Wat is he thinking when....
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I have a bf of nine months... During this 9 months.. 2 months are overseas and he waited... i know he surfed porn and i didn't mind as its very normal.. even bought few vcds for him.. I fly around frequently and it adds up to like half of the month every month. Just today, i saw an email accidentally from his inbox... I admit that it was wrong for intruding his privacy... (Put that aside 1st) but i saw this email and i wanna know what he was thinking when he send this email to a gal from an adult friend making website. This website are ppl who r interested to find erotic frenz or sexmates to place their profile etc..
It says :
"hi... 20(age) here. saw ur posting on blah blah blah.....curious abt wat kind of guy u are looking for... grateful if u cld attach a pic too...."
During the early stages of our relationship.. i was very insecured but he shows signs that he really care for me. In order to talk to me for a longer time when i'm overseas, he bought me a pocket pc so that we can chat online in the hotel... I was finally convinced that he really love me and know this.... am i getting a little paranoid? Am i making a hil out of a mole?.... or is this a sign that he might be astray? What was he thinking abt when he send this email to that person? Can u guys tell me? Please.. thanks you -
he's looking for a little Nookie on the side
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any other feedbacks from u guys?
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It's good that you accepted his high sexuality drive, (afterall everyone has their fair share of it, just how well controlled and disciplined one is, that's all) but as to be encouraging him further by buying him vcds, im not so sure about it. Having an open mind is good, but think of the consequences it will lead it....
Every action results in equal or opposite reaction... so here's the opposite reaction from your action of buying vcds for him. You're not here for him, he needs to satisfy his lust. What to do next? He don't like to 'D.I.Y.', so he's finding someone who's into similar passion... Get it?
Besides I dont see if you have anything to get worried about if it's an overseas site you're talking about. Singapore localised porno sites are by far few, unless I'm wrong... Just getting his fair share of thrill and excitment when you're not around.
By the way, how I see it as is that, you provided him the chance to be lad astray if he really is. Imagine this 'My gf bought me vcds to watch, but she's not around... damn, do I do it myself or what?', 'Heck! Let's try and see if someone is willing to do it for me.. anyway no one knows.'
Then the next question I want to ask you is this, 'Are you sure it's an accident when you clicked on his email?' Nothing is ever done on accident... if you know it's an accidental process, why carry on to read his mail knowing you're invading his privacy? Subconsciously, you want to know what he's been doing while you're not around, you want to see the kind of mails he's been receiving during your absence, thus you proceeded to read his mails. In other words, you simply don't quite trust him, do you? If you trust him, you won't have done what you did.
Think about it, what is it that you guys are together? Becoz you've got your needs and it can be satisfied by your guy? Or you guys are together bcoz it's really L.O.V.E. you're talking about.
Pardon my frankness... just my 2 cents worth.Originally posted by shirurinu:I have a bf of nine months... During this 9 months.. 2 months are overseas and he waited... i know he surfed porn and i didn't mind as its very normal.. even bought few vcds for him.. I fly around frequently and it adds up to like half of the month every month. Just today, i saw an email accidentally from his inbox... I admit that it was wrong for intruding his privacy... (Put that aside 1st) but i saw this email and i wanna know what he was thinking when he send this email to a gal from an adult friend making website. This website are ppl who r interested to find erotic frenz or sexmates to place their profile etc..
It says :
"hi... 20(age) here. saw ur posting on blah blah blah.....curious abt wat kind of guy u are looking for... grateful if u cld attach a pic too...."
During the early stages of our relationship.. i was very insecured but he shows signs that he really care for me. In order to talk to me for a longer time when i'm overseas, he bought me a pocket pc so that we can chat online in the hotel... I was finally convinced that he really love me and know this.... am i getting a little paranoid? Am i making a hil out of a mole?.... or is this a sign that he might be astray? What was he thinking abt when he send this email to that person? Can u guys tell me? Please.. thanks you -
hi long time no see...
looks like your new job is interesting...
hows everything beside this -
There's no absolute way to tell from there. It could be for thrill, for fun, he might be straying, might not....Originally posted by shirurinu:any other feedbacks from u guys?
I guess it'll all boils down to how strong is your relationship is for each other and what kinda person he is?
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relax ... i got this email everyday ... so ... dont worry ... trust him .... man although he is sex deprived ... he dont do it to you ... and he still respect you ... trut my gut feeling ...Originally posted by shirurinu:I have a bf of nine months... During this 9 months.. 2 months are overseas and he waited... i know he surfed porn and i didn't mind as its very normal.. even bought few vcds for him.. I fly around frequently and it adds up to like half of the month every month. Just today, i saw an email accidentally from his inbox... I admit that it was wrong for intruding his privacy... (Put that aside 1st) but i saw this email and i wanna know what he was thinking when he send this email to a gal from an adult friend making website. This website are ppl who r interested to find erotic frenz or sexmates to place their profile etc..
It says :
"hi... 20(age) here. saw ur posting on blah blah blah.....curious abt wat kind of guy u are looking for... grateful if u cld attach a pic too...."
During the early stages of our relationship.. i was very insecured but he shows signs that he really care for me. In order to talk to me for a longer time when i'm overseas, he bought me a pocket pc so that we can chat online in the hotel... I was finally convinced that he really love me and know this.... am i getting a little paranoid? Am i making a hil out of a mole?.... or is this a sign that he might be astray? What was he thinking abt when he send this email to that person? Can u guys tell me? Please.. thanks you -
Simple and short.Originally posted by Devil1976:There's no absolute way to tell from there. It could be for thrill, for fun, he might be straying, might not....
I guess it'll all boils down to how strong is your relationship is for each other and what kinda person he is? X2 -
Thanks.. cereal...Originally posted by ^cereal^:It's good that you accepted his high sexuality drive, (afterall everyone has their fair share of it, just how well controlled and disciplined one is, that's all) but as to be encouraging him further by buying him vcds, im not so sure about it. Having an open mind is good, but think of the consequences it will lead it....
Every action results in equal or opposite reaction... so here's the opposite reaction from your action of buying vcds for him. You're not here for him, he needs to satisfy his lust. What to do next? He don't like to 'D.I.Y.', so he's finding someone who's into similar passion... Get it? Besides I dont see if you have anything to get worried about if it's an overseas site you're talking about. Singapore localised porno sites are by far few, unless I'm wrong... Just getting his fair share of thrill and excitment when you're not around.
By the way, how I see it as is that, you provided him the chance to be lad astray if he really is. Imagine this 'My gf bought me vcds to watch, but she's not around... damn, do I do it myself or what?', 'Heck! Let's try and see if someone is willing to do it for me.. anyway no one knows.'
Then the next question I want to ask you is this, 'Are you sure it's an accident when you clicked on his email?' Nothing is ever done on accident... if you know it's an accidental process, why carry on to read his mail knowing you're invading his privacy? Subconsciously, you want to know what he's been doing while you're not around, you want to see the kind of mails he's been receiving during your absence, thus you proceeded to read his mails. In other words, you simply don't quite trust him, do you? If you trust him, you won't have done what you did.
Think about it, what is it that you guys are together? Becoz you've got your needs and it can be satisfied by your guy? Or you guys are together bcoz it's really L.O.V.E. you're talking about.
Pardon my frankness... just my 2 cents worth.
But there's something i wan to clarify.. i bought the vcds for him because he request me to...
But what u've said make sense though.. mayb .. i should think about y we r together.. I want to be together with him because i love him.. but for him.. i'm not really sure.
I think i should just relax a bit and not think so much.. Thanks anyway..