Originally posted by Uncle_MooMoo:
Need some advice here. I took up the identity of someone else to talk to this girl online, not because I?m afraid she finds out who I am (she kinds of knows me). I can?t really the reason (it was some time back) but I guess it?s probably that I?m too bored. I think she found out who I am, got pissed (either because she can?t stand being ?tricked? or she hates me, either way, it?s bad) and stopped forwarding those chain-mails to me. And then I realize I?ve got a crush on her. Through those mails that asks you to answer some questions and then forward it to your friends, I figured I stand a pretty good chance if she gets to know the real me?why do I say the real me? Cause she?s got quite a bad impression of me. So how do I get about getting her to know my ?sensitive, sweet, nice-guy? side?in fact, I don?t even know how to know her. I know where she attends her dance classes (though not the exact time and day but I?m willing to stalk there everyday, well I guess you have to work hard to win hearts eh?) but she?s those quiet, cool on the surface, really smart inside type?HELP! I know some of her friends if that helps, but I don?t think I can go through them.
Subconsciously, when you did something really 'extra' - you crave for a certain kind of attention. Yes, you do not fear to talk to her, rather its kind of reserve psychology of gathering attention that in the end, puts you in a bad position.
Though its not impossible, its rather difficult to change impression overnight unless continuous reinforcing of opposite-meaning message is send to the other party over a period of time.
In simple: If she has bad impression of you, whatever you do, it will deemed as bad impression even though it may seriously meant nothing to you. Its not about her not knowing your sweet, sensitive, good side - rather she do not want to give you the chance to. Only if she allow herself to expose to your good, sweet, sensitive side continuous and she must feel that you ain't what you SEEMED to be at first, then probably you might have a chance.
Forget about stalking - its exactly the same effect you will be giving her like you acting an identity to chat with her. If there is a top ten worst ways to chase girls - stalking rank the top few position.
P.S: Key word: Don't try too hard. Many times, its a real turn off. Be yourself around her and try to capture the opportunity around her and behave naturally. With little skill and lots of luck, she may give your impression a second check?
Btw: From what dance school ar? Se-ka-li I know her. Hiak hiak
Cheers