with no light bulbs around........
I know at a beginning stage a person wants to get to know you in a group first but besides that, any suggestions? -
Parka takes down notes.
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make sure the girl got a friend as pretty along, when u can hit 2 bird with a stone, go for it lar.
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if u make it sound serious then she will take it seriously. if u take a more light-hearted approach to the whole situation, she's likely to be more at ease being with u alone.Originally posted by Augustin:Hi people,
I believe this topic dilema is pretty common among guys....
When you ask a girl out casually, she replies: "can I ask my friend along?" or "are we the only 2?" How would you respond? i mean especially when you want it to be a date and with no light bulbs around........
I know at a beginning stage a person wants to get to know you in a group first but besides that, any suggestions?
so she responses with "can i ask my friend along?" right? u just reply "nope!".. then she'll be stunned. then u say "aiyah joking one lar! ask lor.. doesn't matter."
in a way this shows to her that u aren't PURPOSELY wanting to spend time alone together, which brings up her defences, becos even tho she might have a above avg or good impression of u, girls (esp the shyer ones) dun like things to move fast, and then there's things like wat if her friends tease her, etc etc.
wat u're essentially doing is putting her guard down. girls take a while to trust a new guy and coming on to her thru the front door is quite disconcerting.
don't be surprised if after that conversation, she tells u a few hours later, "eh my fren cannot make it liow, so it's just us two!"
the irony of human behavior. LOVE IT!
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Originally posted by AaLviNn:
what if when u brought along a friend and your friend is like more open minded and good at talking and keeps talking and talking, in the end, the gal like your friend better?
Yar, she's bring a friend bcos she wants to feel more assured and comfortable going out with you. If you already asked her out and she didn't reject, you're already one step in front. Let her bring her friend, you can bring yours. Maybe during this outing, she will know you better, and slowly, she'll be able to assure herself that its safe to go out with you.
That'll be the time when yes, she will agree to a 1-1 date with you. But don't relax so soon. Show her that you appreciate going out with her, whether its a 1-1 or with her friend. These are the little things girls notice, alot. -
wah like that also can? it's not always a competition. not all girls will fall for a talkative and friendly charmer.Originally posted by digicharat:what if when u brought along a friend and your friend is like more open minded and good at talking and keeps talking and talking, in the end, the gal like your friend better?