Is it normal or is it juz me......
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Sigh...U noe, is it normal, if u're attached, married, etc...to feel that the sometimes u wish u can feel courted again passionately (meaning by others)? To feel the...how should I say it "passion" again?
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its normal. u probably just need to feel some courtship, wanna feel confident and good that someone looks at you in an admiring way. actually u can do that with ur the other half. create the courtship in the two of u again.Originally posted by sassyfire:Sigh...U noe, is it normal, if u're attached, married, etc...to feel that the sometimes u wish u can feel courted again passionately (meaning by others)? To feel the...how should I say it "passion" again? -
Originally posted by sassyfire:Sigh...U noe, is it normal, if u're attached, married, etc...to feel that the sometimes u wish u can feel courted again passionately (meaning by others)? To feel the...how should I say it "passion" again?
Everybody like the maigical feelings to be courted again. It is very sweet and you feel like heaven. However as time passes this passion may turn into responsibilities. It is normal for gers to feel this way, although i m a guy 
To feel the passion again needs the effort of both parties. Usually its the guy who must take the first step.
I have know tat some gers try to find this type of feelings by cheating behind her bf.........
One word of advise.....u can do anything u want but dun get caught -
why don't you ladies go "chase" your guy?
let him feel wanted and needed... even though you already do, do that for him for a while
usually it's the other way around, why not do it this way for a change? bet you he'll be so over the moon i know i'll be -
Originally posted by the Bear:why don't you ladies go "chase" your guy?
let him feel wanted and needed... even though you already do, do that for him for a while
usually it's the other way around, why not do it this way for a change? bet you he'll be so over the moon i know i'll be 
I think you r right time to change, since most of the girls r the players nowadys -
was wondering if ladies would feel the same if their guy suddenly decided to "court" them?
goodness knows some men don't stop even after they are married to her for ages...Originally posted by Umikun: I think you r right time to change, since most of the girls r the players nowadys -
Oh u bet...I used to do tat at times...but he can be so unexpressive, it's getting so discouraging I find that I'm like him at times! Like he's rubbing off me.....sigh...seriously I can be a romantic, bubbly person....abit nutty at times, I dun deny there're ppl after me at times but I noe cheating is something bad, so of course that's out of the question. Just tat at times, I feel so tired so oppressed I feel like screaming...so that's y at times when i get some attention, I feel kinda happi....Originally posted by the Bear:why don't you ladies go "chase" your guy?
let him feel wanted and needed... even though you already do, do that for him for a while
usually it's the other way around, why not do it this way for a change? bet you he'll be so over the moon i know i'll be -
i actually read this somewhere sitting in the waiting room of a dentist...
the advice column suggested 2 words...
Role Play
try it? spice up your life?Originally posted by sassyfire:Oh u bet...I used to do tat at times...but he can be so unexpressive, it's getting so discouraging I find that I'm like him at times! Like he's rubbing off me.....sigh...seriously I can be a romantic, bubbly person....abit nutty at times, I dun deny there're ppl after me at times but I noe cheating is something bad, so of course that's out of the question. Just tat at times, I feel so tired so oppressed I feel like screaming...so that's y at times when i get some attention, I feel kinda happi.... -
It can be pretty normal. Probably because you wanna feel 'wanted' or / and the need for some attention....Originally posted by sassyfire:Sigh...U noe, is it normal, if u're attached, married, etc...to feel that the sometimes u wish u can feel courted again passionately (meaning by others)? To feel the...how should I say it "passion" again?
This kinda situation can occur both because of your own character or environmental background reasons. -
I totally agree with what Keisha said but that is if you are married!Originally posted by keisha:its normal. u probably just need to feel some courtship, wanna feel confident and good that someone looks at you in an admiring way. actually u can do that with ur the other half. create the courtship in the two of u again. -
Seriously speaking, these are dissatisfaction factors that poised a very huge risk factor in long term relationship. The art of seduction targets at your dissatsifaction and drill into it, creating a hole in an instant. Its insidious, dangerous and invisible.Originally posted by sassyfire:Oh u bet...I used to do tat at times...but he can be so unexpressive, it's getting so discouraging I find that I'm like him at times! Like he's rubbing off me.....sigh...seriously I can be a romantic, bubbly person....abit nutty at times, I dun deny there're ppl after me at times but I noe cheating is something bad, so of course that's out of the question. Just tat at times, I feel so tired so oppressed I feel like screaming...so that's y at times when i get some attention, I feel kinda happi.... 
When a pro comes along - you will succumb or greatly shaken your own relationship.
When you desire something, this element is something you don't have/lacks. Its good to enjoy the pleasure of being courted, however, do remember: what do you actually want and steel yourself. Because the longer you take to understand the kind of guy that you want and be contented - there will be one eventually that will succeed in his art of seduction. There is no headache worst than those which clashes with your personal belief/morals/values and feelings.
I have a number of friends having this same problem as you - ended up majority having critical problems in later stage. At that time - its takes more than just simple counselling to get out of that trashhole they are in.
I feel its good to let your bf know about how you feel. Sparks in relationship can be rekindled, provided its not too late. What you lack in your relationship - built it in.
P.S: No relationship in the world comes in a perfect package of what you want in a guy/girl - more often than not, its always the elements that the couple builds in.
Cheers -
This only works if both parties are willing to try. Often it's hard to persuade someone who's too stubborn, unwilling to change.
Originally posted by the Bear:
i actually read this somewhere sitting in the waiting room of a dentist...
the advice column suggested 2 words...
[b]Role Play
try it? spice up your life?[/b] -
Can be a VERY DANGEROUS MOVE. Depending on who you're with. Ever heard of something? Words once spoken cannot be retrieved....Originally posted by Yunhaier:Seriously speaking, these are dissatisfaction factors that poised a very huge risk factor in long term relationship. The art of seduction targets at your dissatsifaction and drill into it, creating a hole in an instant. Its insidious, dangerous and invisible. When a pro comes along - you will succumb or greatly shaken your own relationship.
When you desire something, this element is something you don't have/lacks. Its good to enjoy the pleasure of being courted, however, do remember: what do you actually want and steel yourself. Because the longer you take to understand the kind of guy that you want and be contented - there will be one eventually that will succeed in his art of seduction. There is no headache worst than those which clashes with your personal belief/morals/values and feelings.
I have a number of friends having this same problem as you - ended up majority having critical problems in later stage. At that time - its takes more than just simple counselling to get out of that trashhole they are in.
I feel its good to let your bf know about how you feel. Sparks in relationship can be rekindled, provided its not too late. What you lack in your relationship - built it in.
P.S: No relationship in the world comes in a perfect package of what you want in a guy/girl - more often than not, its always the elements that the couple builds in.
Cheers -
Hmmm....in this case sharing of how the lady really feels may be a crossroad in the relationship.
Yun, your advise might work or swing to the other end like what Devil said.
I believe that it's something which only the person can get out of.
Perspective is the key.
When there's a lack, there's want. when want becomes desire....anyone who satisfies will become her master. -
i think it's quite normal to feel like reliving the 'passion'. at least we're talking about doing this with someone u're oredi attached to. this is where 'role play' may come in useful?
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Erm.. maybe I din explain myself on this part.Originally posted by Devil1976:Can be a VERY DANGEROUS MOVE. Depending on who you're with. Ever heard of something? Words once spoken cannot be retrieved.... To tell him about your feelings: you have to do the indirect approach to get towards your goal. He has to know that you have this little teeny desire of trying instill spark into the relationship.
To induce him to try and attempt - you have to begin yourself. Of course, logically speaking, it shouldn't be a blunt approach of saying 'word-for-word'. This process should be subconscious.
Cheers -
don't worry, i think u are very normal to feel that way... we all love the feeling of being attracted by someone...Originally posted by sassyfire:Sigh...U noe, is it normal, if u're attached, married, etc...to feel that the sometimes u wish u can feel courted again passionately (meaning by others)? To feel the...how should I say it "passion" again?