My thoughts to those who are looking for an answer
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Especially to Oceanboi, and those people who gave thought to it.
Reason why i didn't want to place it in ocean's keke thread. Cos i tot i wouldn't benefit others whom were obviously not interested in his thread.
So for the rest of you. If you find my thoughts useful, i wish you well.
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My friend, you need to realise that there's no such thing as puppy love, it's just a term people used for crushes and infatuations.
This True Love term and feelings are not to be differenciated from infatuation.
Cos in a usual sense. Infatuation IS the first stage of attraction.
Heart floating, blushing and stuff. Until when a friendship develops and grows mature then it's ready. But then who can wait till friendship grows mature then move on into an intimate r/s? Infatuation is exciting and fun! However if r/s was allowed to stay at the first stage. Both will face the test of many obstacles, from there they'll either drown, burn out, or give up. Hmm...thats how 'Puppy Love' come about.
Love is when you have moved on from the first stage, a stable understanding within the r/s.
EFFORTs were placed to ensure disccusions were for one another's well being.
LISTENing to one another, seeking a deeper sense of understanding.
COMMITMENTs, i couldn't stress this more then other.
This is the killer BUT also an ingredient for a couple to withstand waves, fire, storm and whatever which stands in the way.
I remember i had a friend whom had a eight years relationship with his gf. For three years, it was a long distance r/s.
He's in US and she's in Aust studying for their degree of Honors. There were so many things and distractions which happened to the both of them. After they both did great in studies, he stayed in US for a year and the half. While she's back in Sing, there were many guys who proposed to her. Great struggle i would say. I became his helper in his wedding last year 2002.
As they were walking towards the altar to have their vows exchanged. There Can Be Miracles, When You Believe - Prince of Egypt OST' was played. It may seemed Kua Zhang to have this song played. But they themselves know how much they have been thru in that eight years.
Presently they're doing very well in a New York company.
ACCEPT one's fault. His/her whole, good or bad, sick or poor. It's hard but 'love conquers all' right? If you disagree, then you got to redefine what kind of love you're believing.
True Love?
I believe it could not be defined easily, i can say it's only from an individual.
If you were to look at Mother Theresa, can you see true love? I did.
It's an act, a feeling, it's passion that drives you to shower continually on your partner?
I don't know much, i'm still learning.
Don't try to define what True Love is too quickly.
But I can tell you that there can be True Love.
True Love could also last like Cheng Qin Yong You
True Love may last Tian Chang Di Jiu
Who knows? True Love is when you know you've given your best onto him/her.
True Love is also like a friend who is willing to give his/her life for you.
Lastly a story for you.
Jimmy and Thomas were best of friends from young.
Did studied together, had fun together and even chased after the same girl.
Then one day when they had to go to defend their country. They left together and were in the same unit.
While in the frontlines of the battle. Thomas was tasked to move forward while Jimmy and remaining troops were ordered to remain as support.
Thomas was shot in the midst of the confrontation.
He screams of pain, lying on the muddy ground.
While the battle was still fierce. Firing all around.
Jimmy stood up from the rear position and moved forward towards his friend.
It seemed like he didn't know that the bullets were blindly flying everywhere.
He just walked on.....and when he reached his friend, Thomas.
Jimmy piggybacked his friend back to position.
Thomas with his last breath said. 'I know you would be here for me Jim........'
is that True Love? I'll leave it to you. -
Hmm... INDEED... Quite IMPRESSIVE...?
Your ABILITY to 'grow'.... So many things that a normal human would not have realised.... GOOD for you.
Like they've said... "You lost some, you gain some..."
Last but not least.... A pointer(?) ESPECIALLY for you? (since you've so very much IMPRESSED me....)
Try to 'UNDERSTAND'.... Not 'see'.... And like what your signature says... After you've 'understood'.... You FORGET.... GOOD LUCK... -
*Claps claps*Originally posted by M©+square:Especially to Oceanboi, and those people who gave thought to it.
Reason why i didn't want to place it in ocean's keke thread. Cos i tot i wouldn't benefit others whom were obviously not interested in his thread.
So for the rest of you. If you find my thoughts useful, i wish you well.
___________________________________________________
My friend, you need to realise that there's no such thing as puppy love, it's just a term people used for crushes and infatuations.
This True Love term and feelings are not to be differenciated from infatuation.
Cos in a usual sense. Infatuation IS the first stage of attraction.
Heart floating, blushing and stuff. Until when a friendship develops and grows mature then it's ready. But then who can wait till friendship grows mature then move on into an intimate r/s? Infatuation is exciting and fun! However if r/s was allowed to stay at the first stage. Both will face the test of many obstacles, from there they'll either drown, burn out, or give up. Hmm...thats how 'Puppy Love' come about.
Love is when you have moved on from the first stage, a stable understanding within the r/s.
EFFORTs were placed to ensure disccusions were for one another's well being.
LISTENing to one another, seeking a deeper sense of understanding.
COMMITMENTs, i couldn't stress this more then other.
This is the killer BUT also an ingredient for a couple to withstand waves, fire, storm and whatever which stands in the way.
I remember i had a friend whom had a eight years relationship with his gf. For three years, it was a long distance r/s.
He's in US and she's in Aust studying for their degree of Honors. There were so many things and distractions which happened to the both of them. After they both did great in studies, he stayed in US for a year and the half. While she's back in Sing, there were many guys who proposed to her. Great struggle i would say. I became his helper in his wedding last year 2002.
As they were walking towards the altar to have their vows exchanged. 'When You Believe In Miracles - Prince of Egypt OST' was played. It may seemed Kua Zhang to have this song played. But they themselves know how much they have been thru in that eight years.
Presently they're doing very well in a New York company.
ACCEPT one's fault. His/her whole, good or bad, sick or poor. It's hard but 'love conquers all' right? If you disagree, then you got to redefine what kind of love you're believing.
True Love?
I believe it could not be defined easily, i can say it's only from an individual.
If you were to look at Mother Theresa, can you see true love? I did.
It's an act, a feeling, it's passion that drives you to shower continually on your partner?
I don't know much, i'm still learning.
Don't try to define what True Love is too quickly.
But I can tell you that there can be True Love.
True Love could also last like Cheng Qin Yong You
True Love may last Tian Chang Di Jiu
Who knows? True Love is when you know you've given your best onto him/her.
True Love is also like a friend who is willing to give his/her life for you.
Lastly a story for you.
Jimmy and Thomas were best of friends from young.
Did studied together, had fun together and even chased after the same girl.
Then one day when they had to go to defend their country. They left together and were in the same unit.
While in the frontlines of the battle. Thomas was tasked to move forward while Jimmy and remaining troops were ordered to remain as support.
Thomas was shot in the midst of the confrontation.
He screams of pain, lying on the muddy ground.
While the battle was still fierce. Firing all around.
Jimmy stood up from the rear position and moved forward towards his friend.
It seemed like he didn't know that the bullets were blindly flying everywhere.
He just walked on.....and when he reached his friend, Thomas.
Jimmy piggybacked his friend back to position.
Thomas with his last breath said. 'I know you would be here for me Jim........'
is that True Love? I'll leave it to you.
WoohOooOo!
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Hey thanks! I though no one will read this long crappy thoughts of mine, there was...but at least write something to refute me also good mah. HA! There's someone reading. Awesome!Originally posted by Devil1976:Hmm... INDEED... Quite IMPRESSIVE...? Your ABILITY to 'grow'.... So many things that a normal human would not have realised.... GOOD for you.
Like they've said... "You lost some, you gain some..."
Last but not least.... A pointer(?) ESPECIALLY for you? (since you've so very much IMPRESSED me....)
Try to 'UNDERSTAND'.... Not 'see'.... And like what your signature says... After you've 'understood'.... You FORGET.... GOOD LUCK...
Thanks for your pointer.
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I'm waiting for your thoughts...but spare me on the karmic stuff.Originally posted by Yunhaier:*Claps claps*
WoohOooOo! -
THANK YOU
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Originally posted by Xiao Long Nu:THANK YOU
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Happy Birthday to u?Originally posted by Devil1976: 
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The focus is on you today. I give my essay a miss.Originally posted by M©+square:I'm waiting for your thoughts...but spare me on the karmic stuff. 
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I rather you type a essay to refute me. That'll be interesting.Originally posted by Yunhaier:The focus is on you today. I give my essay a miss. -
To each his own view what... Unless you talking about exchanging view point real life.Originally posted by M©+square:I rather you type a essay to refute me. That'll be interesting. 