Why does a guy keep lying??
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why does my ex-bf keep lying to me??
we have broke up for almost 3yrs...
but he still tells me that he miss me..
and when i asked abt how long have he been with his girl, he told me that they are together for abt a yr but the actual fact is they have been together for abt 3yrs...
why does he wanna keep it from me?? -
you shouldn't be bothered
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how come i shouldn't be bothered??Originally posted by sillyme:you shouldn't be bothered -
Would you still hold on to a guy who is a two timer ?Originally posted by hoLdiNg oN:how come i shouldn't be bothered?? -
cuz he is ur EX-bf..y care..so wad if he lies to u? does it reali matter?Originally posted by hoLdiNg oN:how come i shouldn't be bothered?? -
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he's with another person already.. and unless you are still holding on to him..Originally posted by hoLdiNg oN:how come i shouldn't be bothered??
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walked away, yet looking back... remember the fate of Lot's Wife... but then it's human nature...
do think about it.. if he does not respect you enough to even tell you a simple inconsequential truth, what's the point of pursuing things?
you'll only get hurt...
walk away... he's now someone else's guy... and someone else's problems, pain, burden when he will lie to her...
let time wear away the sharp edges of pain...
p.s.
hope you get over him -
I agree very much....... not easy to get over our ex
because of my ex, I became a violent man. I drink a lot, I start brawl and hurt a lot of people.... I became a monster because I still love my ex at that time.....
Is it helping me..... no....... I don't want to be a monster......
Even at night, when loneliness engulfs me and makes me vengeful, I control..... No matter what, I will not be tempted to do the wrong thing.
I know you love your ex-bf. However, you have to be fair to yourself too. Can you bring yourself to hurt yourself just like I became a fighting monster in the past.
This is not selfish. This is your own welfare. And I know this is difficult because I got a bunch of noisy friends
who will come to MIRC to lecture me how to ge over it and still my relationship is the worst Hangover in the world. But never the less, keep trying no matter how long it takes.
We are all here to help..... people who is hurt and people who is not hurt are there to help each other.
Maybe I should organising a outing in a pub where girls can cry there silly and guys can get drunk fresh naked -
thanks..Originally posted by the Bear:walked away, yet looking back... remember the fate of Lot's Wife... but then it's human nature...
do think about it.. if he does not respect you enough to even tell you a simple inconsequential truth, what's the point of pursuing things?
you'll only get hurt...
walk away... he's now someone else's guy... and someone else's problems, pain, burden when he will lie to her...
let time wear away the sharp edges of pain...
p.s.
hope you get over him
i hope he doesn't become his gf's pain... -
Originally posted by {WuMing}78:Maybe I should organising a outing in a pub where girls can cry there silly and guys can get drunk fresh naked
maybe that will work... -
Originally posted by hoLdiNg oN:why does my ex-bf keep lying to me??
we have broke up for almost 3yrs...
but he still tells me that he miss me..
and when i asked abt how long have he been with his girl, he told me that they are together for abt a yr but the actual fact is they have been together for abt 3yrs...
why does he wanna keep it from me?? i think i know why he keeps lying..because he wants someone to ride his stick.. just kidding..lighten up..why bother about such an asshole? -
hmm your nick tells me a few things... or maybe it's just conincidental.
he knows u are holding on. and the lies keep his "bridge" to you open.
some guys are like that. i've been guilty of this in the past too. "never burn your bridges" is a popular saying. but do it for the right reasons. apparently he's not. -
Originally posted by hoLdiNg oN:why does my ex-bf keep lying to me??
we have broke up for almost 3yrs...
but he still tells me that he miss me..
and when i asked abt how long have he been with his girl, he told me that they are together for abt a yr but the actual fact is they have been together for abt 3yrs...
why does he wanna keep it from me??
8th Law of Love: Lying destoy intimacy.
When your bf lies (not white lies) about something relating to your relationship - your relationship will set its path on the declining stage when you discover this lie.
He will either do two things:
I) Use another lie cover it - more lies, more decline.
II) Admit that its his fault and ask for your forgiveness.
In the lying theory of relationship - anything more than one chance is considered unneccessary (differ from case to case). First is repent, second is taken for granted, third or more is taken you for a fool.
Anyway he is already an icon of the past - there is no need for you to ponder over his words/action/behavior/etc. Whatever sweetie little thing he says - just read, acknowledge and delete of your mind. Look into the future, not back.
Cheers -
with his behaviour like this, he already isOriginally posted by hoLdiNg oN:thanks..
i hope he doesn't become his gf's pain... -
tell me.. you still love him, dun ya ? or at least you wish you could still be with him. sorry if i'm wrong.Originally posted by hoLdiNg oN:how come i shouldn't be bothered??
but after all this time that he was lying (and still is), why you still bother abt him ????
if u dun have any feelings anymore for him (just like me now on my ex), you wouldn't even care if he has 1000 g/fs now. or if he lies to you, you wouldn't give a damn care either.
or issit only me who is too cruel to my ex (but he's a damn fucking lier)??? -
Originally posted by Yunhaier: 8th Law of Love: Lying destoy intimacy.
When your bf lies (not white lies) about something relating to your relationship - your relationship will set its path on the declining stage when you discover this lie.
He will either do two things:
I) Use another lie cover it - more lies, more decline.
II) Admit that its his fault and ask for your forgiveness.
In the lying theory of relationship - anything more than one chance is considered unneccessary (differ from case to case). First is repent, second is taken for granted, third or more is taken you for a fool.
Anyway he is already an icon of the past - there is no need for you to ponder over his words/action/behavior/etc. Whatever sweetie little thing he says - just read, acknowledge and delete of your mind. Look into the future, not back.
Cheers -
maybe u are rite abt my nick...Originally posted by jOhO:hmm your nick tells me a few things... or maybe it's just conincidental.
he knows u are holding on. and the lies keep his "bridge" to you open.
some guys are like that. i've been guilty of this in the past too. "never burn your bridges" is a popular saying. but do it for the right reasons. apparently he's not.
been thinking... and i guess u are rite...
he is juz keeping his bridge open.. -
he has done both..Originally posted by Yunhaier: 8th Law of Love: Lying destoy intimacy.
When your bf lies (not white lies) about something relating to your relationship - your relationship will set its path on the declining stage when you discover this lie.
He will either do two things:
I) Use another lie cover it - more lies, more decline.
II) Admit that its his fault and ask for your forgiveness.
In the lying theory of relationship - anything more than one chance is considered unneccessary (differ from case to case). First is repent, second is taken for granted, third or more is taken you for a fool.
Anyway he is already an icon of the past - there is no need for you to ponder over his words/action/behavior/etc. Whatever sweetie little thing he says - just read, acknowledge and delete of your mind. Look into the future, not back.
Cheers
asking for forgiveness and using another lie to cover...
and from what u had said... i guess he has taken me for a fool... coz i guess it has been countless times that he lied to me... -
.Originally posted by hoLdiNg oN:he has done both..
asking for forgiveness and using another lie to cover...
and from what u had said... i guess he has taken me for a fool... coz i guess it has been countless times that he lied to me...
Then will you be a fool to let him treat you like a fool? You seen this true colour - be gald that its over.
Cheers -
move on wld be the word 4 u
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Ahh...you learnt something there.Originally posted by hopy:move on wld be the word 4 u
How have you been?
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something similar like this to me has happened before my ex told me he never had a gf, but he did and every fren of mine knew about it but never tell me, i onli found out much later after they boke up. i was hurt since we were still good frens who had a mutual break up.
ur ex never tell u cause he did not wanna hurt u, he did not wan u to feel than that he got over u just like that and has a new gal while u r still alone, he still respects ur feeling and does not wan u to be sad and make it seem like wat u had did not mean much, later he did not know how or when to break it to u. i guess he does not wan u to think negatively of him. maybe there can be a future for u with him as his gal or livelong frenship, if he was to tell u than itself do u think ur frenship could have survived this long,
learn from relationships, so the next one u will know how to work on it and make it survive. eg. my ex sometimes did say he loves me still, though i know it aint like the love we used to have and i dont blame him. he is moving on with times, at least respects me and does not wanna hurt me. if he were to say not any more, that would have defintely spoilt my day.
u dont have to find a bf now, wat u can do is spend time with other potentials and understand wat u wan, dont go looking for ur ex in these guys. have fun importantly !
good luck gal. -
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