she have no more feeling for me..
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yesterday she told me that i have no more chance in future already. she told me she has no more feeling for me.
she said after we broke up, she still have a little feeling for me, but even after we broke up, i still made the same mistake i.e bad tempered. she had no more feeling for me ever since she think thru things.
she ask me not to give up the whole forest just because of a tree. she merely treat me as one of her best friends now. i told her i'll continue to treat her very nice and will wait for her.
now i am feeling a little sad. a little sad cos already not as sad as the time we broke up already. now, i have to act like i'm not affected by her words in front of her. as i dun want her to be unhappy or feel pressurized.
for her, i signed on the air foce. cos i want to settle down asap with her. but now she left me, i feel i'm someone alone, with no life.. with a stupid job of irregular working hours. everyday go home, go work, go home, go work.... -
btw, 4 more days is supposed to be our 3rd year together, but..
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i dun understand why when i disappoint her, she feeling towards me will continue to drop and drop, but when i treat her like queen, the feeling is not going to be more and more.... why?
she said the person i am now, will be a very good bf for her, but she just doesn't have the feeling for me already. -
when we used to be together, she wun talk to other guys on phone etc. but nowadays she did communicate with some guys she know from her previous work place and guys who she know from her friends. but she told me all of them are just friends. i believe her. but this give me a feeling her heart is already open for other guys.... yet mine is still closed. and will open for only her... only her...
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i wish to let go, but my heart is telling me to hang on... i really really love her... how am i going to let her know i really love her and wanting to take care of her???
how am i going to bring her back? how??? anyone teach me pls?? -
Since she have already thought things through... and she said that she doesn't have any feelings for you anymore. I think that its better if you move on with your life even ifyou wait she said that she wouldn't come back to you and there is no point forcing it.Originally posted by ahworm:yesterday she told me that i have no more chance in future already. she told me she has no more feeling for me.
she said after we broke up, she still have a little feeling for me, but even after we broke up, i still made the same mistake i.e bad tempered. she had no more feeling for me ever since she think thru things.
she ask me not to give up the whole forest just because of a tree. she merely treat me as one of her best friends now. i told her i'll continue to treat her very nice and will wait for her.
now i am feeling a little sad. a little sad cos already not as sad as the time we broke up already. now, i have to act like i'm not affected by her words in front of her. as i dun want her to be unhappy or feel pressurized.
for her, i signed on the air foce. cos i want to settle down asap with her. but now she left me, i feel i'm someone alone, with no life.. with a stupid job of irregular working hours. everyday go home, go work, go home, go work....
She might have thought what it will be like if she continues to be with you... although you may treat her like a queen but your bad temper and whatever habits, which you have may have and if you do it maybe too often. It could cause her to drift further and further away from you.
I am glad to say that you are one matured guy who would actually sign on and hoping to settled down with her soon. But if she doesn't want to be with you then i advice you not to force her.
Even if you do wait... will she ever come back? Think about it! If she is meant to be yours... she will definitely come back one fine day. If you really want her back... i think that you should try to change whatever it is that she doesn't like. Treating her like a queen... its not the only thing that what women would look for in a guy.
Loving someone takes more than just taking care, being there, treating her like queen etc. I know that it hurts really bad... i went with a girl whom i have been together for 6 years but in the end... it didn't work out. Life still goes on! Take it easy and hope for the best! -
When you disappoint her, naturally her feelings for would drop... may it be trust, love etc. Example... with a bad temper, she most likely would be thinking... would you hit one day when you reach your limit or when you snapped? Treating her like a queen its not the only thing that a women would look for in a man.Originally posted by ahworm:i dun understand why when i disappoint her, she feeling towards me will continue to drop and drop, but when i treat her like queen, the feeling is not going to be more and more.... why?
she said the person i am now, will be a very good bf for her, but she just doesn't have the feeling for me already.
Her love for your have died even she realized that you would be a good boyfriend for her. She have already decided to move on with her life... maybe you should move on with yours too. What meant to be yours... will be yours! -
If you really want her back... i think that you should try to change whatever it is that she doesn't like.
i have changed. she told me i'm now a lot better than what i used to be.. -
When she wouldn't talk to other guys, did she do that on her own free will or was it something you said or do whether by accident or indirectly? Maybe she feels that you are not giving her enough space and she wants to be free. Whether she will open her heart for other guys, that would be her choice. Sometimes, women just need to learn things the hard way. Who knows, maybe when she get a new boyfriend and things doesn't work out. She might even come back to you! Take it easy!Originally posted by ahworm:when we used to be together, she wun talk to other guys on phone etc. but nowadays she did communicate with some guys she know from her previous work place and guys who she know from her friends. but she told me all of them are just friends. i believe her. but this give me a feeling her heart is already open for other guys.... yet mine is still closed. and will open for only her... only her... -
When she wouldn't talk to other guys, did she do that on her own free will or was it something you said or do whether by accident or indirectly?
she did it on her free will. when we're together, she wun bother to entertain any suitors nor tok to other guys unless it's her known friends.Sometimes, women just need to learn things the hard way. Who knows, maybe when she get a new boyfriend and things doesn't work out. She might even come back to you! Take it easy!
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If she cannot appreciate what have you done for her... maybe she just wanna know more people and see the world but you are in her way. I learn this the hard way... if you truly love someone, you would want her/him to be happy. Sometimes, its better to let go and let her/him be happy. You would be happy to if she is happy right? Just let her go and hope that she will return one fine day. But this doesn't mean that you shouldn't go and find someone new. You will never know if there will someone just around waiting to be notice.Originally posted by ahworm:i have changed. she told me i'm now a lot better than what i used to be.. -
Hope is a good thing but don't hope too much and too far. You will just be hurt in the end!Originally posted by ahworm:hoping... -
i did told her yesterday that if one day she has a new bf, i'll be happy for her, cos whatever chioce she made is because she is happy, and i'll be happy when she is too.Originally posted by Marmalade Boy:If she cannot appreciate what have you done for her... maybe she just wanna know more people and see the world but you are in her way. I learn this the hard way... if you truly love someone, you would want her/him to be happy. Sometimes, its better to let go and let her/him be happy. You would be happy to if she is happy right? Just let her go and hope that she will return one fine day. But this doesn't mean that you shouldn't go and find someone new. You will never know if there will someone just around waiting to be notice.
i told her i'm the type of guy who if love a girl, will love her till i die. but she told me she isn't this type of girl. -
i know it. actually when she say those words to me, i dun really feel as sad as what i did when we broke off.Originally posted by Marmalade Boy:Hope is a good thing but don't hope too much and too far. You will just be hurt in the end!
cos now, i know what i'm doing for her is just to make her happy, and nothing else. so actually more or less i knew i didn't have any chance in the first place. i just want her happy. -
ppl always say 'feeling can slowly cultivate'
hai.... so what if i treat her so well, can the feeling really be cultivated? once she have it and lost it, would she ever want to cultivate it again? -
Dear Ahworm
I share your anguish and pain - for you plan your future directed towards the lady of your love, in the end, it crumbles and comes to nothingness.
You mentioned that it was because of your character that eventually repelled her away - you did nothing to change that during the 3 years do you? Or the attempt wasn't good enough?
Love, often, isn't followed by logics - when you fail a subject, you studied hard - you will pass. Doesn't mean that you put in effort in love means it will blossom. It requires the same, equal attention by both parties. You mentioned you treated her like a princess - so does she treat you like a prince in return? You can't work on a relationship alone.
Feelings don't go up and down 100% purely on how you treat her. However, at least, you people managed to stay together for nearly 3 years. I mean, if she hasn't given you any single chance at all - she would have flew away ages ago.
She has drew the line: saying that you both could only maintain very good friendship. My take is that - respect her decision now for it ended on a pleasent note. Your craving for her is because she left your heart and pretty much enjoyed the pleasure of being single. She has started to move on - have you?
You can't always change to adapt just because you lost something -you have to improve yourself and burn it deep into your character. At the very least, you wouldn't be making the same mistake twice.
Don't panic - understand why you have lost her and govern yourself well first. Whether you can win her back or not - let fate and future decide for themselves. Afterall, it you both were meant to be together, you would. Just make use of your determination and willpower to exercise self improvements.
Cheers -
Sorry to say this but she kinda put it very clear cut that she wants to move on and not with you....Originally posted by ahworm:i did told her yesterday that if one day she has a new bf, i'll be happy for her, cos whatever chioce she made is because she is happy, and i'll be happy when she is too.
i told her i'm the type of guy who if love a girl, will love her till i die. but she told me she isn't this type of girl. -
Maybe she would... maybe she wouldn't... who knows? I think you better ask Yunhaier. He/she is a lot more exprience in this than i am.Originally posted by ahworm:ppl always say 'feeling can slowly cultivate'
hai.... so what if i treat her so well, can the feeling really be cultivated? once she have it and lost it, would she ever want to cultivate it again? -
should i continue to treat her well? what should i do now???? -
sorry. redundant question asked.
i feel i want to follow my heart, that is to continue to wait. whether have chance or no chance, i only know if i were to give up just like that, i definately regret.. -
You want to win her back - but when you do win her back, are you preventing the inevitable or exploring a whole new realm of relationship with her?Originally posted by ahworm:sorry. redundant question asked.
i feel i want to follow my heart, that is to continue to wait. whether have chance or no chance, i only know if i were to give up just like that, i definately regret..
On the surface, the need to get her back is overwhelming. On the deeper note - are you prepared? Or rather, is she prepared to give you a chance to try?
The problems lies within you, but the decision lies with her. You can try, of course, looking through your post, I feel its risky and probably the result would be the same. However, the key word is YOU CAN TRY - You run your own ship, mate.
P.S: Take some time to rationalize yourself first. You can't do a thing with your mind packed with fear and self-absorbed thoughts.
Cheers -
another bo doh ... dont waste your time ... your fate is over ... wait again ..
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dun worry, one day u'll forget everything and start ur life again... especially when the next girl for u appears
