Help... Help... depressed guy...
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few weeks ago, my parents had a divorce... that time i tot it was the end of the world... cause i was really damn sad... but i was quite lucky to hav my girlfriend to stand by me... at the same time another gal stood by me... however, she only trested me as a brother... i trested her the same way too... treating her as my sister... however... i found that i actually liked her... veri much... it wasnt juz a bit... it was love... but at the same time i know i cannot disappoint my girlfren... for she loved me... and i loved her too... then came my dad who had my custody... he wans me to migrate to australia.... at this point... i am super confused...
cause i really dunno wat to do... i dun know how to make my choice... to giv up on either gal is impoosible for me.... how?? -
you have a stack of problems... my sympathies
but back to your problems..
how old are you?
will it be possible for you to say you wanna stay here?
as for your 2 "girlfriends", dang but you gotta sit down, do some soul-searching.. then have to be honest to them both... chances are, you may lose both of them because of your divided loyalties...
take things a step at a time...
i think most integral is if you want to stay, tell your dad.. come to some kinda compromise or something.. it would be greatly dependent on how old you currently are... -
A new environment maybe better?
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Dear Zen,Originally posted by |zEn|:few weeks ago, my parents had a divorce... that time i tot it was the end of the world... cause i was really damn sad... but i was quite lucky to hav my girlfriend to stand by me... at the same time another gal stood by me... however, she only trested me as a brother... i trested her the same way too... treating her as my sister... however... i found that i actually liked her... veri much... it wasnt juz a bit... it was love... but at the same time i know i cannot disappoint my girlfren... for she loved me... and i loved her too... then came my dad who had my custody... he wans me to migrate to australia.... at this point... i am super confused... cause i really dunno wat to do... i dun know how to make my choice... to giv up on either gal is impoosible for me.... how??
Family problems is difficult for a third party to advice on anything apart from the usual take care and stuff. It is because relationship problem between your parents is between them, and only them. As their son, there is little you could do. (Love is between two, regardless of how many people are 'involved' in it)
You are confuse about two girls - let me tell you, your good 'sister' is probably transitory love affair that appear in your life for now. You discovered your liking for her, no doubt, however is it the same for her? Do you risk this friendship and your own relationship over something that could be temporary and not what it seemed to be in the future?
Your dad's decision to migrate - I feel that it is still negotiatable. Express your utmost relunctancy to leave singapore and he could allow you to stay. Be polite and rational in your tone (beggars can't be choosers) and speak to your dad like a friend (the divorce would probably affect him as well, regardless of whether he is the willing or non-willing party - you are important to him, therefore he wouldn't harm you in anyway.)
P.S: Split between two girls? More often than not, when the grey area is cleared, things will be clearer. Do not attempt reckless decision right now. when in doubt, do nothing.
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well... it is not that i dun wan to stay in singapore... but... juz that... my dad is totally nuts over his mistress... he doesnt even giv a damn bout me... not i dun wanna tok to him or watever... i wasnt given the chance at all... and another thing is that... it feels real sucky to hav to hide everything inside myself... risking to confide things to her... indeed... i wan to tell her... but at the same time i dun wan to spoil this frenship... real confused... sigh... life is tough man....
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Like what I had said, family problem is difficult for me to judge and have a say and sometimes there is little you can do. Looking at your plight, probably your dad's focus would be on his mistress and not you - therefore I think it is still negotiable when you express your desire to remain here.Originally posted by |zEn|:well... it is not that i dun wan to stay in singapore... but... juz that... my dad is totally nuts over his mistress... he doesnt even giv a damn bout me... not i dun wanna tok to him or watever... i wasnt given the chance at all... and another thing is that... it feels real sucky to hav to hide everything inside myself... risking to confide things to her... indeed... i wan to tell her... but at the same time i dun wan to spoil this frenship... real confused... sigh... life is tough man....
Able to confine doesn't equate to love, it simply mean you are comfortable with her. Seriously speaking, even if you do chase her, what future can you possibly foresee? And on what chances will she accept you as well?
This is all your preception, thoughts and feelings accoutable for all these thingy - none from her.
In the end, it all boils down to your motive. I feel its ok to reveal your feeling just to get the choke off your heart, that is provided you just want to let her know and not expecting or doing anything about it. However, like all decision, there is always a risk involved. If you fear the risk, forget about telling.
P.S: Do not intertwine infatuation for love.
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I THINK YOU mus b quite young...mus learn hw to make decision...ok mus b independent....once make a choice dn regret it....pls tink carefully! thank u!
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Ah Ma is talking !!!Originally posted by Xiao Long Nu:I THINK YOU mus b quite young...mus learn hw to make decision...ok mus b independent....once make a choice dn regret it....pls tink carefully! thank u!
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Ah Ma USED to TALK ALOT one... Just look at her POST number...?Originally posted by M©+square:Ah Ma is talking !!! 